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HUH?
Sure, I could use it to play games or whatever. But I use it to communicate. One can use it ONLY for groups like in the OP if they want. There is awful stuff on Facebook, but there is awful stuff everywhere. I get lots of spam emails for crap I don't want including total scams, but that doesn't make email bad. Some people abuse it, sure. And if the OP has that issue where it is an addiction issue or some other very important reason she can try communicating that to the leader. But the Facebook gremlins aren't going to eat a person up or steal their soul if they use it to plan a community picnic or whatever.
It's simple enough to be on there and have zero friends, not click the ads, not play the games that collect your data, etc. Just like I screen my calls to avoid sales calls and don't make prank phone calls, etc.
except that Facebook "make their money by information mining, manipulating users through information controls, advertising, and designing the most addictive platform they can." (quote courtesy of Bluegoat)
I have a right to refuse to use that. Now I clearly also have a right to not join groups that exclusively communicate through Facebook.
​I think that part of the frustration here is that some people feel like Facebook is an innocuous entity and that those who refuse to use it are ridiculous and others are concerned that their true privacy, not just their name and image, are being compromised by using it. Add to this that fact that most people with kids over 12 realize that the statement that "everyone uses Facebook, and if you don't you are just old and not caught up with the times" is laughable and feel even more resistant to join this "required" behemoth that is not really all that relevant with everyone.
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By the way, they make their money by information mining, manipulating users through information controls, advertising, and designing the most addictive platform they can."
I suppose if was actually my own group, I could insist, but it wouldn't be ethical, and I wouldn't expect people to be defending my position.
ETA - when group emails are ineffective it is usually because people don't bother to read them. That really is their own problem.
This. Nothing more needs to be said.
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All of my girls put on weight in college that first year -- probably 15 pounds. They came from a home where we were pretty careful about what we ate. Then suddenly being on your own, being able to eat anything and as much as you wanted and generally having cafeteria food, it's very likely to happen. For some it lasted a couple years, but every one of them lost it all again eventually, once they returned to their own eating style, and especially when they were cooking themselves.
I know that's not easy. But weight is such a delicate thing. One dd probably put on 40 pounds over a period of years. It was hard to not say anything, but I had made a vow to myself that I would never do that to my girls unless I thought there was an underlying issue. But even then, I'd most likely just address the underlying issues. Now, I knew that this dd did, in fact, have another issue going on. She had chronic migraines, nearly every day, and they could be very debilitating. I knew her weight gain was related to trying to deal with all of that. So, I put all my effort into tackling her chronic migraines. I'd try and help in other areas of her life too. I paid for her haircuts, got her cute clothes from time to time that fit her well -- so she could still feel good about her looks. Invited her to yoga classes me, and we often cooked together (because she enjoyed it). But, we never discussed her weight or made it an issue. I think only once did she bring up her weight with me, in passing. She wasn't asking for advice, just commenting on it. I just hugged her and told her she was so beautiful.
After about five years, she is now back down to her regular size again and healthy cooking is one of her favorite things to do. She is actually one of the most joyful people I know. Unfortunately, she still has her daily migraines and we are continuing to do everything we can to get to the bottom of them.
(P.S. if she had ever directly asked me to help her lose weight, I certainly would have tried to help.)
This is how it is done. Love, unconditional love.
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I love plantoeat.com
I almost didn't renew my subscription after the first year. I now have 494 recipes that I have input over the last year and use it every day. My adult daughter just got a subscription too and it has made it so easy for her to get access to family favorite recipes.
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Facebook is pretty much the only way to communicate for many people under 40. Several of the groups my kids are in don’t use email at all(and the younger 20-something patients don’t use email, only Facebook messenger), and not using Facebook is, frankly, akin to refusing to use email in 2007 and expecting people to call you.
This is interesting to me because in my area, I am not finding this to be true at all. None of the groups that I belong to use Facebook exclusively.
My 23 year old does not use Facebook at all, only snapchat with a few people.
My 21 year old has a Facebook account, she never posts updates. She use it daily to check on updates from a few "lifestyle" Facebook pages and to get information from a few local groups that only use Facebook for communication. (These groups are composed mainly of people in their late 20's to early 30's) She uses instagtram some and snapchat more. She uses snap chat messaging quite a bit but will text the same friends often on the same day.
My 18 year has never opened a facebook account. He doesn't know any friends who use it and they actively think of it as a platform for old people. He uses group texting and snapchat the most. He has an Instagram but hasn't used it actively on a few years. He and his friends also consider twitter to be stupid and for old people.
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Last winter I used CeraVe lotion. Right now I use coconut oil at night and Clinique Moisture Surge Hydrating Supercharged Concentrate in the morning.
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I HATE tea...and coffee...and alcohol holds zero appeal. It really is a drag socially! And I grew up in the South, where sweet tea rules. I've tried a few different things to make tea part of my life, but still unsuccessful.
This is me exactly! Except I don't care that it is drag socially. I get a soda if everyone else is drinking alcohol and hot cocoa when they drink coffee or tea.
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I didn't pay but 3 of my 3 kids have tattoos and my son got his on his 18th birthday. I drove him there and observed. Neither my husband or I has tattoos and I am particularly conservative on the topic and don't really like them. However he chose well, the tattoo is appropriate, simple and I don't think that he will ever regret the choice he made. (he had his Japanese family crest tattooed on his upper back)
As a note, both of my daughters have 2 tattoos, one on a wrist and one in a hidden location. My son wants to be in the military and then become a firefighter. He has researched grooming standards for both and his tattoo is in a location that is covered by a normal short sleeved t-shirt.
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My son is also tall and built like a tank. After trying on many, many pairs of jeans he prefers Lucky brand, 410 athletic fit. He gets most of his shirts as from Duluth (talls), but right now Costco has English Laundry dress shirts in sizes with 37/38 sleeves. We get my son's dress clothes at Men's Wearhouse.
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Thank You. That was very helpful.
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For the 2018-2019 school year, my daughter will be living with us and dependent on us for all medical/living/food expenses. She will be a full-time grad student. As such the FAFSA considers her an independent student.
My son will be a freshman undergrad.
When I fill out his FAFSA, do I list that we will have two students in college full-time or one?
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The link works for me and I am in the US. I think Sadie is right that hers is linking to the AU version.
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The Mrs. Pollifax books
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I am with you. Different body type but same problem.
I am plus sized but I am not curvy. I have no waist. I have a flat butt and I actually have skinnyish legs. I found that Eddie Bauer boyfriend jeans fit me. I have two pairs but I have lost weight and they no longer fit but the company is not making them in plus sizes any longer.
I tried the lane Bryant jeans. They were so tight n the waist that I couldn't button them, baggy in the hips and thighs and skin tight in the calves.
I have currently given up and am wearing my baggy, too-big jeans.
I remember why I wear skirts 90% of the time. If they fit in the waist I am good to go and I always look nicely put together.
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-We did not do the Blue Lagoon as we heard it wasn’t kid friendly even though they are allowed. It was also pricey for a family of five. We did do The Secret Lagoon which was a great experience. We went at night which made it even cooler. On our last day in Iceland we had a little bit of time before our flight. So we looked up things to do and discovered that there are tons of public pools in Reykajvik (and probably other towns). It was cheap...like maybe $20 for us all. Their were two geothermal pools so we swam outdoors in about 40 degree weather. The pools had a water slide which the kids loved and also lap lanes which my swimmer son loved. He can now say he’s done an IM in Iceland. There were also about eight hot tubs that got gradually hotter so you could find your perfect temperature. And it was pretty much just locals, including a couple of school groups that appeared to be on either a field trip or some kind of regular PE class. If you had kids, it’s a fun alternative thing to do if you just have a bit of time.
-The hot dogs are weirdly good. I think they have lamb in them (but I don’t usually like lamb so it’s not like they tasted like lamb). There are some hot dog stands that are famous among tourists but we all voted that the best ones came from the gas stations.
Alice hit upon several of my favorite parts of our time there in her post. The blue lagoon is nice but it is a manmade tourist attraction. If you really want to get a feeling for Iceland and its people head to the public pool. Iceland is heated by geothermal heating so it is inexpensive and as a result swimming (in outdoor pools) is a very popular activity. I took my daughters to the Keflavik pool on a weekly basis and to the Reykavik pool once a month or so. The pools are quite warm and the there are usually 6-8 hot tubs of varying heat. Everyone in Iceland swims, frequently after work, and it was a great place to meet people. There is nothing more beautiful and comforting than sitting in the hot tub while it snows. My daughters loved the water slides.
As a funny aside, the kids in Iceland had found that bare skin on the slides was the fastest so just as they sat down to slide the boys and girls in 2 pieces would pull down the seat of the suit so that their bare bottom was in contact with the slide. Girls in one pieces would give themselves massive wedgie to get the same effect. It took me a long time to break my oldest of this habit and boy did it raise eyebrows back in the US.
Alice was also right about the hot dogs. I still miss them. They are lamb. Food in Icelandic restaurants was expensive and honestly a little weird (and this is coming from a family that eats a very international diet, we have Japanese and Lebanese family members and have lived in several different countries ) but the hot dogs were a favorite.
All of the waterfalls are beautiful. Another thing to visit that will really give you a sense of the "otherness" of Iceland would be the boiling mud pits of Krysuvik-Seltun. It is an area of great geothermal activity, the mud is literally boiling out of the ground, there is steam everywhere, very surreal, very sulfurous, but then to further blow your American mind, There is not a guard rail in sight. Just wooden walkways through boiling mud. At that moment you will realize that you are in a different world. Geysir is also a shortish drive from Keflavik, beautiful and surrounded by a simple rope. You can get within a few feet of it.
I would also recommend going to the shopping mall in Reykavik. It is a great way to see how a people lives, to see what they buy. A grocery store trip is fascinating and fun for the same reason.
If you are taking children, the family park in Reykavik is amazing. A huge park with farm animals and play areas spread throughout it.
​The people in Iceland, at least in the late 90's, all spoke English and were obsessed with American culture and products. They were very willing to strike up a conversation and loved to compare their culture and lives to ours.
I really want to go back for a visit some day.
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I lived there for to years from 1997 to 1999. I loved every minute of it and would love to visit again some day. I have to go run an errand but will be back later with some more information.
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Ours was St. Peter School for Boy.
(Only child.). We left off the last 2 words on the diploma.
St. Peter is his patron.
My kids named our school South Darcastle Academy for Young Gentry. Their diplomas say SD Academy.
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If he likes gaming the book Ready, Player One may interest him. The storyline is based on gaming. If he won't read it, get the audiobook version for him.
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Monday:Hot Chicken Salad, green beans, peaches
Tuesday:Pork Posole, cornmeal biscuits, salad
Wednesday:Slowcooker Chicken Mulligatawney soup, Naan, mango
Thursday: burrito bowls, guacamole salad, clemantines
Friday:Barley vegetable soup, fluffy dinner rolls
Saturday: homemade pizza, salad
Sunday: Mojo marinated Flank steak, rice, broccoli
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My son learned today that he was accepted to the School of Engineering at Texas A&M. He is thrilled. He still needs enough scholarship money to get an instate tuition waiver so we are still waiting.
He won't hear back from VMI until March and he is still finishing application for the USNA and Marne Corps ROTC so we have a while to go but it is good to hear an acceptance
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tuesdayschild, are you still looking for a great, traditional recipe? (It's like a brick with candied fruit in it: heavy, moist, dark, and solid. Not a layer cake texture at all.)
I can PM you one in the next few days if you are. However, it has no booze. Let me know if you'd like it.
I'd love to have it.
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How's your dd doing? (Obviously better enough to be home, but beyond that.)
She is very weak and tired and has a long recovery ahead of her, but is so glad to be home.
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That was interesting. It raises several questions I am conflicted about.
And it’s really a little hard for me to believe the transgender lawyer gave herself the name “Stevie Tran.†I just think...there are a lot of naming options that could speak to that besides Stevie Tran. Like, I don’t know, Stevie Pheonix. Stevie Newman. Stevie True. But Stevie Tran? Ummm.
I think that is just a bad coincidence. From the pictures Stevie Tran seems to be Vietnamese and Tran is a very common last name in Vietnam
The Vietnamese surname of Tran is the second most common family name in the nation of Vietnam. Approximately 11 percent of all residents carry the Tran name. In Scotland the Tran surname comes from the Old Norse term of ‘trani’ which means crane.
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Oh, please tell me how to handle this. I'm fuming!
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Exactly. I do not use gmail or yahoo mail for the same reasons. We pay for our email address.