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  1. 2 hours ago, StellaM said:


    Actually, I did not 'see abuse' in the bike ad, but I sure as heck see people making cash out of laughing at abuse in the second one. So brilliant.

    The only abuse I'm seeing is the public thrashing she's suffered because people are so dedicated to finding ill intent and offense at every turn, they forget the fact that there's a real person being dragged through the mud in the process (who's probably genuinely worried about her career now that she's the "Peloton wife").

    At least Reynolds gave her the option of changing her personal narrative.

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  2. 16 hours ago, SKL said:

    I am not good at making decisions, but I'm fairly good at not making life complicated enough to require a lot of decisions.  😛

    I have a friend who second-guesses everything nine thousand times after she has already decided.  And you have to discuss it with her until she is over it.  That drives me nuts.  "Make a decision and move on!"

    In your case, it's fine that you double-checked and now you have solidified your choice.  Now stop thinking about it, LOL.

    I do this internally. I don't like that I thought about that chair nearly non-stop for 3 days before I called and went back for the swatches. It also drives my husband crazy. 

    15 hours ago, WendyAndMilo said:

    1. Lower your standards.  Very low.

    2. Make decisions impulsively or without much thinking at all.

    3. Be happy with whatever happens because you had no standards to begin with.


    5 hours ago, Carrie12345 said:

    No actual advice, but I’m terrible with making decisions about home stuff like that. And we just did a WHOLE bunch of house projects, so I’ve been a basket case.  In the end, I have to remind myself that these are not life and death decisions. I often lean on neutrals to play it safe. If I want to try something more exciting, I do it with the cheap stuff. And then I just embrace the mishmosh look as truly representative of who I am inside, lol.

    We've made a few really big life decisions lately, one that I wrestled with quite a bit. Somehow, it's he chair that pushed me over the edge this time. I do think that house stuff (I'm just as bad with paint color) is hard for me. I'm not good at visualizing. I'm bad with scale and color. I want my house to look a certain way, but it's hard for me to translate it into real life.

    3 hours ago, Spryte said:

    I don’t think you did too badly!  You’ll be seeing that fabric for a long time.  Hopefully you’re happy with the choice now?

    I’m not too bad with most decisions.  DH, on the other hand, researches everything into the ground.  So for tech gear or anything like that - I’m good.  

    House stuff is harder, it takes me a little while.  But I tell myself over and over that nothing is permanent.  I think that helps.  Paint can be changed, chairs can be reupholstered, anything can be replaced.  I just make the best choice I can, and know that if we hate it, eventually  we will replace it.

    Hope the new chair is beautiful!




    Oh!  I almost forgot!  My first thought on reading your thread title ... Have you watched The Good Place on Netflix?  There’s a character who can’t make up his mind.  🙂

    Chidi! Yes, I thought of him, too. I'm not quite at that level, but if you just dialed me up a little, I could get there!

    3 hours ago, fairfarmhand said:

    Is it just about house stuff or everything?

    for house stuff, I get a picture of what I want the WHOLE ROOM to look like. I spend time on Pinterest. 

    Then choosing the individual accessories is easy. 

    House stuff is definitely harder for me. It's a combo of my lack of skill in visualizing and the expense of it. I hate to waste time or money.

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  3. This is a hard area for me, especially in things that shouldn't matter as much as I end up making them. Example, we're replacing dh's recliner. He gave me free reign on the fabric choice. After about 45 min I finally made a decision. For the next several days, I thought about that fabric. I looked at it online, thought about what other choices I could have made, until finally I called the place and asked if it was too late to change. They said that I could still make a change so I drove 30 min back to the store. I took home 4 swatches, including the original. Now that I'm home, I think I like the original best. So now I have to have them put the order back in and I have to drive back to return the swatches.

    Why do I do this to myself?

  4. 3 hours ago, Farrar said:

    My take is that it just didn't work.

    I think you could make an ad where the husband gifts the wife with exercise equipment and it's FINE and not at all sexist. After all, women like to exercise. But the way the ad shows doesn't center her experience of loving exercise - it implies it's all for the husband because it centers him - his gift and her making this video throughout the whole thing, as if it's all for him. In that sense, I don't think it works at all. In private, within a relationship, that might actually be sweet. But framing it that way on the screen? I do think that's sexist. Not like, end of the world and I'm boycotting Peloton now sexist, but not a good look.

    My biggest issue with it was that she looks like she's abused. Like, that grin she keeps flashing? Holy crap. She looks like she is smiling so she doesn't get the crap beat out of her. It's the "I don't want to disturb anything in case I make a wrong move and get hurt" kind of grin. Obviously she's an actor. It's not real. But if I saw a real woman look like that at her husband all the time, then I'd be like, honey, are you okay, do you need help? I keep thinking how weird it is that they shot it like that. Like, is she just a cruddy actor and that's her "I'm exercising and genuinely happy" look? Because that's not at all how it reads to me. Or is it the (men, I assume?) who mostly directed and staged the ad think that's what happy women look like? And if so, what the heck are they doing to their wives that they think that looks like a normal, happy look? It's just SO STRANGE because there's no way they intended for her to look like she was afraid and grinning through it. That clearly can't have been the intention. Yet... that's totally how it reads to me and to a bunch of other people I've talked to.

    Like, look at this woman. Is this a normal, I'm happy look?!?


    Oh jeez, that’s probably my face every time I walk into the Y. I have worked really hard at getting into shape this year and every new step has come with a lot of trepidation. In that way, I found the commercial relatable. That you connected it to fear of her husband is surprising to me and I can’t say that it makes sense unless one is looking to draw those kinds of lines. 


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  5. We got hit VERY hard last year with multiple viruses, one of which landed my special needs guy into the hospital. I’m usually all about holding babies but a few Sundays ago my friend’s baby coughed directly in my face and I realized that I’m not willing to take my chances anymore. I think I’m going to be a winter Scrooge from now on. Which is really too bad, because I’m a hugger. 

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  6. We're 5 people in 1300sf with a one car garage. 

    Wrapping paper. I don't buy it. I have one small box filled with gift bags and tissue that I tuck into the hallway closet. Wrapping paper is just too fussy and always gets squished. If I really want to wrap something with paper, I can go buy the single sheets at the store, but that never comes up. I put leftover Christmas paper into our Christmas storage bins that go up in the garage. 

    Speaking of Christmas, I've purged a lot of our Christmas stuff the last few years.

    I also purged linens, books, and just about everything. I have a few extra blankets under one kid's bed in vacuum bags. My exercise stuff can tuck into a corner, but I would never be able to fit something as big as a treadmill here. 

    Dh and I have a bed frame with drawers underneath. Pretty much every bed in this house has stuff tucked underneath. 

    We have built in cabinets and I purged any books that didn't fit into those. I recently got rid of a ton of recipe books that I used maybe one or 2 recipes from. I digitized the recipes and out they went.

    Purge, purge, purge. That's 90 percent of it.


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  7. On 12/8/2019 at 1:36 PM, Carol in Cal. said:

    Overflow buckets means, I keep sugars, flour, and beans in canisters or decorative canning jars across the back of my counters for typical use, but I like to have more than that available so I don’t have to run to the store so much and for economical reasons.  So I have 5 gallon buckets with Alpha seals, once for white flour, one for white sugar, one for pinto beans, one for brown sugar, and one for white rice, which I buy in big sacks at Costco.  I decant from them into the countertop usual use storage.  They need to be in the kitchen to be functional, but I want to hide them better.  Again, those shelves on the French window would probably be a good spot.

    Is this necessary? I mean, how much are you really saving? Those are fairly cheap commodities, even when purchased in small batches. I would consider retiring this approach.

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  8. 27 minutes ago, Katy said:


    I think it's always an aspirational modern home.  Like if you buy this $2k bike and workout every day for a year in a year you'll triple your salary and move into a $4 million dollar modern house with mostly glass walls too!

    What’s funny is my only friend that has a Peloton basically has a multimillion dollar house with floor to ceiling windows. They know their market. 

    (this friend is also the nicest person I have met in my entire life and super humble and normal, so the above is not a value judgement)

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  9. 39 minutes ago, Lady Florida. said:

    Nothing special. I'm usually in the kitchen Christmas Eve day doing prep work for Christmas dinner, so we have a no-cook dinner on Christmas Eve  

    We do the opposite. I’m happy to cook on Christmas Eve but you will not find me in the kitchen Christmas Day. I cook a big meal on the 24th with plenty of leftovers. It’s fend for yourselves on the 25th. 

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  10. I'm finishing up my semester of box-checking classes (humanities, check. critical thinking, check. US gov, check.). I just turned in my last english paper. Polysci final is tomorrow. I'm sooooo not into taking this test, but since I got into a program, I'm no longer dedicated to getting A's in all my classes. As long as I pass, I'm fine. I also have a dance history final. That class has been the biggest snoozefest. I'm looking forward to the break.

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  11. I don’t think that quiz is helpful. It’s a rare person who doesn’t “get annoyed when people try to give me too many things to do at once.”  The real question would be how many is too many? I have an acquaintance who is a HSP and she literally falls apart if she has to balance more than 1 or 2 things at a time. My too many is probably over 10. If I’m in the middle of doing a bunch of things at once and my husband adds to my list, I will probably be annoyed. I’m also sensory sensitive but I wouldn’t classify it as highly sensitive. 

    Back to the original question, the hsp mom I know is a homeschooler and she institutes SWB style quiet hours during the day. Everyone goes to their rooms for 2 hours of alone time.

    I’ve had some conflicts with her because she tends to want to take on leadership positions but she’s really, really bad at it due to her sensitivity. She tries to control the chaos by micromanaging and then melts down when things don’t go as she planned. So based on that I would suggest  never feeling compelled to lead things. Take on one task that you can do happily and let other people be the organizers. 

  12. Doesn’t it seem like everyone has a book deal these days? I like listening to podcasts geared toward Christian women and they’re basically 95% people coming on to sell their books. It’s incredibly rare that anyone sounds like they have a novel point of view to share. I did a launch team for a book recently (it was just ok but I like the author) so now the publisher is sending me other random books. They just seem pointless. So many of them are just an inch deep, basically just restating what’s already been said a thousand times. 

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