Kim in Appalachia
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At 9 my dd (now19!) was over 5ft. She's now 5'10".
I wish I could say i figured out something that helped. I tried. Most of the girls she knew were tiny. She was always self conscious.
She still freaks a bit about her height. She won't wear heels.
I'm 5'9", and I do wear heels, never cared or worried about my height, but some people do.
Keep letting you dd know that it's ok. Hopefully, she becomes more comfortable with her body as she grows older.
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The private water/septic plus propane would be an absolute no. I totally understand about wanting to give your son the feeling of greater independence, but I'm afraid it will all come to a head no matter what. Even with a detached place, he will know that it is not away at college. There will be no win for that, I'm sorry to say.
I also get the desire for the land and ability to do things such as dog breeding on your own space. If that is a real need I would wait. I realize interest rates are going up, but maybe giving it a year would be ok.
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This article from the sleep foundation mentions the Slow Wave Sleephttps://sleepfoundation.org/sleep-disorders-problems/fibromyalgia-and-sleep (the Dr called it D wave)
This site has a bit more
The doctor had told me about a study done on college students (He was at the conference where it was presented. He was quite excited about that) . They did not have fibromyalgia, but by disrupting their slow sleep wave they were able to "create" fibomyalgia in the students. When the students sleep was no longer disrupted the fibro symptoms went away.
There is currently no way to get someone into that sleep wave.
Some anti-depressants help fibro patients because it dampens nerve receptors, helping with the pain.
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Have her evaluated for Fibromyalgia
My dd wa evaluated by a rheumatologist. He said, based on the latest studies, that it' caused by not getting into D (???) wave sleep.
Anyway, it causes the pain.
I have to leave, or I would share more.
I hope your dd finds answers.
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:grouphug: Still praying :grouphug:
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I jumped on here today just to see how you were doing. I'm so sorry. I've been praying for your family and I hope they are able to get the meds straightened out. Mental illness sucks. There is so little help available, not enough doctors or good programs and insurance doesn't really cover it all.
It's so hard, and even after she does even out there is that constant fear that it will all fall apart.
Do keep reaching out. Even if she won't see you should try and make contact. She as well as the staff at the hospital need to know you are active in her recovery.
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:grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug:
I'm going to try and PM you
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You can get a weighted vest or you can carry weights and swing your arms while you walk. I think I would prefer the vest.
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the meets are usually Saturday and Sunday (as well as Friday night ), that being said, as long as you didn't care about missing events on Sunday, it can be done. But eventually, your swimmer may get frustrated that he can't swim in those events and compete.
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FYI just stating my concerns. Anyone can address them if they like. Not shooting down ideas.
As far as becoming a dual income family, it's not completely off the table at some point but for a number of reasons we'd prefer to not have to take on that major change right now.
Moving to a lower COL / better job area is what we thought we did 4 years ago when we moved to TX from the Pacific Northwest. Things didn't exactly go as hoped. Here we are. We drained DH's previous retirement fund to do it and are wary of doing it again.
Working his way up in a company with lots of places to go is also what we thought DH was doing. DH's company is quite large. He has been flat stuck for almost 4 years.
Construction and preferrably local truck driving do sound interesting for sure. I am going to research that.
Although having to get into debt to get somewhere is nt a nice thought for us. We are already (stupidly) in over our head in debt from years ago.
I'm going to jump in with a suggestion that you dh may have already tried. He should make an appointment and talk to HR. He should ask what he needs in order to get a promotion. Is it education? Is it other experience? Sometimes you have to move laterally in a company before moving up. If it's education maybe there is a way the job itself will help contribute to that.
He also may need to work on learning how to "play the game". I know you said he's quiet and hard working, but he has to learn how to network at work.
Sorry he feels stuck. That's is frustrating. My sister's lack of education has made it more difficult for her to move up at her job as well. It stinks, but it is what it is. Especially at larger companies, they want to see a degree for higher positions.
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I know Verizon is selling a service that allows you to have control over your kids' phones, and I think there is something with ATT that allows some sort of parental control on the phone itself.
Cutting him off with your router is not the best idea, since then he can stream and do stuff using your data, which could get expensive.
But I prefer the low tech option. If he can't stay off it when you say he should, it gets charged in your room.
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I have homeschooled both of my girls all the way through 12th grade.
My oldest son has been homeschooled until now. I'm planning on putting him in school after we move (either public or private). He'll be in 11th grade.
My next two boys were homeschooled up until last year, when they both attended a small private school (small, as in 2 room school house).
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:grouphug: I'm so sorry.
It's hard not to feel guilty, even though you are doing the right thing. :grouphug:
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In 2009 my family went to Disney World. We had read Tom Sawyer as a read-a-loud, so without thinking about it to much I got Huck Finn as an audio book. In my van were kids from ages 16 down to 4.
It had been a long time since I had read Huck Finn, and I had forgotten how prevalent that one word was. I first I kind of freaked. I was nervous that my 4 year old would be repeating it.
We discussed the book and the use of that word. The kids were taught why it was offensive. We also discussed some of the more nuanced aspects of racism that were in the book. It was a good discussion.
Of course my boys don't remember the discussion now, but they do know that it's a bad word, as well as what is problematic in the ending.
It's a classic book. It's an engaging and well written story that perfectly captures a time and culture in US history that should not be buried but understood. The book shows how Samuel Clemens, who leaned liberal, tried to reconcile his upbringing, his friends' attitudes, and his evolving understanding of the plight of blacks in the US, especially the South.
I say read it and enjoy the discussion that follows.
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I posted this the other day, but this article has a lot of helpful ideas.
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ok, I looked at the website to see what they had.
One job, doesn't pay much, starts at $15,500, which is not great, but it's full time and may provide benefits. And it goes up to $26,000. It requires and SBEC paraprofessional certificate. The job is for a teaching assistant for pre-k.
That seems like it could be a good fit. And even if she started at the low end of pay, that's not year round, so she could work summers somewhere else.
HTH
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I'm not really sure about this, but if she got the early childhood degree could she get a better paying job in the public school system? I see that there are positions for assistants in the classrooms that pay a little more than subs make, plus there may be benefits. (I've been looking at the job postings at schools. I'm thinking of subbing. But I saw a bunch of jobs that required some sort of certificate to do. That may be doable.)
Maybe you could look on some different school systems websites to see what jobs are available and see how she could do it.
I've always that working a job backwards is the best way to go. Find what you want then find how to get there. If it does require something too hard, like math, get a tutor. Do what it takes to reach the goal.
You are sweet to help. It's always frustrating to see someone who works hard, does the job well, is even an important job, but is not compensated for it. Life is not fair.
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I love my Zojirushi. I have had to replace the bread pan, and they are pricey to replace. But I think it's worth it. I replaced it over 3 years ago. The first one I had lasted at least 5 years. And I am careful with washing it. I let water sit in the pan for awhile, then wipe it out.
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My oldest is moving to her own place this week, and my second goes off to college in 2 weeks, but I won't be there to move her in. :sad: I have to move with my 3 youngest and get them started in school. My dh will move my dd into her dorm. It will be a rough day for me in TX thinking of her.
:grouphug: again. I can't imagine sending off my last. He's just 11 so, at the moment at least, it seems far away.
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I recently had to bring one of our barn cats inside because she got very sick and needed medication 2 x daily. I was certain I couldn't medicate her in the barn once she felt better. I put her in a small storage area, about 8 x 8 and to my surprise, she immediately took to the litterbox.
I also rescued a mama cat and her kitten recently. I am converting our large room above the garage to my office and making it a cat haven. I find they like dark, cluttered places to hide, and this is a very large, bright, NON cluttered room. I scattered my Chrwy boxes all over while waiting for the cat tree to come. I also found that they LOVE the tunnels wh8ch cats can crawl through. You can connect two or more. I also have this cute little cave like thing which is made from material. Got it ay Walmart for like $18. So plenty of places to hide are good. I also found that the favorite toy for all four cats is a round flat disk with cardboard in the middle which I sprinkle with catnip. It has a ball they can roll around inside, it doesnt come out without human effort.
Lastly, I had been looking at cat scratchers for some time. The one I wanted was almost $300 but I ended up getting an ever better one on chewy.com for $90. They have the best prices by far.
My barn cat was isolated to the storage area because the vet didn't know if she was contagious. She never figured out what was wrong with her either. She just collapsed and was bleeding from the rectum. Anyway, she did adjust to the indoor environment effortlessly but would scream for attention. I do believe your cat is going to be bored and will need time to adjust. If it is too difficukt for her, I wonder if a friend would be an option? Do you know if she likes other cats?
She's not fond of other cats. There are others in our area, and they just always fight.
I saw that round toy with the ball. I was planning on that one. They also had door scratchers made with the same stuff, but I'll check out chewy.com
The apartment is a one room place, so my dd was going to keep her bedroom door closed, mostly so that cat didn't pee on the bed. That would be the smaller room, but I agree she should protect her bed.
Sorry about your barn cat. :(
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Also, cats are usually incredibly territorial. Your DD is going to have to be careful not to let the cat out at all until it gets used to the new environment. It might try to return home. Our neighbors when I was growing up had a lovely Persian. When they moved across the city the cat left the new home immediately, crossed a HUGE city and made it back home. They came and got her. She left again. They came and got her. She left again...and did not make it home the third time.
One of my big worries, when we were going to take her to TX, was that she would take off looking for home. Our current place has a shed, a carport with a small shed in it, and a cellar that she can get into. She has places to hide and stake out. The new place would have nothing. There are no out buildings, no access to anything, and lots of construction going on. I was sure she would not survive.
I like the feeder idea. I'll get that.
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So we have an outdoor cat. The cat adopted us almost 2 years ago when she was just a kitten. I'm allergic to cats, so she had to stay outside. We had her fixed, got her shots, and pamper her a lot (she has her own heated house on our back porch).
We are moving to TX and I had been worried about taking the cat. The new place is not the cat paradise that my current yard is.
My oldest is also moving out next week. She starts her new job in NC and got an apartment. She wants to take the cat with her (My boys are not happy about it. :( )
This means the cat will now be an indoor only cat. We've been reading up on it and have some strategies planned but I'm looking for some BTDT advice.
So far we are planning on 2 litter boxes, I am planning to totally pimp out my dd's apartment with cat stuff (tower, scratch posts, toys, etc...) We are also planning to change, a little, how she eats, trying wet food and limiting when she eats. (I'm worried she'll gain weight). Right now she grazes all day and expects us to freshen her food whenever she wants (she has us all well trained. :D )
My dd will be out of the apartment all day at work, so the cat will be "trapped" in there.
Anyway, anything else we can do?
My dd knows it will take some time for the cat to adjust and that she will be renting a carpet cleaner at least a few times in the next few months.
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It depends on what you buy. For our family, it is worth it.
Toilet paper, paper towels and tissues cost less. I have a large family so we go through those products. I find napkins to be close to the same, unless you want the larger, fancier kind.
Some cleaning products are better, such as the Clorox wipes. I use those daily in the bathrooms, so it's worth it.
Some food is better, such as cheese as well as some produce. The bag of broccoli florets is a great deal, so is the lettuce and mushrooms. And nuts, nuts are a great price.
Milk is cheaper, but I wouldn't join just for the milk.
Bread yeast. I have a Zoj bread machine and we use it at least twice a week. Yeast is a great deal and makes up the membership price.
Tires. I bought tires at Costco this last time, but I think Sams has the best price. It's a significant savings.
You have to know your prices and you have to need the larger quantity. It's not worth it if you can't store the stuff or if it goes to waste.
I am finding that Walmart is starting to carry a few of my favorite Sams buys at their store for the same price.
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What Are You Watching?
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On Amazon: Man in the High Castle.
On Netflix, I've loved Unbreakable Kimmy Schmidt, Grace and Frankie (I especially loved this)
Parks and Rec if you haven't watched it. and How I Met your Mother