Sharilynn29 Posted September 9, 2012 Share Posted September 9, 2012 My hubby and I are trying to figure out this whole teenage thing. We don't necessarily want him to be excluded from all high school norms such as dances, but 14 may be too young. He would be attending as a group (3 boys and 3 girls), but they have paired off into boy-girl. So far we have decided that we would take him and pick him up. Also, we need to meet this young lady. Anything else? He said he's not interested in the girl, but he's still a young man with hormones. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TranquilMind Posted September 9, 2012 Share Posted September 9, 2012 My hubby and I are trying to figure out this whole teenage thing. We don't necessarily want him to be excluded from all high school norms such as dances, but 14 may be too young. He would be attending as a group (3 boys and 3 girls), but they have paired off into boy-girl. So far we have decided that we would take him and pick him up. Also, we need to meet this young lady. Anything else? He said he's not interested in the girl, but he's still a young man with hormones. Yes, I'd let him go, with the instructions that they are not to leave the premises or go off alone, drink, all that which could happen there. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AK_Mom4 Posted September 9, 2012 Share Posted September 9, 2012 I voted "Other". We let our kids go out with groups to places, including to dances. DS16 hasn't been to any (his choice), but both my older kids went to these sort of things in high school starting at 14yo. I don't have a problem with group activities and usually am happy to drive if an older sib isn't available. But our kids really weren't interested in the pairing-off thing at that age because of the no-dating-til-16 rule, so it sounds like you have a different situation there. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SunnyDays Posted September 9, 2012 Share Posted September 9, 2012 I don't have a teen yet, but... yes, I probably would. Even though they have "dates" it is a group setting. I would insist on meeting the kids he'll be with, and we would take him and pick him up, along with others in the group if needed. Is it just the dance, or are there other activities (dinner, after-party) that are included?? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
4wildberrys Posted September 9, 2012 Share Posted September 9, 2012 Yes, depending though. We let dd go to dances etc. starting in 9th and age 14, but only with kids we knew she would be safe with and boys we met or felt comfortable with her going with. The kids would usually go in a sort of group thing, but obviously paired off. DS has had NO interest whatsoever in dances so he hasn't gone to one yet. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
1pageatatime Posted September 9, 2012 Share Posted September 9, 2012 I voted no. Call me old-fashioned, but I still view 14/9th gr as Jr. High.:tongue_smilie: 15/sophomore is freshman in my eyes, and old enough to attend Homecoming and Prom.:) Good luck!!:D Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bugs Posted September 10, 2012 Share Posted September 10, 2012 I voted "under certain circumstances". I would let him go if I were a chaperone for the whole evening. It would give me a feel for how the school puts on such functions. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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