My shifts are 9-5, 10-6, and 11-7. I think that would be too much. But I might do online tutoring in some free hours.

The author makes it sound so easy to find a therapist that deals with attachment (she doesn’t like the word styles). My most recent therapist recommended the Attached book but I don’t know if they really delve into helping patients on that matter.

I’m just scared because when I had that ins plan it was free and this one will be at least $130/mo.

@Kanin I downloaded the book from cloudLibrary. So far it’s just a giant workbook. How much of the book is that way? I really don’t know how to answer a lot of questions about my childhood etc. I don’t remember.

Came across an old library paystub. 41% was taken out from gross to net. That included: fed income, ss, Medicare, state, retirement, and other ins. That was a monthly check. If that is anywhere close to my new checks my budget is even tighter than I anticipated.

I don’t know when to get the cat. I’m driving to my friend’s tomorrow and dropping off a few things at my home. It seems like it would be hard to drive back & forth mid week but maybe I’ll drive to the cat Thursday night after work and bring her over Friday (I’m off Friday). Mid week that furniture and litter will arrive so I can assemble that before she arrives, hopefully lol. I definitely don’t want to leave her at my friend’s long. In the course of about 2 days without me, her litter box was full, I found cat vomit and spit up all over the room/bed and the feeder needed to be jiggled to get the kibble down. I cleaned up and added more food to the feeder. My back has healed a great bit so today I tried the rowing machine at the gym and I was ok. Watched a video with a new exercise for me to do to combat PF. My dad isn’t coming with the trailer tomorrow. Forecast had rain so I’m just gonna take whatever fits in my car. I’ll likely be stuck with Dec storage fees but it’s too rushed to get everything out.

Ok

I don’t even know if trust is the word I’d choose for my hang ups though it probably applies. I know I used the word trust upthread. I need more reassurance in the beginning and need actions to match words better. It’s like cognitive dissonance which is hard to ignore.

Thanks. I have heard that you can do all the reading/research but you have to be able to practice it so staying single isn’t the answer. I’ll have to be able to work on my attachment style in a relationship. Not that I am trying to dive into one now.

I ordered a piece of furniture for the cat’s litter box. I remembered to cancel my Hulu & Peacock services that will end soon from last year’s Black Friday deal. I received my ss card. I’ll need it at the water dept & for work health ins.

He made tentative plans to see me Friday night. But he delivers mail and you never know when the route will end. As it was nearing dinner time I called to touch base and he was still working. It wasn’t gonna be a good night to see me. I told him I know he’s swamped and I guess I won’t see him before I move. With the holidays I’m sure his job will become even more busy. When we were dating he’d said he would invite me into his home but it was bad timing because his mom is temp living there in the living room. She was gonna move out at the end of Nov but now it’s looking like end of Dec. (for financial reasons). Our timing and circumstances are messy. If we ever hang out again I will just assume it wouldn’t be practical til Jan. And maybe not even then.

I posted it on my personal FB tonight with “or make me an offer”

That tiny table is my kitchen table 🤣🤣 I don’t have all the chairs in there. I got used to small furniture. It folds up.

Please let me know if you have a link. I’m gonna see what they offer on Amazon.

Well I can get most out but I don’t know what to do with the W/D. I listed it for sale days ago but no bites. And they thought they fixed the leak in my storage unit but there were puddles of water on the plastic I threw over the bad area when I went today. So I reported it again and emailed a pic.

Funny — the neighbor works at the gym I plan to join 😆 She said it’s crowded but they are opening another location in Dec. Hopefully some switch to that location. The current location is closer to me. There’s a playground in walking distance to my home. I’ll see if dd wants to go there.

More. I’ll get them late afternoon/evening of the 19th instead of 22. But I don’t know how much of that time I’ll be working.

I gotta figure out where to put the litter box etc. I might see if I can section off an area in the living room. 🤷🏻‍♀️ maybe camouflage it.

Met one of my duplex neighbors. Super sweet. Here's a quick video. The door in hallway has a stackable washer/dryer. The door inside kitchen is a pantry. Notice the Christmas tree box on the floor ha The kitchen counter edges and surface are a bit jagged but overall I’m super happy with it. https://youtu.be/fpWUusbzZ0M?si=nHFxzHC1chWctrzj

I took them around it the other day. 😊 We met a couple future co-workers.

Ohh forgot to mention - xh said that the kids having a half day Dec 19 officially marks their winter break and that trumps the “Friday before Christmas” verbiage in our visitation. I’ll just go with that. I need to see if I work that day or not. And if I’m allowed to have the kids in the library for periods of time during my shift so possibly they could be dropped off there while I finish my shift. So I’ll have the kids Dec 19-late afternoon of Dec 25.

I packed the artificial Christmas tree this car trip 🤣

I’ll do a little video tour soon 😊

Bank was open. Got the cashiers checks for deposit & first month rent. Heading to NOLA now to trade money for key. Paid off debt to xh — kids’ recent medical bills including ds’ eye dr visit. 🥳 Thanks to you all 😊

He edited the lease and I don’t owe the pet fee unless there’s significant damage when I move out. Yay. Since the elec transfer won’t process til Monday and I can’t get the key til payment is delivered, I’m gonna see if the bank is open Friday, get a cashiers check instead and hand deliver that then empty a carload of items into the home. Mattress and a few other items. According to the current visitation agreement I get the kids the Friday before Christmas until 6 pm Christmas Day on odd years. Well that isn’t as many days as I thought I’d have the kids (Dec 22-25) but it’ll be ok. I know the library is closed Sundays and Christmas Day so at least I’ll have Dec 24-25 home. I can’t open the document with the rest of the Dec schedule because it requires a log in I wasn’t given yet (Microsoft) so I don’t know what days I’m scheduled during their visit. I’ll have plenty of time to get my home ready for the kids. I’m excited to have my own kitchen & laundry. The kitchen has space for my dining table so I’m relieved about that. I won’t bring the cat to the house til I actually sleep in it. My friend that has the cat at her place said no problem and isn’t rushing me. My dad, aunt and I ate at our old neighbors’ home today. I’m welcome at Christmas too but I don’t plan to come. I’ll provide a meal at my home but my dad and aunt are welcome to join if they want. We didn’t do anything special for my dad’s birthday the other day — and he always says he doesn’t like to make a big fuss over birthdays. I just gave him a humorous card and it made him laugh. We did acknowledge his bday today at the neighbors’ and sang to him, though. I left a bunch of my curtains at my old home (they requested and didn’t charge me rent the end of my stay) and the new landlord said I can keep the ones in there now if I want. I’ll do that for now at least. One less hassle!