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Oh Good Lord, do not FB something of that nature. Please.
That's an in person, 1 on 1 private conversation, and you can handle it like a lady of wisdom after you've slept on it a bit.
I hope your daughter is feeling better.
Just to make sure my intent was clear, I wanted to send her a private message on facebook (not post on her wall or anything) and ask her to please not discuss dd's homeschooling with her or in front of her as it seemed to make her anxious enough to become ill afterwards. My husband works long hours and chances are VERY high that I won't see her without dd. (And she and I are working - with dd present - at the book fair next week, which would give her opportunity to talk with dd. I felt it best to resolve this prior to next week.)
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I love helping out at our school's book fair (my dd10 still attends there for the rest of this year). The work is not difficult. An extra benefit this year is that since my youngest would be with me, she's allowed to pull books off the shelf, read them and put them back. (Librarian approved). I knew it would be a bit difficult this year since I broke a rib and hurt my hand a few weeks ago, but I asked a 'new' friend to sign up for some extra days so she could work with me. We did the set up yesterday and I'm scheduled to work Mon-Wed from 8:15 - 12:15.
I'm in an area where homeschooling is rather novel (we're in a rural area) and everyone's impression of homeschool is a nearby church that hosts a school (and is considered a homeschool, church school). For parents to actually take on that role (minus the organized homeschool, church school) is considered a bit extreme. I try to gauge the intent behind the comments before replying. Most are curious, some are 'ignorantly' curious and some are oddly hostile.
Yesterday, after setting up for the book fair, my friend, Debra, was slowly making her way to her car with lots of comments about not knowing what to do with herself since it was several hours to carpool. I mentioned that I was about to take DD7 to lunch and she commented about how hungry she was, as well. She seemed to be hinting for an invite and I like her, so she went to lunch with us.
We were chatting about the book fair and DD7's interest in magic (which had prompted Debra's daughter to take an interest in magic tricks) when I went to the buffet line to pick up dessert for DD. I was truly gone maybe 90 seconds. But when I came back, Debra was telling DD that at some point it would be time to learn how to get along with other kids. (Seriously?) We had pulled DD out of school during Christmas break after apparent school stress (daily vomiting, diarrhea, soiled clothing, headaches, lethargy, stomach aches, lots of medicine, medical procedures, etc) for the past 12 months. Interestingly enough, her school work was top of the class, but something was 'off' about school with her. Since coming home, all of her symptoms have resolved and she is off her medications completely.
I figured Debra's comment fell into the 'ignorantly curious' category. So I mentioned that at some point we weren't opposed to public school, but it would be a decision made by all of us. Then I smiled at DD and said that we were enjoying our homeschool and she was doing really well so I didn't think it would be anytime soon. Debra continued talking about how DD would need to get along with others and asked her if she wanted to go to college someday. DD said she did and Debra told her that she would need to get along with other kids to do college. I interrupted and told Debra that college was a long time from now (DD is in first grade) and reminded her that we pulled DD out due to anxiety issues that has taken a bit to resolve. She just couldn't let it go. She wanted to know if DD planned to get a job one day, etc. This was all done in the sweetest and nicest voice possible, but she's a smart lady - I don't understand why she didn't take the hints and change of subjects that I was giving her. I thought it was inappropriate to continue on.
She did mention that her son, in 3rd grade, went through some 'nervousness' and begged her to pull him out and homeschool but she refused. She said she didn't feel smart enough to do what trained teachers are taught to do. She also suggested that we look into the homeschool church since there are 'trained teachers' there as well.
I plan to send her a note on facebook asking that we not discuss this in front of dd again. Though dd smiled and appeared happy, when we got home, she went straight in the bathroom and was sick. Then she took a 4 hour nap. I wish I knew if my friend was ignorant or being hostile. I have very few friends here and I don't want to lose her, but my daughter comes first.
I don't think I handled yesterday well. Any suggestions on how to handle it better in the future? With my daughter present, confrontations would upset her. And I hate discussing with other people her anxiety right in front of her (although we talk to her about it privately). Thoughts?
ETA - I wanted to add that my intent was to send her a private message on facebook since I rarely see her without dd present. I have no intention of making this a public facebook thing. :) She and I are scheduled to work together Mon-Wed next week and I wanted to let her know privately that the discussion wasn't appropriate for dd to hear before we're all together again.
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Praying. I hope they are found soon!
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You can definitely start bringing her later in the morning to miss reading. Or even skipping days if she has a tummy/head ache from the stress and just tell her that the two of you will "do school" at home that day. I would let them know that your DD's health requires a shorter day (or fewer days) and let it go at that.
ETA: we did this for my youngest DD when kindergarten was killing her joy of learning thanks to a long-term sub who had no patience. We arrived late some days, left early on others, and some days just didn't show up at all.
Be careful if you go in late/leave early (usually will count as tardies and a certain number of tardies counts as an absence) or take days off. Although it's kindergarten, mandatory attendance typically still counts. I'd hate to see you get in trouble for truancy which might affect how they view your decision to homeschool (unwanted attention,etc).
If possible, I'd pull her out. I hated readwell. It was a poor fit for my daughter. If you can't, I'd make her anxiety known to the school and document (with the teacher) every instance your daughter complains of stomach aches, etc. If she's gluten intolerant, I'm guessing you have a gastro you see? If so, check with him about the stomach aches and double check that she's not getting into some type of gluten at school. (Chocolate milk can occasionally have malt in it for instance which schools serve).
I hope things are better for you soon. We had a similar situation with my daughter and pulled her out over the holidays.
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We're buying a Kindle Fire for dd10 and a regular kindle for dd7. The reason we selected a regular kindle for dd7 is because she likes to run her fingers under words as she reads. It doesn't work well with a touch screen!
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Thanks :)
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My daughter and I both have facebook accounts. I have her password and go in every so often. My BIL posts a lot of political links that are typically incorrect (as in they are not factual). They are either easily debunked on snopes or a simple google search would show that they are not true. I wouldn't mind a well-worded critical piece on a politician, but I get annoyed by the link and by the follow up comments. I think they make my BIL look foolish.
I went into my daughter's facebook and unsubscribed from my BIL so she won't see them. I specifically 'hid' one and then unsubscribed. Going back onto my own facebook, I noticed that the particular post I hid on my daughter's is also missing on mine. Since we share a computer, would that affect both of our settings? Or did he delete it? (I went to his wall, but that post is mising). I don't want to ask my sister because she would be very upset that I took BIL off my daughter's feed. (And she's already mad at me because I told her that he was using bad sources and not factual ones.)
If anybody knows the answer, I appreciate the help. Thanks :)
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I'm totally guessing, but I would add an egg and enough liquid to make it the right consistency and give it a go.
That said, we use Pamela's GF baking mix for pancakes, and everyone loves them. We make a few or a lot at a time, depending on what we need.
I'm guessing eggs, water and oil.
We use Pamela's as well and love them. I make a double batch on Sunday and we re-heat for the next few days in the microwave.
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I'm so sorry :grouphug:
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Thanks! We do have a lot of clothes. I think it will be easy for the next year for current clothes as my 10 and 7 yr old are starting to wear the same size. (10 yr old is very small for her age).
I'm starting to weed things out...
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My daughter has Celiac Disease, however, many people with gluten intolerance have similar symptoms. She has the typical GI issues, however, she also has brain fog. She's very bright, but sometimes can't remember simple things - she will calll a cow a "moo" and a dog, a "bark". She knows it's wrong, but can't piece the right words together. She also can't follow directions (unload the dishwasher, set the table and wipe off the chairs) without some confusion.
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My husband insists that all the kids' clothing can be kept in their closets, including all seasonal clothing. I'm used to buckets upon buckets of clothing. I will say that dressing my youngest is much easier now that she's home-schooled. (Not that she's a slob, but I don't worry about whether the sleeves are too short or if it matches or looks a bit worn).
My 10 yr old loves clothing. My 12 yr old has special clothing as she can't manage zippers/buttons so it's all elastic and pull-over (and hand me downs after her are not desired by my mini fashionista).
People have given us clothing that I save until it fits.
I have buckets upon buckets of clothing. Hubby says it's time to toss it if it's not working.
We have two very large walk-in closets for the girls.
Does anyone else keep all season clothing in their kids closets? Help me see that it can be done or save me time by assuring me it can't.
Thanks!
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My 12 yr old (because of her autism) has never really played appropriately. It's my 10 and 7 yo DD's that really don't play. They have asked for those toys (except for the dollhouse, but really, what girl doesn't want a dollhouse? I loved mine growing up!) but then seemed disappointed in them after a few days/hours.
I'm glad to know that I'm not the only one. :D I'll start boxing things up for storage or to send to my nieces.
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Am I the only parent who has kids like these? Am I doing something wrong?
My kids, as a general rule, don't play with toys. They request them - but after a few days, they are doing other things.
I'm defining toys as - dollhouse (absolutely gorgeous with full set of furniture and two 'families'), barbies, hairstyle doll, zhu zhu pets, those little robotic looking bugs, etc.
What they prefer to do - video games (mostly dance revolution which I don't mind), drawing, reading, outside, building blocks, crafts (either packaged or created), board games.
I guess it's not necessarily a bad problem, but it just seems odd (and wasteful when I think of all the money I've spent). They have great imagination, they just don't play with things that I think kids typically play with.
But maybe I'm the odd one and everyone's kids do this?
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I think the answers today are not the same as answers would be 50 years ago. There was a time when the 'right and good' thing to do would be to support your parents in their 'golden years'.
However, these days, supporting four people usually means (due to divorce) supporting eight people. I'm intrigued at the number of those replying who state that their parents are helping out other kids (the posters' siblings). (We have that as well).
I think each family's case will be very individual. For us, we will probably support (through paying bills and dropping off food) my father, very little for my mother (who has retirement and is frugal), very little for my MIL (inheritance that is managed for her), and probably a good deal for my FIL (money).
We have a fair amount of land and wouldn't be opposed to building another small house for family members simply for our own convenience. As heartless as it sounds, if they need our help because they haven't planned well, it needs to be convenient for us to help them.
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I agree that she needs to see a doctor if she's still crying and in pain. When pain wakes a child up from sleeping, that is significant.
I also want to add that if an eardrum has burst, you shouldn't put anything in it. My daughter's have had an eardrum burst twice and it healed without any intervention. HOWEVER, after the eardrum burst, all ear pain went away AND their hearing was affected in that they heard things very loudly. It's odd that she can't hear at all from that ear.
I wasn't sure from your post if you were going to use the antibiotic or not? I hope you do use it just in case there is a deeper infection in her ear.
I hope you are all better soon. Good luck in your search for a pediatrician. :grouphug:
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Call the manager at work and ask them what to do (they will need to file a claim) this should be covered by workers comp insurance. They may have a policy that she has to be seen and there may be a time limit.
I had forgotten about that. Medical treatment should be covered under workman's comp, including if she had to leave work early due to the burn.
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My Sister is very high-strung and has anxiety problems. She is having a lot of difficulties and I know that today will be stressful for her (nothing serious, she's having a birthday party for my 3 yr old niece, but her anxiety has made this party into a problem). My mother is there helping out. My sister has had a lot of anxiety lately and things are going downhill for her.
I can't explain further but would appreciate your thoughts and/or prayers for her.
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I think medical attention (after-care or emergency) would be appropriate.
However, if you don't want to do that, cold water on the hands, burn ointment and over the counter pain relief. If that doesn't make things MUCH better, then that would indicate (to me anyway) that she needs further treatment.
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I think you did exactly right. I think condoning bullying behavior is as bad as the bully him/herself. I have called parents prior to a party and explained that a certain child was a bully and asked if she would be there. (And every single time the other parents assured me that the child had not been invited due to bad behavior). I would have definitely kept my daughter home from a party had a certain individual been invited.
I set the tone for my daughter and eventually she also refused to tolerate this certain person's actions (at school) and encouraged her friends to not tolerate it either. (The bully was eventually suspended for five days in 2nd grade). (And, the bully was truly awful, she put bread in my daughter's food at lunchtime (my Celiac kid), pushed and shoved kids, broke other kids personal items, etc).
I agree hold your head high and I think your note to the birthday parent was appropriate. You may (since you live so close) end up in confrontation with the parent (or the other parent may choose to apologize) so plan out now what you plan on saying.
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Our border collie wandered up from the road and (after trying to find an owner) we kept him. Goodness at the chewing stage! But after that, he's been awesome. If we ever get another dog, I want another collie. He's phenomenal with the kids and somehow knows that our oldest needs to be watched carefully. If she runs away from us, he 'catches' her and herds her back to us. He follows her whenever she is outside, waiting patiently if she's at my mom's house, etc. He sits through 'hairstyles' with my youngest, including wearing crowns of flowers. And he's a phenomenal soccer player. ;)
But anyway, yes, adoption is great but find out why the dog was given up by the previous owners. I'm not sure why our dog was dropped off on a rural country road but it was a great thing for all of us.
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I'm glad you have a chance to see the grandkids. I sometimes look after my nieces who are small and we have a similar situation (without the hostility). I try to keep a 'little kid kit' available. We keep a spare playyard with drop in bassinett in storage and I have all our old fisher price toys in storage that I can pull out. We keep plug covers and cabinet locks in a box.
When we hear they are coming, we do a quick make-over of the house, safety-proof things and put up medicines. We put up baby gates over certain parts of the house and set out toys. We also make a quick trip to the store for little kid food and also comfort food for the rest of us. The kids know they will get extra junk food when the nieces show up. :)
Good luck with it all. It's a labor of love but I think it will have benefits for you in the future. :)
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Any suggestions for crock pot meals that my 7 yr old can assemble? I'm doing all the veggie chopping, but I'm at a loss for ideas other than roast meals and soups. Any suggestions would be appreciated. :)
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So sorry! I am in pain for you! I, too, was looking forward to hearing about the movie!
A Friend left me Speechless Yesterday (long)
in General Education Discussion Board
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Thanks for the replies so far. It has occurred to me that this friendship might be passive-aggressive at best. It has also occurred to me that this friendship might not last which saddens me a bit as I have few friends here.
I wanted to reiterate that I did edit my original post to indicate that I would be sending a private message to my friend. I am not fond of facebook wars and am quite non-confrontational unless pressed. I have no intention of making this a public spectacle on facebook.