I would most likely have had no problem with this nanny driving my 13yo for ice cream under the conditions you described. And nobody has ever driven any of my kids besides my husband and myself.

I wouldn't allow it. But I have a general "no sleepover of any kind" rule that we stick to invariably. I would not be offended at the invitation as long as our "no" was accepted graciously.

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I agree. I worked for years at a university, mostly working closely with freshmen and sophomores. I learned from those experiences that it is more common than may be assumed for 18 year olds to not be ready for college life in terms of maturity regardless of educational background. The vast majority of the students I saw struggling had public and private school backgrounds. I personally don't believe that those who flounder (or their parents) are to blame, because things are set up so that we are led to believe that they should be ready and will be ready by 18 when that just isn't the case for so many. As for your own disappointment, try to focus on what can be done now. Has he reframed goals to fit what is going on now? Once he can do that, he can work to figure out a path forward. Try to think mostly about his strengths. Focus on the now and the future, not on decisions made in the past.

Since she initiated conversation about supplies and even sends you pictures of areas she has cleaned, I would guess that she would probably appreciate a kit of supplies. From what you've said, it doesn't seem like she would be offended at all.

Tortellini is a great option for people who don't like sauce, as it works very well with or without it. There are many cheese and vegetable varieties that don't have meat. And it's super quick and easy to prepare, especially if you get the refrigerated soft kind.

Mine use my cell phone for calls and texting. They are not allowed on any social media or chat apps. I've told them to refer to it as our family phone. It's not ideal, but it's worked out so far.

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