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I have a 17yo daughter turning 18yo soon. My husband are wondering how to navigate some "house rules" for the soon-to-be 18yo who will live at home this summer and possibly while attending college next fall.
Dtr has a car to use which she pays gas and insurance for. Currently her daily chores are about 30-60 minutes. (Three teens and we rotate the kitchen, dining room and laundry chores.)
I am interested in your own house rules for *young* adults, say 18-19 who are living full time at home: Responsibilities? Curfews? Chores? Attitudes? What else should I be anticipating?
And how do you handle "infractions"? Like coming in late repeatedly or skipping their day in the kitchen, etc.? Ideas?
Thanks!
Lisaj
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It actually underscores what I always thought but I was starting to get my head turned by the "urban myth" (jk) status of the statment "there are thousands of dollars in scholarships that go unclaimed".
OTOH, a friend used to be an admissions counselor or some similar job 20-30 years ago and she says there is some truth to that statement for kids who are already enrolled in a college - iow, kids who are sophomores , juniors, etc.
Still, time is at such a premium for my high schoolers and scholarship applications do usually take a lot of time for my like-pulling-teeth writer.
Lisaj, thanks
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I was a student at GFU 10 years ago. Is there anything I can help you with? I am afraid that things may have changed a good deal but it is a beautiful place and very Christ centered.
I don't remember getting much financial aid info from the admissions people. Later I got a packet with all of the information about what I qualified for.
Corban is just down the highway but I have never been there. They have a homeschool library though.
that is interesting about Corban's homeschool library.
I guess I'll just have to see what all 3 are like - and hopefully those questions will be answered....
Lisa
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I guess I was wondering if there are "must asks" for the colleges in general - maybe if someone had researched, considered or visited these institutions.
And there is a financial aid meeting scheduled at 2 of them so I was wondering what we'll find out at that meeting??? Will they tell us anything concrete or will it be vague and not-very-helpful?
These are our first nonlocal college visits.
Since this is new to us, we are wondering how/what to expect.
Thanks
LJ
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Any advice or suggestions for these visits?
THanks
LJ
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who doesn't start calling him/herself a "Next" grader when they finish a year, i..e if they finished 6th on June 9th, on June 10th, they'll tell you they are in 7th grade... LOL - and ITA!
LJ
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That's been my problem! But I can't teach it when the videos don't work, and we didn't really like the accompanying text, so after months of frustration we changed to LOF Trig. I have NO idea what we'll do next year, so I'm watching this thread with interest.
Debbie
I've seen this complaint before about the videos not working. We have hte same videos from Houghton-Mifflin and we are onlyu on the 3rd DVD (I think) and so far, no problems???? I'm kind of wondering if we will based on what I've read.
But why don't you or other Houghton-Mifflin (sp?) owners return the DVDs if they don't work? Wouldn't H-F replace them?
Curious, LJ
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7yo son is in bathroom making no noise (oh no)
10yo son is taking last Friday's spelling test (we went skiing and played hooky on Friday). He stopped test to kill a spider.
13yo dd is reshelving about 30 books that got "deshelved"this weekend, just caught her reading a chapter book when she was supposed to be prepping for her (last Friday's) spelling test
15yo dd just finished correcting last Friday's Adv Biology study guide and has been hard at work for an hour. Thank you, dd!
17.5yo dd is asleep tho she has tons to do, AWANA Youth group tonight and 2 appts. this afternoon which will steal 4 hours of her schoolwork time. (she makes her own sked.)
47y11m Mom - up since 630a; ordered natural foods online (due this morning), about to order door fr Home Depot for my office in bsmt that is getting finished); breakfasts all made and mostly cleaned up, unfortunately jammies still on Mom; shower to occur after I give 2 spelling tests
Determined to have a Christ-filled day!
lj
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We do have heart-to-heart and adult privilege/responsibility kinds of conversations regularly. What we don't do enough is encourage and recognize tiny amts. of growth she shows. We're working on that and also on making the relationship the priority.
To the posts about "letting her have her age 17 freedoms". This is a girl who took Driver's Ed, is driving, has had her license since soon after 16yo, a car wreck, has had 2 jobs, took a college class for lifeguarding, was on swim team til she quit, has had a cell phone for a couple of years, did early enrollment at the CC last fall, took classes at the local public school, is now at a co op but we are not there. This is a girl who is getting lots of freedom opptys. We are trying to give her more freedoms - but she keeps ruining the chances.
And I know many posters have posed questions and I can't answer them all now - but the lying has always been a problem with this dtr. Dtr. def. wants to go to college, my dh and I have sugg. poss. a gap year for working and maturing. I don't think this dtr will leave home at 18yo. She is not a leader, but a follower. Dtr does pay the "extra" expenses such as ins. and cell phone.
My husband and I have been trying to give age-appropriate freedoms to this child and the damaged trust relationship has hindered us greatly.
And posters -= thank you. I realize when you (me) ask for advice on the internet, you need to be thick-skinned and do a lot of soul-searching on the answers. So I am def. thinking and praying about all of the advice.
And btw, counseling is def. going to happen. I will carefullly choose a Christian counselor who loves God's Word and the instruction given there.
Lisa
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This post puts a new spin on things for me, Lisa. To me, this points to pathological lying. Pathological lying is an addiction and a disorder. It is often (I'm not totally sure why) tied to ADHD. In light of this post, I would recommend that you, your dh and your dd go to a family counselor or psychologist who knows something about this problem. Since you a rural, it will probably be a big pain for you to do, but if she is truly becoming a pathological liar (obviously my internet diagnosis means nothing) then it really needs to be addressed. I have a pathological liar in my family. I also dated a pathological liar. Both ended up with some major dysfunction in their lives. One is heading to jail next month and still takes no responsibility for his actions. :grouphug:
I think my dad was a pathological liar. I worry about this. We had a meeting set up with a counselor and I chose not to take her because this counselor said something like "well, we don't really focus on lying; but rather where these decisions she is making will take her where she wants to go". I wasn't totally opposed to that approach, but I worried this counselor would downplay what I considered on of the root issues. We *will* be trying again soon. When I set up the first appt. we couldn't get in for about a month. Hopefully God will open a door for something sooner.
Lisa
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It sounds to me like you're a bit stuck in the behavior= consequences imposed by parent mode. You've done that and done that and done that and it hasn't worked, if I'm reading your posts correctly. If it hasn't worked before, wouldn't it be worth a try to look at it from some different angles?
1. How well is the ADD controlled? What have you tried for it?
2. Texting while driving is an issue that puts dd and everyone else in danger. That is a different category from lying, which is about your relationship with your dd. I would be inclined to drive her myself (despite the time), or give her only a cell without texting capabilities--maybe just 911 capabilities. That way she has a cell for safety, but not one she can talk, text, etc. on. This is the issue I would focus on with restrictions--not as a punishment, but to protect her and others.
3. I would suggest that you stop punishing her for lying or anything else. I'm suggesting this because it has not worked and is not morally required of you. Just put a moratorium on it. You are not going to punish her out of lying. Let go of that responsibility. It's beyond you. Privileges and punishments won't cut it at this point. How did Jacob come to stop lying?
4. Other things you might do (in addition to a lot of excellent advice you've already gotten) :
Unearned gifts/privileges. Sheer grace from out of no where. Take her and a friend to the mall. Take her out to dinner. Go get your nails done together. The point of this is to break the negative cycle and to give her a taste of grace, and to try to build some bridges between you again. This is not a one time thing. This is unexpected grace for the rest of the time she is with you. It should not be tied to her previous behavior. That would be earned, not grace. Just write some dates on the calendar and do stuff, regardless of what she's just done.
Consider why her lying pushes your buttons. (I know it's wrong and it would bother me too, but why does it push your buttons?) Do you feel like her lying means that you are a failure in some way? Does it reflect negatively on you? I know this is really, really hard to do, but if there is any piece of it that is about you, ask God to help you set that aside so that your focus can be on her for her sake.
Think of all the positive things about your dd. She doesn't do the "biggies" for one thing. What else do you like about her? What is good about her? What are her gifts? Focusing on the positives can help both you and dd turn things around.
What is dd's love language? If it's different than yours, how often do you actively speak hers?
No need to answer this post. I'm just offering some "outside the box" suggestions.
The ADD is controlled medically. It seems like it works well - than doesn't work - hard to measure. She has been on the meds for about 2 years.
Everything you said in the first 3 points is right on. As in, yes - punishment/discipline-consequences has not worked. That is the intent of my question today. (Picture me throwing up my arms in dismay.)
My dh and I just finished a 12week parenting Bible study by Chip Ingraham. The centerpiece is "Focus on Relationship" with the teens. It was/is a good eye opener and we are pursuing that.
We are certainly in tune with that advice and actively pursuing it. We are pursuing relationship. The grace advice is good too. I'm sure I don't speak her love language. It is gift-giving and time!
I am lacking in 1-on-1 time. My average day is beyond *packed*. We felt it would be step toward independence to have her answer to her Co op teachers instead of me so I started working 4hrs a week to pay for it. I am still hsing 4 other children, involved in another co op and I am a youth leader.
Lisaj
As the Zits comic strip said, "I just want my life as a mother before teenagers back".
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I guess I have to ask, hypothetically - you don't have to answer, if she has been so untrustworthy and deceitful for so long, WHY did you allow her to go anywhere without you? Why did you allow her to get a job? Why did you allow her to have access to a phone?
If there was already lying and deceit and a disregard for rules, then I don't understand why she was allowed to have privileges without responsibility. She skipped a step.
I'm not saying that in *judgment*. It will be hard to back up since she is so close to being able to be out on her own.
s.
I think we felt as she got older, she "should have" some of these responsibilities/opportunities. We felt a job would help her mature; see the value of work and choices. I felt she would drive and slowly grow in that maturity as she had more opptys. Phone was partly safety, partly she was able to afford it, partly it was just "time" kwim. I really thought she would "mature out" of some of the lying.
And I never equated lying about chores (which seems universal with kids) as really growing from there.
And I think we doled out the new privileges with some carefulness. And then things just getting worse and worse. I think we thought things would improve as she got older.
I think we tried to equate privileges with responsibilities but things started snowballing and she was always "working on being truthful". We prob. missed a step in letting logical consequences take a bigger role.
Lisaj
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a couple of points. Would you feel different abut her lying if she had never been baptized a Christian? Also, my sister always lied about her whereabouts to our parents because she knew they would have not let her go where she wanted to. She lied about her grades because she wanted to avoid the consequences of her grades. I realized my ds started doing the same thing at some point - it is easier to lie than to face parents that 'don't understand you.'
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Just as a reply, I don't care about being baptized meaning much of anything. But I do care that her talk "I'm a Christian. I'm a good girl or whatever" doesn't match the Walk.
Also I appreciate your thoughts and safety is def. on my mind in terms of where my kids are, what they are doing.
And not really replying to you - but to the posts in general - 17 is not 18 in my book. My dh and my dtr and I have talked about things being different this summer when she turns 18yo but that there will always be rules in this house that you have to follow to live here. And you are *always* welcome to live here and that will always be our preference.
Also to all the posters in general, there is a real difference in living rurally than within a town. Going anywhere requires a lot more planning out here - it is an hour RT drivetime so you don't just.
Another thought, I don't care if dtr is "at the library" but i do care if dtr tells me she is working late AND INSTEAD goes to the library. That's a lie. Or tells me she is coming straight home in my car (when I might need *my* car) and then delays 30min because she stopped somewhere else. It is courteous when you are the borrower.
Hopefully this clarifies why my 17yo dtr's stop at the library/mall/bookstore is wrong in my book.
Lisaj
Lisaj
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that dtr's consistent lying has "driven us" to have these restrictions.
I think in a lot of ways, we are dealing with a 17.5yo who acts like a 14-15yo in her maturity. When I talk with some of my friends, they say that what I am describing is trouble they had with their kids when they were 13,14,15,16yos.
The lying has caused dtr to lose our trust. She lies over everything....
I want to make that clear. Everything is a lie. There is nothing where we can trust what comes out of her mouth as true without checking on it. Homework, sibling arguments, if that is hers/sister's shirt, Chores - says they are done when they are not. Her night to make dinner - says the taco meat is done when she hasn't started. Clothes - Honey - where'd you get those jeans? (the ones bought when she went to the mall and lied - Oh, I got those from the hand-me-down box.) MY THINGS - make up - Oh, no that compact I have that looks like yours is actually mine (she says). My friend Susie gave it to me.
She has already *promised* not to text when driving. She took the FIRST oppty to do it again. How can we now trust her? (REAL question here - do you all think that her necessary growing freedom at being a young adult is worth the risk of her killing herself or someone else with our family car because she won't stop texting?) (I am not being argumentative, to me this seems irresponsible on the part of my dh and I - like letting someone drive our car who we know is prone to impaired drunk driving?)
it is the lying - not the stops in the car. Honestlly I have no problem with stops at the library, texting in moderation and fast food. But I *do* have a problem with someone abusing a privledge, or stopping with the family car - and then lying. Getting the driving privleges back appropriately had to start with small steps - i.e. go to work, come home. Those additional stops should come ONLY after she reestablishes trust.
We started out slow with the privleges when we give them back. She disregards them (poor impulse control, teen immaturity) and whomp! we have to clamp down again.
Cell phone - she lost that phone over *months* of disregard for simple rules; no texting after 10 p.m. and she was using way too many minutes. After months and *hundreds* of dollars, we took it til she is 18yo and that is the way it is. We won't renegotiate on that, she lost that privlege fair and square. Her continual disregard and deceit had consequences. She knew the consequence and her behavior warranted it. We have a cell phone she can use for safety when driving.
We tried hte "Plan Your Own homework "schedule" - she grudgingly wrote out a plan and instead was texting and internet/facebook surfing. (We have dial up, we can't have her tying up the home phone line for starters.) The flunking of Fall CC: lies about studying habits; assignments and what her prof said.
Contract: We have done the contract, Chris, that you describe with Sky. Maybe I should have said this up front. She did NOT do virtually all of the things she agreed to.
Consequences are "bottom line, if we can't trust you, you can't have privledges and you can't take the family car." (My husband fixed up a car for her last summer and she wrecked it by hitting a mailbox on the wrong side of the road. Consequences: no car for her to drive, a traffic court date for neg. driving - the judge dismissed it since the ticket was mid-day, seemed a "inexperienced driver mistake". Consequence, we live rurally, we only have one car she can drive and it is my family van. (Also, she's not a very good driver - very inattentive. Very dangerous highway. With real winters and icy roads and fog, etc.) We have a large family.
And yes, sometimes I yell. I lose my temper too much. But I doubt a whole lot more than the "average" mom of 3 teens, lol. I lose my temper almost exclusively over repeated lying and lying about chores. And btw, I apologize with a heartfelt apology.
Or that the lying problem "grows" so to speak. The night I found out about the phone, I found my make up lying on her desk (Make up I had asked about and she had 2 or 3 times denied having. It took me a week or so of looking, giving up and then going and buying myself new make up. Btw, I suspected she had it (hence the multiple requests) but I just believed her and I kept looking. This happens repeatedly to my shirts, shoes and her two sisters' clothes. It is a major annoyance.
We can't trust her. She has broken the trust. It makes this catch 22 - she is at an age where she should have more privleges and yet, she won't be trustworthy so we can give her more privleges.
btw, she has a 15yo sis who enjoys most of the privleges the older one doesn't because she is trustworthy.
I do see where I am the enemy sometimes - this dtr is also very moody. But we do keep telling her we love her. After the recent texting/driving/cell phone shopping spree (Monday), I was gently telling her that we had trusted her - we had faith and confidence that she would be responsible and that it hurt that she had not been. I also told her we would always be there for her and that both Dad and I had made mistakes 10X more serious than the one she made - when we were younger. She started crying and said, "thanks, Mom". I dropped her off at co op and when I saw her in 6 hours, she gave me the "I got a "C" in precalc story."
I'm still listening. Esp, thank you Chris, and all of you for responding.
Lisa
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Hi, I have a 17.5yo dtr who is rebellious. But her "crimes" are mild compared to what one might think of a rebellious teen. There is no drinking, smoking, drugs, etc etc etc.
The main problem is lying. Constantly. Over everything. EVERYTHING. And zero real repentance. Just empty apologies. Which she insists are genuine apologies.
She lies daily about chores, homework that is completed, what her boss says at work (i.e. I *need* you this shift*), her workhours, where she went in our car, what we did/did not tell her to do...
Here's the latest scenario. We took away her driving privleges in December when we found out she was texting while she was driving and she had went to fast food with our family car when the agreement was to drive to work and home only. We also took away her cell phone because of the texting while driving (like it was the last straw) and 3 months worth of $200 cell phone bills due to unallowed use and repeated problems. Yes, we took *every* precaution and a few nights we didn't remember to double-check to see that she had given us her phone when she arrived home... (We used cell tools (chaperone and blocking) to no avail.) She denied everything, and lies. She tells the truth only when forced - only to tell what we already know and confront her with. We're talking to cover up everything. A separate time a few weeks earlier, she had taken our car to the library and in addition, went shopping and fast food w/o our permission and we had given her a strong verbal warning. (That was not the first time either.
Feb. We give back her driving privledge. She has permission to drive to the doctor's office, gas station and to work. (40miles RT) We go over it specifically. We give her a cell phone that has all calls and texting blocked except to home and a few other acceptable #s. That night, she is acting weird (like opening the bedroom door 4" when I ask to come in and talk to her. I insist on coming in - she lies that "she is hiding anything" and low and behold, she has a brand new cellphone.) She had driven to work, her Bank College Savings Account , taken $100 (not allowed tho she saved the money) and the Shopping Mall along with the other places! She was also TEXTING either while driving home on this new cell phone. She also LIED about working late. I told her to call me when she got off work at 630p and she called at 710p. She made up a story when she called me about there being a different posted schedule than the one she had told me and that she had worked til 7p. Turns out she was programming her new cell phone from 630-7p and making a few calls on it.
Our usual arrangement is "you have permission to drive to work and home; no stops. Call us when you leave work." We live 20miles away in a rural location, including a notoriously dangerous 10mile stretch of highway.
Yesterday, I picked her up from her Christian school Homeschool co op and she says. "I got a C on my PreCalc test." Not thinking much of anything, I said, "Oh what grade did you get?" She says, "69". This begins an argument where I insist a 69 is not a C and she insists (wrongly) that it is a C "maybe a C-" on their grading scale. I know this is wrong because I have their grading scale and it is very similar to ours. And 69 is a D or D- on our scale - and a "Do over". Finally after about 3 minutes, I said, (I'm driving), let me see the test. She's annoyed and she pulls it out and then says, "oops I guess it was a "67". I finally get her to admit that she KNEW the grading scale would not make a 69 or 67 a "C" and that she had lied about the grade because she thought I might be mad and yell. I point out that she had just lied about something that I hadn't even asked about - i.e. she "brought up" the subject of her test. I pointed out that she just made up a story and made up a lie completely of her own decision and making. She takes about 3-4 minutes to admit that this is what occurred.
OK, so what would you do. I told her she will NOT keep the cell phone - we let her keep the jeans the first time she went to a store w/o our permission in our car. The next time, we took the items we bought and this time we'll do the same thing. She's out about $75 for the cell phone and minutes she bought. Her dad and I have talked and we are going to ground her only a short time this time and prob. make her quit her job if the lying while out in our car continues.
This is the same girl who flunked out in early-enrollment last Fall (09) at the local community college. She also chose a not-acting-like-Christians set of friends as soon as she had the chance.
My main question is the Lying.... She accepted the Lord as a youngster, chose to be baptized when she was 14yo (we make the kids wait for it to be more of a mature decision); goes to Bible club weekly and church. But, she really, really struggles (and makes our life miserable) with her lying. IOW, she professes to be a Christian although we certainly see this as a besetting sin. We are a conservative Christian family and we try to live out our faith.
What can/should we do to help with the lying? I see immaturity as a problem here as well. She is ADD but a very good student BECAUSE I have made her work so hard at homeschooling for 12 years. Without me pushing her she would prob. be a "C" student. She has a 3.4 gpa and an academically challenging schedule.
I might add that all of her bad decisions makes her social life pretty dull. She is not "grounded" from friends, but in her social circle, texting and phoning is huge and she is not "sought out" by her friends so much as she "seeks them out". I know a side problem is loneliness but at the same time, we are extremely displeased with her community college friends (they talk about such things as drinking parties, sneaking out of the house, trying to get her a boyfriend and these friends have boy/girl "not s*x" they say - sleepovers) so we have not encouraged those friendships.
Her strong Christian friends are busy with homework, family and don't seem so "socially driven" as my dtr. Furthermore, they all seem about 2 yrs ahead in maturity....
IF you have BTDT, please let me know your thoughts.
lisaj
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For 7 of us, (3 teens), about $650 per month for groceries and all household goods, paper products, cleaning products, eating out (rarely), etc. (If I can buy it at the grocery store, it is part of the grocery budget. .It might be closer to $800 but I can shop at the local commissary and that saves 5-8% or so...
We cook mostly from scratch, buy an organic half-beef annually. Ten years ago, with 3 kids, we were spending closer to $350 a month. I'm not sure what happened.
We go thru 2-3 dozen eggs a week and a gallon of milk a day.
Lisaj
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because I have used it the most and incorporate it into many other programs.
But, we are loving WWE for my 1st and 4th gr. boys. Both are being neater in their penmanship (usually) and it is very easy to use. My 1st loves it; my 4th tolerates it, but is more enthusiastic once we get going on a lesson.
I am impressed with how my 4th gr. is learning it listen and better "summarize" his former don't-skip-any-detail narrations and that my 1st gr boy is picking up capitlization and punctuation so well. We are using Level 1 and Level 3, fyi.
lj, hsing 5
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All your sugg have been incredibly helpful. Sometimes at the beg. of some new program or text, I always feel "we'll never" find a pace or approach and then with lots of WTMer's advice, and IRL HSers, we do.
So thanks so much. Our 3 days per lesson pace seems a pretty good fit.
My daughter is doing much better with our current plan/pace - thank you all so mcuh.
And one more question, some of the exercises in the latter part (say exercises 80-100+ - NOT the "Review" problems.) THey usually have names like: business, exploration, environment, profiit, data analysis etc...
-------- Any thoughts on how important it is a for a high school precalc student to be able to do these - on most of these, my dtr does not figure it out until we've reviewed the answer key and went over the whole problem/answer key with all its 3-5 steps, maybe helping thru the first step...) on the lessons seem incredibly involved real life math probblems. Any thoughts on "how important are those?". Some of them - say
Thanks again - I truly am appreciative!
Lisa
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Thanks, these are all good ideas, I need to choose one and get started, lol. But so many choices.
I am esp interested in anyone who has used TeenAid's program?
THanks
Lisa
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Hi, we bought the Houghton Mifflin PreCalc DVDs and all the Larson PreCalc textbooks,TMs and the only tests I see are the end of chapter tests and the practice test in the Study & Solutions Guide?
I am wondering what Chalkdust does for the chapter-end tests. I used CD algebra for a few weeks and don't remember them including tests either?
Also, I am int. in advice on pacing. We took 2 months to go thru the 5 prerequisite lessons (from 3rd ed. TM) and now the first chapter of the 4th edition book - that is about 12 lessons - over about 40 school days -so, over 3 days per lesson. There have been tons of corrections and in fact, we have spent 2-3 hours a day. It has been really hard and slow for my "mathy" dtr and me, the non-pre-calc mom. I am still trying to figure out how to structure tutoring but the last few days have been better.
Another poster helped me greatly by sugg. that Chalkdust usually assigned the examples in the book with sugg. exercises on day one w/the video; Day 2-3 have been about every 4th exercise from 1-100 - so dtr ends up doing about 28 assigned problems over 3 days per lesson and watching the DVD and writing/semi-memorizing vocab.
There are 9 chapters in the precalc book and my goal is to finish precalc in about 1.5 yrs of school.
Thanks for any help - pls post here or if you really want to let me ask a few more pacing/assignment questions, please email me direct - ljdeerpark@aol.com
Lisaj
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the Teen Aid programs that are abstinence-based? I don't know much about them- someone mentioned them to me?
Funny, I am guessing hundreds {dozens?} of WTMers have tread this path before me - I hope I get many more ideas, responses...
Thanks
Lisaj
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Both dtrs have fairly rigorous classloads (Both math and science take 2 hrs a day):
12th grader - Adv Biology, PreCalculus, Literature/Writing, Economics, Amer Govt, Leadership/Job Shadowing, Bible, Choir, Parttime Job
10th grader - Adv Biology, PreCalc, Literature, Spanish 3, Writing, First Aid/EMT Basic
lisaj, tired of the late nights
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Hi, I want to teach my dtrs the basics of what I can only best describe as s*x ed. Altho I may award a "credit", that is not at all important as she has has been awarded a health/first aid credit based on her Red Cross lifesaving training and biology.
I have all the peripherals (sp?) covered as in we are reading:
Why I Kissed Dating Goodbye
Lies Young Women Believe
Bible study
Beautiful Girlhood
My oldest is 6mo from graduating high school and turning 18yo. My main concern is "hitting the basics". She works part time and has a very full classload. Currently she is very set on living away from home for her senior year.
I want something easy to use - basically something we can read together and discuss. I was thinking of something that will describe s*x in a ways that covers the emotional and physical attributes. But something "grab and go" so to speak where we could meet once or twice a week and read/study together? Facts on STDs and pregnancy and health aspects? Female fertility, menstration, ovulation, etc. etc. Btw, Mod 16 of Apologia A&P covers human reproduction but I wanted something more than that?
Any ideas, thoughts? I had hoped to find a "just the facts" curriculum that we could cover in 9 weeks or so? I doubt I'll give her tests or anything because of the huge classload she has currently.
LMK your thoughts - thanks
Lisaj
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I look through the chapter section and write down the problem that it tells you to work after each example. For instance, in ch1sect1 the problems it tells you to work are: 9,25,43,45,49,55,61. I go to the exercises and put a box around those numbers. My dd has to read the chapter section and then work those problems the first day. She also has to watch the video if she doesn't understand. Then I start at #1 and draw a circle around every other odd number, with some skips when there are boxed problems. I mark all the odd review problems. The other problems I assigned from section 1 were: 1,3,5,7,11,15,19,23,29,31,35,51,59,65,67,69,71,75,79,81,83,85,91,95,99,101,103,105,107. My dd is supposed to work those the 2nd day. I was giving her two days to work the rest of the problems, but my dd just finished ch3 even though we're halfway through the schoolyear, so I need her to pick up the pace.
The solutions guide momofgals linked is the one I have, but it only gives solutions for odd-numbered problems, so that's all I assign.
This will be incredibly helpful. Thank you so much. I have the same study guide with tjust the odd numbered answers - and odd/even answers for the tests.
Lisaj, tomorrow is a new start...
Has anyone made their kids do a subject over?
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Posted · Edited by 74Heaven
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This is what we do too. Our standing rule is "anything less than a C" on the final chapter test we do over. This is almost always high school science for us, tho we've had this happen in elementary math or spelling very occasionally.
Usually when we are getting C- or worse on something, I have been rushing the kids or just missed some clues that the kids weren't getting it. IOW, it could have been avoided by more supervision from me or less laziness from the kids...
FYI Using a different curriculum is def. what I'd do for a "do over" year.
Lisaj