[Grandma in the tub with littles]

No not ok. Bathing with parents ok. Grandparents not ok. Im sure it is innocent in her mind because she bathed with her kids. I am constantly reminding grandparents they are not our kids parents. I would have found bathing with my grandma awkward, but i have been ultra private since a very young age.

 

This.  It's worse if you have them really young.  My self-esteem was too low to think to set boundaries and create space.  It shouldn't take a Big Deal for that to happen, and in my experience, it's mostly an internal thing.  Just changing how you perceive the relationship and respond to them will help a lot, and will likely be noticed.

 

ETA: admittedly, I have no idea how to handle the over-the-top reactions, OP.   :grouphug:

[PSA. Facebook and others "following" you]

Wow FB is confusing.

[Low grade fever.....do you go to church or stay home?]

I stay home. My friends don't all follow the same thought process, socializing after church as usual (and telling me of their fevers only AFTER breathing on me for several minutes), and I've caught their illnesses more than once. If you do go, please slip in the back after service starts and slip out again without interacting with others.

 

This is what I mean by limiting contact.  As well as avoiding touching things unnecessarily (banisters, door knobs, etc.).  Kids have a hard time being that mindful for that long.

[Low grade fever.....do you go to church or stay home?]

Depends on how I feel.  We're staying home today because I slept in and youngest is still pretty runny from our flu-ish thing we had this week anyway.  He's definitely still shedding virus and it seems like a good way to spread it.  I feel kind of blah, so don't mind staying home--but there was no fever.  If I had a fever but felt fine, I'd go and limit contact.  If a kid had a fever, I'd be less likely to go, because they're not as good at limiting contact.

[My heart wrenching afternoon]

:grouphug:  :grouphug:  :grouphug:

[This does not bode well]

:grouphug:

[What does "shindig" mean to you. . . (Update in #51)]

party

if I had to tease out specifics, something casual, indoor/outdoor, possibly with beer involved.

 

GA, but Midwestern parents (idk if that matters)

[allergy shots...wasn't quite aware...]

I'm the same way.  If it doesn't lay me out, it's not "bad."  :D

 

And I hope it does work quickly for you.

 

 

Edited because my brain is fried.

[Inner-city living makes for healthier, happier people, study finds]

Wow, y'all are kinda selling me on the city, lol.  [The ideal kind.]  Our big city is so crazy to drive around in, I don't go there much.

We're semi-rural, I guess.  It still feels like suburbia, but not the suburbia I grew up in.  But cookie cutter neighborhood, everyone living separate parallel lives, yep.

[I need to get it together....not sure if vent, help seeking, jawm, or what]

Pay your teen to clean the house.  ;)

[School day, count it or not?]

They both count to me.  I formally only count days we do seat work, but if I were to be completely honest, any day they pick up books that can be fit into a content subject, it's a school day.  Though this approach does lead to a very uneven looking form of progress, I admit.  I'm comfortable with that 90% of the time.  The other 10% is spent freaking out that I'm ruining my kids.  :D

 

In first grade, it is alphabet books, tracing big letters, and lots of constructive play.  Math about halfway through (depending on maturity), and read-alouds vary.  My youngest hasn't had as much benefit in that area, honestly--for personal crisis reasons.  I would do that over, if I could.

[young teen without empathy]

My kids think I never cry, seriously.  They've seen me cry once, 3 or 4 years ago.  I save it, and process slowly, sometimes for months or years depending on various factors.  I cry alone.  Iceberg is a good analogy.  Maybe there's a lack of empathy there [re: the OP], by maybe it's like this.  And I'm not saying this is healthy, but it's not a lack of empathy.

 

[Another gun debate question]

So the balance is still...we don't know what to effectively do.  :(

[Homeschooling, kids with SNs, and a mom with Mono (and strep)]

:grouphug:  :grouphug:  :grouphug:

[Questions about minors inheriting money]

Try a bond, COD, or money market, if  possible?  And I don't know why trust fees wouldn't come out of the fund itself?  Just random thoughts I'm throwing out there; they may not apply.  I'm sorry for the losses and complications.   :grouphug:

[The phrase "Tall Poppy Syndrome"]

I have never heard this phrase.

[I hate my house!! What do you hate about your house?]

Space/storage issues.  Always.  And I can't seem to find a good affordable solution.  I was planning on building a bunch of 6' shelves, but I'm tired and I don't want to keep disrupting our routine with projects like this.  An extra room or two would be nice, but I'd really just love to start with highly efficient use of space.  I can't seem to make that happen, though.  It's really frustrating.

[State guardianship for the elderly . New Yorker article details a nightmare]

I can't finish that right now.   :cursing:

[Anyone else facebook-free??]

DH has a very anti-FB opinion, which amuses me.  I think it's a personal choice.  I'm just an introvert with social anxiety, so form the start it was weird.  It's just not how I socialize.  Don't ask me why a message board is different, but it is.  Maybe the directed nature of it?  Moderation?  Hmmm....  :D  This and one other board are my social media.  That's it.  One video chat app I tried for a friend, but don't love (because like FaceTime, I have to see myself).  But it's just me being my weird self.

 

I do think it's very telling that a church I was visiting last fall had to have a whole sermon about rifts on FB and social media in general and healing them.  My inclination is to scoff, but maybe I should just consider the implications...

 

I looked it up once, and it's reasonable to assume that about 2/3 of America is on FB alone, who knows when things like Twitter are thrown into the mix.

[Anyone else facebook-free??]

My account has been deactivated for years now.  I'll pop in every now and then, but I find it overwhelming, and I only have 15 friends!  I'd defriend some people, but I don't want to hurt their feelings.

[That baby girl]

Don't you have 24 hours to cancel and get your $$ back?  Amazon is like this, anyway.

 

ETA: or is that what you meant by locking it down?  I'm dense sometimes.  :D

[Why do girls go for the bad guy]

Yes. I realize. I was just being funny. I guess not. :lol:

 

I mean if you think I am silly enough to think this way really...

 

I mean, I thought the thread was going to be about my teen years....

[Forgiveness vs Reconciliation...]

I will say that yes, her confidence needs to come from somewhere other than her husband.  I think women tend to hang a lot on their mates, maybe more than they can bear.  It might feel weird at first, but finding who she is within herself and appreciating herself independent of his appreciation of her might be a good stage to get to before figuring out how her self melds with his self.  Make sense?  That's the best secular attempt I can make; I view this all in a theological framework--I know not everyone does.

[Well, I'm sorry if my mind is dirty, but...(tiny house)]

:lol:  :lol:  :lol:

[Cars for short drivers?]

Van, so maybe not what you want, but our Dodge Grand Caravan does all of this.   I'm 5'2" and DH is 6'3".  It's a 2015 and a lower trim level; a higher trim level might have the rear cameras and remote hatch closure.  I don't know if it would be too high for climbing into.