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On 11/5/2021 at 1:03 AM, Scarlett said:
Not many people could afford such an arrangement. And it sounds terrible to me. I would feel like my child was excluded from my real home. But I guess whatever works for people.
they have to both live somewhere anyway. How would renting one place with two bedrooms and one studio flat be more expensive than the two two bedroom places you would need to share care? You wouldn't have a real home as such. The point is it is easier for the child. The parents needs or wants don't really count in such a situation. That said most of the people I have known who made it work lived within a couple of blocks of each other with the child staying with one parent and visiting back and forth freely.
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9 hours ago, GoodnightMoogle said:
A bit off topic now but this thread reminded me of when I was pregnant with my son and we didn’t yet know the sex. I texted my father in a conversation, and, unwilling to call my baby “it,” I said something like,
”They are doing well.”
He immediately was like,
”They???!!”
No dad, no twins, I was just trying not to use “it.”
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But They does suggest twins or more if it is just stated like that. "The baby is feeding. They are doing well." Indicates one baby. It is a bit like using a name once before using "she". It probably doesn't confuse most people but those of us with ASD etc really get confused by imprecise language.
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On 11/5/2021 at 2:16 AM, Jenny in Florida said:
A number of respected outlets have recognized they/them as acceptable for singular usage.
https://owl.purdue.edu/owl/general_writing/grammar/pronouns/gendered_pronouns_and_singular_they.html
I still find it bit clunky, but I have people in my life who feel strongly about the issue, so I am working on it.
I'm currently taking some graduate courses, and the singular they/them doesn't raise eyebrows.
Me too. I don't like it and would actually prefer it (they works some of the time but the rest of the time really confused me) but it is not a hill to die on and it is more important to the people I know who use they than it is to me who finds it clunky.
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If she feels bad in the morning ring in sick. You do know the rapid tests are only about 50% accurate when used by a non medical professional? Frankly it terrifies me that they can be purchased by members of the public who then use them and declare themselves Covid negative on the basis of a self administered test with such low accuracy. But given she is vaxed unless there is exposure the risk is low - but not one I care to be made on behalf of my kids.
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10 hours ago, prairiewindmomma said:
I don’t know, Dawn. After my time in legal aid, I saw a lot of dysfunctional families. My decision making doesn’t line up with theirs, but once I knew their stories and how they got to where they were…..there are a lot of things I just suspend judgment on these days.
People want to control other people’s decisions and they use money to do so. “She isn’t deserving of my money because she won’t do xyz. She got herself into this situation and therefore I have no responsibility to make sure she isn’t hungry or that she isn’t homeless.” I think that’s a dangerous line of thought. It’s parallels are, “She doesn’t (edit: deserve) healthcare because she won’t lose the weight” or other things.
Let’s assume she sells the car, gets rid of the pets, and makes her kids move out. What then? She’s still left disabled and in poverty.
I personally think if you give, you should give freely. If you choose not to give, that’s ok too. But don’t give with strings, iykwim.
Yes that doesn't sound like a win. The two puppies could probably be rehomed easily to good homes though and she would still have two pets. Do the adult kids have incomes? Because of they could pay their share of food and utilities having them there is probably not a bad thing. If you can afford it does it matter of it is enabling or not? If you stop helping here will she magically get anything under control?
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On 11/3/2021 at 2:49 PM, Scarlett said:
So just out of curiosity……if you are required to report raises to the cs office does that office have have authority to raise cs without a court order?
Here it is usually deducted by the employer so goes up when the person gets a payrise.
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On 11/3/2021 at 1:44 PM, Scarlett said:
And where would they stay when they weren’t with the baby? I just can’t see that working.
That is what the flat is for. The parent on duty stays in wherever they were living before. The parent off duty stays in a one bedroom flat or studio apartment (the cheapest they can cope with). The child sleeps in their own bed every night.
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On 11/1/2021 at 1:53 PM, mommyoffive said:
People drive into our neighborhood and then drive house to house watching their kids or letting them jump out. We live on tiny lots .25 acre or less.
.25 acted is tiny?
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I get so cross with the existing conditions. I am not going to die of asthma - it is controlled very well. If I get Covid though I likely will - for of Covid that is. Strangely enough if I fall off a tall building and splat on the ground it won't be asthma that kills me either.
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10 hours ago, goldberry said:
Pronoun bunny trail... I am someone who has a REALLY hard time using "them/they" as singular. We are working on a handbook at my job, and it of course is really clunky to do the he/she thing. Is they/them really acceptable as singular now? Would it be acceptable in an employee handbook?
Adding example: When a member is blah blah, they should do blah blah. Right now we often say, when a member is blah blah, the member should blah blah. Clunky.
Me too. I keep wondering who the other person is or picturing someone with two heads.
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On 11/2/2021 at 5:38 AM, YaelAldrich said:
Just looking at the recent past - what would be when (not if sadly) students have to isolate again and not be able to congregate in public spaces?
Yes imagine isolating for weeks in a tiny, windowless room.
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On 11/2/2021 at 9:55 AM, ktgrok said:
Have in writing that either parent cannot move more than X amount of distance away without either prior consent of the other person OR agreement of the court.
This. And make it a legal document through court if need be.
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On 11/2/2021 at 7:51 AM, Scarlett said:
I just called about a day care here in our town.....$160 a week. And of course they have to be paid even when he isn't there. So using two different day cares is not going to work at all.
They must attend the same day care of school when at each parents. There has to be some stabilty. It only works if both parents basically live in the same suburb. Is it possible for then to rent a small flat and take turns living with the child rather than move the child?
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Primary schools here don't have music and art the way you are thinking of. Each class has one teacher who teaches all subjects. Often they join to together or switch round to use each teachers skills better. But kids get art,music and PE without specialists or much investment. Actual lessons though are generally funded by parents or charity. In the 70's we did singing with a radio programme on speakers and whatever are or craft the teacher was interested in. One year we did pottery and built a wood fired kiln. I also remember to soap carving, lino blocks and printing, painting, flax weaving, weaving and embroidery.
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On 10/30/2021 at 4:00 AM, Janeway said:
It is fine to have your opinion, and I am not offended by it at all. I know all sorts of statistics have been tossed around surrounding the value of vaccinations. BUT, every single person I know of with Covid right now who was vaccinated. I have also known unvaccinated people with Covid, but they all had such minor symptoms. The only two people I knew who died of Covid were vaccinated. However, correlation does not mean causation.
It was the 80 yr olds body, her body, her choice. I had someone close to me have an abortion. I still feel the pain from the death of that child. And the mom of that child also feels it. That was my sister. And when I had a baby after her baby died, it devastated her. Our relationship was never the same. She can barely stand to be around my child who is close in age to her child that died. Then when her daughter got pregnant and miscarried, she was over the top devastated. It hit her extra hard because of her past of aborting her own baby. Abortion is the topic we are not supposed to talk about, unless we say good things about it. Abortion is supposed to be acceptable and allowable because "her body, her choice." But the death rate from abortion far exceeds the death rate from Covid from unvaccinated people (you would have to subtract the vaccinated people deaths because a portion of the unvaccinated people dying from it would have died anyway, so you need to account for that). Why can society accept something as horrific and direct and violent as abortion, but then attack people who want control over their body when it comes to which chemicals to ingest? Also, most abortions happen because someone else in the woman's life wants her to abort. Women know how babies are made. It is when others find out she is pregnant that she aborts.
And then we can move on to the thing about tobacco. Every time someone smokes in a place where I have to breathe it in, I suffer. My parents were smokers. We have more deaths every year resulting from cigarette smoking than from Covid. Why is this not a huge topic of conversation? Teenagers have taken up smoking again. Despite the huge decline in numbers of people smoking, it still kills way too many people every year. Why is this not illegal?
When I hear people get angry about those who did not vaccinate for Covid, I think about how that is nothing more than a political thing, ignited by an election happening at the same time the vaccination was put out. The same people who rant about Covid vaccinations continue to ignore bigger threats to people. This is because the media has chosen to grab on to this topic for political and sales reasons and so have politicians.
For the record, I did get vaccinated. I also got my booster in August. I was one of the first to be vaccinated as I completed my shots in January. And then I had a booster in August. But this is my body, my choice. And I 100% the right of anyone else and everyone else to make whatever choice they want.
If you live in a state where 95% are vaccinated you would expect 5 to 10% of those to still contract Covid usually in a milder form. 10% of 95% is a bigger number than 100% of 5%. The more people who are vaccinated the more vaccinated people will get sick. If I'd just statistics. If there were 1000 kids in a school and 950 were vaccinated 10% of that would be 95 students which is more than the 50 vaccinated. Even 5% would be about 47.
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23 hours ago, MEmama said:
It’s a typical response. They have no shame so they simply don’t care that it happened, only that they got caught. We’ve been watching this play out in public arenas the same way well, forever. It’s not unique to anywhere.
I wish I could feel shock but instead it just feels hopeless at this point.
It kind of makes sense though. People have been doing this stuff for years and it has suddenly blown up. Must be the fault of all that social media.
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I don't think 2 days a week is enough for reading. I didn't see the original post but it only needs 10 minutes a day.
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11 hours ago, Faith-manor said:
Yes, but religious schools do not have to report enrollment. Secular private schools might have to, but not parochial. Michigan has a very very hands off approach to parochial schools. I could tell you horror stories about the A.C.E. one two blocks from my house! Basically, meet fire code, water testing, that kind of thing.
I see. Here their are very few of any schools that aren't at least partly government funded. That means registered teachers and funding based on enrolment so reporting of numbers. Kids still fall through the cracks though so it is hardly perfect. But the child has to be reported enrolled somewhere or have an exemption certificate. But with Covid I bet there are more missing kids.
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My 14 year old is in high school. School is 8.45 to 3.15. All his activities are non school based. Table tennis Monday, tennis Tuesday, Work Thursday, meet up with a friend most Fridays, work Sunday and often D&D Saturday. Next year exams start and he will have to do regular homework but now it is still only occasional.
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1 hour ago, Faith-manor said:
Same here. Two of my kids attended a Lutheran school for a couple of years while I taught, but that wasn't really on the state radar. In total, I home schooled 19 years getting every single one to college, youngest graduates in May, and in all that time, my kids did not exist educationally as far as the state was concerned. They did have state id's before they turned 16, and passports as well, but that would be normal for a ton of kids, and would not cause anyone to be looking for my child.
I have personally watched my own grand niece go through the horror of being the parentified child as a mere 11 year old because of her mother's untreated bipolar psychosis. She is a public school student, and not only had there ever been any effort on the school's part to figure out why she missed two straight months of school last spring despite being in enrolled in person, phone calls from family members - my mother, my brother (her grandfather), myself, and her biological father went entirely unheeded by social services. My niece's situation is such that I could easily see her taking off on those kids and the 11 year old attempting to care for her sisters without reaching out for help for a long time. She is very attached to her little sisters and greatly fears being separated from them because they have a different bio dad from her so there is zero chance they will be kept together.
The Lutheran school wasn't registered and inspected by the state? Surely there are health and safety regulations and well as child welfare ones.
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6 hours ago, Homeschool Mom in AZ said:
How would the school know where they're moving to? They could move anywhere locally or anywhere else in the world.
If they register as homeschoolers, the school would have no way of keeping up with them.Here the child stays on the roll until the next school registers the child OR the parent applies for and is granted permission to homeschool the child. In theory a child not enrolled or in receipt of an exemption by 6 and under 16 would be noticed but kids who move a lot do fall through the cracks
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Ds12 has always been hard to get to sleep and easy to wake so I wouldn't risk. Ds14 could sleep through a train wreck and I still sometimes check on him.
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On 7/19/2021 at 11:14 AM, Not_a_Number said:
That's kind of weird 😛 .
I think it is more about spacing on the page than anything else. As an non student I do it however I want but as a student my instructors found it easier if everyone did the same.
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There is a chicken and egg argument. NZ is phasing out Latin in its national exams because not enough people are taking it. None of the schools in my area offer it and my high school didn't 40 years ago so people couldn't take it. So it isn't available because it couldn't be taken because it wasn't offered. Maybe before that it wasn't offered because it wasn't taken but maybe it wasn't taken because people were encouraged to take other subjects My son chose classics as an elective next year but there weren't enough takers. Now he will be doing his first year exams without a social science/arts time paper. So the year after it will be harder to correct that. If I had thought classics would be cancelled I would have made him out history or geography as his reserve paper not art design.
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Struggling with activities for teenager
in General Education Discussion Board
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My 14 year old does tennis through the local tennis club, judo through the local judo club and table tennis at the local table tennis club plus occasionally bridge at the bridge club (though he is about 50 years younger than average). He attends a school but none of his activities are school based.