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Live Like You Were Dyin' - Tim McGraw
I Called Mama - Tim McGraw
Adagio in G Minor - (instrumental) Albinoni
The Last Song - Elton John
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15 hours ago, lewelma said:
Does anyone have good information on home sterilization of disposable masks. We have been doing some internet research, but just curious if someone else is studying this. My ds will be leaving NZ for Boston in about 6 weeks. He has struggled with acne for years and has it under control, but I'm thinking disposable masks are the best bet. I can get surgical masks at the grocery store (on sale because no on here wants them), and the P2/N95 masks at the hardware store. He could use the surgical masks everyday, and the P2/N95 masks when on airplanes or in crowded areas he can't avoid. We are thinking he just loads up his suitcase, but it sure would be nice to be able to reuse them. We've looked into H2O2 misters (only commercial), UV light (not finding anything portable and cheap), and heat treatment in an oven (we have heard that all the dorm kitchens will be closed). So I'm open to suggestions.
Could he (dry) iron them?
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I wonder whether some of the universities will change a bunch of schedules in hopes that they can create more distance in the dorms. In one of the million articles I've read about colleges and Fall 2020, Texas Tech's Provost (I think) was quoted saying that their dorms were reserved to capacity for this fall, and that they "can't have that". There are probably lots of parents -- freshman parents particularly -- who won't be willing to pay for a dorm in such situations, especially if the schools let them out of their housing contracts.
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23 minutes ago, Pen said:
I don’t know if this is significant but I can smell things like coffee through the Happy Mask much more easily than through a two layer 100% cotton (outer layer salted) mask.
I hope the lab test results for Happymask are reliable.
the Happymask is much lighter, cooler, more easy to breathe through than the 2 layer 100% cotton.
Do you think that's a result of the design -- the way it has extra space in the front? I've seen a homemade design out there that has pleats over the nose so that the mask puffs out. I'm trying to get motivated to make one.
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On 7/2/2020 at 6:10 PM, Dreamergal said:
He was trying to present himself as a caring grandfather who would be willing to die for the sake of his grandchildren's future. Then offered up other grandparents too without their choice or consent that they will be willing to die as well. 🙄
Here is a quote (TX Lt. Gov. Patrick, from March):
“No one reached out to me and said, as a senior citizen, ‘Are you willing to take a chance on your survival in exchange for keeping the America that all America loves for your children and grandchildren?’ And if that’s the exchange, I’m all in … I just think there’s lots of grandparents out there in this country like me — I have six grandchildren — that what we all care about and what we love more than anything are those children. I want to live smart and see through this. But I don’t want the whole country to be sacrificed and that’s what I see.”
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8 hours ago, Ktgrok said:
What a title!
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Praying right now.
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10 minutes ago, EmseB said:
Did I just hear npr correctly... Miami is closing beaches for the 4th?
Yep. Ft. Lauderdale and Palm Beach, too.
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1 hour ago, Ktgrok said:
and to be clear, I don't think anyone should be mean, or aggressive or nasty. I was just thinking that I could see her not thinking about it, and then not doing it again after someone said something. She did stop her conversation in the end, but not sure if the other person hung up or what. And when she was leaving, I caught her eye and said thank you. (even after she'd called me a b#tch)
I almost didn't say anything, for not wanting to be rude. But then I realized it was insane to risk my health, possibly my life, rather than make her perhaps uncomfortable!
I think it was very brave of you to say anything. You were polite and direct, and she won't forget what you said. Well done.
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4 minutes ago, Homeschool Mom in AZ said:
Both my parents and my in-laws are last year and next to last year Silent Gen. They're culturally Baby Boomers because that's who they spent their time with. I agree that Silent Gen has this problem too. I was born in 1973, so I'm later Gen X, but most of my Gen X friends had Baby Boomer parents. Mine were 30 and 28 when I was born, and having kids in your early-mid 20s was far more common my friends' parents. I would say those I know dealing with older parent issues are dealing with Baby Boomers and are frustrated with their parents for the same reasons.
As a Gen X person myself, I think having watched our Greatest Gen grandparents and younger Silent Gen and Baby Boomer parents dwindle for years, we're the more likely to not want all those interventions that don't contribute to quality of life. I suppose those who didn't help care for their parents and grandparents at end of life are probably not really thinking about it as much are probably subconsciously assuming they'll use whatever medical interventions are available, but since Gen X is the sandwiched generation, those who are not thinking about it are probably not in the majority.Yes. I think about this a lot, particularly now that we have this wretched virus about. I hope to be realistic and to face facts with courage, but it may not be so easy when I actually become old.
My mother took care of both of my grandmothers through ill health and dementia, and is a retired hospice nurse(!). She was so practical and matter of fact about preparing for old age and death, but lately, she seems to think differently, at least about medical interventions. (This shouldn't be surprising, human nature being what it is. It's pretty easy to make brave pronouncements about something that's years away, but another to follow through when the time comes.)
Wrt her stuff -- she still has way too much, though at least now she's in a small apartment so there's less of it. I guess she plans for my siblings and me to re-home all of it when she is gone or must go into full-time care. We don't talk about that part. She does say nearly every time I speak to her that she's going through boxes and drawers to throw out what she doesn't love or use, but I think it's too late in her life for her to be able to do that. She never has anything for us to take away for her.
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17 hours ago, Homeschool Mom in AZ said:
1. You're an only child, so it makes sense to ask your parents about their plans should they become unable to care for themselves because you're the next of kin. You can ask if they have a DNR in place, Medical Power of Attorney, Legal Power of Attorney, a trust, an updated will, designated executor, etc. so that you can let the appropriate people know what they want done in that situation. You'll need them to gather their legal documents in a single 3 ring binder and tell you where it is. If they don't then the natural consequences will kick in. Find out what those consequences are and emotionally prepare yourself for watching them happen without trying to rescue your parents from it. If you don't want to be the responsible party to make decisions on their behalf, you should let them know now so they can find someone else and let that person know the appropriate details. If you're willing to take that on, let them know that if they don't have their desires clearly documented, you'll just have to make your best guess as each issue presents itself.
Be forewarned, something happened to Baby Boomers as a whole that makes them unrealistic about their own mortality. It's remarkable how many of them are unwilling to face likely, predictable, inevitable last chapter of life issues. Don't assume they're going to have an epiphany and get real about the situation. If the do, great, but odds are slim to none. Decide your priorities now, and don't apologize for them or feel guilty about sticking to them.
If you decide to not sacrifice your family life, sanity, and your own personal responsibilities to your spouse and your children by sifting through consumer goods and house projects for a bit more profit when it's time to sell, don't feel bad about it. Clearly remind yourself that you're choosing quality of life and relationships over quantity of inanimate objects. Just because Mom dedicated her existence to serving the stuff monster doesn't mean you have to on her behalf when she can't anymore. Just because Dad went catered to her wishes doesn't mean you have to. It's not your job to protect them from the natural consequences of their actions. If it becomes appropriate to call adult services, then do it without apology. If she needs a nursing home, then she needs a nursing home. If the house has to be priced significantly lower because there are problems you don't have the time, money, or energy to deal with, then so be it. If you only have the desire to clear the house by hiring workers to throw it all in a rented dumpster, then that's what should happen. If you aren't willing or able to do anything with a hoarded house, then let whatever happens in that situation happen. It's not being mean, cold, or selfish. It's just life.
2. Remember that they can't sell a house with a hoard in it unless the buyer is planning a tear down. If Mom is imagining selling her house to enthusiastic and generous buyers, odds are she'll need to clear it out, address any wear and tear that went on under/behind the hoard (which is common,) get it market ready, and sell it for enough to cover the cost of a bigger house, shop for a new house, purchase a new house, pack up her hoard, and move it to the new place. I'd be surprised if she managed to pull that off. I'd be surprised if Dad has the time and energy to pull that off.
3. Unless Mom sees her hoarding as a problem and is willing to see a professional who specializes in dealing with the psychology of it, it won't change. Make any plans for setting healthy boundaries assuming she will get worse about her life decisions, not better.I think you're spot on in all of these apart from the Boomer comment. 🙂 My "Silent Generation" mom and many of her friends seem to think they'll live forever. Agressive medical care and our culture's tendency to worship longevity at (nearly) any cost are probably to blame. The idea that there's always something else to try -- a procedure, a new drug, etc. -- is a fairly recent development in our history. People used to just die. Now they dwindle. I suspect that Gen-Xers will be much the same when they are old. (I hope I won't be!)
People don't like to think about their deaths or even think about what will happen when they can no longer care for themselves. Many people never make a will or any plan or provision for what is to be done with all of their stuff or where they'll go when they can't handle the house anymore. It's just too hard.
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12 hours ago, Carol in Cal. said:
I would feel like it was none of my business. I mean, we are not talking about unsanitary conditions with rotted food, or vermin, I don’t think. So they are living the way they want to live, which they have every right to do. I wouldn’t worry about it as a reflection on me, and I don’t think it would be that hard to clear it all out once they pass, so I’d focus on other things.
My mom was not really a hoarder, just very sentimental and pretty disorganized. Cleaning out her house to get her moved was one of the hardest things I've ever done. It took months and months because my siblings and I kept finding important stuff -- irreplaceable family photos, legal papers, and cash(!) -- mixed in with what seemed to be junk.
It would have been easier if she had no longer been alive, which is a sad way to put it, but many people don't die at home. They have to move to a care facility (or move in with someone).
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I haven't read the responses yet, but I have bought three fixer-uppers in my lifetime, so I have strong feelings about them.
If I bought another, I would plan to take care of the simple-ish cosmetic things immediately. Even before moving in, if possible. It doesn't have to fit my ultimate plan -- I will just make it look nice and move in. Then I'll do the big projects.
I will never again live in a house full of "someday this will be nice" projects unless we quickly paint, replace a few doors, and put in some inexpensive window coverings, etc., so I can have a pleasant house while we work.
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2 hours ago, EmseB said:
If there was no contact, why would they assume it came from the graduation? Or am I misunderstanding? Couldn't 5 students conceivably have picked it up independently elsewhere?
I'll bet there was an after party.
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15 minutes ago, JumpyTheFrog said:
What does "FBS schools" refer to? I was under the impression from years of reading at Inside Higher Ed that only about eleven football programs were profitable. The rest all either lose money or are only "profitable" due to all the donations to the program. Is this not the case?
Schools at which football is a really big deal -- the ones that play in bowl games -- Football Bowl (something -- Subdivision, I think).
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35 minutes ago, Violet Crown said:
Can you? We can't get into our city pool without reservations a week in advance, tickets & ID, masks, temperature checks, and a 1-1/2 hour time limit. Swimming next Friday! Yeah!
I just checked their website. Lazy river and pool are currently open, though it's anyone's guess what August (or next week) might bring. I believe it's only open to property guests.
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2 hours ago, perkybunch said:
We actually have travel advisories right now to not go to Houston or San Antonio. And August in Texas is not fun.
Who has issued travel advisories for Houston and SA? Just curious...
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15 minutes ago, gardenmom5 said:
wow - that's fabulous. my grandson isn't old enough to appreciate it yet. he won't even be two.
But with dudeling - I've always had to take into account what their pool facilities were like when booking.
even booked one with a water slide in oregon - except, you have to wear a helmet (seriously), and they only had extremely limited hours. I'd booked it twice - coming and going on our way to yosemite. I cancelled my booking for that one on our return trip and went somewhere else.
The lazy river and zero-depth pools are great for littles, though I haven't checked to see what the resort is doing this year. There are two slides, but no helmet is required. (Prob too much for your dudeling, anyway. 🙂)
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1 hour ago, Kassia said:
We are supposed to move my freshman daughter into UT Dallas in August and I am a wreck watching what is happening in TX. 😞 (we live in OH)
The Dallas County Commissioners court is meeting as I write this to vote on ordering businesses to require masks. I suspect they will do it, so things might improve a bit by August.
Wrt San Antonio, we love the Wild Oak Ranch resort out near Sea World. The rooms are a bit pricey, but you can spend your time outdoors on its lazy river. The landscaping is beautiful and there's lots of shade. If you time it right, schools may(?) be back in session so it will be less crowded.
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58 minutes ago, Ordinary Shoes said:
Yes, exactly.
I've been saying for the last several months that the reaction to COVID has revealed many unpleasant truths about American Christianity. It's pretty ugly, IMHO. The Rusty Reno articles and tweets were despicable. For those not in the know, he drunkposted (or drunk-tweeted?) a series of tweets where he alleged that wearing masks was "cowardly" and un-manly. It was incredibly bizarre and I think it's pretty obvious that he was drunk because the last tweet was just one word like "So" or something like that.
I saw someone on FB refer to masks as "face diapers." It's the same mentality.
Again and again and again people tried to explain that wearing masks is actually about protecting other people and again and again and again people like Reno claimed it was cowardly. They could not even seem to comprehend that someone could do something to protect another person. It's sick.
Basically, these people (men mostly) bellowing about how wearing a mask is "cowardly" aren't going to do much to protect you and me and our kids from anything. Rusty Reno wants to go to Mass - who cares about your grandma or your kid.
Well, his attitude is wrong, but it isn't representative of many Christians. He's just a loud voice. It's frustrating because people like him give non-Christians cause to turn away from the Gospel.
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I haven't read all of the responses.
This is not a silly reason to leave the church. Your pastor is sinning in his rebellion against civil authority -- and only because he doesn't want to wear a mask. He isn't resisting for righteous reasons (as Corrie Ten Boom and her family did when hiding Jews from the Nazis, for instance).
Sins like this are forgivable, of course, if one turns from them. It may be that he hasn't thought this through and he needs someone to gently point out his error. Pastors are spiritual first responders who often don't receive much support from others, and he has likely been carrying heavy burdens for the people of your congregation. He may be weary and upset.
That said, if your church's leaders (deacons, elders, etc.) are obedient to Christ, they won't allow your him to continue in his sin for very long. They will exercise the church discipline mentioned upthread -- Jesus provided the guidelines in Matthew 18 -- and ultimately remove him if he isn't willing to turn around. Unrepentant sin poses grave danger to your pastor's soul and is harmful to the Body and to those who might come to Christ but are disillusioned by this sort of behavior.
I might watch for a change for a short time, but I would leave if it continues. The virus isn't the greatest danger in this situation.
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4 hours ago, TracyP said:
I'm not sure if cases are being classified the same in every state. In my state this would count as a covid death. Also in my state, if someone in a nursing home is dying and they contract covid, their death will be classified as a covid death. The health department claims that this distinction between dying *with covid* versus dying *from covid* is not important right now. They are just trying to be consistent.
That is interesting. I wonder when it will become important.
Seems a bit slapdash.
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