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DD 10 took this photo the other day on a little nature walk we took.
Lately shes been capturing some amazing photos.. I think especially creative for a 10 yr old.
the details are amazing! I love it! :D I have it on my desktop.
looks like I may have to encourage some more
photography.
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Chiming in here with a "Hang in there, Momma!"
Hang in there, stay strong, have confidence in your decisions as her MOTHER, and don't let her stubbornness deter you from what you think is best for her. And BTW, sure, it could partly be p.s., but it could also be her age.
hth!
Thanks! Oh yes I'm sure part of it is the new double digit age! ;)
She Suddenly became an expert and know it all on every topic! :lol:
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:grouphug: :iagree: Sounds like some of this is not just school, it's the hard part of parenting colliding with homeschooling.
My ds would rather be on the computer or watch TV all day too. He's finally learning to enjoy some subjects this year and he's fairly compliant, but he's pushed my buttons in the past.
I'd unplug the TV and allow it back on after schoolwork is all completed. I haven't read everything, but I would make an assignment book for her to see what needs to be done, you may already do that.
I would also make some quiet time after school. I don't know what your work schedule is, but take at least an hour where she goes to her room with no TV, computer, games, whatever and you get to do something relaxing.
I love my son dearly but after school I need an hour or two to just chill. he wants to get out of my face too.
:grouphug: I hope you can see glimmers of hope in each day.
She definately needs the quiet time and so do I! We try to do this but
I think today we both realized and she finally told me she prefers to do her harder work in the afternoons.. Because shes just not a Morning person! and... :iagree: soo there fore maybe quiet time needs to be mid morning..
actually we got quite a bit done this afternoon. and at bed time we read from her Science book. (so she can now do the review sheets w/out me)
So we are switching up the routine yet agaain..
Oh and she did play a math game on the computer today for quite awhile, and I think I see a tiny glimmer of hope that shes "getting" the concept of dividing ! ;)
So once again I remind myself why I chose this journey oh..and ..to keep my cool and take it day by day!
THank you all for your support, Its sooo helpful!! :grouphug:
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:grouphug: I cant imagine having to train them later in life. I am glad I did it from minute one. I hope that someone who has actually done retraining chimes in. I can only imagine it will be way harder! I have 2 friends that have only children that they had been really easy on and they are trying to crack down and I see how hard it is for them. I hope and pray that she catches on quickly, I know its not fun being mean mommy, but in the long run it is for the better. hang in there!
It wasnt always this way. She was such a good child and always listened.. and I hate to blame PS, but that is when the change happened. & It was probably at that point that i was easier on her.
But anyway.. shes such a funny kid, because one second she can soo bad.. then the next she knows what she was doing was wrong and then shes like complete oopposite and too good.. :001_huh:
Im waiting for those too good moments to become consistantly one.. haha..
THis after noon was much better & we did get a lot accomplished :D I had to leave her & wait for to return in a "ready" mood.
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Hang in. It's all so new.
Cat
Thank you! :001_smile:
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This is a total discipline issue. If my DD doesnt want to do school and I tell her she has to...she does it. period. Because she knows she must do what I tell her or suffer consequences. And in the end she knows no matter what, she will end up doing what I say regardless of her actions in between. So she knows she can either do it and get it over with and have a great rest of the day, OR she can refuse to do it, suffer consequences, eventually HAVE to do it anyways and have a horrible day.
I think you need to write down specific goals and consequences and follow through. Make it hard. I at one point removed every single thing my daughter owns and put it in the basement. All she had was a bed and a blanket in her room. She had to earn back every single thing, one at a time. Once she did something with a good attitude she earned back one item of my choice. If she disobeyed..I took EVERYTHING back and we started over. Worked like a charm and I havent had a problem in 2 years (of course normal stuff here and there she is not perfect and I dont expect perfect)
IMO if you just send her off to ps she will not have learned a lesson. She will think she can get what she wants. If it were me I would tell my DD we are completing a year of school NO MATTER WHAT. If it takes all year PLUS an entire summer so be it. If it takes weekends and evenings SO BE IT. In the meantime no privileges unless a day of work is completed to my satisfaction. PS would absolutely not be an option until she completed an entire year of my homeschool.
Yes, I have made it clear that we WILL Finish this year of HS'ng. I have made it clear that we WILL get the folder work done if we have to work through the weekend.
I have taken tv and everything away for today ( and maybe longer!)
So many distractions dont help , i know this.. however she does have a major problem with listening to me, period. I know its my own fault for being to easy in the past.. but as single parent sometimes its just easier that way.. However thats no excuse and I know I need to set that straight now! or it will only get worse.
Sooo all the favorite things are disappearing fast & furiously ! ;)
just trying to keep my cool during this process. :glare:
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So today is wed and its almost worse then it was monday. After we took Mon off had our discussion etc.. then yesterday we started the day .. she did LA in bed.. fine.. Then we did art and she made a fabulous clay pot..
then my mom fell I ended up spending the day in the ER with her so we didnt get any work done.
Now Im trying to get her to do a lesson in Math (division) and she will not even try. and comes up with excuses headache etc..
and " its just too hard so im not doing it!"
Im not asking her to do a 100 questions. I was doing them with her step by step wont even look or try to pay attention.
Its not a lot of work, im just touching on the basics and then its fun stuff.. she just doesnt want to do anything !!!
i cant just let her do nothing.. because she would be in front of the tv all day.
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Just thought I would share that ebay has FREE listing fees now until JAn. 7th. ( 100 items a month)
Which is unheard of for them. :001_huh:
So you only pay if you sell an item.
I use to sell alot on there until the fees went so high.. But I will def be trying again the next few months to make some extra $$ :D
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Is this OOP? Are they redoing/updating it? I cannot find it on the Usborne wesbite at all. I did order a paperback version used from amazon, but I wowuld really like the hardback version.
Thanks!
Just curious .. What level are you teaching? Im looking to start German with my dd 10 , not sure what to use.
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I'm a German teacher, I would recommend German Dictionary for Beginners over First 1000 Words. It has phrases that you can use, whereas the First 1000 Words just gives mostly nouns and possibly a couple pages of verbs.
Being your a German teacher..
Can you recommend what to use for beginner German. My dd is 10 and I would like something that we can learn together. starting with the basic basics.. ;)
also something thats low cost would be great. :D thanks
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She does read extremely fast when she reads to herself.
In fact last year in PS she was in a special reading group because she read to fast.. they wanted to be sure she was retaining what she was readng, I never saw a problem with that though. Shes always been like a sponge when in comes to retaining information.
But she just doesnt like aloud reading.. ;) So I dont force it. I do have her alternate reading paragraphs, when we do history or science which she doesnt mind. THen we can discuss.
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yes, that is what i meant. last year at breakfast (while the dds ate) i read the little house books (they were 9 and 11 last year). we finished those and went on to the other generations, martha, caroline, rose. this year, it is anne of green gables. the read alouds are my choice, but i take suggestions into consideration. if i think something they suggest is good, but might not set the right tone first thing in the morning, we read it at lunch or at tea.
we have a whole morning routine which gets us ready to start our school day, and it works for us. on the days when things go badly off the rails (fortunately at this point not so often), then i often restart the day at noon, complete with reading, 15 minutes tidying in the bedrooms and history : ).
hth,
ann
Yes, either way.. her reading aloud, or me reading aloud to her, she does not like it!
IS that kind of strange?
\She claims she cant really get whats happening when its read aloud.
I should add that when she was little she loved it, or if its a picture book she does, but chapter books are a no go.
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thanks! :grouphug:
Thank you everyone for all your advice!
WE Took the day off and I had to run to the bank, so we went out to lunch and then grocery shopping.
During the car ride we had a long talk.
I told her that we can do fun things like field trips etc on wed. (my day off) and so I had her make a list of places she'd like to go.
I followed that by explaining that we will have "work" that will need to be done, but its never an overload and if we just get it done it will be easier for us both.(shes very smart & knows the work)
She knows that if she gets everything done.. Friday can be a short day with spelling test and just quick review of what we need.
As far as HS groups.. & Not fitting in.. I Mean where we live there are not many HS'ing groups around that I know of. I just know a few that go to a near by church and we really do not fit there.
She has 4 cousins that are 5 min. away she spends alot of time with them ,sleepovers etc and with their friends. She also has another close friend that she sees several times a week, has play dates on weekends and sleep overs with her. SO being social isnt really a huge problem. in fact shes spending more weekends with playdates then she did in PS.
I know that it will take time, sometimes she makes comments that I think she jsut trying to get a reaction.. ( and today neither of us felt good)
I told her we will hs this entire year. If she completely HATES it after the year is up we will find another ps to go to. (THis was agreement before we started hs'ng as we just wanted out of the other school.) she was onboard with hS'ng from last year.
As far as the reading out loud thing.. (someone mentioned try doing that with her) but I said.. she doesnt like it, Not that we Have to do it. she only likes reading books she likes, when she wants. ( again very stubborn!) So I try not to force her to read anything.. just offer ideas.
I also explained she can research and do projects/papers on things she chooses. So she made another list for those.
My classes do not interfere with her, I try to save that work for when Im at my store, or at night. We try to do her work in the mornings.
I tried to get her to join a gymnastics class, but she seems afraid to join any groups where she doesnt know anyone. We have a drama /theatre that does workshops, about 30 min away..and I would drive her if she wanted to but again shes afraid to go by herself. ( and shes not a shy kid, thats the funny part.. always singing and dancing)
SOoo anyway.. day by day.. I guess. ;)
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Shes an only child first of all and Im a single parent , it has always been this way. she attended PS until last year 4th grade.
Im trying to make it as fun as possible with the time I have. My classes are online so Im flexible with my time. Ive tried the field trip and out to lunch stuff which she loved.
Its just that Im in NY and I have to report what we do. Ive already given a list of the texts we are using. SO at the 1st quarter we will be expected to send a report of how far we have made it through..
So i cant grasp the reality of just tossing the books all together.. :001_huh: I just feel like if its not on paper, shes not learning everything shee needs. I know you learn alot from just lving but for school purposes.. (if she had to go back to ps at some point) I feel like she would be way behind if toss the books and just live with her.
( and really im not asking her to do a TON of work.. we cover the basics and do few practice problems)
she hates to read outloud with me, she's very stubborn beyond belief!
I have tried the rewards and token system which worked okay at first..
but now its just " i hate always being home" & this isnt fun at all.
Ive tried to explain if we get the work done then you have the rest of the day free.. but then its like " to do what? be home all day"
we dont live where its easy to just go places.. its a distance.. 30 min to any major shopping/movie/book store etc.
I dont know of any homeschooling groups that we would fit in.
Im trying to find someoneto give guitar and or piano lessons, but again that will be a hike to(which i dont mind) its just finding someone.
Sometimes I wish I could just start over in a new place.! i really hate where we live anyway.
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:banghead:
Im really thinking I made wrong decision to HS. we had a few good days out of 3 weeks. Starting week 4 and its horrible. She just refuses to do anything.
Hates being home all the time. Nothings fun...
I just dont even know what to do..:confused: :001_unsure:
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How about the environment - lovely & pristine or damaged & polluted or overbuilt? Or a coral reef before & after damage (or restoration)? Or Islam?
Thanks. :D I was trying to figure out how I could do the oil spill..
I think I Will do the Gulf.. Showing the negative results of the spill and the beauty of the ocean ..
Thanks for helping me turn my lightbulb on !!
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Im having trouble coming up with ideas for my art project..(college Art class)
The project is 2 collages using cutout pictures etc from magazines. Using ONE single topic and showing postives in one collage and negatives in the other.
THe example he gave us was Michael Jackson..
showing his music talent in one collage and the negative personal side that was in the media on the other collage.
It does not have to be a person. I just need "something" a icon so to speak that I can show Postives and negatives using pictures only.
Im having artist block :001_unsure:
Any ideas would be greatly appreciated!! :D:D
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It actually was an all around amazing day for us! I couldnt believe it! She just was willing to do everything without a single complaint.
Now we shall see how today goes! ;) But its Friday and most of the weeks work is done! :D
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:party::party:
WE MADE IT THROUGH MATH!!! I should mention without a single.. sigh..:001_huh:
without a Whineeee :001_unsure:... without a Grrrrummble :glare: or a " I cant do this!" :001_huh:
I actually think I spotted a few smiles :D!
OOh Yes Life is GOOD!! ;)
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Thanks Amy.
I know my dd is motivated by grades, she likes to see how shes doing. ( also use to ps grades) but I really would like to just have her see that shes accomplishing things in a positive way.
appreciate your input on your grading system! :001_smile:
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My primary methods of record keeping are their binders, and my grade book, where I write down the date and a brief description of the project (ex. Grammar, p. 6) and then record the grade after that.
Can you explain how you do your grading system?? Im trying to figure that all out also! Id appreciate seeing how others do it. Thanks :D
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I've seen the loooooong thread on the system, but rather than wading through it, can someone point me to a blog post of the nuts and bolts of the system. My main question is how do this work for things that are workbooks, do you photocopy the pages or something?
I'm really trying to streamline for next year, and this in combo with the kids workboxes is appealling.
The basic idea was to tear apart the workbooks (divide into 36 weeks) and place the lessons/pages in teh folder for each week.
I did this for all of our books except her history book because some of the pages were back to back for different lessons, so I didnt want to have copy them etc. it was just easier to leave that one in thebook, I then just put a post it note in her folder with the chapter and questiosn she needed to do for that week.
This is very new to me, but so far I like it. Just trying to get her into as much as I am. LOL and also Im trying to figure out a grading system.
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Do you keep notes of the lessons you do daily?
I mean im just wondering if this is necessary??
I Live in NY, so Im wondering if I should keep track of what we do every day.
Before I started this 36 week file system , I was just writing down what we did after we did it on a daily class schedule with the date on it.
I had printed the quarterly sheets from Donna young to do my lesson plans. but I havent used tthem.
Just wondering what everyone else does, if you do it just for records etc. or is the binder of her work enough??
:D thank
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Also, it became a bit of a time-waster for me. I didn't like that feeling.
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I have this same feeling. Ive been really thinking about deleting it but then I go to do it and im like.. noo..
I think its because Im annoyed that its a super nosey highway so people can poke around and see what your doing or havent accomplished in your life!
On the other hand there are family members who I wouldnt be in contact with otherwise.
SOooo my decision for the moment was.. I placed most of my privacy settings so that Only I can see things. Hid most of my pictures etc.
and I havent posted a status update in cant remember when..
I try not to go on there to often. Mostly I sign on & see if I have a msg from a friend or family member.
But Ive really cut my time on there to almost none!
Just cant seem to delete it for the "family" connection.. But I do wish I never signed up!!!
Can I share a photograph..
in General Education Discussion Board
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OH great idea! I'll have to mention that to her! :D
she likes inspecting things close up.. lol
Think Im going to start uploading her pictures to my shutterfly and then let her make a book of her photographs for a project. :D