Jennifer in MI Posted February 18, 2009 Share Posted February 18, 2009 The PS are off this week for mid-winter break. Last night, my 8 yo ds took a phone call from a friend asking him to go bowling with this other family. This other family and ours often take each others children places, so my ds asked, "Do you mean only me or my other brothers too?" The other child said, "You and Andrew." (8 and 10 yo ds) Today I dropped off the two children and the parents (awkwardly) said, "We only have room for one." So, I told my 10 yo to get back into our car. I could tell he was disappointed, but he was a gentleman about it. This other family offered to take two cars down, but I couldn't let them do that. Right now I have a VERY disappointed 10 yo ds. Besides hugging him, is there anything else I can do? I think I"ll make cookies for him or something. My heart is breaking for him! Oh - and I know that next time I'll get on the phone iwth the parents myself before finalizing any plans!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jenn- Posted February 18, 2009 Share Posted February 18, 2009 Could you ask him if there is anything special he would like to do at home while is little brother isn't home? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
abbeyej Posted February 18, 2009 Share Posted February 18, 2009 Oh, poor guy! But on the other hand, I'd view this as a character-building experience. "I know you're disappointed, but I can't tell you how proud I am of the way that you handled that. I can really see the young man you're growing into when you face disappointment like that with grace and patience." Because, you know, even cookies (while always a fantastic idea!) won't take away the disappointment -- but it won't be the last time he's disappointed and hurt, and knowing that he got through this and that you were proud of him will help him the next time. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sojourner Posted February 18, 2009 Share Posted February 18, 2009 Oh, poor guy! But on the other hand, I'd view this as a character-building experience. "I know you're disappointed, but I can't tell you how proud I am of the way that you handled that. I can really see the young man you're growing into when you face disappointment like that with grace and patience." Because, you know, even cookies (while always a fantastic idea!) won't take away the disappointment -- but it won't be the last time he's disappointed and hurt, and knowing that he got through this and that you were proud of him will help him the next time. Wonderful response! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pretty in Pink Posted February 18, 2009 Share Posted February 18, 2009 I'm sorry that happened to your son, but the PP gave wonderful advice.:grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jennifer in MI Posted February 18, 2009 Author Share Posted February 18, 2009 Thank you so much everyone! I just hate situations like that. Thanks Abbey. I did do just that and focused a lot on how gentlemanly he behaved. He's now making cookies and then he's going over to our friends' house to play with the kids there. He feels much better. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
abbeyej Posted February 18, 2009 Share Posted February 18, 2009 I'm so glad it worked out for him to go play with some other kids. It just breaks our mama-hearts to see them hurt like that, doesn't it?!? :( Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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