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Whoa...I didn't think I would comment on this...but yes, INTJ here. Yes, I research everything to death years before I actually truly need to implement any of it. I am shocked by how many INTJs WTMers because INTJs are only 2% of all women. Maybe that's why I like this board so much. It's filled with INTJs that I never seem to meet IRL
Perhaps we homeschool because we do research things to death that we opt out of the system because the research tells us a pretty sobering story.
Amen, Sister! A like just didn't cover my agreement.
Are you trying to say that not everyone researches dual-enrollment rules of the nearby colleges before their oldest is in first grade? Shocking!
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It wouldn't have to be a limited education. I love the idea of going to the library every week and picking at least one book each from various categories. Several of the categories being various nonfiction ones. Main reason we don't do that is that mommy has a book-buying habit/problem, so we always seem to have never read yet books at home.
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So true on infantilizing children today !
Someone mentioned earlier that the reason Ma gave for Mary getting so much was because she was so pretty. Can anyone find a real-life photo of them? I saw one once and Laura was much prettier than Mary.
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didn't Laura starve to death? In real life?
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Wow, some of these stories are amazing. I am glad I won't have to deal with this. I am an only child, my mother is an only child and my dad has one sister who isn't married. So, there isn't anyone around to vulture.
I've seen some bad things though. A good friend's children have been suing her saying she is incompetent so that they can get the money before she dies. Even though when a psychologist tested her for competency, she got a better score than he had when he took it himself for practice.
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I used to wear the weeklies. Loved them. But I have roseacea and the ocular part of that means that I produce more of what builds up on the contacts. So, I wasn't getting a full week out of the weeklies. At the end, it was more like 3 days. So, my doc switched me to dailies. I am going to stick with these. I need reading glasses if I wear contacts, but if I wear my glasses I don't need reading glasses. So, often I just skip the contacts and wear my glasses. But, when I want contacts, I always have some on hand.
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Check out codeacedemy.com. We use jscript at work, and it is beneficial to a few of customers to learn it too. We recommend codeacedamy to them and it is free. They don't have C++, but they do have javascript. There is a great deal of commonality in the Java/C group of languages. This uses a wizard to walk you through lessons. After that the online lessons should be do-able for an 11-year-old.
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I fill small scraps of time at home (for example while I work with DS on math and wait until he has a problem finished) with quick household tasks: start a load of laundry, wash knives and cutting boards that don't go in the dishwasher, wipe down a sink, sweep the floor. None of these takes more than a few minutes. Or I do a few quick work tasks, like sending emails. Or I get on this forum. Like now, while waiting for the pasta water to boil.
ETA: Come to think of, pretty much all of my housework gets done in such brief spurts. Chunks of uninterrupted time are too precious ;-)
When I was still driving kids and waiting, I always had a book in the car, and I took work such as grading papers for longer waits. Generally I found that I am not terribly focused during these times, so I gave up on being too ambitious. Read a few minutes, write some greeting cards, make a phone call, listen to the news - this type of thing.
I found that much of my leisure time when kids were younger was spent with the kids - hanging out at the playground for example was leisure time, even though it was part of my mom duty.
Love the term "time confetti".
ETA: I personally found that a change of attitude helped me greatly to re-evaluate time spent. My kids rode horses, so I had to spend a lot of time waiting at the barn, since that was out of town, so driving home not worth it. For a time I tried to bring work and was dissatisfied with how little I managed to get done while waiting there. At some point, I reclassified the afternoon I had to wait at the barn as "mental health time" and reclaimed it for myself: I no longer felt guilty about the unproductive hours, because I stopped assigning myself work. Instead, I embraced the time without tasks and came to view it as leisure time for walking and thinking. But I could as easily have felt resentful about time spent waiting for kids activities.
When I was a kid, me parents got the Bits and Pieces magazines. It had a story about truck driving partners. They both had a long drive before they even got into work. The young one didn't understand how the old one was bright-eyed and bushy-tailed at the start of work. The old one said, "You have a long drive to work before you get here. I have a pleasant drive through pretty country before I get here."
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I read a lot of books but I wish I was better about putting all those ideas into practice.
I really liked Unconditional Parenting by Alfie Kohn.
I had been mostly convinced on the idea of Unconditional Parenting before reading the book just from my own experience and observing other teenagers whose parents where very conditional. But, after I'd read it halfway, it talked about the danger of "I love you because ..." It made a lot of sense. I wanted to reassure DD that my love was unconditional. She was probably a year old. She was at that age where she'd stand on the diaper table after changing and we'd communicate. I said, "Do you know why I love you?" She shook her head no, and I could tell she was extremely worried and distressed. DH was walking by in the hallway, and I felt him tense up extremely. I hadn't mentioned the book to him, yet. I hadn't meant to phrase it in such a way as to distress my family. Then I told DD I loved her because she was herself, she was (DD's name) and I gave her a hug. It was all smiles and joy then.
But, that distress of both DD and DH was extremely convincing.
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I've tried exhaling. But, my cheap digital scale takes too darn long.
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I know several as well. Maybe it's your area?
I know in the city we just left had many. It was a wealthy area. We attended a MegaChurch where the SAH seemed more the norm than otherwise and the MOPS group had 200+ moms at every meeting. I strongly suspect it was the wealth that motivated that. I also strongly suspect that many women SAY they return to work because they want to, even when it is about the money, in order to save face. Not that I think it is impossible to want to return to work. DH stays at home and I work because we are both happier that way.
Our current town, we know many SAH probably because of the homeschooling. This seems to more a hardship imposed by religion or reaction to the local public school. I've had to reject friendships with mothers of kid's DD's age because the parents are doing drugs. There seems to be two towns, one wholesome and the other not.
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I'm doing the fast five diet, eating within a 5 hour window.
Free ebook: http://drbert.myshopify.com/collections/free-digital-downloads
1 lb a week is what it promises, and so far it has been true for me. I've lost 6 lbs in 6 weeks. Easiest diet ever. My husband and inlaws are also on it. We are all making it a life long change bc its so easy and we like how we feel. We have more energy and just feel better eating like this. My window is usually 2-7, but the book recommends 5-10.
what? They recommend you wake up and then don't eat at all until 5pm?
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A former boss of mine has three dyslexic boys. She said one of her boys occasionally shakes the book really hard. She asked why. He said it was because "the words keep moving around and shaking the book puts them back for a little while."
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Ooooh, that looks really cool. A camp and ASL language immersion combined. Interview over skype, makes total sense.
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WOW! That is really cool. I hope they still do this when my little girl is old enough. She's taken two classes in co-op and now we (her parents) are learning because she is using it.
I think ASL is a really cool language. It doesn't have the problems of unpronounceable sounds of a spoken language when the native and other language don't share the same base sounds. Most of the signs to be based on things that cross cultures. Like Elephant, you sort of run your hand down an invisible trunk. Elephant's have trunks everywhere. I just wish there weren't so many sign languages. I also love all the videos out there demonstrating signs.
eta: too bad they require a high school diploma for this. Seems like a great thing to during the summer between Junior and Senior year of High School as Dual Enrollment.
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After you talk to the mom, I would give the mom's phone number to my kids. Then tell them to call the little girl's mom to come get her every time.
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12-hours seems like a generous eating window. I love breakfast, but I'm too auto-pilot to eat it first thing. So, my natural rhythm is to eat breakfast around 10am, eat lunch on the late side at 1pm - 2pm, and then dinner around 6pm. But, even without that schedule all eating would fall between 8am and 7pm. Still 100 pounds overweight with a sluggish metabolism.
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I think it is totally worth pointing out that this test has almost no status in psychology, and the reasons for that are quite interesting, but this Guardian guy hasn't got a clue - his main thing seems to be that people "have" to be in a complete binary opposite, but anyone who knows a bit about the test knows that is hogwash - people are put on a scale for all the tested catagories, and many people do in fact hover right on the line.
It's also true that people's results change over time, and they should - people get better (normally) at using their less dominant traits as they age, and also come to see their value.
I gave this test to a pysch class I was teaching. One kid was 50%+-5% on everything. He asked me what that meant. I had to say, "Don't know".
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...FWIW, the CC here won't talk to a middle schooler-but the 4 year university will!
Yeah, I know my large state school will. Years ago a professor's 11-year-old son wanted to take a college class. His father thought he was ready, so he worked the system from the inside. They changed the rules from never under a certain age, to extra hoops. The boy did really well in every class he took. After the gates were opened, other kids under the previous age took classes and did well.
I pay attention to this at my school because my parents still live 3 miles away.
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Protein, Fiber and lots of water help you to feel full. Particularly the protein.
Also, smaller meals more frequently.
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No kidding! And when she asked for a new mattress that should have been his first clue that he needed to empty it out asap.
He was Dumb in the way super intelligent people can be sometimes.
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You could probably ship stuff in a bed spring.
In high school I had a friend who had 18 brothers and sisters, many were multiple births. The master bedroom bed had been the one in use for most of those pregnancies. So, the bed had a hard life. The mother always wanted a new bed. The dad said No. The dad went on one business trip a year, and one year she replaced the bed while he was gone. The dad was quite upset. He'd stashed 40 Krugerrand's in the box spring and didn't tell anyone. My friend's mother probably couldn't have kept it a secret, and they are still married today so I don't think he was stashing money for a divorce.
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DH and I make similar musings about a Horoscope shop in the area. How can they possibly sell enough palm readings in the location they inhabit to meet overhead, let alone make money. There are also other palm readers within a mile or two. How profitable can that possibly be?
If you can sell something that isn't an actual Thing, it is handy for money laundering. A buddy of mine manages some retail spaces and he mentioned that he is pretty sure one of them is money laundering. They sell "ice sculptures" and they pay their rent but they don't seem to actually make any ice sculptures. The tools to do so are pretty dusty.
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Personally, I think children's scouting shouldn't be co-ed. I remember reading once about the reason behind the difference between the philosophies of girl ("Do It") and boy ("Be prepared") scouts. If you tell a bunch of girls that the group is going to hike up a certain small mountain that day and that they need to figure out what they need to take and then go do it. The girls will so much time preparing that the day will be gone before they are ready. Whereas the boys will declare themselves ready to leave immediately, and then will look at each other when they get to the top and say "Who brought the food and water?"
You put the two groups together and everyone is fine, but it will be the girls bringing the food and water, and it will be the boys getting the hike started. But, they wouldn't have learned as much.
My husband is a Eagle Scout and I was very into scouting. We've often compared are differing and often opposite experience.
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What was Charles Ingalls' Deal
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The worst was when Ma made Laura give the one nice doll she'd ever had to the snot that was visiting.