cin Posted December 14, 2011 Share Posted December 14, 2011 Just read this article and it reminded me of the random acts thread. Some of these you can do for people with ANY special need. And I have to admit, when I read about the tupperware, I got misty-eyed. Having someone understand your child enough to not think it's too weird to get them tupperware conainers just fills your heart up as a mom, doesn't it? Your TimeOffer to watch the child with autism so that the mom/dad can do some holiday shopping of their own, or so that the couple can have a quiet meal together and regroup. Holidays are stressful for everyone. Imagine having a child with extreme sensitivity to lights, sounds, people and places. It can be next to impossible to take the child to a crowded mall, especially during holiday times. Being available for the family is one of the best gifts you can offer. Your Help If you are at the mall and see a mom or dad with a child who is having a difficult time, ask if you can help. Even if the parent declines your offer, just the mere gesture can help the parent feel less stressed and embarrassed. And we all know that when a parent is less stressed, the child will be more relaxed. Your Place in Line If you are in the front of a line and see a parent with a child with autism in the back of the line, offer them your place. Sure you are in a hurry, but it can be very challenging for a child to have to wait in line. Your generous offer can make the world of difference to that family. An Invitation Invite the family with autism over for your holiday dinner. Yes, you recall that Jason is prone to outbursts, that he eats with his fingers and he can't sit for very long. But you don't know how much your invitation could mean to a family. Before founding The Miracle Project, there were times when Neal and I had to spend holidays by ourselves. Holiday times can be very lonely. No one wants a whirling dervish at their home. But just once, take a risk. Even if the family declines, you are giving them the greatest gift of all by inviting them. A Meal Bring a holiday meal to the family with autism. Or bring over a movie with popcorn to their house. This way, the family can enjoy being together without having to be out in the crowds. This year, Neal was going through some health challenges, and we were not able to attend any of our friends' or family's holiday dinners. My girlfriend Vida insisted that I come to her party and pick up "Chanukah-to-go" to take home to Jeff and Neal. She talked me into staying a few minutes to hear her 90-year-old dad recite the Hanukkah blessings. Her thoughtfulness will be remembered always. A Simple Gift Call and ask what the child is interested in. Sounds simple, yes? But it's not always understood. Sometimes our kids aren't that interested in what other kids are interested in. There was one year that Neal was passionate about Tupperware containers. A very thoughtful friend wrapped up 10 containers with lids. I still remember the excitement in his eyes as he unwrapped each piece! Another idea is to rally a group of friends together and contribute toward a class the child would like to take and the parents can't afford. Families with autism are often strapped for funds, and programs can be costly. Unconditional Love The most important gift you can give to a family with autism is your unconditional love and support. This is the gift that will keep on giving. Many blessings to everyone, and may your holidays be full of love, compassion and Joy. Elaine Hall is the founder of The Miracle Project and author of "Now I See the Moon." Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Desert Rat Posted December 14, 2011 Share Posted December 14, 2011 Thanks for posting, Cin. This is very timely for me. We had our open house on Sunday and invited a family with an autistic boy. They were teary-eyed at just the invite. I think they don't get many. It didn't go well. Their son says lots of swears and got wound up and started swearing a blue streak. Ugh. My heart broke for their family. I was sure to let them know they didn't have to leave. I offered them a quiet back bedroom to chill in for a few. They opted to go home. It was too much. I smiled and thanked them for coming. It's the best I could do. I explained to the rest of those there a little of his situation. Many had never met an autisic child before, so after I explained, they were very understanding. So, maybe I was able to pass on a little knowledge for others, too. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NanceXToo Posted December 14, 2011 Share Posted December 14, 2011 Cin, Thanks for posting this! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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