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Personally, I think children's scouting shouldn't be co-ed. I remember reading once about the reason behind the difference between the philosophies of girl ("Do It") and boy ("Be prepared") scouts. If you tell a bunch of girls that the group is going to hike up a certain small mountain that day and that they need to figure out what they need to take and then go do it. The girls will so much time preparing that the day will be gone before they are ready. Whereas the boys will declare themselves ready to leave immediately, and then will look at each other when they get to the top and say "Who brought the food and water?"
You put the two groups together and everyone is fine, but it will be the girls bringing the food and water, and it will be the boys getting the hike started. But, they wouldn't have learned as much.
My husband is a Eagle Scout and I was very into scouting. We've often compared are differing and often opposite experience.
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We like AHG too, I don't know if all troops do this, but ours does camping trips with the boys version. Then the whole family can go on the trip.
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Love and logic
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Reminds me of a movie I saw years ago. Burt Reynolds was the Dad. The high school aged daughter was crying in her bedroom to her mom because the captain of the Hockey team refused to have sex with her (in a hockey town). Burt opened the door and wanted to know what was wrong, mom said no he didn't want to know, it went back and forth with Burt insisting and the mom refusing. Finally, the mom said, "I swear, if you ask one more time. I will tell you!" Burt got this stricken look and closed to door without saying anything.
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For myself, I found that the early morning after the bathroom provided the most reliable weight. Probably because otherwise it depended so much on how recently I'd eaten and how much water I had to drink. I'd find myself not drinking water before I knew I'd weigh myself, which is bad for weight-loss. I love my weight loss graph. Other times had more bumps in them when graphed. it is very discouraging when trying to lose weight to see the number go up.
Tiny brag. My company started a Biggest Loser competition. Participants chipped in $25 each, and the company matched everyone's contribution. 1st place gets 50% around $300 and the competition is almost over and I'm way ahead based on the criteria which is percentage lost. Of course, I had the advantage of starting out the most overweight. I've lost 10% and still wearing the same clothes.
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I see marijuana as different from alcohol in that alcohol tastes good. I take a dim view of anyone consuming either in order to get high.
I can't explain it, but an older person smoking pot is somehow sad.
That said, if there was a genuine need for it, then grow your own plant. I used to have a friend with M.S. and she said it helped with the symptoms. In fact, she moved to where it is legal.
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Mystie, I'm looking through more of the stuff you have on your site, and I'm really interested if you write more about working with your children who have different personality traits!
I'm finding that I, definitely I and J, am in awe of my sunshiney easygoing middle child who is almost certainly E and P. He's very different from me in some ways, and he fascinates me because he's just so fun to watch. I see how the part of the personality that I share with one child gives me a way to bond with that child, while a different part helps me bond with another child. None of my children are my complete opposite (but I'm also super borderline for S and N -- when I took the test a few months ago, it came out as 1% S, so it seems that I vacillate between the two, which probably helps).
I'm surprised at how many Is are actually homeschoolers. That's definitely a challenge for me sometimes. I love children, always wanted a bunch of them, always wanted to homeschool them, and I love doing that, but being strongly I (last time it said 86%), sometimes the reality of lots of activity, lots of people is hard for me. I'm also married to a very strongly I partner, so while we don't clash in the sense that one of us wants to throw parties on the weekends and the other doesn't, sometimes our need for recharging solo means that we can take each other for granted. It can be hard when I need a break from caring for everyone else and need someone to care for me at the same time as my partner is all peopled out and needs not to be giving of himself for a while. (Enter middle child, haha -- actually, that's true. He often has more love to give people who need to be cared for.)
The I's as homeschool parent does not surprise me one bit. When you think about it, an Introvert is much likely to have bad memories of spending hours and hours and hours and days and days and days being surrounded by people, people and more people. Bad memories of a parent's own public school experience will shorten the trigger to switch to homeschooling.
Can you tell I have bad memories? It wasn't even that I went to a bad school, relatively. It was one of those school districts that people moved into for the schools. But, it still sucked. Starting about 7th grade, I could have happily and independently homeschooled myself with a Sonlight core with lots of expansions as a latchkey kid.
I, too, have a sunshiny easy kid and I am in awe of her. I am a pretty happy person. But, I'm happy in a content way. DD is happy in a light-up-the-room way. Sometimes I look at her and think, where does this wonderfulness come from?
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I haven't seen it lately either, and I used to. of course, of you have prime you can always order everything individually.
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Rome is a great place to stay as a central point for all of Italy. It will also be warmer. The first time in Europe I was doing the college student Euro-rail thing. I flew in late May and headed south until I liked the weather in Rome. But, I'm a Texas girl. If you are into Ancient Rome, Pompeii or Herculaneum and the museum in Naples are must-sees.
Into Champagne? Rheims is a wonderful visit.
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I'm a sink person..... my Mom's a counter person.
My mom is a Oh_No_There_Are_Dirty_Dishes_In_The_House person. I usually do the dishes when I am there for a holiday. I don't mind hand washing dishes that she deems to be hand wash only. But, I draw the line at loading the dishwasher then handwashing what is left.
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If a kid with significant LDs works his butt off to earn an A, it doesn't count as struggling, but if he gets a C or D, then the struggle counts? That makes no sense to me.
My son is dyslexic and ADD, with slow processing speed and poor working memory. He sobbed all the way through Lukeion's Greek 1, spending up to 15 hours/wk feeling like he was waaaaay over his head and was going to fail. The fact that he ended up with an A does not in any way negate the fact that he struggled in that class. I am far prouder of the fact that he stuck with it and pushed through all the tears and frustration than I am of the letter grade he earned. Claiming that he must not have really been struggling, since he didn't fail, diminishes the true nature and value of his accomplishment.
Serious kudos to your son.
The autistic son of my work buddy just had almost all of his ... I forget the term - where they change things in the public school because of his problems. The reason given, because he was getting A's. My response was, "They were working, so they took them away"
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I don't have overachieving kids. There seems to be a broader spectrum on the K-8 board, but for some reason the High School board seems very academic.
It's not a huge issue for me as I'm no longer homeschooling, but wanted to let you know that you are not alone, doing something wrong, or necessarily hopelessly behind.
I suspect that the non-overachieving kids are more likely to end up in public school before high school. If the kid is an eager learner who is ahead academically, it is pretty much a no-brainer to keep homeschooling, if at all possible. Whereas if the kids whines or seems behind, it is a different story.
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For all of you who would fix up your homes.. dh and I started watching Property Brothers last night. I don't know where these people live, but they were buying seriously crappy houses for over half a million dollars and fixing them up. By the end of two episodes, we were both feeling pretty great about our mediocre split level with 20-year old finishes.
Those shows really need to be done on high COL areas for that reason. The remodels that you can do in an neighborhood where a 3/2/2 is 120K would get pretty boring. Whereas those high COL areas they can do some amazing stuff and not raise the final price much over market.
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I am strongly INTJ, I think my lowest percentage was in the mid-70's. You described me pretty well. Although, I do liberally add outside activities because DD is very much an E. I don't know about the rest, but definitely an E. I gave serious thought when DD was a baby to starting an Antisocial Playdate group. The theme would be that the kids play and socialized, while the adults ignored each other. But, then that involved organizing a social activity, which is problem.
I especially appreciated the part about INTJ's being disproportionally represented in homeschooling. That makes sense to me.
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pay off debt. I was out of work for a couple of years before marriage. Debt drives me bonkers.
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Renters like this prey on small landlords who don't run professional background checks and who can be coaxed into bending the rules. It's more than likely that they have done this before. I know a woman who basically lived for free for years doing a variation of this to landlord after landlord. Her landlord "references" were all friends and family who were willing to lie. This is why people either need to hire a property manager, adopt the policies and procedures that a prop. management place uses or not be landlords.
If it is legal in your area, start charging a $35ish dollar application fee per adult and use that money for a professional background, credit and reference check.
I'm so sorry it turned out like this. I hope that they are the lying/trying to get something from nothing sorts and not also the destructive or drug addict sorts.
You can pay to have a landlord's background check. I was pleased with the detail.
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French Press, and a bean grinder. Since you won't drink that much, pre-ground coffee will get stale before you drink it. I wish I'd bought a metal French Press instead of the glass. I'm always afraid it is going to break.
Another reason for the French Press for me was that since I don't drink coffee all that often, I want the best coffee I can realistically get. I am like that with scotch too.
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I read this article which convinced me I didn't care that much.
We've got ab muscles, they hold us up after all. It's getting body at low enough to see them.
In this article is an older lady in the competition photo. So, I guess that answers the question. Who knows how many or if kids she gave birth to.
Several years ago my best friend became an exercise junkie. Her periods stopped and the doctor said that her body fat percentage was too low. Her body decided that she didn't have enough fat to successfully have a child, so it decided to not go through the motions. For her, she couldn't go below 18% body fat. I've always been fat, or thought I was fat, so I have no idea what the ideal would be but 18% seemed high to me. Even though she didn't want a child, she figured that meant too low was unhealthy, and that makes sense to me.
I recently read a book in which they'd analyzed the raw data from ton of studies on weight and health problems. There was a U-curve of health problems. The bottom of the U started at the ideal weight and ended where morbidly obese started. So, it is just as unhealthy to be underweight as morbidly obese.
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I like to soak them in the sink. DH is in charge of the dishwasher, but he doesn't believe in pre-rinsing. He said growing up they never had to pre-rinse, and he's not going to start now. Of course then there were 2 adults and 3 kids in the house, and a compulsive mother so the dishwasher was run twice a day. Whereas we run it every 2-3 days. I've given up getting him to pre-rinse. So, any dishes that don't look clean get put in the sink and filled with water. A glass filled with water gets the silverware. Next time I add dishes for soaking I put them on the counter near the dishwasher. This method gets the dishes cleaned and good for the marriage.
We are seriously considering getting two dishwashers.
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I think the point of this was... I've got the cash to pay for the car, but if I put it on my card I get my rewards! Then I pay off the card instead of paying the car people directly. (I can see myself considering this -- I want my Disney Dollars!)
I knew someone that basically bought their house with their Amex card. The house was being built for them and they had a home loan prearranged. The bank won't pay for stuff until it is already done, so they don't end up giving out 50% of the money on a 10% built house. The builder has lots of stuff to buy and people to pay beforehand.
They trusted the builder so they gave him their Amex card to buy materials. This automatically added a one month delay on when they had to pay. Everyone was happy. The builder didn't have to up-front any money for materials, so building proceeded quickly. With the one month delay on materials payments, and the deposit being used first, the house was always enough percentage done that the bank was happy to pay as needed.
When it was done the home loan was a lot less than they'd calculated. When you get 5-digit Amex bills, you just naturally limit your eating out and extraneous shopping. They also had a boat-load of points.
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It will definitely lower your credit score. It also might change the companies attitude toward you. Because they can't comprehend anyone voluntarily lowering their own limit, when they see that your score was lowered the workers will think you are a dead-beat and treat you accordingly. When I was in grad school my research project was funded off a big government project and I had a stipend. Big government project was cancelled and I was basically out on my ... I'd been doing OK for a grad student, but no cushion. I'd had a Optima card with a high limit and I could see that would be tempting. So I asked them to lower my limit to $500. It was the responsible thing to do. I became DeadBeat#1 with everyone I talked to after that.
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Getting tested isn't a problem at all, just a blood test. Are you in the U.S.? You can order your own lab tests. There are internet sites where you order the 'Thyroid panel' and then go to a nearby lab to have your blood drawn. They send you the results, then you take them into your doctor for explanation/treatment.
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One thing I found essential but I never see on anyone else's list is a compass, particularly if he'll use the subways. When you come up from a subway it can take awhile to orient yourself even with a map. Someone familiar with that city can look around and recognize a building and effortlessly orient themselves. Street signs aren't as frequent as I was used to and sometimes particularly in older part of town sometimes none or only one of the streets are labeled. Although, it could be that phone could handle navigation. If it doesn't, another orienting hint is "All satellite dishes point south", at least north of the equator.
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First time I ever pre-ordered a book. Ever.
Start a good conspiracy theory--Mattress Firm
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If you can sell something that isn't an actual Thing, it is handy for money laundering. A buddy of mine manages some retail spaces and he mentioned that he is pretty sure one of them is money laundering. They sell "ice sculptures" and they pay their rent but they don't seem to actually make any ice sculptures. The tools to do so are pretty dusty.