Adrianne
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Congratulations! I am jealous. I have tried reading Tolkien many times and can't get through them.
I am so glad they came out with the movies.
Needless to say, it is not on our read aloud list.
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If you see someone have their purse stolen and dash off down the street, is it OK to try to stop them? I certainly think it is ethical/moral to do so, and that there might even be a moral imperative to try if you think you can. I don't think a bystander would be "in trouble" for doing so. If someone tried to steal your car, of course you could try to stop them. Would you just hand them the keys and wave? Now, restraining them and beating them up--yes, that would be wrong. But that's not the case here. Any touch is simply not an attack. Restraining a thief is just not the same as "attacking" them.
I see your point here Kay but I am not sure I would try to stop them. What if they had a weapon? A gun? My line of reasoning with this was more about teaching them that there are authorities to handle certain situations i.e. parents, police and that kids should not always take matters into their own hands. Obviously there are flaws in my reasoning. I do applaud the boy for helping out!
Yikes! I did not expect my comment to start such a fuss!:eek: Maybe I should let my hubby handle these situations in the future. Let me get out my tomato proof suit. (hiding now) :willy_nilly:
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I think he thought that he'd just give the shoes back and that would be it. There was no violence in what he did.
Oh - maybe I read your post wrong. I though it said he pulled the offender off the slide. My mistake.
I don't think this issue is black and white. I don't think that fighting is never the answer. I really think that situations like this need to be dealt with on a case-by-case basis. Teaching kids what is appropriate and what is not is difficult!This is my point exactly. He should be praised highly for helping the little girl. He did a very mature thing! I would probably have taken him out for ice cream afterward as a reward for getting involved.
I think that verbally teasing that little girl could have some of the same ramifications (long term) as physically attacking her. My son has been permanently affected by the teasing he endured when he was little (and often when we were right there). I would've truly appreciated it if someone had come to his defense in this manner.Again I agree, I guess I just felt your son was the one who initiated the violence not the offender. Don't misunderstand - your son did not cause the problem the other boy did he just caused the escalation into violence by pulling the other boy off the slide (as I originally thought).
Of course! I spend a lot of time thinking about conflict resolution and boys. As a mother of 2 soon to be 3 boys, I do not like to see them use violence to solve their problems this is their natural tendency. (oh the hitting!) Your situation has given me a lot to think about handling bullies.Respectfully,Again - Please do not misunderstand Jennifer, your son did a great thing helping that little girl! You are doing a great job as a mother and it shows! My comments in my second post are not to be taken personally and were theoretical.
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Don't you think though that supporting a 12 year old taking matters into his own hands is supporting a form of vigilante justice?
My sons are still young so I am curious about handling these situations. I am not trying to be a troll.
If the boy was hurting the girl physically then yes her son should have defended her - but she was only being teased on physically attacked.
Here is my reasoning - In the real world if someone teases you or your children, and your husband starts physically attacking this person, it seems to me you hubby would be in trouble. If someone steals your car and you start attacking this person, you will be in trouble too.
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That was cute! Thanks for sharing.
I liked this one too:
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Does anyone have experience making soy yogurt? I have found a few recipes online but have never made if before.
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This is a great opportunity to teach your son about using words to solve problems over violence and understanding the consequences of his actions.
I would talk to my son about trying to talk through the problem first. He could have asked the boy to return the shoes. Then if he did not return the shoes, get an adult to help. That sort of violence should only be used in self defense. (if this is how you feel).
I would also tell him that his heart was in the right place wanting to help the girl and commend him for that. It is not everyday a boy wants to rescue a damsel in distress. Good for him! BUT, immediate violence is not the way to solve things (as I am sure he realizes being punched in the face - ouch!)
As for the other boy, I would just let it go unless you hear from the parents. I would also advise my son to stay clear of this boy in the future and what to do it this boy tries to retaliate at a later date.
I hope he feels better!
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Every single morning is a struggle. She gives the biggest attitude when it comes time to start school. How do you handle this?? I am at a loss. She is usually ok when we get going but I am sick to death of it. I think she hates everything we do. What it is, is the fact I stop her from doing whatever she is doing and she doesn't like that. But hey, we have to get this stuff done. I have even pared it down to just math and a little spelling for the summer and she still gives me a hard time. Am I the only one dealing with this?? Is it an age thing?? She is 6 going on 35...that may be the problem! Need some tips on how to curb this behavior. This mom has had it!
Thanks,
Sandy
Have you tried giving her time warnings? Like, school will start in 10 minutes, 5 minutes, 1 minute etc? Also ringing a school bell to signal school starting instead of you telling her? May be like a game, you get a star or gold fish or something if you listen to the bell. The idea here is to get them trained to start doing it. Once they are trained and used to doing a routine, the complaining does decrease.
I usually handle this in one of two ways:
1. Try starting the day with something fun and school oriented, something she likes just to get her started. Make her want to start school. You might even want to get her opinion on what this should be. Make sure it is educational and school related like art, music, some sort of fun stretching exercise et cetera. Or give her a goal or reward for when you are done each subject. Again once she is used to the routine, the complaining will decrease.
2. If you still encounter problems, then some attitude adjustment is in order. Usually my dc sit at the table until they feel like cooperating if the above does not work. It takes a while but eventually they get it.
The most important thing to remember is to be consistent. Try to start school at the same time, or close to, every day. Do the same subjects everyday and do not give in to whining or complaining. Right now her complaining and you getting angry is your routine. Over time you can establish a new one.
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My boys love the gore and guts stories with lots of fighting. They especially liked the book, You Wouldn't Want To Be an Aztec Sacrifice by Fiona MacDonald.
http://www.amazon.com/You-Wouldnt-Want-Aztec-Sacrifice/dp/0531162095
I did ignore however the topic of sacrificing children. This topic bothered me. Otherwise, I give them as much information as they want on these sorts of topics and take a very laid back, factual attitude about it. If they got upset, which they usually do not, then we talk about it or stop the subject all together.
I have noticed that if the material or I attach an emotional note to the material, i.e., dramatic music or I get upset, they get up set as well. This is when we stop.
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I visited my family today. Mom was feeling good (as good as she does these days), and we all had a wonderful time.
All too soon it was time to say goodbye, and I told Mom how much I miss her these days. We don't talk on the phone every day like we used to, and I don't visit her every week.
"You have to get used to being without me," she tells me, "That's what we're working towards."
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I don't want to get used to the world without my mom.
Oh Crissy, I am so sorry :(
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We also had success with crating or tethering during the day. One problem we had(have) with our yellow lab is he would not tell us when he had to go. He would just pee on the floor.
He is a year old but I have been told you can do this with very young pups too. We are teaching him to ring a bell by the back door when he needs to go out. We put some bells tied to a rope on a hook by the back door. Every time we would take him out, we had him ring the bell. He rings it on his own now.
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I can't remember what the studies say. It's after 2yo that it's ok, right?
My olders watch something about 1-2x/mo. Little hasn't watched anything yet.
Ack. I meant to attach a poll. Oh well, just fill in the blank.
I will start to allow television at 1 to 2 year for 30 minutes at a time as a baby sitter. They can watch family movies with us at night until bedtime.
My olders get 30 minutes a day, usually video games. Movies happen on the weekends or sick days. When we had the flu last year, movies were my saving grace when my 5 year old was not sick along with the rest of us.
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I baked the best, best, best, batch of brownies yesterday and they are gone tonight. Only ds and I are here. Dd and Dh are in Germany. WE ate them all! Yikes! The recipe is on my blog if anyone wants it.
So, how do you like your brownies? Plain, unadulterated chocolate (why mess with a good thing?), with chocolate chips, with nuts, frosted, cake-like, chewey and thin, blondies, marbled, other?
Do tell, and please feel free to share recipes. I may have to resort to baking another batch tomorrow!:drool:
Our brownies have to be milkless and eggless. They are still quite good. We add marshmallows to make it special. I do love plain traditional gooey brownies. :drool5:
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Yeah! Great job!
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It seemed like a rather arbitrary "rule" that whoever moves the island can never return. Didn't make much sense to me. And I don't think Ben would be willing to leave the island just to save it if he really believed he couldn't return. He sure seemed irritated with Jacob, though.
How would Ben know this unless it happened before? He was not in the shack when John was told to move the island. I have a feeling Widmore is somehow involved here. Maybe this is why Widmore could not find the island?
It sounds like Ben really wants revenge on Widmore, hence leaving the island....
I think the other person Sun blames is Widmore. Why else would she "join forces" with him. She is a very crafty person and I would not put it past her to use Widmore to find the island or Jin and then turn on him.
Of course, finding Locke in the coffin - Yikes! I never thought. It makes me wonder though that the island heals some people Locke and allows others to get sick, Jack and Ben while there. I think somehow this is all related to Locke being in that coffin.
I can't wait until the next season!!!!
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I googled the name Jeremy Bentham and here is what Wikipedia has to say:
Jeremy Bentham was an English jurist, philosopher, and legal and social reformer. He was a political radical, and a leading theorist in Anglo-American philosophy of law. He is best known for his advocacy of utilitarianism, for the concept of animal rights,[1][2] and his opposition to the idea of natural rights, with his oft-quoted statement that the idea of such rights is "nonsense upon stilts."[3] He also influenced the development of welfarism.[4]
and of course, we know John Locke was a political philosopher.
I love the use of names in the show.......
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Good thing? Bad thing? Pondering if we should look into MIL quarters as well. We would be the ones stepping up to take care of both of our mother's, which would be difficult when they live in another town. Both have issues going on where they could use the stability and I'd love them to be more a part of the boys lives while they are able.
It is working out well for us. My dad lives with us (in a separate building) and has for about 5 or 6 years now. He still working and in good health. My boys really enjoy having pop-pop live with us on a daily basis. I see them forming a relationship that they do not have with their other grandparents. (the built in baby sitter rocks too!) It also adds another dynamic to our family life. We need to take my dad into consideration for a lot that we do. (did I mention the built in baby sitter ROCKS!)
It also gives us a chance to talk about the future if something should happen. We have no plans to move ever so alterations to the building and what if scenarios are discussed from time to time.
I do however think it depends on the personalities of everyone involved. I do not think the same situation would work out if it were my mother living with us. You need to carefully consider your relationship with the parent. I see the potential for many situations in which things could go terribly wrong and ruin the relationships involved.
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We are on FLL3 Lesson 68 and are stopping today. We school all year round so we will pick back up in July when school starts again. My plan is to continue with it.
When I receive FLL4 I will evaluate to see how much is repeated. If a lot of the lessons in FLL4 are review from FLL3 then we will move on to FLL4. I will also take into account my sons ability. If FLL3 seems too slow for him, then we will move on. Most of the grammar is review at this age and I do not feel we will miss much either way. I can always review if he is having a problem.
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Why propose such a ridiculous mandate?
Furthermore, why in the world is the public school held up as the model?
Honestly, I feel it is because the state can't and will not admit that the people can educate their children better than the state sponsored education. It would be calling themselves incompetent to say homeschoolers educate better than the state does.
They tried to pass similar strict legislation in NJ a few years back and it did not pass. One representative got it in her bonnet that homeschooling is bad and started a crusade.
After rallying the homeschooling community together and launching a large campaign against this bill ( I along with friends attended this rally and made phone calls to my rep), the bill was defeated.
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I'm about to place an order and wanted to make sure they were legit.
Otherwise, where have people ordered spenserian penmanship?
Thanks!
Ellen
In PA? I have several times. I was very happy with their service. I had a mistake (my mistake)and they corrected it with no problems. I would highly recommend them!
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Heading to visit family and we will be in the car for 18 hours (9 hours each way) and I need some ideas for audio books we can take along with us - something appropriate for a four year old as well as two adults. We just listened to Chronicles of Narnia on the last trip, but we are totally open to other suggestions!
Hank the Cowdog (even my dh likes this)
Anything by Jim Weiss - he does have stories for younger children.
Ms. Frisby and Rats of Nimh
Magic Tree House
Box Car Children
Charlotte's Web
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the mix of older "chicks" & younger "chicks" works pretty well on this board.;)
Sorry, couldn't resist. :D
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And I just had one of the boys up scrubbing the floor before posting this thread. ;) Not afraid of making my boys clean, not at all :thumbs up:
You go girl!:)
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I agree with everyone else but would like to add that I would have a serious heart to heart (not a guilt trip) with them about respect. They are still expected to respect your rules even though you are out of the room. Something like, when we disrespect our parents we disrespect God. Even though we can't see God, he still expects us to obey him and this means obeying our parents, even when they are not around.
With the little ones, I tend to talk more about making God happy. Do you think what you did makes God happy?
The kids may not understand or get this right away esp. the young ones but after a while it will sink in. My kids and I have this talk usually every time after they have broken the rules. (unless I am MAD and a time out:D)
help me yank myself back up here
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It will take time but you can do it! We have all been in your shoes. Give yourself a break and try to do something fun and enjoyable for you. You need to get yourself back in good shape emotionally and mentally before you can handle the kids. :grouphug: