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To me, one big difference between "quirky" and a "diagnosis" is how much the behavior is interfering with the child's life and with the family's life. If it's easy to just work around the behaviour and go about your day....it's a quirk. If it's a major issue that keeps him from enjoying his day to day activities and keeps the family on eggshells has a major impact on everyone...it's more than just a quirk.
I see a lot of kids with quirky behaviors or behaviors that I certainly think are consistent with various diagnoses (ADD, OCD, PDD, etc.), but whose families are not concerned and who are thriving.
I like to joke that everyone in medical school is OCD. I'm not trying to diminish the real problems someone with OCD can have and I hope I haven't offended anyone although I'm sure I have. :) But I do think you can have some of the same symptoms and learn how to work around them or with them. But if you have those symptoms to the point of it impacting your life negatively and the life of your family it's obviously now a problem.
Does that make sense?
Yes, this makes lots of sense. I guess that is why I'm kind of thinking that we should just try and work through it for now and skip the diagnosis. It does interfere a little but it is definitely something we can work with. I think I just need to go into it with the attitude that it is a quirk and not let it interfere or bother me so much and we'd probably all be happier :001_unsure:
Thanks for sharing your thoughts.
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I had no idea she would be able to grow out of it.
Thanks for offering hope. It is nice to hear from someone on the other side!
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I agree with seeing the doctor and asking about OT for sensory issues. You might also want to ask the doctor to run a strep test (not the quick one) as PANDAS is a strep related OCD that occurs in kids exposed to strep (even with no sore throat/fever, etc). Once treated the OCD stuff goes away.
My nephew at 3 or 4 was TERRIBLE with his shirt never being tucked tight enough. My sister even tried a bigger onsie to see if that would work. We honestly were tucking in his shirt every minute or so. He got tested and treated for the strep and no more shirt issues.
I have never even heard of PANDAS but I looked it up. It seems like this is usually an issue when the symptoms have a sudden onset. I don't remember when this first started but it seems like it was more gradual so I don't think this is what we are dealing with. However, it is good to be aware in case this is something we need to rule out down the road.
Thanks for sharing.
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Tracy and Wendy,
Thanks for the reassurances that maybe I just need "to go with it". Like I said in my original post, I really don't want to be making a mountain out of a molehill but I also don't want to be ignoring an issue that needs to be dealt with. I'm going to try and take a look at some of the books that were suggested just to give me an idea of how *I* may be able to help him with this problem. But I think for now I'm going to operate on the premise that it is just a "quirk" that we need to work through and not turn it into a diagnosis that needs treatment.
Thanks for the advice everyone and I'm still open to thoughts and suggestions anyone may have for me.
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Thank you for the input. I'll look into sensory processing issues. I also appreciate the suggestions for resources of where to start looking.
Can your ds go beltless?
Yes, he can go beltless but only if he is wearing elastic band pants. So he is okay wearing his sport shorts without a belt but as soon as jeans are on, he needs that belt.
Thanks!
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I have really been conflicted about posting and asking about this. I hate to make an issue out of nothing and think this is probably just a stage that kids go through. However, I didn't deal with anything like this with my older ds and I have been known to ignore real problems before because I was afraid of making a big deal out of nothing. So.... I am here to ask for advice.
My 4.5 yo ds has a shoe and belt "issue". He never thinks his belt is tight enough even though it could be leaving marks on him. He used to have a real problem with his socks, he always felt they were falling down and would break down if he couldn't get them pulled up just right. We seemed to have fixed that by finally finding a brand/style that works for him. However, that was replaced by a shoe issue that is even more problematic. He used to have velcro shoes but he would try to tighten them so much that he would pull the straps past the point that the velcro could meet up and they wouldn't stay strapped at all. So I finallly bought him lace shoes. He can tie his own shoes but he can't tie them as tight as he would like. Therefore, he always asks me to tie them. He doesn't ask dh to tie them because he says "Dad doesn't tie them tight enough". The problem is that now he has started to say that even I don't tie them tight enough and he completely breaks down. He'll cry, yell, bang his fists on the floor, all in an attempt to try to get me to re-tie and re-tie until they are tight enough. Recently I have taken the stance that he needs to dress himself so he has to put his own belt on and off and he can make it as tight as he wants so long as he does it himself (he can't get it as tight as he used to try and make us so he isn't hurting himself). This seems to be working so far. So I decided to try something similar with the shoes. I said I would tie them once (and I stopped trying to tie them ultra-tight, I just tie as tight as I normally would tie my own) and if he didn't think it was good enough, he could re-tie them himself. This doesn't seem to be working very well.
The reason I even wonder if any of this is an issue is because the sock/shoe thing has been going on for the last 1.5 years and the belt issue for about 6 months. It also can cause him to have a complete meltdown and make him not want to go anywhere (even outside to play) because his shoes aren't tight enough.
So, is this normal? Is it a discipline issue that I need to make him obey or is there an issue that I need to be more sensitive about and work with him on? If so, how do we work with this to make it so it isn't an issue that interferes with life?
Thanks!
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Sounds like gout to me as well. It is most common in the big toe but I get it in my thumb sometimes too.
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Ohhhhh, I want him! He's adorable.
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Too funny!:lol:
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Thanks for sharing!
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Very cool! :drool:
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:smilielol5: I don't have any to add but that gave me a good chuckle.
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Yeah, I finally saw it:hurray:. It looks great and now I know I want one.:D Thanks for sharing.
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Thanks for the encouragement Mom2boys. However, for some reason I still can't view it. I can see all of the other pics on the blog but not this one. I just keep getting the spinning spinning circle that says "loading". I'll check out the online store and see if I can find it. Everyone who can see it seems to think it is great so I'm sure it is and now I know I want one LOL!
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Dawn,
For some reason I can't get the pic to load on your blog. Do you have a link from Office Max that shows it? It sounds like something I've been looking for and a good price.
Thanks!
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Thank you everyone for contributing more to this thread. You have given me lots of great resources and some great looking reads.
Thanks!
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There is a really good book called "Rethink Youth Ministry" by Steve Wright and Chris Graves, that I read recently and really appreciate. There are many, many statistics included regarding the number of young people who leave the faith, as well as other related topics. They do not take things as far as Voddie Baucham, (who I do find slightly off-putting, to be honest, even though I agree with some of what he says), but rather suggest ways to make youth ministry more family oriented, and emphasize that an important role of youth leaders is assisting parents and giving them resources so that they can do their job of discipling their own children. I think it's really a balanced, reasonable approach. My dh recently began co-leading our youth group, and this is the approach we're seeking to follow.
Erica
Erica,
Thanks for the book recommendation, it looks great!
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Thank you everyone for giving me these links. I'm off to check them out, and hopefully find what I'm looking for.
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You all have give me some really great suggestions. I also love reading about which books are favorites, it is just so interesting to see who likes which books. There are definitely a few that seem to be making several lists so I will probably start with one of them. I am so excited to get started, now I just need to find time to get to the library.
Thanks!
Edited to add: As I got to thinking more about this thread I realized I also had to thank you all for the wonderful encouragement you have given me to get started reading more classics. It is great to have a group of people who are so willing to help in any way they can and build each other up rather than tearing down. You are all great, thanks!
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I know there has been talk on here before about the number of kids who leave the faith after they leave home. At one point, I also listened to the audio given by Voddie Baucham that several here recommended. I know a number of statistics were cited but I've been looking for a place online that actually states these statistics and I can't find one. Does anyone have a source that states these statistics? Also, does anyone know of an article or something similar to the points that Voddie Baucham makes in his "Centrality of the Home" audio but that may be a little less "forceful"? I loved his audio and would like to share the info with some others but I know they are coming from a place that will be a little less receptive to the message than I was. I really want them to be open to his message but not scared off by his aggressive style (I realize that many won't think his message is too aggressive but I'm pretty sure the audience I want to share it with will KWIM).
Thanks!
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Thank you, thank you, thank you! You have all given me some great ideas. To those who have asked what type of books I like in general... one of my all time favorite books is The Count of Monte Cristo. I absolutely loved this book. My favorite type of books are usually mysteries, suspense, conspiracy type books. I have read a few of the ones mentioned (Jane Eyre, Of Mice and Men, and a few more) but most of them are new to me and give me a great idea of books to look at to get started.
It is also reassuring to see that it is okay not to like a classic. I have started A Tale of Two Cities two different times and can not get into it. I feel like I now have permission to give up on it and move onto something else.
Thanks to you all and I'd still love to hear any other suggestions you may have for me.
Oh, I also wanted to thank you who mentioned The Well Educated Mind. I haven't read it but it sounds like it would be a good starting place.
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Okay, I feel a little embarrassed even asking this here but...... I need recommendations for your favorite classic books to read. I know this is extremely subjective and personal but I need suggestions of where to begin. I love reading, it is probably my favorite pastime. However, I have read very few classics and "quality" literature. Unfortunately, growing up, I attended a school that never encouraged such things. In fact, during my entire highschool career, I was only required to read 3 whole books, everything else was just excerpts. I remember choosing a "classic" for one of those requirements and my teacher being somewhat shocked. So, as I am hoping to provide my children with a better education than I received, I also would like to educate myself. So please give me your recommendations as to your favorite classics and "must reads".
Thanks!
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I also want to mention that you can find thousands of works of art that you can download and print out at WikiMedia Commons. Since many works of classic art are now in the public domain, their images are freely available on this website. You can search the categories on the page I linked above, or you can type the name of the artist or painting in the search box.
April,
Thanks for this link as well. Such great things and all for free!:D
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Thanks for sharing this, it looks great!
Is this normal 4yo behavior or are there issues that need to be dealt with?
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I also know what you mean about how irritating it is. But I think I am finding peace with the same conclusion that you have come to.... that we won't diagnose this and we'll just deal with it. Thank you for sharing, you really helped me feel better about this.