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  1. 1 minute ago, kbutton said:

     

    I fed both my bottle-fed and breastfed kids on demand, and they found their own routines--neither would have tolerated any kind of "adjustment" to their feeding schedule that they didn't initiate. Neither would eat at all if they weren't hungry. If they were hungry, they wouldn't do anything else.

     

    Thankfully they love to nurse and both girls are always down to eat 😂

    I think it would be really incredibly awfully difficult to ditch tandem feeding. They are usually hungry around the same time anyway.

     

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  2. I never answered the questions about reversing the order to eating before sleeping. Nursing them asleep and putting them to bed doesn’t work, if they do have reflux then that’s a bad idea too, and if she tries to hold them out to eat after awake time then they tend to not eat as good and fall asleep too soon. 

  3. 23 minutes ago, KSera said:

    !! Wow, that is HUGE with babies that young, particularly ones whi otherwise don’t sleep well. Honestly, I think it sounds increasingly like she’s trying to get them to sleep too much. I never had a baby sleep that long at that age so that sounds amazing to me.

     

     


     

    It is a huge blessing that they sleep great at night with her. They have a mattress on the floor and she sleeps between them: not sure what they’ll do when they start being more mobile though. They may occasionally need some mild soothing but not much and I think nursing them individually then has helped them to stretch it out since she doesn’t have to wake anyone up to nurse. 
     

    She isn’t putting them to bed until the start to get grumpy and tired. They seem to be happy and then tired.

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  4. I think I miscommunicated somewhere lol. DD is not waking up two sound asleep babies just because it has been two hours. They don’t sleep good enough for that. And she never wakes them at night. They go 5-7 hour stretches and she doesn’t tandem at night. She occasionally has to wake up one sleeping baby because the other one is hungry and it’s nursing time and she tandem feeds. Keeping them on the same schedule is the only sanity she has rn. 

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  5. 44 minutes ago, TravelingChris said:

    Why should she wake them up every two hours?  By 3 months, my kids were sleeping about 5  hours at night.

    During the day. They sleep a 5-7 hour stretch at night.  

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  6. 1 minute ago, cintinative said:

    She is extremely likely NOT to be doing this, but I followed some very bad advice at first and woke my firstborn to eat. So if in the very, very rare circumstance that she is doing that, you can tell her it is totally okay to nurse or feed babies and put them immediately to sleep.  The only caveat is, if they do have reflux, you need to hold them upright at least 20-30 minutes after feeding.  

    Praying for your dd. I remember how helpless I felt with the sleep situation.  


    Everything says they shouldn’t sleep more than 2 hours or they’ll move into nighttime sleep mode so she wakes them then and feeds them and then has awake time. She isn’t afraid to nurse them to sleep. It’s just that the minute she moves them, no matter how slow or careful or gently, they scream. 

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  7. 46 minutes ago, kbutton said:

    Re: the bolded...not all babies sleep that much. One of my two slept like the baby books say for 3 weeks. That's it. My kids needed drastically less sleep.

    I agree that sleeping with the babies that many hours is not helpful to your DD and that this is not normal. 

    I am a little confused about one aspect of their sleep--are they tired or just cranky? It sounds like they don't sleep deeply at all, but they are catnapping all the time. I know people sometimes do things to try to keep their babies awake for longer stretches so that they settle down and sleep better by adding extra stimulation (play, talking, singing, rubbing the soles of feet, changing positions, etc.).


     

    They do seem like they are tired?? They get cranky and tired. They are happy after nursing until tired. DD takes them outdoors or reads to them. They seem happy then but then they get tired and cannot seem to go to sleep on their own. 

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  8. 41 minutes ago, HomeAgain said:

    Youngest ds didn't sleep as an infant.  He was a terrible, terrible baby, angry at not being able to do anything and he took it out on everyone. 

     

     

    1 minute ago, kbutton said:

    If you replace "sleep" with "settle/regulate" and "wear/wore" with "carried," that's my experience with my first. It's related to sleep in that people assume that cranky babies need more sleep, and I cannot describe the persecution (yes, that's the right word) for realizing and insisting that he did not need more sleep. The bolded is so very, very true. He's 2e, and he was BORED all the time. He understood far too much and could do far too little about it. Everything peeved him off. Did I say he was bored? He was bored, bored, bored. He slept better if he was stimulated every single minute of every day. I didn't even shower alone until he was 3 or so, and I had to keep a constant monologue going about everything we did because he was listening and putting the pieces together. 

     


     

    We’ve noticed the same thing with these girls!!!! They seem frustrated and they are smart, you can tell, they have so much figured out already. we joke they want to be toddlers but are stuck in infant bodies

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  9. The reason DD resolved to try crib training and letting them CIO (not our preferred method at all!!!) is that she’s tried everything else. Sitting there with them doesn’t work, rocking doesn’t work, etc. The sleep issues are only getting worse and she feels like the path they are on is just worse and worse sleep for them which isn’t healthy. So she didn’t see another way. 

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  10. 51 minutes ago, cintinative said:

    They sound so much like my first who was born four weeks early and was a silent refluxer.  Both of mine had reflux actually, but my first was the only one with silent reflux. They both HATED the car, swings, etc.  Being on their tummies was the best, but we did need medicine.

    If she is nursing, she could try going off dairy (all milk protein) and see if they are less fussy and go down more easily. Is there any sign of blood in their stool--even a tinge?  If so, that's an indication of a dairy allergy/intolerance.  It was really obvious (you could see the blood) with my second but not as obvious with my first (they did a test--sort of like litmus paper--of a diaper). 

    I'm so sorry. I know you aren't mom and here I am offering you advice.  

    Honestly, though, if I was her, I would be at the pediatrician wanting a closer look. 

     


     

    They had reflux before their tie release but they don’t seem to have it now? She is severely allergic to cow’s milk so is 100% dairy free at all time. 
     

    37 minutes ago, HomeAgain said:

    Youngest ds didn't sleep as an infant.  He was a terrible, terrible baby, angry at not being able to do anything and he took it out on everyone. 

    There were absolutely many days where I wore him everywhere so that he would sleep.  I taught some classes with him on my front, and another baby the same size on my back whose mom was also teaching.  Swaddling did not help.  He didn't want it.  He had a hammock he would tolerate, but not often.

    He outgrew his sleep issues at age 3.  Until then, we just kept trying.

     

     

    Yes they’ve hated the swaddles for a long time. There’s not a way to really wear two though. I know it would work if there were just one but not two, especially since DD is petite and they are getting bigger now. 
    She’s often said she would just wear a baby if there was one. 

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  11. Thanks for all of your thoughts. I will try to answer the questions and explain more. 

    They just aren't good sleepers. They rarely sleep in swings, carseats, strollers, etc. It is a lot of work to get them to sleep in the wrap but we can walk around and soothe until they do go to sleep. But that literally takes two people. It requires me or DSIL. She would let them sleep some on the nursing pillow but they are starting to outgrow it. They do not rock to sleep, ever, at all. I've tried and tried.

    In general, I really feel like these babies might have some sort of sleep issue? They arouse often (even in the wrap) and have a very difficult time going back to sleep when they are wakened. 

    I also think some of y'all are forgetting how much a 3 month old sleeps lol. This isn't a morning and afternoon nap. They are only awake for 60-90 minutes before getting tired and 45 of that is nursing. While I know you mean well, some of y'all are suggesting for DD to be in bed with them for 12 hours at night (which she is doing but hates to be in bed so long) and then to wake up, nurse them for 45 minutes, and then go back to bed with them after 30 minutes until time to nurse again, rinse, repeat? So while it sounds good in theory, would you want to lay in bed with babies for all of the time babies that age sleeps? She already feels so tied down as it is. 

    I've dealt with sleep issues but nothing like this at all. This isn't normal stuff we're dealing with here. I've had to take anything I would think might be a solution for a normal situation and toss it out the window. 

    When DD reads on it, she comes to the conclusion that they may potentially have autism (since many moms with kids with ASD had similar struggles). But they smile and laugh and interact on cue for their age? ETA: they are very aware of everything that is going on too. I think they are fine at night because they know mom isn't leaving. They are deeply attached, which is good, I guess. 

  12. Just now, Faith-manor said:

    Michigan is killing me. Frost advisory tonight. It is the end of May and still....

    I have a stack of old sheets prepped to be placed over my plants tonight, and Some two liter bottles that will be filled with hot water to place under them. Hopefully, this will work. Maybe next year we should just bury heating pads in the raised beds so the soil can get warm enough to grow plants before JULY! 😠

     

     

    Move here 😂

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  13. 1 minute ago, catz said:

    I usually use walnuts in my pesto, I'm too cheap for all pine nuts.  🙂  I love the idea of migrating to making it with less parm as yummy as it is!  


    I have no choice since I have a dairy allergy. The vegan is good though. Trader Joe’s used to have a vegan that is good too. 

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  14. 2 minutes ago, Faith-manor said:

    I can never fin pine nuts around here so I always have to substitute. Word to the wise: If you don't want your pesto to be ridiculously expensive AND highly addictive, put the jar of macadamia nuts down! Ask me how I know.....

    DD made something with a lot of macadamia nuts once and then she calculated the cost and was floored. I think pine nuts are more $$$$ than those though. 

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  15. Just now, Faith-manor said:

    Hey? You can't say "GF French bread" and not share the recipe! There has to be a law against that!


     

    The only French bread I’ve found that works good. It is also exceptional for pizza and flatbreads, etc. 

    https://www.pamelasproducts.com/blogs/recipes/crispy-french-bread-bowl-1
     

    I also love the regular loaf bread made with Pamela’s. I don’t buy the little bags though (too $$$). I buy it in bulk, so much cheaper. 

  16. The domino effect was I found myself making gluten free French bread dough. ETA: to turn into flatbread

    Dough is rising. Will this be a flatbread for lunch or dinner?

    Also crazy random idea, how do you think thinly sliced golden beets would be on such a flatbread?

     

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