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Yes, currently 8th grade. This summer we gave the option to go in at 8th so that he could play soccer on the public school team and make it easier to transition to the high school team since we knew from the coach how it works on that end. He really wanted to homeschool for 8th grade and wanted to wait until 9th. We’re honoring that.
Yes, neuropsych and my sis had suggested a psychiatric prescriber instead. I have to call around and see if I can figure out who locally can provide that option. There are a couple of other mental health practices in the area that might be an option so they’re on my list of places to call. I don’t know if we want meds. I’m not opposed, but I’m also not opposed to building skills to address it outside of meds. High on my list (not sure it’s high on anyone else’s list) is cutting back on careless errors and right now that means I sit with him and I work on keeping him focused so he dosn’t skip steps. And organization. And chunking to avoid becoming overwhelmed. Maybe it’s not as bad as I fear it is.
I know the district does allow kids to enroll for a couple of classes at the high school level. Not so sure they allow it for the middle school. I’ll have to call and see.
Dh thought it’s possible that the switch to the school might be smoother than we anticipate. This kid has had outside classes and other kid group type learning experiences and we have not gotten complaints from teachers. We have worked on social thinking type things along the way since when he was in school for on year in second grade that was an issue - not so much now aside from hey a good friend might do x in this situation or dude, don’t butt in to other people’s conversations.
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If “Hey Siri” is enabled, then my phone has to always be listening in order to catch when I say “Hey Siri” and I really do not want that happening. I have it set with activating by the home button. I use Siri sometimes - usually to set reminders.
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33 minutes ago, Scarlett said:
The police have been in possession of the video for over a week. So I can't see how there would be any charges on my brother. SHE plowed him down while holding my nephews hand and dragging him behind her. My nephew is screaming "I don't want to go with you mom.' It was a horrific thing to watch but my brother is not assaulting her. I can't imagine his attorney would tell him to take it to the police if he thought anything on the tape would cause my brother to be charged.
Oh well, no use to keep on wondering. I guess someone will tell him something soon.
Without seeing the officer’s report, it’s all just going to be speculation. They will have to justify their charges in court in order for things to proceed so his best bet is to work the system. It may have nothing to do with the video. But, I still really doubt it has anything to do with the CPS visit because while the CPS worker needs the LEO to do a whole bunch of things, the LEO can use their discretion re: charges even if CPS thinks the LEO should or should not do x thing.
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1 hour ago, Scarlett said:
I can’t understand how cps visited and seemed satisfied with things and now there is an endangering welfare of a minor charge.
Because CPS is not the one who decides on the charges. The LEO is the one who recommends the charges, the DA is the one who decides to go ahead.
When 911 was called, I assume it was a deputy that responded? I would hazard a guess that the charges stem from that 911 call. The deputy requested that CPS investigate the general welfare of the child. Meanwhile the deputy decided to charge the person for the precipitating event. In other words, the CPS visit likely has nothing to do with the charges filed and is probably why there were no additional charges filed. Make sense?
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I suspect one of my kids might have some variant of ADHD. Originally, I had thought about having this kid evaluated now before they head to public school next year, hoping that it would set this child up for the greatest success in high school. Our ped agreed and gave us a referral. We have an appointment for next year which is the earliest we can get in.
However, I was looking at our health plan documents and it looks like unless the issue is a result of autism (it’s not), our health insurance will not pay for it the eval or any treatment related to it. Our school district does not offer these sorts of services to homeschoolers. So now I’m wondering, is it completely unwise to wait? My original plan had been to at least answer the question before going in with the idea that if there was a dx, we could shorten the wait time for any potential accomodations. Plus, then maybe we could work on some of the needed skills for the rest of this 8th grade year. But if I wait? Then what would you do?
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8 hours ago, BakersDozen said:
A number of responses indicated that the girl was tazed for shoplifting which was not (I don't believe) the case. She was told to stop but she took off instead. That is why the officer used the taser.
My dh is a LEO. He carries a taser every shift. You do not use a taser on people running away. Full stop. That’s not what tasers are used for. You also do not use a taser to stop someone being hit by a car in a parking lot as another poster has suggested. Again, this is not what tasers are for!
And if you don’t believe me. Here’s on department’s taser use policy - http://www.pbpd.org/Policies/Chapter-V/POL-0510-_Electronic Restraint Device -Taser_.pdf. This department does not allow the use of tasers on children or those weighing less than 80lbs. They’re also not meant to be used as tools or coercion or punishment. You’ll also notice that it talks about subduing a combative subject that the officer is arresting, not on a fleeing subject.
Here’s the Medford PD taser use policy - https://www.aclu.org/sites/default/files/field_document/30157-30162 Taser Policy.pdf. You’ll notice here, this policy explicitly prohibts taser use on fleeing individuals. And again, not on children.
The rest of the post that follows, does not follow because the underlying premise assumes that this instance was a proper usage of a taser. It is not. The officer in question used a taser in a way that is not the normal usage - in fact his usage runs counter to the standards a whole heck of a lot of departments follow for taser usage. This is not how tasers are meant to be used. This is not what tasers are for. Period.
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A lot of the younger quilters go to a local guild associated with The Modern Quilt Guild - https://www.themodernquiltguild.com/
Good to hear you enjoyed your first meeting! I haven’t been to a guild meeting in ages!
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I survived the first soccer weekend - even with two additional soccer games added at the last minute. Saturday afternoon the kids and I did C25k. Yesterday I had the new shoe insert for my left foot and did C25k with the kids plus the run on my training plan. Today I’m going to get a run in before I have to take the kids to class. And then more soccer. So much soccer...
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15 hours ago, Paige said:
We can all say why can't she be like MLK or Ghandi and always respond appropriately, but that kind of self control is so admirable because it is rare.
But that comparison itself flattens out the reality that both MLK and Ghandi faced. Even given their approach, they were treated as if what they were doing was anything but peaceful. Darned if you do, darned if you don’t.
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I need to switch to a different math curriculum for ds to match what the public schools use so he’s better set-up to go in next year. I’d like to get the teacher’s edition. discounthomeschoolcurriculum.com has it with free shipping, but I’ve never heard of them. Anyone here ever purchased from them or is familiar with them? Thought I’d ask before I gave them my credit card info.
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11 hours ago, BakersDozen said:
This isn't a JAWM nor is it a post solidly in favor of/against the situation or action taken. It's more musing as I muddle through the story and struggle to decide how I feel about it. With all that "fine print" out of the way, here goes...
I'm not sure I disagree with the fact that an 11-year old was tasered by an officer.
She did not stop when told to. This is a huge, huge issue. For whatever reason the girl chose to disregard the officer's instruction. What if she had gotten away? Kids are fast! Had she gotten away might this lead to increased confidence/arrogance in her, potentially with future shoplifting? If continued shoplifting occurred might the girl face even more serious consequences?
The taser was such that the girl was able to return to the store (from what I read). The officer seemed to desire to help her see the seriousness of what she chose to do (again, from what I read).Dh is a LEO. Dh isn’t even sure the makers of the taser say it’s designed to use on children, but it’s certainly against department policy. Number of scenarios that dh would ponder using a taser on an 11 year old kid? Zero. Number of times dh has used a taser in the last ten years? One. And even if the person in question here was an adult? You don’t use a taser on someone running away.
Tasing someone as a deterrent? Uh, no. There are probably 1,000 different ways to deal with this that don’t involve a taser and would leave a lasting impact.
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Rode the bike for 75 minutes today instead of my planned long run which makes me sad because it was a nice day for a run. Dh thinks my left foot is slightly swollen around the big toe joint. I don’t see it, tbh. I did some more pondering and now I’m wondering if this is a similar injury to one I had last year. Amazon shows I ordered the same thing last April. You'd think I’d remember more. You’d be wrong about that, lol. I have the vaguest of vague memories. Dh doesn’t remember anymore than I do. I really need to keep a better journal of these things.
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Since probiotics are often marketed to healthy people, the focus of the BBC article is not surprising. Probiotics really aren’t of use to healthy people and the marketing is over-hyped - https://www.scientificamerican.com/article/do-probiotics-really-work/
For those who could benefit? Commercially avaiable products probably do not hurt and could help. It’s just that like a pp mentioned, individually targeted is the way future medicine points.
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3 minutes ago, katilac said:
There needs to be an immediate reason for the police to do a safety check, not just an ongoing worry about him declining or being irrational. If they are willing to check, there is little they can do unless he is presenting as a danger to himself or others at the time they visit. The bar for that is set fairly high. Assuming he answers the door, all he needs to do is sound reasonably coherent for a few minutes and assure them he has no intention of hurting himself or others. And yes, officer, I do own guns, they are all legal and registered.
Second problem: the best case scenario for calling police and doctors is that he goes on an involuntary psych hold, which lasts for 72 hours. It's hard to get that initial hold, and even harder to have it continue past the initial three days. He just has to calm down enough to reasonably state that he is not having suicidal thoughts and does not intend to hurt anyone. Most likely, you are back to square one with him at home, and now he's mad.
It's a bad situation for sure.
All of this. There are plenty of times that LEOs would want to do something, but want to and legally able to are two very different things. Plenty of calls where people with dementia are violent, wander away from home and walk down county highways, etc and there is very little an LEO can do. They can refer the person for services, they can try to support caregivers, but it’s not a magic band-aid. Maybe, possibly they can do something, but it’s better to be realistic in expectations here.
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I did something to my foot while running on the treadmill on Monday. I had read an article about the difference between the mileage/pace estimates on the watch v. treadmill and how you should run towards the middle of the treadmill instead of up at the front. It feels like that was a dumb move now. Better to do what worked, I guess. Since then I’ve done the stationary bike on Tues and then an easy run and C25k with the kids today.
I think it’s soft tissue related. It bothers me more if I sit for awhile and then get up and walk than it does if I’m just generally moving around without a lot of sitting.
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Unfortunately, they look like all they have are football cleats, but XLFeet has shoes in that size range. If they can’t get you soccer cleats, maybe they can point you in the right direction? https://www.xlfeet.com/Large-Cleats-s/164907.htm
Other possible avenues would be soccer.com or a soccer specific store. They might be able to answer the “who makes them” question.
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Took yesterday off. Today was C25k with the kids and an interval run. The intervals today were longer, but slower vs. earlier in the week where they were shorter, but faster pace. I found them equally hard. The shorter intervals had the benefit of being over sooner. 38 miles for the week.
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Recovery run on Wednesday. Yesterday I did couch to 5k with the kids and then we got our long run in - 16 miles with 14 miles of what the plan called speed play. Dh hasn’t run much since our half marathon so I have way more long distance stamina than he does. I didn’t realize how much I relied on his stamina and ability to run circles around me to carry me through those challenging miles toward the end. Mile 12-16 were tough!
Today’s recovery run will bring this month’s mileage to 160 which is my highest mileage ever. My previous highest mileage was in the low 150s back in April of last year. I have mixed feelings because that was during half marathon training and training for a marathon feels like it should need greater running volume.
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Ran on the treadmill on Monday. Dh and I did C25k with the kids today and then I went out for a tempo run. Humid is the bext way to describe today.
@peacelovehomeschooling - wintermom said it best. I have been working on this since 2014 and when I finally got it, it was because “keep on keeping on” became my overarching motto. Bad week? Keep on keeping on. Bad month? Well, it hapoens. Keep on keeping on. Tough run? Keep on keeping on. You get the picture.
And I have an off season - usually it’s a few mini ones and a larger one. My marathon training plan has a cut back week every third week. Just keep on doing what you do. ?
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5 hours ago, EmseB said:
But obviously, if you're not meeting any sort of minimum or signing people up, you aren't moving up the chain or making any income.
This was my experience as a Pampered Chef consultant. I made some money from selling products, but in order to make enough and do well enough, you’d really better have a downline. And in the meantime, if your downline wasn’t big enough then you never actually made any money off your downline, someone else did.
I’ll go to a Pamperd Chef party if I really have to (like for a bridal shower), but I’ll never willingly go or buy their products again. As far as I’m concerned, the rest of the MLMs (Tupperware, you’re included) don’t exist.
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Yay! I have spreadsheets for everything so I can totally relate! Sometimes people look at me like I have three heads, but how do other people do things without spreadsheets?!?
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Finished out the week with a coulle of easy runs and one short interval run. Today’s easy run was hot and humid. I ended up walking the last five or so minutes to meep my heart rate down. I miss Friday - it was misty, cool, and low humidity.
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IoT = internet of things - in other words all of the things that connect to the internet and can be operated by an interface like your phone, Alex, or Siri.
1 minute ago, sheryl said:But, isn't wifi the point. I'm not understanding. I thought sense you could operate any component from your phone how else would one do that remotely if it didn't involve the use of wifi?
I do NOT want to operate any home security component (lock, cameras, etc) from my smart phone. I guess that's the point of getting it. I just like the idea of being able to see who's ringing the doorbell and to have use of cameras.
You don’t. That’s the whole point. By installing those things, giving them acces to your network/router, and agreeing to the terms of service you’re accepting a certain level of risk and data mining. It’s why my doorbell, thermostat, light bulbs, door locks, appliances, TV, etc are all the “dumb” versions. No WiFi, no risk. I also have “Hey Siri” disabled on my phone and you’ll never catch Alexa in my house.
The links I gave are fairly simple and do go over the risks inherent in those devices. ZDNet in particular is a consumer level publication.
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They couldn’t necessarily get access to your house per se - unless you also have a WiFi enabled lock. However, anytime you connect something to your home’s WiFi, it does add in the potential to put your data at risk given the lax security of many IoT (internet of things devices).
https://threatpost.com/iot-security-concerns-peaking-with-no-end-in-sight/131308/
In the case of the Ring doorbell - I don’t have one because there’s not guarantee that camera on my front door won’t be used to breach my privacy. They talk about the cameras on our devices being activated without our knowledge. Same thing for your front door - except now they can track the activity around your house. Who’s coming and going? What patterns are there to when you leave or arrive? And how can I trust that it’s not being activated without my knowledge whether by the company or by a third party who hacked into lax security.
My secondary issue is how secure it is. They can use IoT devices to listen in on what’s happening on your network. I can’t find the article now, but maybe last year there was one where they monitored the traffic being sent and received via all the IoT connected devices in an apartment. Even if the device isn’t doing so for nefarious reasons, by accumulating data about you and combining all of these various pieces of data, they can gather together a fairly accurate picture of you.
Is it nice? Sure, but these devices aren’t just reporting back to you. They’re reporting back to the company and then the issue is, what are they doing with that data? Like with Facebook there will be all sorts of people who won’t care or don’t think it’s a big deal. YMMV, but I figure since they’re already data mining me, I’m not going to make it that much easier by letting them into my home. Not even if it means I can monitor my house from my phone.
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ADHD - Eval or wait?
in The Learning Challenges Board
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I really do not think ASD is an issue here. Truly.
I did call the health insurance today to verify whether or not the exclusion I found related to ADHD. They confirmed that the ADHD screening and treatment would fall under our mental health coverage - providing it’s medically necessary. I’m working my way through local providers. I’ve got one who requires dx by psychiatrist and then they can provide treatment. I have a call into a second place that has a psychiatrist on staff. I did get a good rec on that particular provider, but I have no idea if they can see us sooner. I’m still keeping our other appointment for next year and we’re on the cancellation list. Next year I have to meet the deductible in full before the health insurance pays anything so this year would be nice. I probably should have started this process earlier. It’s just that it didn’t reall coalesce in my mind until recently.
I’ll keep pushing forward. It does sound like getting an answer is the way to go.