amo_mea_filiis. Posted November 13, 2012 Share Posted November 13, 2012 2 separate issues. Ds has a friend, F, who is pretty seriously disabled (autism, hydrocephalus, limited expression, MR, possible EE, asthma). His father doesn't seem to have accepted that F is very far from a typical child. When F does something, he will often say "but so and so does it." This is usually said when he does something "bad" like throwing wood chips at the park or school. But i've also heard it when playing (F and ds were playing with train tracks, and F kept saying "but ds plays with trains"). When he says it following a negative behavior, his father tells him to stop lying or stop telling stories. I don't see F having the ability to lie or tell stories. He peed on the bathroom floor in home and school and will come right out of the bathroom and tell an adult what he did (why he uses the bathroom alone in school is beyond me). I just feel so bad for F. His father needs behavioral help, but he seems scared of change and has no interest in working with a behavior therapist or learning on his own. He really seems like he's waiting for F to "outgrow" these problems he has. I have known F for 2 years. He's a few months older than ds. He can't accurately answer wh questions, would likely thrive with a little bit of a scehule put in place, and would probably benefit from any kind of intense therapy. I'm just waiting for F's father to ask for help AND be ready to act on it (he asks all the time, but has a reason why everything will not work). Ds used to do very well at the park with younger kids. He also got along with F and always tried to include him. Recently, he's getting frustrated with everyone. Yesterday, F was grabbing ds's dirt pile and throwing it. Nothing new for F. Normally ds would have redirected F to make and throw his own dirt pile, or would have somehow taught him to do something different. Ds was just getting annoyed with F and was trying to keep him away from his dirt pile. It's not just F that ds is having a hard time with. He's getting annoyed at younger kids that start touching what he's doing, and a few days ago he even cursed at a slightly younger boy. I know with what i'm describing, most people would be annoyed, but this is new with ds. It used to be that as long as he was the oldest/biggest boy at the park, he was wonderfully behaved, took a beating from anyone (referring to toddlers), loved to teach F new things, and was just a good model. I don't know what changed, but i miss seeing that other side of him. :( Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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