Slipper
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I have a close, loving, warm relationship with my kids. So does my husband. We saw odd behavior in our youngest and took her to a therapist, just to see if she could figure out what was going on. My daughter is revealing things that simply floor DH and I. If only we had known! Please don't think your daughter is telling you everything. Shame and fear can make little kids keep bad secrets.
If nothing else, please let a therapist decide if anything inappropriate has happened. I think you should leave now, but if you don't, please find a trusted adult for your daughter to talk with.
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I don't want to be intrusive, but if she is open to receiving cards from us during this journey, I would love to write to her. If someone has an address (and permission to send under these circumstances) would they mind sending to me? She always had such good, practical advice. Again, if she'd rather not, I understand completely.
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I'm so sorry to learn of this news. I will be praying for Kay and her entire family. :(
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Without reading the article, I agree that most kids will trip across the bad stuff on the internet at some point. My husband is a computer guy and we have protections and blocks on the laptops that the girls use. My middle daughter was googling 'origami' and had some nasty pop-ups come up. They scared her and she was worried she would be in trouble (she wasn't). The internet is so bad that I don't think p0rn is preventable at some point.
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We live in the country in Alabama. We do have spider problems. Although we've never been bitten by a brown recluse or black widow, we have both in our area. I've been bitten by spiders before that caused vomiting, ER visits and swelling body parts. The wasp problem here is very bad which is why we had pest control in the first place. When we moved here, we were killing upwards of 25 wasps a day, INSIDE the house. Outside was worse.
We don't have roaches, but we're in the woods. They are out there.....waiting....lol. Pest control is mostly for wasps, yellow jackets (when we find them) and to keep critters out.
Horton, ours is quarterly as well, but it's also for two houses and out-buildings which might be why it's double.
I realize chemicals are bad, but I see them as a necessary evil. I'm not opposed to organic/natural pest control, but I don't know how to do that either.
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DH lost his job in January and we are starting to feel the pinch. We still have savings but I need to cut back as much as possible. We have a pest control company to do general spraying for bugs and wasps. We have a bad problem with yellow jackets but they can't help much with that.
Any suggestions? Pest control is $600 a year, only $50 a month, but I could really use that $50 elsewhere. Thanks.
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Thanks! I'd like to butcher also, but I'm too wimpy at the moment. lol Maybe after having them for a while I'll be more comfortable.
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double post sorry
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My husband is going nuts wanting us to keep chickens. I'm worried about the care and upkeep, but I'm going to try anyway. I need some help getting it started.
We live on several acres (about 12) so we have the room. We have an unused old shed a little ways from the house that we're hoping to convert into a chicken house. I'm not sure about the size, but it's big enough for shelter (we used to keep the riding lawnmowers in it).
We have gardens around that area, but right beside the shed we have nothing planted. We're thinking of making a chicken yard in that area.
Questions: (Lots :) )
To make the chicken yard, I would need to put up corner posts, chicken wire (sunk into the ground) and a roof, but nothing else?
Are the boxes to lay eggs basically wooden boxes? Just nail some wood together? What goes into the box? Hay?
Do I need floor covering in the shed? Can I just hose it out every few days?
They need ladders or limbs to get to the boxes or not?
If I have a chicken yard, do I still need a run?
We use 2 - 3 dozen eggs a week, depending on what we're cooking. How many chickens should I get?
I know fresh water is a must for any animal, but what else can I feed chickens besides chicken feed?
How long is daily/weekly/monthly upkeep?
Sorry for all the questions, I have a general idea, but want to make sure I know what I'm doing before getting them.
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I realize it takes a few days to adjust, but it might be easier to make the same meal for everyone (or make adjustments for yours). Leave the bbq sauce off your chicken, use egg-less noodles and season yours with a smal amount of oil and spices, for example. Scoop some of the stir fry rice out before adding egg to it. If you decide to make your stuff separate - bulk cook and freeze some things so it's easy to do. It IS hard but your health is important. Just take a few days at a time. Go through your pantry and figure out meals for the next three days. Soon it will be second nature. :)
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Keep it simple. :) Grilled meat (chicken, beef or pork), rice or quinoa (I think quinoa is safe on your list), veggies or salad.
Season with whatever you can tolerate, lemon pepper, italian seasonings (like Mrs. Dash), curry, etc.
It looks overwhelming, but you can do it. :)
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My son isn't bothered by it. He eats the same as he did before the procedure, with the same restrictions one has with normal braces, i.e. no nuts, popcorn, chewy candy, etc. The chains don't hang down because the point is that they are pulling the teeth into position, there can't be any slack. Unless your dd specifically worries at the brackets, I don't think they'll bother her.
Oh good. She typically doesn't mess with the brackets unless something pops lose or a wire goes wrong. Then she chews on the sides of her thumbs (anxious habit). She has mutilated them at times into a bloody mess.
On the bright side, once something becomes a habit, she's absolutely beautiful at compliance. We have to brush her teeth for her, but she preens and turns her head from side to side while we do it like she's getting a facial. lol She loves the attention.
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Thanks for all the replies. Our main concern will be compliance since she doesn't understand due to her autism. I'm wondering if we will need to cut up everything for her to eat (and what happens if she bites into something when she's not supposed to do so) or if she breaks the chain (or pulls on it!).
She can't communicate pain so I hate when we have to do things where I don't know if it will hurt or not.
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I hope you weren't hurt over this, although I can see where you should be. I try to take a look at how my reaction will affect my relationship down the road (not always though, plenty of times I get 'witty' and hit send - sadly enough). I would definitely treat it lightly if only to embarrass her and show that she's not worth getting angry over. I feel quite sure she didn't realize that it would send that way. I would imagine other people would be angry at her on your behalf.
My sister occasionally does dumb things similar and I try to adopt the air of, "Poor dear, will she ever grow up?" laughing attitude over it. By anyone else's standards, you win on the grace area since she is so clearly in the wrong.
If I were her, I would be squirming. Kudos for taking the high road! (Plus sometimes the high road is more fun!)
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I remember breaking out in spots after taking medication and being out in the sunlight for 30 minutes. Does your medicine say to avoid sunlight?
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Yes, I think that's the same (or very similar). In my daughter's case I believe they removed the baby teeth and they've been widening the gap where the teeth go, but for some reason they won't drop into place. They're impacted in the roof of her mouth.
It doesn't sound pleasant, hopefully it's easier than it sounds?
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We have known for a while that my oldest daughter's cuspids/canines were not dropping into place as they should. There is plenty of room (thanks to braces) but they aren't descending.
Our ortho said that next month they will x-ray and start the prep for chaining but that an oral surgeon would need to do the procedure. Of course, this would be the day that my husband took the girls, so I'm a little unclear on the particulars.
Has anyone had this done before with their kids? Any advice? My oldest is autistic and non-verbal so any surgery takes a bit more planning (and a lot more medication).
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We've had numerous people in our home for both tutoring and therapy sessions. I pay them for time worked. I have occasionally paid full-time when they didn't work full-time. One example would be if I saw a really nasty storm heading our way, I might tell them to leave early for safety but pay for the full time. I want them to know that I care about them and their safety. It doesn't happen often.
Otherwise, I make my home as inviting as I can, make sure we're ready on time, offer snacks (especially if I know they are coming straight from work and probably hungry) and take a moment for social chit-chat. The second they knock on my door is when the clock starts. Sometimes (if they were really late), I might talk out loud while I write the check "Let's see, you were here at 10:45 and left at 11:30, so not quite an hour, so that's $15. Thanks so much! I think the girls really learned a lot today, see you next week!" (Big sincere smile).
I love the convenience of having people come to our home, but I'm not paying for work they didn't do.
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We live in the country. For us, a stocked pantry is a must. A couple of years ago, a horrible tornado came through wiping out sections of land and electricity. With the trees down, trucks couldn't even deliver to our area (and that was for those lucky enough to make it to town to get to the store). Electricity to the grocery stores was out. Shelves were literally bare. Nobody was in danger of starving in our town, but it was creepy to see how little it took to bring our community to it's knees.
When we moved here, I insisted that we purchase a separate small storage building for a pantry (and storage for winter clothes, etc). We keep an extra deep freeze and refrigerator in there. We have special diets here (especially a gluten free diet in a town that doesn't sell specialty gluten free items). I purchase many items on amazon by the case (and if it's on sale, I purchase more than one case). I keep a few items in bulk (toilet paper, cleaning items).
We can/preserve our own food and plan to increase that this year. We have shelves built and hope to can several items and dehydrate more.
Many people here do similarly and it's not uncommon to find a small storage shed with extra canned goods in it. My goal for this summer is to increase our items for when storms hit our area. We have flashlights/lanterns and other small things. A few months ago we installed a storm shelter. I hope to outfit the storm shelter with chairs, blankets, first aid kit, etc.
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I'm so very sorry. I'm so glad that you were able to say good-bye and be with him. Please let go of the guilt and forgive yourself. You did nothing wrong. I hope you can all find comfort during this difficult time.
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Thank you for all the replies. I'm not sending an email. I wish I could trust my mother to try to assist but she's not going to be good for that. The first thing SHE would do would be to send an email to keep everyone updated. She also exaggerates. She would also panic and wonder if her husband was under suspicion (he is/was like everyone else). And then she would want to counsel dd. I just can't trust my mother (love her, don't trust her).
Thank you for all the suggestions on how to vaguely comment. I really and truly appreciate the advice and kind wishes. My brain is a bit scrambled at the moment and I don't want to make bad decisions.
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I'm heading off to church but just wanted to say thanks so far for the advice. I may skip the email altogether.
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Deleted for privacy - thank you so much!
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I'm so sorry. My prayers are with you all.
Help with stepson's multiple children.
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I would suggest keeping in contact with all of the grandchildren and doing your best not to engage in discussion about the step-son when you visit. Birthdays and Christmas, and any other holidays would be lovely. Also consideration when it comes to school shopping and purchasing school supplies. I agree with others that you may be a very stable influence (in some cases the only stability) these kids will have.