klmama Posted February 26, 2009 Share Posted February 26, 2009 At an activity last night another child asked my 11 yo to come play this afternoon. Do I assume the parents know about the invitation? Do I call them (and possibly put them on the spot)? Do I wait for them to call me? Do I have my dc call to ask if it's okay with the parents? This is a whole new ball game for me! How do you handle this part of the transition into independence? What is considered "correct" etiquette? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tajott Posted February 26, 2009 Share Posted February 26, 2009 At an activity last night another child asked my 11 yo to come play this afternoon. Do I assume the parents know about the invitation? Do I call them (and possibly put them on the spot)? Do I wait for them to call me? Do I have my dc call to ask if it's okay with the parents? This is a whole new ball game for me! How do you handle this part of the transition into independence? What is considered "correct" etiquette? sometimes they do, but why would that put them on the spot? If a kid calls and talks to my kid and asks to do something, i always ask to talk to the parents first. It isn't only to see if it really is ok with the parents, but it is oftento cover logistics like rides, or dinner or times. In your situation, I would remind my 11 yo that i need to make final plans with an adult. So them i tellmy 11 yo to tell that to the friend and let them know if they want to get the other mom to me in person or on the phone we can talk and make appropriate arrangements. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JFSinIL Posted February 26, 2009 Share Posted February 26, 2009 I always tell the other kid (or tell my kid to tell the other kid) that the "moms" need to connect to make sure a playdate etc. if ok. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
In The Great White North Posted February 27, 2009 Share Posted February 27, 2009 I always tell the other kid (or tell my kid to tell the other kid) that the "moms" need to connect to make sure a playdate etc. if ok. :iagree: You're talking about an 11 year old? I tell my 17, 14 and 12 the same thing. They have a family (with a frequently conflicting schedule) and so do their friends. It would be far more embarrassing to dc to have them show up if the friend hadn't asked his parents. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ria Posted February 27, 2009 Share Posted February 27, 2009 ASk your child to always get the other kid's phone number. Then he can call his friend, make sure the arrangement is okay with the mom, and then you can ask to speak to the mom for directions. Ria Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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