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Lord have mercy! :(
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I think we'd do well not to equate "religious" with "Fundamentalist Christian," for starters. eternalsummer's Hindu friend was religious. Thank you for your balanced thoughts and views, by the way. :) Life gets incredibly sticky and uncomfortable when we really start teasing out the implications of true pluralism and freedom. I imagine that if pressed, nearly all of us have our own idea of what limits should be placed on both.
Anyway, I'd like to submit that anyone who sincerely and deeply believes there's a spiritual dimension to reality will have a different set of considerations in regard to OP's questions than a person who deals only in the physical. The considerations will vary depending on what the person believes about the spiritual realm, but having the set of considerations is neither bad, nor intolerant, nor logically inconsistent, given that foundational belief. The most you can do is discount it as a bunch of nonsense, but it won't be only Christian, or even theistic, beliefs you are discounting.
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If you homeschool for religious reasons, would you be comfortable with your kids being in a homeschool group with the kids of a card reader? Would you discourage a friendship with those kids?
This has never occurred to me, honestly. Associating within a homeschool group, no problem. My comfort level with varying degrees of closeness beyond that would depend on a lot of factors on both sides. Regardless, I think your personal experience will depend very much on the religious climate in your area as well as the individuals you end up associating with. :)
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What Carol said. If you can afford it, let her work for you until she can hire on where she wants in Fall 2018. She can start applying to universities in the meantime, right?
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I for one live in a state of confusion.
:lol: You and me both.
I'm not super worried about it; it just never occurred to me to put it in my signature. I feel like what is there is more relevant to most of what I might discuss here.
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lol, thanks. So far it's just DD. I am glad she's interested and hope the boys follow suit eventually. But man, do I feel unequipped!
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I need a seminary degree for them. :lol:
So in no particular order: what made God? Are we really the chief of all sinners? Will we really be like God when we die and go to Heaven? What about that Hades full of fire place (and can people get out of it once they're in)? Will we be just like we are now again one day (our own bodies, etc.)?
I mean, wowzers. :D :D
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Lord, have mercy on your handmaiden.
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A few in this thread have mentioned that CPS is required to investigate anything that is reported.
That is absolutely not true.
The hotline workers have guidelines. If the report fits the guidelines, it is referred for investigation. There are many, many reports that are never, ever referred.
The investigator also has latitude to investigate or not. Everything that is referred from the hotline is not necessarily investigated.
Yes, frivolous things are sometimes investigated. Much depends on the guidelines. Much depends on that jurisdiction's interpretation of guidelines. Much depends on WHO is taking the report and WHO the investigator is. And much depends on how many foster homes are available. For example, it's almost impossible to refer an abuse report for a teenaged black male in Chicago. It's much easier to refer an abuse report for a six-year-old girl in a middle-class suburb.
That is super sad. :(
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What age? On our dime, 16 for emergencies and updates while out
What kind of phone? something basic
You pay or they pay? I imagine we'll do something mean; limited minutes and they pay overages, and/or are prevented from going out (since that's the purpose of the phone).
Rules/restrictions? Not sure yet...sort of depends on how trustworthy they generally are
Strong feelings about it one way or another? Not really, just that I *know* phones can be used for ill, so I'm (probably hyper-) sensitive about that.
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I tell people we're relaxed eclectic and we draw from various sources, some of which are published programs. Mostly this gets a glassy "Oh" and change of subject, which is fine. Beyond that, I'll explain the various subjects if the person seems genuinely interested (whether for curiosity or for idea-mining).
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I would rather know and see coverage so that the targeting of a certain group won't be hidden or censured.
There were many hate crimes inflicted on whites by a minirity group in our city, for example. No one knew because the media never mentioned it. It was only after foreign tourists were attacked that the rest of us found out that it's been happening for a couple of years. I don't like that kind of "not mentioning/not reporting" so I want to see everything reported.
It a fine line between coverage and exploitation, though.
So many people are radicalized by watching Youtube videos.
Well that falls under Sadie's "local" exemption. Otherwise I say, Sadie, preach it, sister. We glorify murderers the way we do things now.
I can't imagine. I'm sorry for that town. :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug:
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So what we are going to do is have realtors look at the house, tell us what should be done in order to list as well as what they think we could get for it.
Then we will do those things (apart from painting and staging; I'm sincerely thinking of offering a painting allowance).
Meanwhile we will figure out what the financial side of things are.
Then we'll decide whether we're buying or building...or whatever, after however long it takes to do all the other stuff.
All very logical, yes? Thanks to DH. :) Now I just wish he'd mentioned all of that before he said I could "do everything except put an offer in" on this house I showed him Thursday and just toured yesterday. /sigh.
Hopefully the realtors and loan officer will be responsive after all of this. I don't get the feeling they're very interested in working with people who just want to know the lay of the land...
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We have Frigidaire everything. Our washer and dryer are over 12 years old--Frigidaire Gallery. The dryer has needed something to do with the motor replaced twice, iirc. The original one went after about 5 years, I think. It's a $200something fix with our appliance guy. I don't think anything has been done to the washer, but its motor seems to struggle with bigger loads, and it really needs cleaning.
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I hadn't considered the possibility of not selling, honestly. Houses do go in my neighborhood, it's just the general market that's kind of inconsistent. But...I guess be sad and live staged longer? That would be more psychologically stressful than financially--having to maybe be ready every day to vacate for a showing? Meh. My home is my hole I crawl into, lol.
Painting and staging won't cost us too much. I expected to write a check. This house isn't worth bathroom or kitchen renovations or anything like that.
I'd actually be fine adding on, but DH has vetoed it. We have 1/2 acre fenced, quiet cul-de-sac, we've planted apple trees and blackberry bushes. Distance is good from the places we go to.
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The realtor seems to take this as a given. The lender wasn't so sure, though. I could well be confused. I'm thisclose to demanding a double move. Sticky widgets there being a) we have 2 large breed dogs, chickens, finches, a fish, and a hamster (yowzers!), b) lease terms (usually a year; we can't float rent + mortgage or we wouldn't be having this conversation), and c) I don't know if my family could live without all their "stuff" in storage for that long. ;)
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The market is...wonky here. Some things sell within a few weeks, some things sit for months, a few for years. This is not a busy season, really. And this one we're interested in that started this will really need an inspection, which means putting in an offer (and it being accepted), which means listing...
Actually what really started this was a ridiculously good deal; I bet someone's in the process of flipping it. It lasted less than a week.
Building? Is that even advisable? I hate the aesthetic of new homes and the floor plan of older homes, lol.
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Disclaimer: I know we're nuts and probably annoying to work with. My only defense is I warned the realtor in advance.
So, we need more space. We are at about 235 sq.ft. per person, and we have 6 indoor pets (4 are thankfully little, but require habitats). No garage, basement, attic, shed, bat cave, you get the idea. I have a 200 sq.ft. storage unit I'm using in place of a garage.
What we want: 2+ acres, 4+ bedrooms, no city limits, preferably at least one form of outdoor storage, fenced yard. Unfortunately, all of that rarely exists in our area within our budget. So the whole thing is like grabbing popcorn, if that makes sense.
The catch(es): our house is not ready to list. It needs painting and staging at minimum. A few fixes here and there. I have a list. But DH doesn't want to do any of that unless we're ready to buy something. I don't really want to list it unless we're ready to buy, but I'm fine painting and staging and fixing (although I don't want to live in a staged home for 6 months, either). Plus, if one of our popcorns falls through, we have a house on the market and are not interested in settling for whatever's available. AND we're not averse to buying land and building.
Do we:
Just list it, sell it, and rent while we house hunt (or build)?
List it when we find something we want to put an offer on, hope it all works out, then take it off the market if it doesn't?
Stay here forever (I mean it's a perfect place to age)?
Something I haven't thought of?
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People who get a diversity visa go through exactly the same vetting (background checks, financial resources, and health requirements) that every other immigrant visa recipient gets. The type of visa he entered on in 2010 has nothing to do with this, unless we somehow assume that people from countries that are underrepresented in immigration to the US are inherently more dangerous than people from countries with more immigration to the US.
I'm sure some people will choose to assume just that. :(
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We're people, though, not machines. We can only handle so much input of any kind, but particularly the tragic kind. After a while, our mind/brain will just start shutting things out to preserve our sanity. No one human person can handle the world's sorrow, but the news media seems to disagree. Add in the bombardments from advertising, entertainment, and social media and it's amazing to me anyone retains sensibility at all.
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The rumor thing was just my concern when you asked "who should I tell?" I've seen very well meaning people mention things in confidence to some one, often in some "authority" position (like pastor's wife or volunteer youth leader), who then asks one person for advice, still in confidence, of course, who quietly mentions to another that family x had a prayer need, who suggests to family y that they ought to be careful letting their child get friendly with family x because...
Not that your situation would play out that way, but rumors are very easy to spread, even when everyone is acting with best intentions.
Ok, I see how it could sound like that. No, I would not do anything that could result in rumors like that.
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Weird combo. Good to know though!
But I'd like to know where the rumor thing came from? When did I even begin to imply I would be starting a rumor? Really it would be between telling the parents or the coordinator. Nowhere have I proposed to go talk to some random person about it or try to get the person expelled from the group. :confused1: The Hive excepted, of course; though I'm hoping I've been vague enough here.
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