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Younger dd and I are taking an Alaskan cruise on Holland America in June. It's our first and we're really excited!
One of the things I have a question about is whether I should be concerned about sea sickness. I don't get sick on smaller sailboats or ferries-the longest one I took was across Lake Champlain- but ocean going is different. Any suggestions?
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13 hours ago, PeterPan said:
The Carnival Panorama is going from Long Beach up to Alaska then over to Japan. It's a transpacific, I think 18 days. I'm so kicking myself that my butt is not on that ship. They just dropped the prices so you can do Alaska AND Japan for way cheaper than you ever imagined, like under $2k for two people. Now you'll pay to fly back from Japan, but hey you went to Japan too!!!
My dd just moved to Japan and we're trying to figure out a way to visit. It has to be summer because of teaching, but cruising is one of the ways we're looking at!
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30 minutes ago, Bambam said:
Depending upon where he lives/will be traveling to - consider getting an EZTag (toll tag) for his car. So much easier. Free, so why not?
The tag is free, but the tolls aren't. I agree with this advice, though. We visited our dd, thought we were using the hov lane, but received a bill later for using the toll lane. It was dropped because it was the first time it happened, but it's a steep charge if you use the toll road without the easy pass.
My dd lived in Houston for 4 years during med school in 2 different places, both with roommates. One was a gated community close enough to walk to NRG stadium, but not in a better part of town. The second place was a non gated townhouse where she sometimes needed to park on the street. Her vehicle was never broken into. She loved the diversity of living in Houston.
I hope your ds is able to find someplace you're both comfortable with.
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11 year old zombie.
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We bought High Sierra luggage and have been satisfied with it. It's not really expensive, but hold up well.
We looked there first because I took one of their shift side bags with me when I was an exchange student in high school 40 years ago and it's still my favorite suitcase to pack. (Though at this point, I wish it had wheels!)
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1 hour ago, TechWife said:
Be wary of the “professional” fitters in department stores. I had one my band to be four inches smaller than I needed. She kept telling me what I was trying on was too big, so I tried one she picked out and it felt like it was cutting me in half!
I went to Dillard's to be fit because I need either a racerback or strapless for the dress for dd's wedding. They told me to try on a particular brand and style bra and when they found the right size, that would be my size. So we did that and they brought in other styles of the same brand in that size. None of them fit. It was the strangest "fitting" I've ever had.
On another note, why do stores only carry small band sizes? It seems stores only carry stock up to a 38. I ended up ordering from Amazon. We'll see how that goes.
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3 hours ago, wathe said:
This happens all the time.
You quickly learn to ask about medical conditions in at least 3 different ways when taking a history, and even then will miss some. People often say "no" when asked if they have any medical conditions, even when they clearly do. Then, when asked about medications, will produce a list of medications as long as my arm, with meds for at least 5 different chronic medical conditions. Which I will then guess at based on the meds, and the patient will then endorse. Or worse, when asked about meds, will say "Oh, yes, quite few," but not have brought them or be able to name them. Or will name medical conditions that they actually don't have (often occurs when pt uses medical vocabulary that means something different than the patient thinks it does - not blaming patients here, medical terminology can be complicated). All.the.time.
Always believe the patient. But also, patients (and families) sometimes say things that are objectively wrong. It's not always easy to find the balance.
My mIl did this when we went to the ER due to difficulty breathing when there was a nearby controlled burn. She told the medical staff she had no medical problems. Thankfully, someone here said to take all her meds with us, so I took them all in a bag. When I asked why she had so many prescriptions, mil downplayed each one. "Oh, that's only when I'm short of breath." or "That's just my water pill." or "That helps my heart." Even when we think we remember, sometimes we might not remember the medical condition, but only the effect/reason to take the medicine. I can't imagine how much more difficult it would be in an actual emergency in the air.
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40 minutes ago, City Mouse said:
If he has a will, or doesn’t have a will, his estate will have to go through probateI think this might depend on the state he lives in. Different states have different laws. In my state, with a $400,000 estate and a will, the estate didn't have to go through probate.
@Tap, it might be worth finding an attorney who is familiar with the laws in your states and can speak to your concerns specifically.
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Today I learned that if you hold a $2 bill, your face will melt.
It actually really frightens me how easily kids believe random stuff. I have a different 8yo student who watches TikTok and believes whatever they see.
This student was very serious about this being true, even when I told them I've held a $2 bill and my face didn't melt.
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Zombies. 11yo thread
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Our house will be in totality, but dd is getting married the prior Saturday in another state and we won't be back in time to see it. I'm kinda bummed about it because I was really excited to explain it/watch it with my class at school.
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5 hours ago, cintinative said:
ETA: i just saw you said she is in assisted living. Can you clarify--is she AL and also hospice? That's a new scenario for me.
I'm not the OP, but my MIL was on hospice in AL. The AL facility offered stepped up care, so as her needs increased, we used the higher levels of care. They allowed her to stay when she went on hospice. Eventually, we found a wonderful woman to stay with her overnight to help as needed. I was with her all day. We also looked into hiring a private nurse for a brief bit (in addition to the hospice nurse daily visits), but she passed before we found someone. I believe hospice also offered someone to come in to help with daily (or every other day) care.
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I tip my head (to the right I think.) My optometrist noticed me doing this during my appt. She said it's due to the prisms in my glasses.
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5 hours ago, Alte Veste Academy said:
I have one like Maize posted, but it’s Breville brand. Love it. My MIL has an air fryer and was marveling over the air fryer setting on our Smart Oven because we can put in two trays and food isn’t touching like in many kinds of air fryers, so the air circulates for things to get truly crispy on all sides.
This is what I have too. I love it! It's perfect for just 2 of us, so now I use the oven to store the cast iron pots.
I think it's a little loud, but it doesn't bother my dog at all.
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On 1/5/2024 at 8:07 PM, Melissa in Australia said:
Mine thinks when I am in a car going down the bumpy main road that I am running a marathon. It sends encouragement messages and adds thousand of steps 🤣😂🤣
I have a Garmin watch that thought I was running stairs during a flight take off. I got lots of stair runs that day! 😂😂
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We have a smart one and love it. Ours uses WiFi, though, which isn't what op is looking for. I use different codes for specific people and once needed to unlock the door from my phone because the person came at a different time than normal.
We use 6 digits for our code. I read somewhere that for our lock brand whatever digit code you set up between 4-8 is the longest code you can use. So if you set up the primary code with 4 digits, the other codes can't be longer than 4 digits without factory resetting the lock.
We've found the 8 AAA batteries last just about a year.
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7 hours ago, Forget-Me-Not said:
I get junk mail for a woman at my address. The weird thing is we built this house and the address literally didn’t exist before that.
We are the first owners of our house, too. Somehow, Enid "ourlastname" began receiving mail here. We have no idea how/what/who she is.
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30 minutes ago, Sneezyone said:
Even the 3-star DH works for doesn't regularly entertain with fine china. They have a staff and cooks and access to official service sets. Srsly. It's just not a thing anymore.
Overall, life is more casual and less fussy now and that's OK. I would not encourage them to make a registry and ask for things they can't use when they reach their destination. By the time they return, they may want and need different things.
Regardless of whether fluffernuts are ruffled, what they NEED is the flexibility to obtain items that may work with alternate power cords/plugs, and the financial resources to do the things that bring them joy during their down times. If you couch it that way to those who ask for suggestions, 8/10 people will have -0- issues because they want to support and aid the young couple and put them first, not enslave themselves to etiquette.
The bolded is what dd is trying to avoid. She would prefer items such as sheets for her mattress and towels.
I plan to answer questions about their registry the way you suggest in the second paragraph.
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51 minutes ago, KungFuPanda said:
I’d encourage your daughter not to stress about the timing of the household registry. People have until a year after the wedding to send a gift. A delay in posting a registry won’t matter. I’d have them do a cash registry where people can donate now for things like a honeymoon fund, the bike cases, the kennel, etc . . . a clear direction for cash donations. I’d also tell her to post somewhere that a household registry will be shared as soon as possible after receiving orders or a shipping address. People will understand and most people will probably choose the early/cash route. Those who don’t like that option can get in on the later registry.
The bolded is what I told her. She likes to have everything done on her timeline and some things can't be until she knows where she'll be going.
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17 minutes ago, elegantlion said:
the last wedding I attended had an online registry. The couple are both adults who combined households, they didn't need stuff. Their registry includes some household items but they had their honeymoon broken down into days and events. So your $50 paid for them to take the train or use toward a hotel. Knowing that this couple loves to travel, I would have rather spent money on that part of their life than more stuff or just a general cash fund. I'm not against cash and have done that, but I like the idea of knowing that they cash is going toward an experience.
After talking with her last night, this is what they're thinking to do. They will have honeymoon expenses and will need a dog kennel to fly their dog to them and hard sided cases to transport their bikes. Gifts could be sent to us, but they wouldn't see or open them for 3 years if they immediately move overseas.
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1 hour ago, Ginevra said:
My nephew and his wife were moving onto a sailing vessel for a long-term trip at sea. Their registry had only donation options, though you could pick like, “Contribute to the main sail” or “Contribute to food stores.” The wording was nice and said something like, “As we will be on a sailboat with 90 square feet of living space, we would most appreciate contributions towards our vessel for those inclined to give a gift.”
My dd also did not have a registry of stuff; she only had a donation button. It said something like, “When COVID is no longer an issue, we plan to take a trip to Italy. If you would like to contribute towards our dream honeymoon, this would be most appreciated.”
1 hour ago, Toocrazy!! said:The last few weddings I’ve been invited to had website registries with options to gift toward something- a couch, a mattress, a honeymoon, Airbnb cards, etc. I think people are much more understanding now that a lot of people getting married have a lot they need, or want less “stuff.” Most people want to give a gift of some sort and are happy to contribute.
Closer friends and family will probably ask, and you can lead them towards cash.These are what I was thinking she should do, though I like @bolt.'s idea of donating to a charity, too.
Thank you for all your thoughts and ideas.
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2 hours ago, Lecka said:
The added information sounds good!
I would think (?) she would have orders 2 months in advance? Probably? I understand nobody can say when orders will come or what the report date will be, but if it’s usually 2 months (or something) I would feel fine planning off of that, with an understanding it’s not 100%. And then just add that but assume you will have more information later.
She might have options with when she schedules transportation. Often the people in the transportation office are very kind and helpful.
Our AF experience tells us she should have advance notice. She's stuck on having something set up for the registry before invitations go out. However, everyone she's inviting either already knows the circumstances (friends) or has someone they can ask (family).
That's a good idea about transportation. Thank you.
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1 hour ago, scholastica said:
Often, the registry will allow gifts to be shipped directly somewhere. If they know for sure which items they can’t take, they can have them shipped to your address and you won’t have to drive them home from the wedding.
1 hour ago, BusyMom5 said:I have had family overseas and I would give the couple money to purchase household items in the country they land in. I think it's perfectly fine to say that's what is needed most- money towards household appliances they can use wherever they end up. They may even need kitchen cabinets- those are not standard everywhere;)
I'd items are purchased that can't be used, and include a gift receipt, return them. Don't feel guilty! I would not be storing stuff like that for years.
1 hour ago, KungFuPanda said:A lot of people don’t include registry information in mailed, paper invitations anyway. If they’re using a website, I’d find one that allows them to have a “coming soon” page or allows them to post that they don’t have and address for shipping NOW but will update in the future when they do. That way they can be set up for cash gifts right away and let people know they’ll update for physical gifts in the future if that’s a gifting preference.
They're using a website, so this would work well. I think she was thinking that if she's sending her invitations, she also needs to have her registry set. I think some of it is overthinking and panicking a bit about what needs to be done for the wedding while she training.
1 hour ago, footballmom said:I guess my answer to how to best communicate their situation and registry request / guidance would depend on how big the guest list is for the wedding.
They're expecting about 150 guests.
55 minutes ago, chiguirre said:Lecka brought up a lot of good points. My Navy dd is stationed OCONUS so we've dealt with some of this stuff.
The most important thing is that they try to get their paperwork in for colocation before they get their first duty stations assigned, otherwise they might end up on different continents. There's a lot of red tape to get colocated, so be prepared for a lot of running around to get things sorted out.
Sending things to an FPO costs the same as the US rate BUT it takes a long time. My dd's Christmas chocolate that I sent before Thanksgiving arrived for Easter last year. I could follow the tracking to see it go to Bahrain, back to Chicago, to Italy, back to Chicago before it finally got to dd in San Francisco. Amazon ships most items to an FPO, so that might be a way to go with their registry. I'd encourage people to give them cash or Amazon gift cards if they really don't want to do cash.
Good luck to the newlyweds. Dd has enjoyed her time OCONUS. I hope they do too.
We have lived OCONUS and had items shipped to our FPO. The Christmas gifts sent before Thanksgiving arrived mid summer. I hadn't considered sending items to the or having them shipped to her or us.
I need things for my personal assistant to do over the summer
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I would like my supposed-to-be-white, but-various-shades-of gray-and-brown baseboards cleaned.
I would like all of my indoor white trim painted and my air vents cleaned.
I would love to have my personal library catalogued and organized.
Can you ds take on the grocery shopping?