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    Cheese Fondue Recipe???

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    We are celebrating Christmas with my parents/brother's family this Friday evening and plan to serve finger foods. I would love to make a cheese fondue...only I don't have a tried and true recipe. Care to share yours?

     

    By the way, I don't live near any great food stores, so my cheese options are limited to what I can find at Kroger. Thanks!

    What do you want in your STOCKING, this year?

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    Here's the list that I emailed to dh:

     

    - business card holder (something I can carry in my purse)

    - iPhone car charger

    - ear buds

    - Pandora charm (something with a little color on it)

    - Burts Bees stuff

    - Nice body wash (even stuff from Target or Walmart - just something that looks luxurious)

    - Amazon gift card

    - Gift card to local nail place for dd and I to get a pedi.

     

    I LOVE stockings and have always dreamed of him filling mine. It never quite works out like I want, so this year I decided to give him some clear direction.

     

    Good luck!

    Would you let your 7yo ds have a TV in his room?

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    Some families feel strongly that TVs should not be in bedrooms. Other families don't. However, I would be more concerned that you don't want TVs in bedrooms, but your dc know they can go behind your back to their uncle in order to break your family rules.

     

    I agree with what you are saying here. However, I don't know that ds really knew that we didn't want him to have a tv in his bedroom. He had been noticing lately that some of his friends have TVs in their rooms and when his uncle asked what he wanted for Christmas, that is what he asked for.

    Would you let your 7yo ds have a TV in his room?

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    He sounds very generous. I wonder if you think he might get hurt feelings because maybe his kids have TVs in their rooms? Maybe it seems like a judgment of his parenting?

     

    BINGO! His kids DO have TVs in their rooms. His kids actually have a lot of things that I wouldn't want my kids to have. And I know that he thinks that some of my parenting choices are a bit "weird", like homeschooling (although he has never said it out loud). I guess I'm a bit worried that he will feel like I am judging him (and I didn't even realize that! Thanks Alte Veste Academy!!!).

    Would you let your 7yo ds have a TV in his room?

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    Does your brother have kids yet?

     

    I would very lovingly thank him for his incredible generosity, sincerely. Then I would ask him if he would prefer to exchange it for (insert something else your ds wants a great deal) or let it be in a communal area. Let him decide. But you shouldn't change your value due to his feelings.

     

     

    Yes, he does have kids (4 of them!). My brother has done very well financially and has always been good to my kids. As a matter of fact, for Christmas this year, he is giving 3 of his kids iPhones (the 4th is only 2yo) and is giving my kids their old iPod Touches after Christmas. Since the iPod Touches won't be given to my kids until after Christmas, he also bought them "regular" Christmas gifts (not sure what though). He is the guy who gave my ds a DS Lite when he was only 6yo. He also gave my dd both a little tricycle AND a battery-operated ride-on toy when she was only 1yo. He really loves to give...and he has the ability to give.

     

    But I agree that I shouldn't change my values to spare his feelings. I am trying to figure out how to say No (I'm really bad at saying that word!). I hate to hurt his feelings when he is trying to do something nice.

    Would you let your 7yo ds have a TV in his room?

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    I think it depends. Do you have cable or satellite service?

     

    DS 14 and DS 11 have small TVs in their room, but since we don't have any cable or satellite, they can't watch regular programming on them. This really limits their TV time. DD has a DVD player, and can watch movies we own or check some out from the library. DS has a game system hooked up to his, but rarely uses it.

     

    We do have Netflix (streaming only) but the kids can't access it from their rooms.

     

    I think we were typing at the same time. We have no cable and stream Netflix through the Wii. If we allowed him to have the tv, it would have to be for DVDs only.

    Would you let your 7yo ds have a TV in his room?

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    OP here...I have always said no tv in the kids' rooms, BUT...

     

    My brother is a very generous guy and he really wants to give ds the tv. It is a 22 inch flat screen! When brother asked ds what he wanted for Christmas, this is what ds asked for. My brother would love to do this for him.

     

    We do not have cable and only stream Netflix through the Wii. Therefore, ds would only be able to watch DVDs on the tv in his room.

     

    I would like to have another tv in our house, as there are times that it would be nice for the kids to watch something while I get to watch my own thing (I rarely watch tv). I like the idea of asking my brother if the gift could be put somewhere else in the house, but I actually think he wouldn't like that. He wants to get ds a tv for his room because this is specifically what ds asked for. It wouldn't be the same if it was a tv for somewhere else in the house.

     

    I guess I just hate to tell my brother no. It is such a kind thing to offer...it feels weird for some reason to reject it.

    Would you let your 7yo ds have a TV in his room?

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    We don't have TVs in the kids rooms nor do we ever plan on having TVs in the kids rooms. They can watch in the den or sometimes in our bedroom. I would, personally, probably direct the giver to something different - depending on the cost of the TV, maybe an iPod touch or Nintendo DS type hand-held device or something non-tech.

     

    The giver is my brother and he already has the tv (says he didn't buy it directly for ds and I believe him). We only have one other tv in the house (in the family room).

    How far would you go to be able to continue to homeschool?

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    Thank you so much for all of your responses! I never ever dreamed that I would be in this position. When we bought our house 10 years ago (and then when we took out our second mortgage :rolleyes: 5 years ago), I had no idea that the entire housing market would crash. I also had no idea that dh would end up out of work for almost a year, which would cause us to have to move. I also never thought that we would both have jobs that require travel (I travel a few times a month while dh works out of town each week). Our jobs just don't work together. I have to rely on too many people to take care of our kids and it is causing stress on our family. I am willing to get a more "normal" part-time job, but I would definitely take a pay cut, which would mean that we couldn't afford our mortgage. It is a tough decision.

     

    I am a Christian and I wholeheartedly believe that God will provide for my family. I am trying to trust in Him right now. I just wish I were a bit better at it.

     

    Thanks again for sharing your thoughts!

    How far would you go to be able to continue to homeschool?

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    This is difficult because I gather the house in the other state holds little value for you right now and has become a financial burden. Have you considered short sale? There is also deed in lieu of foreclosure, not sure if it shows up different on your record than regular foreclosure.

    It boils down to ethics, more or less. Can you take a job and then make the payments? Are you willing to try this for one year, two years? Is there a chance that the house will sell or is there little hope? Can you try for a job that enables you to continue homeschooling and work evenings? Would a small business like selling "Pampered Chef" or "Tupperware" meet your needs?

     

    I work a part-time job and earn a good salary. Dh has a newish job (great opportunity) but works out of town. Our jobs are not meshing at all.

     

    We are completely underwater in our house. We tried renting it out, but after a few months our tenants stopped paying. Now we are working out how to get them to pay and get them out. The house is over 3 hours away, so this is stressful.

     

    If we continue with things as they are, the kids will have to go to school and we will continue to be stressed out all the time (due to our house and my job).

     

    It is possible that I could quit...but then we couldn't afford to keep the house.

     

    We are still in the preliminary "thinking stage". It is definitely a moral/ethical decision for me. I almost feel that I'm having to choose between what is best (as deemed by society) and what is best for my family (as deemed by me). However, there is overlap, and I realize this.

     

    I just wish there were an obvious black and white answer to our problem.

    How far would you go to be able to continue to homeschool?

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    Posted · Edited by mandos mom

    Would you let your home foreclose (assuming you have somewhere else to live)? Would you declare bankruptcy? Would you quit a well-paying job?

     

    Just some things I'm thinking about these days.

     

     

    ETA: I added this in a post below, but thought I would add it here as well.

    Okay...what if you were no longer living in the house (instead living in a rental in another state). Would you feel right letting the house that you own foreclose so that you could continue to homeschool?

    Survivor? Anyone?

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    Love, love, love Survivor. It is actually dh's and my "show" that we watch together each week.

     

    I actually love Coach...and Ozzy. I find myself rooting for both of them. I also like Cochran (he's smart) and I agree about Little Hans. He just seems like he has something else going on.

     

    And to the PP who posted about age...I totally agree! I'm watching the show and find myself relating to the younger people. Then when I force myself to think about it, I realize that I am closer in age to the oldies. :tongue_smilie:

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