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I understand the frustration of parents being disengaged from their child's is- I am a teacher and have been frustrated in trying to contact parents. I just don't think legislating parents to come to a conference is going to make a difference though. I have parents who I have finally spoken to and nothing really changes. I don't think this is going to have the desired effect- you can't legislate a parent's interest in their child.
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I just went on ebay and realized that there are so many versions...the 1991, 1981 and even an earlier one. So, now what...I am thinking of the 1981 being a pretty safe bet...what do you guys think??
Yes.
After I read Faith's comment, I agree -- dc don't ask to play it much. The new version has 3 fold sections, it seems longer and more drawn out than the older ones.
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It is...and it also became popular for women of different races to refer to themselves as "women of color"--but they CHOSE that reference and use it in a positive way, I guess. Hmm.
That's what I was thinking, don't hear "colored" anymore but have been hearing "[people] of color." Which in itself is interesting when you think about it.
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When I say damp, I mean the way they sometimes come out of the dryer--with ever so slightly damp waistbands or collars or pockets. I'm trying to cut back on dryer usage, and I hate having to add time to a load for a few items with these damp-ish spots, but I'm always worried about mildew if I fold them and they're not completely dry.
What do you think?
You might try doing the opposite if you have space ... hang things to dry from a rack or bar, then fluff in dryer for 5 or 10 min. to put the soft back into jeans/towels, take any wrinkles out of clothes, etc.
It helps to wash similar things together when you do this, that way all the synthetics will dry fast, shirts can be hung on hangers, towels and heavy things are together.
I use a folding drying rack in the garage. I've also had a bar hanging in the laundry area before.
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Yes, it's very current and goofy, materialistic to the max.
There are about 1/2 doz. spaces for lawsuits. Also cosmetic surgery, flat-screen tv, buy an suv, donate to African orphans, win the Idol show, hire maid and butler, buy mountain resort cabin, etc.
One is open up a daycare collect $5,000 from other players for every child. So that's their version of life, I guess.
Dh and I just roll our eyes when we play with dc (we've even had to explain a couple). If you get your hands on an older version, it may be less "modern" but it's also a good bit more "child-like."
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Who is the author of this book? I'm interested in reading it.
Thanks. :001_smile:
Amy's post is a link to the book. I just clicked on the (blue) title of the book and it linked me to the Amazon page for this book.
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What she said. People who have that inner "what about me" whine should go read "Hold On to Your Kids". Parenting is not as simple as a list of dos and don'ts, contrary to what many parenting advice books/articles/etc. boil it down to. Parenting is not administering cognitive behavioral therapy. I've seen young parents scrambling for answers from books, talk shows, workshops, etc. when we have the answer within us. The answer is that it takes decisive love, hard work and willingness to stay consistent with the hard work.
It is so much about the bond and everything else, in an ideal, healthy relationship, flows from that. Then the real, priceless payoffs happen.
Yes. We're not perfect, but we enjoy our time together.
:iagree: And, I know too many women like that. They can't wait for summer to be over and school only just let out 2 weeks ago. They groan about having to spend "whole weekends" with them. They also complain that they don't really know their own kids anymore. Well, what the heck do you expect when they're in school 7 hours a day, then in daycare or aftercare until you get off work (another 2-3 hours), and on top of that, you do everything you can to pass them off on others every evening and weekend with very time-consuming sports programs? How are you supposed to truly know someone you only see for a few waking hours a week?I routinely get asked how I can manage to spend so much time with ds. Or, conversely they comment on how it's good that I work because then I have a break away from my family. I honestly don't "get" people who act like their lives are so inconvenienced by their children. My question remains, "why did you have them? Or, why did you keep having them?"
What's worse is that their kids KNOW their parents don't like being around them much. I can't imagine how crappy that must feel. It is truly beyond my sphere of comprehension.
Isn't it amazing? We even had a couple friend/neighbors who were SAHMs and put their dc in one summer activity camp after another all summer long....maybe one week off for a little vacation with family. So much for a break for the kids.
I ask myself the same question, especially with folks who had troubles with fertility or adoption and still spend little time together. Almost like the kids are little trophies.
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We read a ton at our house and it seems that's going to be the bulk of our 'official' K year. I thought it would be fun to keep track of our read alouds in the kids' notebooks. My first idea was to make a copy of the cover of each book and slide them into page protectors, but I wonder if that will get to be too much.
What do you do to remember the books you've enjoyed throughout the year? A typed list? A picture list of thumbnails of the book covers? Do you keep some sort of record of books read independently as well??
I am an obvious newbie, but you will be seeing a lot more of me the closer and closer we get to our official start date :tongue_smilie:!
Thanks for the help!
When dc were young readers, I would make a door decoration -- one year was ice cream cones. I cut a bunch of ice cream scoop shapes out of different colors. When dc finished a book (even the little bob books at the very beginning!) they or I would write the name of the book and tape it onto the cone. By the end of the year, they had teetering cones of icecream stretching up to the top of the door. Another year it was a treasure chest that we filled with gold coins.
We also used to keep a running list in one of our notebooks. I would just write the title and author. When dc started reading, I would add an initial after the book noting who did (some or all) reading. It was a great way to flip back through to see all the books or if we wanted to look something up.
Your photocopies of covers is a neat visual for all of you. Even if you don't stick with it long-term, it'll be a fun reminder of your early days.
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Yep. That's what I'd do -- post a hygiene schedule with the explanation that it's for bathroom traffic control or family activity scheduling.
Forgot to add, dc here used to like Tysons chicken nuggets when they were little. That should be a decent substitute for an hour's drive to McD's which I would not do unless you were planning an excursion.
Also for the schedule, at least in the beginning, I'd be in the habit of checking it and/or checking things off with all the kids. But....if she's been this catered to, you may have to remember to remind her each day. ;)
Sounds like a va-ca with auntie is just what she needs! Glad you love her so much.
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Shower schedule because of so many in the house.... "It's hot, we all need to have a shower schedule... I know we all need showers once a day since it's so hot... so... K, your time to do your shower is... shall we say 6pm, M... yours is 6:30...etc.... Please do your check list while you're in there... You know, rules of hygiene go.... "Brush teeth, take shower, wash hair" or whatever... OK, how does that sound everyone?" :)
Yep. That's what I'd do -- post a hygiene schedule with the explanation that it's for bathroom traffic control or family activity scheduling.
Go ahead and tack on a few chores for each -- clearing table, dishwasher, sweeping floor, trash. Tell her you've included her to feel "part of the family."
Doesn't have to be elaborate, simple grid with names, items, times if necessary. Post it somewhere obvious like fridge and/or bath door.
Good luck, that's just a bit bizarre with a girl that old. I'm often reminding a boy years younger though, so I understand your :001_huh: reaction!
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Sorry for my silliness but what are you referring to when you say YE?
We used Apologia Astronomy last year and LOVED it. This year we're starting the Botany series of Apologia. The point of view they provide in the books is a Christian outlook of it, is that what you're talking about?
We enjoyed this book as well.
If you know the book covers things you'd rather not, scan ahead like I did and edit as you go. Overall, the positives outweighed anything we skipped -- great photos, the way it's organized, the little experiments, the pace of the chapters, etc. They also (used to) offer an all-in-one experiment box that you can buy to have everything on hand, if you like. Otherwise there's an overview list to plan ahead.
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Oh..I was kind of wondering about all of the excitement:). I think I was a 15 yr old when I watched the cheesy one. Now my interest is peaked.
That was sort of the era of miniseries, lots of 'em.
The book is good too, gives more of an understanding of the characters as you would expect. Gaskell's other books have done well on film too.
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Cool, that's what I was thinking. You think like 20 min covered and 10 uncovered would be good?
(Actually it's rainy here too but we're hoping it won't last all day and we do have a building we're using with tables and chairs to sit and eat and chat and play board games and do face painting in and so on but we're hoping the weather clears enough for the kids to go play outside, too, where there's a big park. I'm putting on their oldest shoes and clothes and expecting them to get a bit muddy! lol)
Thanks for the quick response!
Last 10 min. usually does it. Have a lovely day, muddy or no. At least the food'll be great!
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Is that the movie with Patrick Swayze? I remember years ago watching it and yes, there was a swoon or two. Being the only female in my house, I do not get to watch many movies like that....thanks for the memories:001_smile:
No no no.
I made the same mistake several years ago. Dh and I sat there thinking :confused: what's up with this mess? It's a cheesy 80s miniseries with lots of B actors and great past-their-prime actors like Jimmy Stewart.
This North&South is a brilliant BBC piece (also in parts) with Richard Armitage. Totally different, set in the North and South of Great Britain.
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About to stick two trays of baked ziti in the oven for a homeschool group picnic I'm leaving for in less than an hour.
Should I cover the trays with aluminum foil before putting them in? If so, should I remove the foil after a certain amount of time? How long should I put them in for?
I have the oven at 350 and the trays are ready to go in.
Thanks! :D
I uncover dishes like that (mac&cheese, etc.) for the last 10 min. or so to let the edges and tops brown up a bit. Some folks like the gooey parts, some like the crispier edges. Have fun, it's pouring rain here.
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My haircut from today.
That's adorable!
You've changed it a bit from your avatar. ;)
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Even though it's very, very tempting right now. Since December we've been in a leased house (we had a house fire late Oct, then my sister died, then my dh had pneumonia (twice) and we finally found a contractor to work with. We have 18 days to get out of our leased house, have carpets cleaned, minor repairs done. We've been paying double rent and mortgage on our own for a couple months now and need to get back down to one.
I still have smoke damaged items in the garage I need to sort and throw or organize.
We have been working 3-5 days a week on the house (along with the contractor and various sub-contractors) but we still don't have a kitchen sink or working bathrooms installed.
There is not a single floor finished at the house yet.
18 days till we need to BE.THERE.
Both of my older dd's are out of state, and no help right now.
My dh, 15 ds and I have been working like we're crazed.
We got the last contractors bill today and it takes us dangerously low to our total for the house. We still have hours of labor costs.
I covet any prayers, good wishes and warm thoughts you have to spare for us.
Oh Lisa, what a tremendous amount to bear in 9 months time! Definitely praying for all of you. :grouphug:
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Not on your list -- Thomas Sowell. He's a brilliant economist and then some. Very thought-provoking writer, he's got several excellent books.
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The thing that is working for him is age. Puberty made him hungry, so he started eating meat. Lots of meat. ..... He now will eat salad, but no dressing.
.... In the last 2 years he started eating meat (burgers, steaks pork chops regular chicken) and salad. He won't eat fruit.
...... I've told him his palate is so discerning that he ought to go into the wine business!!
A few years younger and this is my ds!! He can taste the nuances in food so keenly. I've tried sneaking veggies into things, in very small amounts and he's able to discern the texture difference, color, flavor, it's amazing.
But same here, he's started eating voracious amounts of protein in the last year as he's approaching puberty. :001_smile:
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I have no clue how to deal with it when the kids get older. From the beginning we expected our children to eat what was placed before them. The idea of picky eating is decidedly American (or perhaps a developed country problem), imo.
Most people in the world don't have the luxury of being picky eaters. They are hungry and they eat what is available. Kids eat a huge variety of foods the world over. I don't know of any person in Thailand who cooks their kid fish sticks and tater tots because they refuse to eat Pad Thai. I'm convinced this is a learned behavior.
I had this very issue last night with kale. My 10yo usually loves kale, but I made crispy kale and she thought it was too salty (I don't usually cook with salt and had sprinkled on a bit). Crying, whining, etc. Whatever. She had to sit at the table until her kale was gone. If she had pushed it until bedtime I would have served her cold limp previously-crispy kale for breakfast. My kids know I mean business, so they rarely give me grief about it. In a world full of starving children, their missing a meal or two isn't going to make me feel too sympathetic.
Let me be clear though. I don't make my children clean their plates, but I expect them to give each food a decent effort. They don't have to like the food, but they must eat a minimum amount each and every time I serve it. I also allow for variation. My son doesn't care too much for cooked broccoli. Okay, fine. When I make broccoli, I save a few raw pieces for him. I'm cool with that, but he still has to eat his broccoli. And we are the same as the pp. No seconds of anything unless you've eaten everything on your plate. No dessert unless you've eaten your healthy food.
And yes, kids follow in their parent's footsteps. I think it is a wonderful gift to their children, when a picky parent puts on a smile and eats that food even when they don't like it.
We have this with carrots, so we do allow the substitute. And I remember being that way -- raw vegetables I have always eaten, the cooked version much less appealing.
Daisy, your comment about adults cracked me up. My dad announced that he'd eaten all his vegetables on the 4th!.....He was surprised when my mother handed him a plate full of food, including fresh beets, squash and green beans. It was a big deal for him and good for dc to see. I can only remember him eating 2 or 3 different green vegetables when we were growing up.
Like I said earlier -- it's taken us baby steps to get here. If you'd told me 2 years ago what dc would be eating (sometimes even requesting :blink: ) I wouldn't have believed it.
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......But I don't tolerate pickiness. For new foods, they absolutely must try it. And trying isn't just touching a particle of food to the tip of the tongue and declaring it unfit for human consumption. It's a minimum of 3 bites. One to taste, 2 to confirm an impression, and three to make sure. They may then decline to eat the rest, but absolutely no conversation about how disgusting it is or rude remarks. If they stoutly refuse to eat something at first offer, it will show up again at lunch or dinner the next day until they try it. And like others have said, I find that with repeated exposure to foods, they become more willing to eat things.
........So I told him how proud I was that he ate it without complaining and how very mature he'd become about trying food both at home and in public. We've talked many times before about how you have to do things in life that you don't like, including eating certain foods. The polite thing to do as a guest in someone's home is to at least eat a token amount without any reference to the fact that it's not a favorite. And the best place to practice this particular manner is at home. It helps to treat trying new foods/eating less-favored ones as a life skill, a grace that they need to learn to demonstrate in the presence of others. It's taken a few years for the lesson to sink in, but my boy seems finally to have learned it. Perservere!
This is the route we've taken.
We were guilty of coddling poor behavior and instant dislike for awhile (NOT saying that you are!) til dh and I just stopped doing it.
We make the effort to be sure there's something "edible" for dc at each meal, so they're not going hungry. They have to give a decent try with the unfamiliar/not favorite foods without negative comment or bad faces.
I also try to be flexible with how they eat it. Ds is happy with pears IF he can eat the slices with a fork. And I do respect their opinions about meat...they can have a bite of the main meat protein or skip it.
We are having them cook with us a good deal more which helps. If they're invested in the meal, they tend to be happier with it even if it's a less than favorite veg. or something.
They're still not fabulous with fruits and veg. but they've come a long way. And they've figured out that eating something they're not keen about is easier if they pair it with a piece of pasta, bit of cheese or bread, etc.
:grouphug: I feel your pain though. Ds1 detests squash which we made with the grandparents recently. I saw that gag reflex rise on his face and thought uhoh. But he had a piece of bread with it and swallowed just fine. For him, I think part of it is sensory with some foods -- he doesn't like the feel of them.
They have a cousin who could be really unbearable about foods/preparations to the point of throwing tantrums in public into his teens. I sooo don't want dc to have patterns of behavior like that. Same perspective as HLDoll, these are skills you'll need in the world.....
Baby steps is how we did it.
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Also, I am capable of saying "no."
Somebody give me a medal; I solved this problem for my family without the government's help.
For both of you! :coolgleamA: :hurray: :thumbup1: :thumbup: :cheers2: :hurray:
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And yet, it turned into one.
It's debatable by whom, I think. ;)
Like I said, we each and every one of us could choose to be offended by numerous posts here every single day. Or choose not to be.
To recognize that a poster is in the midst of an emotional issue and asking for support is a thoughtful response, whether one responds or not. To interpret nuances, implied slights, etc., across cable modems, well ....
My world just ended....
in General Education Discussion Board
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:grouphug: Kari
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Beautiful wise words by so many here.
My sister had a friend who got pregnant at 14. The one big difference was that her young boyfriend was mature beyond his years. They got married near the end of high school. The grandparents all helped care for the baby. Over 30 years later, that "girl" is still married, they had 5 children and are now great-grandparents. God will see you through this and bless your faithfulness in ways you cannot even imagine.