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I love Hebrews 12:1.
My dh always says "happiness" depends on what is happening. Both words come from the same root: happiness and happening.
On the other hand, joy and peace come from a deep understanding of God's plan for the world and trusting Him with our lives no matter what the circumstances are.
Apostle Paul talks about the joy he has even in midst of imprisonment and persecution. Why? Because he understood the bigger picture.
Reading the Bible in one year has helped me see God's sovereignty. He is sovereign even when things go bad. He is in control.
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I am so sorry. Praying here. :grouphug:
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I would appreciate prayers for him, not only for healing, but more importantly for him to come to know the Lord.
I am praying for both of your requests. Please keep us updated.
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Here are some suggestions...
1. Before going to bed, take a warm shower with him. The baby doesn't need the heat of the water (which may help relax you), but the steam will allow for a lot of drainage and clearing of the nasal passages, and help him relax.
2. Vicks (they make a baby version too).
3. Warm mist humidifier close to where he is sleeping. It will help keep the mucous thinner, and drainage easier.
4. Sleeping wedge... so that the baby can sleep more in a reclined position, again helps with drainage.
5. Snuggle with him. As has been suggested, honestly, it's better to get some sleep and break the sleep together when the baby is well than trying to be "tough" when he's sick. If you have a recliner, sleep with him in it. Your warmth will comfort him, and the recline will help keep things drained.
The other suggestions are very good as well (taking shifts, sleeping whenever one of you can.)
I know this is difficult, especially with other children -- a birthday. Plan the "party" for the weekend, to give everyone a bit more time. Do something little for the actual day... maybe a note and a small gift. "Wrap" the presents in gift bags. Try to keep things as simple as possible.
Best wishes...
:iagree: You have received great advice.
Once, someone suggested rubbing garlic on the bottom of baby's feet to relieve cold symptoms. I have never tried it. Perhaps it will work with his runny nose.
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We pulled our dc out in January of 2002. It was the best decision we could make concerning their education and well-being.
While waiting for the curriculum to arrive, I spent a month reading to them. It gave us a chance to bond as we discovered great books together.
It took 6 months before my dh and other relatives noticed the blessings of homeschooling. Of course dc were upset at first concerning the socialization factor, but now everyone in our household agrees that homeschooling is the right choice for us.
I know you can do it. If I can, so can you. Go for it. You will be amazed at how homeschooling will free your ds to express his creativity.
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Go for it! You will save so much money.
We borrow library DVDs/VHS. The other day we watched Prince Caspian on YouTube for free without commercials.
Watching TV does not require thinking skills or concentration. Reading books on the other hand engages the mind and develops critical thinking skills (depending on the book you are reading). My dh always says there is no pre-requisite for watching TV, anybody can do it.
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I'm sorry, I don't recommend it for a 5 year old. Two gory characters who belong to the witch's army come back to decieve Prince Caspian. They are nasty looking. There are some other violent scense which are not appropriate for a 5 year old.
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I would homeschool all three. Once you find homeschooling friends, your husband will change his opinion.
The negatives of ps/private school are overwhelming to me. With homeschooling, I can control whom they socialize with. With ps/private school, it's next to impossible, not to mention the other problems.
To be honest, now that my kids are in high school and swim team, we don't have much time for socialization.
There are many homeschooling books out there that talk about the negatives of too much socialization. It's been years since I've read them, but I have to agree that not all socialization is good for our children and us.
The Bible has a lot to say about that as well. It talks about being careful who we associate with. The book of Proverbs is full of advice on this.
If your children join a homeschooling activity group such as swimming or debate, they will find lots of friends. Perhaps so much so that you may end up sifting through people to see who shares your values and keep a few as your friends.
I will pray that the Lord would lead you to the right choice and that you would have peace concerning your decision.
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I am praying for you. Please keep us updated and as you already know very well:
The Lord is in complete control, He knows what He is doing. He will bring to completion the good work He has begun in your family. His ways are mysterious, but He is faithful.
He is going to reward your faithfulness.
Thank you for posting because many, many people will lift you up in prayer. :grouphug:
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In the interests of time and space, I'm only going to address one part of your post.
Everyone is entitled to his/her own opinion, everyone is free to make decisions about what is best for his/her children, etc. If free speech doesn't exist for everyone, then it doesn't exist at all.
However, as far as the statement I bolded above, reverse the order and then present it to the teachers' unions, who as we speak, are viewing our right to home school as something that should be abolished. The same people who question our abilities as parents, our abilities as teachers, and our ability to enjoy the freedom to bring up our children as we see fit. The same people who campaign and enlist our legislators to make it virtually impossible for home schooling to flourish and grow.
I'd love to hear their response.
Public education is a relatively new animal. Home schooling, on the other hand, was once the norm. The family was once the core of greater society; now people who spend the majority of time with their children have disparaging terms thrown at them, such as "helicopter parents," "stifling" and "out of touch with reality." Home schoolers are subjected to painstaking scrutiny while failing public school systems have more money thrown at them to "fix" whatever is broken.
My criticisms of public education have nothing to do with immaturity or insecurity. They are a result of unfortunate personal experiences and information that is received firsthand from friends who are teachers and administrators. I give those criticisms not from an ivory tower but as a taxpaying member of society who hopes for better, especially when I am able to give my own child such rich and promising opportunities to learn.
And yes, I have my back up towards some of the people involved in public education. I'm sick of home schooling being attacked. People who live in glass houses shouldn't throw stones. When they're able to show - via results, not pointless pilot programs - that the American public education system can be competitive with the rest of the world, then maybe I'll listen to what they have to say about home schooling with a more receptive ear. Until then, I'll continue to fight fire with fire and remain unapologetic about my attitude toward public education.
:iagree: Thank you for all of your input, I appreciate your comments and agree 100% with all that you have said here.
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I am praying for you.
Is there someone she honors and respects (a family friend and/or a pastor) who could talk to her about some of the possible consequences of her decision? Perhaps a christian counselor?
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Where, please, has this been done? When someone posts their hurts and discouragements about their own experiences with public schooling, we are all over that person with love and support and encouragement, both on this board and privately.
I am not going to hurt people by mentioning names. There is a right time to place a supportive comment about ps (I am not against pro-ps comments at the right time). It's just not appropriate to do so when someone is posting about a hurtful experience they had with ps. Also, if you read further in my post, you will see that I said there are lots of supportive and encouraging people here.
I was not referring to you.
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Joanne,
I am 100% with you on this one. It is my goal to support/encourage/pray for those who have been hurt inside or outside of ps.
We as homeschoolers need support. After all this is a homeschooling board. If person "A" comes in and says how hurt/discouraged she is as a result of private/public schooling, we should jump in there to encourage her instead of pointing out "my public school is not like yours and here is the reason why I send my kids to ps" type of thing.
Please be sensitive and save that for another thread. With that said and done, I have to say there are lots and lots of encouragers on this board.
I am not against ps at all, and am thrilled that public schoolers are visiting this board. Everyone (ps and hs) can glean helpful information from this precious website. It has been a tremendous source of help and encouragement to me.
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We love Frank Capra movies:
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It’s a Wonderful Life - James Stewart
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You Can’t Take It With You – James Stewart, (a brilliant comedy)
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Mr. Smith Goes to Washington – James Stewart
and also not a Frank Capra movie:
Christmas in Connecticut – Barbara Stanwyck and Dennis Morgan
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It’s a Wonderful Life - James Stewart
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Thank you for sharing your experience Dana. It wasn't an easy decision to pull her out and post here, was it? We live in a small community, and I have seen my fair share.
The Lord will give you the strength you need not only to overcome the damage, but also to lead your dd in the right direction.
My prayers for you and your family.
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Dear Aubrey,
I will definately be in prayer for your decision.
Here is what I learned from studying the life of Moses at Bible Study Fellowship one year, I think it had to do with the passage that referrs to Moses leading the Israelites into the promised land, some were doubting the report the spies gave to Moses, some were trusting the Lord:
Concerning making decisions:
1) Pray that the Lord would open up your spiritual eyes to see His calling and His direction. Pray for wisdom and discernment as you begin to examine the scriptures. Did the Lord call your dh to attend seminary? If so, how will the Lord provide for your needs while you are following His calling?
2) Examine the scriptures to see if the decision you are about to make agrees with what the Bible has to say. In other words, look at each option and see what the Bible has to say concerning the path you are thinking about. Is it according to God's word? There are a lot of passages concerning our financial worries.
3) Look at each option and ask the Lord to give you peace concerning the path He wants you to take. Does the Lord give you peace about leaving the church you do not like? Concerning the church you do not like, is there a theological difference? or difference in the style of preaching or worship? or something else?
The Lord promises to take care of His own. We experienced this when my dh went to Dallas Theological Seminary.
Again, I will be praying for you.
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Explain that you need him. He is a source of strength to the whole family, the children need him (no lie there), they need the big brother to lean on while mom and dad go through this transition. You can homeschool him at first (that may take the fear of a new school) for the rest of this year. If he hates Florida, then he can move back and continue his old school in the fall. Ask his high school (and they will do this, I have done this) for the rest of the objectives for the rest of the year and the textbooks they would use so that you will know them. Tell your ds you will do this to make sure there is not a gap. Get him a cell phone with free long distance for his frequent calls to Dad and girlfriend. (she will dump him within 2 months probably). But use the heavy, I need you, love you, your family needs you, I promise you can go there on weekends etc...
It can work one of two ways. You know you are choosing the best for him and he may see it. It may not work and in the summer he will beat a trail back. But he will have tried it. Emphasize that it is temporary but he is so needed right now by your family. see if you can get his dad in on it. I will call his dad if you want me too to see if I can persuade him:D I mean I wouldn't tell his dad that you are trying to trick him into trying it but that you need your son right now. Being pregnant jobless, homeless and all that.
See I would use every avenue to secure my son. I am just like that. You may not be. And I understand so I won't get my feeling hurt if you say "what are you crazy????"
But I do pray for you.:grouphug:
Sunshine,
I must say you are clever and funny at the same time. Great ideas!
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3 years ago I suggested we stop exchanging gifts......My SIL had a fit, my sis wasn't to thrilled either......we exchanged gifts.
2 years ago.........I suggested not exchanging gifts with the adults just doing kids...........we exchanged gifts with just kids.
1 year ago..........nothing was said............we exchanged gifts with just kids.
this year..........my sis said "Let's not exchange gifts this year", my SIL "complained", I said "Ok , no gifts sounds good to me"..........My SIL was out voted............we didn't exchange gifts.
I would put ideas in sister's ears that would be more willing to change. It may take a few years but hopefully you will get more people on your side and then you can stop the gift exchange.
I did the same thing.
The first year, they threw a fit!
The 2nd year, less gifts for adults
The 3rd year children only,
The 4th year no gifts, christmas cards only,
The 5th year no cards, phone calls, emails only.
Don't give up. Keep at it and little by little people will join you. I told them that I hate shopping and don't have the money (which is the truth).
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Dear Bee,
Your MIL's behavior is typical of manipulative people.
I will pray that the Lord will show you how to handle her and set boundries that you and your dh are comfortable with.
Prayer is very important in dealing with someone like her. Julie in CA has great ideas. View her as a victim and pray for her. She must be a misreable person inside. It has nothing to do with you. She is upset because she doesn't have a grip on you. It upsets a manipulative person when they feel powerless. It angers her that she doesn't have power over you.
We had to deal with relatives the same way Julie does. Years later, they were unhappy even with the respect we gave them and eventually we came to a point where there is no relationship. We are believers in Christ and they are not. They just don't understand us.
I would respect her as your children's grandmother. As Julie said, talk about things that interest her. Trust me she will get over this. She will come around.
You have been gracious to her and I encourage you to keep up the great work you are doing.
Praying for you.
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Tracey,
Thank you for posting, you are being prayed for.
I Peter 5:7
Cast all your cares upon Him; for He cares for you.
Philippians 4:6
Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God.
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I have a 11yo stepson. While I never claim to feel the exact same way toward him as I do to my two bio. sons, I feel it is hurtful to assume that someone's stepmother will not care for them 'as much' as their biolical mother does. I love my stepson, and care as much about his saftey, future, happiness, etc. as my bioligical sons. Just because we don't have the same exacty type of bond does not make one bond 'more' or 'less' than the other.
My intention was not to hurt step-mothers and step-fathers. We all have our own experiences. I am speaking from my own personal experience.
If you love your step-son, that is wonderful. That is what the Lord wants, and you are pleasing Him. However, you are an exception to the rule.
Please accept my apology. I was not referring to you in my earlier post. I am referring to the poor examples I have seen in the past.
I know there are loving step-mothers/fathers out there. If this child is in a loving situation with his biological father, then he should stay there. However, Drama Queen stated that the biological father is a jerk!
I don't *like* his father's house or his father's choices (and in general he is a jerk;)), but it isn't terrible.
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I don't understand - how is leaving him in a situation he is already in exposing him to evil? He already attends school. He already spends half his time with his Dad. I have no concerns about his wife taking care of him.
I do have concerns about not being able to influence him in person on a more regular basis, but that doesn't give me any power to take him anywhere.
When I said there is evil in this world, I was not referring to you or to your ex-husband. I am talking about temptations, and general evil that exists in this world. The Lord put us here on this earth to protect our children from evil in the world. I am not saying that your situation is evil, or that his biological father is evil. Your son is too young to fight evil in this world apart from you.
You mentioned that his biological father is a jerk. Is he really interested or capable of caring for your son the way you care for him? That's all I am saying.
I don't *like* his father's house or his father's choices (and in general he is a jerk;)), but it isn't terrible.
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I will pray for you. Please pray and then talk to your ex-husband and remind him that as busy as he is providing for his family, he may not be able to watch your son closely. His wife will not care as much as you do.
Bad things can happen if he does not have close supervision. He is only 15!
I have a relative who had to move and left behind her dc.
Dc did not follow her advice and chose a godless lifestyle. Now everyone is paying for it, including distant relatives. When one suffers, we all suffer.
A 15 year old is not old enough to make such important decisions. His school and girlfriend will be faded in the timeline of his life! The consequences will not.
Again, I will pray that you will do everything in your power (in addition to God's support) to take your son with you.
People who are advising you to let him stay behind have not seen what I have. Our culture is fascinated with evil, a 15 year old is not strong enough to fight against it.
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I am so sorry. We will pray for all involved.
I made 17yodd leave home today...
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Dear Stacey,
I am praying for God's hedge of protection around your family. So sorry you are going through this difficult time.