at the beach Posted May 29, 2008 Share Posted May 29, 2008 "You're not the right kind of friend for me." :crying: I have a feeling this neighbor child heard this from a parent. My dd received an award in Kindergarten for always being kind to others. So, she is not a bully or anything like that. She's just, as my posts on here probably indicate, got some differences but she plays pretty well and we're working on social skills, etc. I am also pretty sure the neighbors think we are odd homeschooling. I just get so mad sometimes at people's seeming intolerance. Oh, and FWIW, these kids across the street are not the best behaved. They have hit our dog with a stick, they jump in our flower beds, stare in our windows when in the yard, etc. But I try to be gracious and redirect them. I just would never imagine a child saying this without having heard it someplace. Just felt the need to get that off my chest. Thanks for listening. Anita Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JWSJ Posted May 30, 2008 Share Posted May 30, 2008 Sounds like the little girl has been listening to some motivational, self improvement tapes. Also sounds like they're not working. Seven and eight year olds say these types of rude things all the time. (I've also met adults who say these types of things...) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Laurie Posted May 30, 2008 Share Posted May 30, 2008 I sure understand how you feel. My dc have never hit or hurt another child in any way, but they are socially awkward. Sometimes it really seems unfair that our children are considered to be the only ones who need social skills training! FWIW, besides teaching my dc the usual rules of etiquette I'm also trying to do some "assertiveness training." Good manners are nice, but I want them to know that they also have a right to be selective (and that if they act like doormats, there are plenty of people who will be more than happy to wipe their feet on them! ) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
at the beach Posted May 30, 2008 Author Share Posted May 30, 2008 I sure understand how you feel. My dc have never hit or hurt another child in any way, but they are socially awkward. Sometimes it really seems unfair that our children are considered to be the only ones who need social skills training! FWIW, besides teaching my dc the usual rules of etiquette I'm also trying to do some "assertiveness training." Good manners are nice, but I want them to know that they also have a right to be selective (and that if they act like doormats, there are plenty of people who will be more than happy to wipe their feet on them! ) Excellent, excellent point! So true. If you let people walk all over you, they will! And with my dd, she is so anxious for friends that it doesn't help because kids often sense this and know they can exploit, take advantage, etc. We do have her in group activities like swim team, which is really good for her as many of the children are accepting and tolerant. Anita Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ga girl Posted May 30, 2008 Share Posted May 30, 2008 Actually, sounds like the neighbor girl is "not the right kind of friend" for your daughter. Expain to your dd how precious she is and that she should expect people to treat her with respect - and if they don't... well, they don't deserve her friendship. Connie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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