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1 hour ago, Vintage81 said:
I know this thread is kind of old, but...
I've been a little bit stressed over the last few weeks, so this past week I decided to watch my first K-drama (to distract me from the impending doom of the layoffs happening at DH's work).
I remembered this thread and after browsing through all of your lists I decided to start with Crash Landing on You. I'm only about 5 episodes in, but I'm really liking it so far!! I'm honestly shocked that it's as long as it is. I'm excited to watch more and thankfully Netflix has quite a few choices, so I'll have to refer back here for more inspiration. So, thank you!! ☺️
Come back anytime you need recommendations. I’ve got lots. (It’s Okay Not to Be Okay is amazing and also on Netflix.)
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I would assume soy allergy for now. An allergist can always do a controlled in-office soy challenge when the baby is older. We did this with peanuts when my baby was around a year old.
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5 minutes ago, gardenmom5 said:
what do you call "autism vitamins"? I found the "simple spectrum" ones - and so far, I can't even find out what is IN THEM because of how their website is set up. If I can't read the label - no way in hades would I fork over any money. (I know of a few other brands of sups that do that with their "one size fits all" - I did finally track down their ingredients, ,and they were very overpriced for very poor quality.)
Our pediatrician gave us a list of supplements that have been studied as being beneficial for Autism. I don’t remember the names, but they are all from specialist labs and are like “take 5 pills 3x a day” and cost hundreds per month. Even the pediatrician said they may be overkill for my successfully mainstreamed Autistic kid. I want to try a methylated vitamin, because methylated B-vitamins have been hugely beneficial for my anxiety. The pediatrician recommended just trying it instead of testing her methylation status. Worth a shot, right?
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1 hour ago, maize said:
Have you tried different variations of Smarty Pants? You'd have to check the amounts vs recommended amounts for children yourself, but my whole family prefers the flavor and texture of Smarty Pants prenatal (non-organic version) vitamins. They don't like the kids' version, the mens' version, or the organic versions we have tried.
Interesting! Worth a try!
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Any recommendations? My kids don’t actually like the Smarty Pants gummys, that would be the most obvious option.
I’m trying to find a more affordable methylated option before we go to the fancy Autism vitamins, which maybe more than we actually need. (Affordable is relative, I’m willing to spend money on good vitamins, but the fancy Autism vitamins are super expensive.)
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I’m autistic and I really enjoyed theater as a tween/teenager. It’s a chance to have a communal social experience without having to be in charge of any of the social logistics. (All I had to do was show up for rehearsals and other kids would be there!) I did a lot of different theater experiences, some through school, some through camps. Are there perhaps smaller theater opportunities that would be a better first experience? Some camps I went to gave every kid a speaking role of some sort. These were not giant productions, one camp was 15 kids doing outdoor Shakespeare. Definitely more sensory friendly than indoors with orchestra!
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1 hour ago, Paige said:
This reminds me that they gave me packets of breast milk fortifier in the hospital for when I came home. I believe they were also adding it to my milk in the NICU. Her pediatrician should be able to prescribe it if needed- maybe she can ask about it? I have no idea what it costs or if insurance covers it, but the nurses really wanted me to use it and we did until we quit using bottles.
I was told to use regular formula. The doctor can tell you exactly how much to add, based on the size of the bottle and the target calories.
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My preemie was 34w5d and came out with basically no body fat. In the beginning, in order to plump her up, I had to pump my breast milk and then add a scoop of formula to the breast milk. It added a whopping 22 extra calories to each bottle. You mention she is supplementing with pumped milk. Maybe ask the doctor if adding formula to that pumped milk would make sense? That way the formula doesn’t replace a breast milk feeding, but merely adds extra calories to the supplemental milk.
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9 hours ago, Ann.without.an.e said:
The hospital drilled it so hard - no cosleeping, no cosleeping. Basically, “they’ll die if you cosleep”. DD is terrified of that. I don’t even know that she is getting good sleep because she says she’ll wake up panicked that she has a baby in her arms in bed, even though they won’t allow themselves to hold them in bed laying down for that reason. They made it into such a huge fear that it’s literally disrupting her sleep. She won’t even sit up in bed and nurse them.
I hate this. They drill that breast feeding is the only answer, but that cosleeping is evil. I was so damn sleep deprived trying to exclusively breastfeed my first. It doesn’t help the baby if I crash the car, right? Or fall asleep while she is nursing in my lap? I swear they hate women.
I never did get over my fear of cosleeping, but I did get over my fear of formula. With the second kid, Dad took care of the 3am to 6am shift with a bottle and I got one consistent sleep cycle every night. Made such a huge difference.
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A blood test will tell if she qualifies for an Iron IV. I had one after my first section that involved a lot of blood loss and I think it helped. Something to consider. Otherwise definitely orange juice with the iron pill.
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I really like Paul Noble for a completely audio based course. There are multiple levels for Spanish, they are reasonably priced on Audible.
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The easiest way at that age, if you don’t mind screen time for him, would be to have him watch television in your target language. Assuming you want him to learn English, something like Daniel Tiger or Dora the Explorer would be very accessible at that age. I was afraid that my kids wouldn’t watch TV in a foreign language, so I didn’t start until they were around six. I was totally wrong. They loved watching cartoons, and since only let them watch cartoons in French they were very eager to do so. I wish I had started when they were younger!
Eventually you will want to expand from television to reading books and speaking etc., but daily television will build passive understanding of the language, and that’s how kids start to learn their native languages. Passive understanding is a great foundation to build on.
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Lawn mowing, grocery delivery for sure. I’d love to pay for cleaners, but Dh is weird about having people in the house, and then we had a Pandemic…
But my number one willing to pay expense is having movers pack for me. It doesn’t cost that much more than buying your own moving supplies, but they do a much faster and better job and you don’t have to deal with any leftover boxes. *So* worth it.
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I’m still friends at 43 with the boy I dated at 15. We would never have made a good long term match, and I mostly knew that then, but he is a lovely person and I hate to think that my relationship with him was a waste of time. Some people help us learn and grow, even if we aren’t meant to be together.
He’s the only person I ever dated that didn’t go to college. He’s the only friend I have who isn’t a professional. (He’s a bike mechanic.) He is brilliant in ways I’m not, ways that don’t show up on standardized tests, and knowing him has given me a lot of perspective over the years. I guess we could have been “just friends” since he wasn’t husband material for me, but honestly I’m glad I actually dated him.
I’d like my daughters to date some guys that are different from the types of guys they will eventually marry. High school may be the time they have that opportunity.
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You did it!!! Yay!
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2 hours ago, freesia said:
Have you looked at the Ulat? It’s not an online class but is online lessons. It’s working really well here. I also liked Homeschool Spanish Academy, but Ulat is tons cheaper.
ULAT is great. I also really like Paul Noble, starting with the “for kids” version and then graduating to the regular course. I would pick one (ULAT, Paul Noble) and add lots of immersion (dubbed cartoons on Netflix, eventually easy readers) and call it good. My kids have absorbed a huge amount of French with this approach.
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1 hour ago, Lecka said:
The mom might be reusing passwords that go together with a login, that she already has from other accounts.
I don’t think it makes sense but I know people who do it, who have this written on a piece of paper and don’t know what goes with what, so they will say “try ShirleyJones. Try shirley12345.”
I don’t know if I’m explaining this clearly, but I know people who do this, and they don’t see why you would keep track of your login and password for each individual account. (Or they just don’t keep up with it, or lost that piece of paper.) They keep track of a login and password they have created at some point, and try to reuse it, without keeping track.
Wow, this is so exciting!!!!!!!!
You don’t need a separate login for each DNA submission. You just need a name, and it can be anything. You can submit your DNA as Daffy Duck if you want. (This of course works better if you only do the medical testing. If you agree to the relative matching your real identity is very likely to be revealed.)
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I’m on Ancestry. DNA matches can see my initials. That’s it. No full name, no picture. Choosing to put your full name and picture on your profile is a choice that this person made. Just like choosing to allow her DNA to show up in the relatives matching database was a choice. Scarlett didn’t make these choices, the new sister did.
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2 minutes ago, Catwoman said:
"A little longer?" 🤯
Seriously???
Are you so pathological in your quest for "truth" that you can't even acknowledge how utterly devastating it could be for many people to suddenly discover that everything they ever believed about their parents or grandparents was a lie? Discovering out of the blue that they have a secret sibling is hardly something people should be learning from some random stranger's Ancestry.com message; it's not only shocking; it's creepy. But that's exactly how you approached your new "sister" and her daughter! (And what makes you think you have the right to approach the woman's daughter? Why do you have the right to violate your "sister's" privacy in that way?)
Your sister had "a few minutes of distress," but you can laugh about it because she's over it now? How sweet. 🙄 Other people may not be so callous that they can laugh about it after "a few minutes of distress." They may never get over the trauma. But hey, as long as you get to add more branches to your family tree, I guess that's just tough for them, right?
I mean seriously, Scarlett, you seem to be practically gleeful about this new discovery of yours, yet you also said that, "Her mom is still married to the man she was married to when she got pregnant by my dad. So there is a good chance she does not know." So what gives you the right to disrupt this woman's life, knowing full well that you could be giving her such potentially devastating information? And even more importantly, why would you even think about disrupting her daughter's life? It seems so selfish on your part.
Ugh.
You may believe that "humans aren't secrets or they should not be," but that is not a universal truth; it's nothing more than your own personal opinion.
Your lack of compassion for people whose lives may being upended by your never-ending nosiness about potential biological relatives whom you've never met continues to be absolutely astounding to me. I hope things work out with your new biological sister, but only because I would feel so incredibly sorry for her if she didn't know this information and would be horribly upset by it.
The new sister was already informed of the match by the DNA company. She would have this information regardless of whether Scarlett ever messaged her or not. DNA matches are listed in order of shared DNA. A sibling would appear right at the top of the list, underneath any parents who had been tested by the company.
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9 minutes ago, Catwoman said:
I would.
I would consider the person to be a total stranger, not a sibling.
I would have zero interest in any form of communication and I would consider it a tremendous intrusion if someone approached me to say we were related in some way or another based on DNA testing. My life is none of their business.
I have no interest in DNA testing, unless I was doing it for some sort of medical information.
This is such a foreign perspective to me. My quirky as hell Autistic family understand me better than any total strangers, and if I had a sibling or first cousin I didn’t know about I would absolutely want to meet them. I would expect we would get along smashingly. At the very least I might be able to answer some questions for them. “Yes, we are *all* like that!” Maybe that’s just what comes from being a genetic outlier. We don’t fit in with a lot of people, but we fit in with each other. I would want to welcome them to the club.
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Help me help a family member: What’s the current over the counter recommendations for acute COVID? I’ve been reinfected several times, but I always just stay on my usual LongCovid supplements, so I don’t know what to recommend to a first time COVID patient.
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I would love to find another sibling! My family is already a complicated mess, there would be no disillusionment involved, just joy. I hope your new sister is excited to discover her new siblings too!
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My mom’s birthday was December 26. Honestly, I think it’s the worst possible day. As she put it, “it’s the day that everyone is physically, emotionally and fiscally spent.” She hated it.
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This Japanese tourist in Wisconsin is a must see:
Here is a story about him:
From an outside perspective, American culture is real!
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I'm now a K-drama addict...
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I don’t do dubbed, but I’m learning Korean. When I was actively learning French I would sometimes watch American shows dubbed in French just to keep my French exposure up. You do get more used to dubbing, but it’s always a bit strange. If you don’t hate subtitles I would stick with them.