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We have not been regular church-goers for many years. We've recently started attending church and are very happy where we are at. However, we don't know many people there and I feel awkward asking this question.
My littlest daughter has gone through some trauma and has many issues with anxiety and is fearful, especially at night. In her mind, only God can help her and keep her safe. Her psychiatrist has told her to repeat to herself "God always wins" when she's afraid and that helps. I thought it might be helpful if she could memorize some short comforting verses for times when she is scared.
Any suggestions would be helpful. Thank you :)
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Thanks for the replies. I love my mother but I do not always trust her judgment. My kids visit her for the day, but they are not allowed to go on trips with her. She tries too hard to be "cool".
I found out about the broken golf cart by accident. My mom is going back out of town and mentioned that it hadn't been fixed yet so be careful if we use it. I asked what happened and they both looked guilty and my daughter told me that her friend broke it.
I'm mostly upset about the disobedience. If it had been handled differently, I wouldn't be so annoyed by it. My daughter (by the way) understands perfectly why I'm upset and while she's not happy about the punishment, she understands why it's there and agrees that it's fair. My mother is more upset than my daughter.
Thanks again :)
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My middle daughter is typically a responsible kid. She is 11 years old and typically knows right from wrong.
Several weeks ago, she had a friend come over to spend the night. This friend is a sweet girl, and is a bit on the heavy side. We live in the country so there is a lot of time that they played without being directly supervised by myself.
My daughter asked if she could take her friend on a ride around our property in my mother's golf cart (my mother lives next door). My mother was out of town, but she doesn't mind if the girls borrow her golf cart so I gave permission and called my mother to let her know (and she was fine with it). I told my daughter that she and her friend needed to ride in the seat of the golf cart (sometimes the girls like to hang off the back when they are a passenger, which I'm not comfortable with for a guest). They started off riding appropriately, but once out of sight, the friend wanted to ride on the back. My daughter agreed and stopped the cart so the friend could change places. When the friend jumped up on the back, the plastic broke, putting a big hole in the back section of the cart.
(Additionally, the friend jumped on one of the beds and it broke. As well, they went out to one of the outside buildings and left a window unit a/c turned on AND a plug in heater turned on. They forgot and they both stayed on, running non-stop for nearly two weeks before my husband noticed it). I did not blame the friend for the broken bed. After a lecture and being told she could not use the out-buildings without an adult present for a month, she had no further punishment for wasting utilities.
They did not tell me they broke my mother's golf cart. However, when my mother came home, my daughter walked next door and immediately told her that they broke it and she was very sorry. The back of the cart was old and my mother told her it was fine.
Today, I found out about the golf cart being broken by dd and her friend. They had kept this secret for about three weeks. I immediately offered to pay but my mother told me she would only ask me to pay for half since it was old anyway (about $25). I told dd that she had to pay $10 out of her allowance and she was not allowed to carry her friends on the golf cart until further notice.
I am most upset that she didn't tell us and secondly because her friend could have been hurt because she disobeyed.
My mother is upset at me for interfering between their agreement about breaking the golf cart. I am unusually sensitive to "secrets" that exclude DH and I. I felt like DD should have told me immediately (although I'm glad she did confess to my mother immediately and apologize). Mother feels like I should let her handle it since it's her property.
Thoughts? I felt my punishment was fair and that I should have been told.
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It's a real pain, but perhaps cut your diet down to bare basics - chicken breast, rice, raw/steamed veggies (no major allergens like corn). Add in beef. Add in seafood. Add in potatoes. Basically an elimination diet. Try several days at each step and see when the problems creep back in. Good luck. :)
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My daughter is 11 1/2. A couple of years ago, I started teaching her how to cook. She also has Celiac Disease and even the smallest contamination or cross-contamination can make her ill for weeks. I told her when she was diagnosed (age 6) that she would be responsible for her health as much as possible as this is a life-long condition. We started by teaching her how to read labels and identify gluten in all of it's various forms. I want her to be able to go to college and not worry about what to eat - to go to classes, come home and cook something fabulous and for it to be effortless.
She knows how to cook simple things and some complete meals. She's small for her age so I've been the one to keep her away from the stove until recently. She has some gadgets (tea-maker, rice cooker that also steams vegetables, water boiler teapot that plugs in, her own toaster, sandwich maker, etc). I've shown her how to prep vegetables properly, put them in steamer bags and microwave them. She did a lot of oven cooked items (baked fish, shrimp, chicken, hamburgers, meatloaf) and up to more complicated things (breading her own chicken and fish, creating sauces for the fish and shrimp).
Eventually, she would pair the things she cooked in the oven with homemade mashed potatoes (cooking potatoes in the microwave), main item, salad (making her own dressings since she loves oil and vinegar) and veggies. Our relatives have encouraged her by gifting her with cutting boards, utensils and a knife set.
She writes down the recipes she loves and puts them in her own cookbook. (We re-portion the recipe to feed 1 - 2 people).
She does packaged desserts (oven) without problem and will occasionally try desserts from scratch in cookbooks.
Our most enjoyable activity is to watch cooking shows or look at magazines, find a recipe and think - "We can do that gluten free" and figure out how.
I heavily encouraged experimentation and even failure, all for the sake of trying. If a recipe bombed, we sorted out how it could be improved and tried again.
She wants to learn how to decorate cakes so that's our next step. (Although the very next thing we are doing are those pudding cakes - remember? - you bake a cake, poke holes in it and then pour pudding on top? She's dying to try it out).
When we have company, I let her cook for all of us and it's fantastic. The guests are always impressed with the meals.
(On cleaning, she bombs, but I guess we can't have everything all at once - lol)
Good luck, you'll have tons of fun - there are SO many things you can do!
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That, I would have absolutely no problem with. A school giving a gun to whichever Joe wins without having any idea if he's sane or a criminal... that irks me.
Exactly.
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I'll probably edit my original post (again lol). I spoke with another parent on the team (who confirmed that yes, it was my SIL's idea and SIL put up the money for the purchase although she'll be paid back out of the money raised). The other parent said they were told to sell tickets and no, they do not have to check the age of the person buying the ticket (nor is it printed on it that the winner must be over 18) and they are not having them sign any release forms for liability.
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Well here they don't serve real food. So they don't need to cut stuff up.
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I was actually thinking the same thing. ;) I love the cafeteria staff, they are very kind to my daughter, but I'm not sure on what they would use a sharp knife. They do have a box-cutter, but only the kitchen manager is allowed to have it out - it's kept under lock and key.
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Seems to me like your emotions are pretty "sensitive", since you are making an object somehow "inappropriate" because another object in the same class was involved in something bad seems extremely emotional and irrational to me. Why not just make a list of all objects that are involved in something bad, then distribute it in your community? Knives, baseball bats (deadliest item in the US, so says the FBI), cars, belts.... I'm sure you could come up with more.
We can't attach "bad juju" to something, someone, or someplace every time something happens. Eventually everything will be off limits.
I was using 'sensitive' trying to be nice. :) If I ask questions about it from her, she will have a shrieking fit on facebook, call all our relatives to complain that I'm trying to close down the baseball team, accuse me of being in league with the devil and will take a while to calm down.
My emotions on guns? I own 2 handguns and we plan to purchase shotguns for the girls when they are older. I don't think a rifle raffle is appropriate for a school. Kiwanis? sure. Shooting clubs? be my guest. Schools? No.
The issue at hand is whether it's appropriate for a school to hold this type of raffle.
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I'm curious. The middle school my daughter attends has a baseball team holding a fund-raiser. My SIL is in charge of the fund-raiser and decided to raffle off a Remington Shotgun. I know very little about guns, so I may be blowing this out of proportion, but it seems to be an odd (and somewhat insensitive) fund-raiser for a public school. The same school recently updated all of the security measures including locking all doors after 9:00 am due to recent school-related tragedies involving guns.
They are posting on facebook asking for people to let them know if they want a ticket, but I see nothing about how old a person needs to be to buy a ticket or signing a waiver releasing the school from being sued if something bad happens, etc.
My SIL and I do not always get along and if I criticize this, I know she will be thoroughly angry (she has 'sensitive' emotions and angers quickly and takes it out on facebook - lol). I am tempted to speak to the principal (who is fair and reasonable) and at least make sure the school is protected from lawsuit should something go wrong. I am also against it because it's an inappropriate fund-raiser for a public school. (I am probably prudish in my thinking though).
We are a rural area and hunting is common. My niece and nephews all hunt so I'm sure it's never occurred to them that this would be an unusual fund-raiser. It's never been done before here.
I would love some feedback and your thoughts. (Not a gun control debate - please. Just debating the issue at hand).
Editing - For Clarification - I am NOT trying to stop the raffle. I'm curious about the legality (and worried for the school's sake - they don't often think things through). I don't plan to buy a raffle ticket but will probably make a donation to the team. I'm also not against rifle raffles in general, but think it's inappropriate for a school to do it.
Editing again - the team is selling tickets to anyone, regardless of age and right now they have not said that the winner must be over 18. They also are not doing any paperwork to prevent liability.
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My middle daughter is in phase 1 of 2 part treatment. In her case, her jaw was very small and the teeth were crowding significantly. We went to the first orthodontist who ended up recommending pulling about 10 teeth total (8 baby and 2 permanent). After doing that (and waiting a year) didn't resolve the problem (teeth were still turning sideways out in the front of her gums) and he suggested waiting another year, we went to another orthodontist. She put braces on the lower teeth only for a 6 - 8 month treatment (cost was $600) and her bottom teeth are finally shifting and falling into place. I've forgotten what phase 2 will do.
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Ours went out today - I'm hoping they make it in time!
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Thanks. I'll go ahead and call tomorrow. Unfortunately, not scheduling appointments is impossible. I have one daughter who sees a therapist weekly and medication that must be bought in about 10 days. I tried to stock up, but we're going to be running tight.
Thanks for the help. :)
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My husband lost his job last month. We must have health insurance so when the paperwork came in, I filled it out online, printed the forms, attached the check and sent it in. The check cleared the bank. I received a notice today that they received my application and it's been processed but they have not received the payment needed to activate.
Our insurance through his workplace lasted until the end of January. I sent in a check to cover February. Should I have included February and March?
I plan to call them tomorrow but I have trouble hearing over phone lines at times and thought I would see if anyone here knew the answer.
Thanks :)
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I typically try to look at the practical side of things. If it were me (the owner of the washing machine), I'd be upset with myself for not supervising the kids more closely. (I would also be a bit horrified that she climbed into the washing machine - please make sure you cover freezers, car trunks, etc as NOT good places to hide). I usually have 'off limits' places in our home that visitors can't go into. I'm not convinced your daughter broke it. Unless a visiting child was maliciously behaving, I wouldn't ever ask for someone to replace something.
Interestingly enough, my daughter had a sleep-over friend this past week-end. Her guest is a bit 'heavy' and jumped onto the edge of the bed. The wooden bed frame cracked all the way through. I'm not convinced it should have broken (she's not 'that' big, but heavier than my kids) and it never occurred to me to even mention it to her mother much less ask for payment. I felt embarrassed for the little girl who was obviously mortified.
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His boss is already aware that he takes this prescription. My husband had a seizure at work about 18 months ago, and it's important that people are aware that there's a potential medical issue. DH is on very good terms with his boss.
I suppose I should have more clearly said that he never intended to tell his boss that he thought that one person stole them. It was more of the mind that he'll probably have to tell his boss, and does he say he lost them or tell him that he thinks there could be suspicious circumstances about their disappearance.
That makes more sense. :)
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There are definitely plenty of people that don't fall into the norm. It's strange in that it wouldn't ordinarily be a topic of workplace conversation.
If he's not able to get his medication replaced by the doctor he will have to say something to his boss. He can't stay awake without it. (Separate loooong story) We don't want to cast doubt on somebody, but at the same time he now doesn't feel very comfortable around someone that he needs to work closely with.
He doesn't keep his pills with him, because it would be awkward to walk around with a pill bottle in your pocket. They are typically kept in his work bag that he keeps at his desk.
What would you say? "I keep Level 2 prescriptions in my bag at work and everyone knows I take them. They are now missing and I think the new guy did it because he's new and he said something to me about how high school students are taking prescriptions recreationally"?
What do you think his boss will do? The most he could do is call the new guy in and tell him that your DH has accused him of theft. If he's innocent, that's a horrible thing to do. If he's guilty, he will deny it and nothing will happen. Either way, there will be hard feelings and tension at work between the two of them.
Please think this over carefully. The comment the new guy made would be perfectly acceptable conversation anywhere in my day. I don't see anything suspicious about it.
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No. There is really nothing of any substance in the comment that he made to your husband. The fact that kids abuse prescriptions is nothing new or surprising and sounds like a comment that someone would say just to make conversation.
I'm sorry it's lost. I would be just sick about losing my medication. I hope it's just lost and he finds it soon.
ETA - as much of a pain as it would be, he should probably only carry enough for the day with him. The pharmacy can give him another bottle with the info on it if it needs to be in a container.
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Edited for privacy :)
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I'm wondering if there is a member of your church who is a psych-ologist/iatrist? Or, if you know one who might consider attending your church for a while? If so, perhaps they would join your class and attempt to befriend or give you their "gut feelings" about what could be troubling him.
Otherwise, yes, ask your pastor to sit in on the class and go from there.
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I can't cook if there are a lot of dishes around but we seem to grow dishes throughout the day.
I bought a small plastic tub. Dishes are scraped and then placed in the tub until I have time to deal with them. Either while cooking or after dinner, I fill up the sink with warm, soapy water and let them soak. Then I move them into the dishwasher. In the morning, either DH or one of the girls will unload.
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It's possible that what you witnessed was caregiver burnout too. It's pretty common for folks to be dealing w/huge sleep deprivation when living w/someone w/dementia.
Chances are, they are flat out exhausted.
I agree, they should get a bracelet, some sort of alarm system, etc. There absolutely needs to be more measures in place.
I agree. Sometimes I'm sure I've come across as unconcerned when I'm actually just exhausted. I still deal with the problem but with almost no emotion because I'm so worn out.
I'm hoping, OP, that what you saw was burn out and once he was back inside he immediately acted to make the lady safer.
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We found a lady like that before. She had dementia and had wandered from the house (her adult daughter was absolutely frantic). We wrapped her in a blanket (she was in our neighborhood) and called the police. They said they had just received a call reporting a lost adult with alzheimers. The whole reunion between them brought me to tears. The daughter was distraught and the older lady wasn't bothered in the least, she had no understanding of how dangerous it was. It was very sad.
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If someone here is a social worker (or married to one), can you reply here or pm me? I have a personal question that I don't want to post publicly.
You back over a kid's bike...
in The Chat Board
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I saw a Judge Judy episode once where someone broke a child's bike. It was the other person's fault completely, but they were only responsible for repairing it back to the point where it was OR replacing with a comparably aged bike (if the bike was five years old, buy a five year old bike).
You are not responsible at all for a new bike.
I don't think you're responsible at all, all things considered. We live in the country as well and outside is pitch black at night. Pitch black. It was absolute carelessness to leave anything that close to a truck. If it's replaced, it is an act of kindness on your part.
If the truck was damaged (scratched) by the bike, send her a bill to repaint the truck. Seriously.