Plucky Posted July 18, 2011 Share Posted July 18, 2011 My youngest girl, has add - maybe adhd. She is constantly seeking attention from me, her sibs, her friends, etc. But she does it in annoying ways, so she gets negative attention. She has lost a lot of friends in the last couple of years. I have been limiting her outside activities without me. It seems like she intentionally annoys people with comments, actions, behavior, and constant unnecessary questions. It pushes people away. I get annoyed and exhausted. Her siblings have had it. She has lost most of her girlfriends and this girl was always miss social. She is very sensitive and tenderhearted. I am trying to help her to see what she is doing and stop it. She says she can't help herself and she thinks it's a bad habit she can't break. I think it is her adhd, but I could be wrong. We do not have her on any meds right now. I need to make her an appt with her dr. Any ideas or experiences with this kind of girl/kid? Thanks! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ottakee Posted July 18, 2011 Share Posted July 18, 2011 That is how my dd was prior to meds. She wanted to be friends but just didn't get all of the social cues/how to be a friend without being annoying. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Plucky Posted July 19, 2011 Author Share Posted July 19, 2011 That is how my dd was prior to meds. She wanted to be friends but just didn't get all of the social cues/how to be a friend without being annoying. We've tried the meds and they hurt her tummy. Our dr. said we could try other types. So you do think this is a symptom of adhd? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ottakee Posted July 19, 2011 Share Posted July 19, 2011 We've tried the meds and they hurt her tummy. Our dr. said we could try other types. So you do think this is a symptom of adhd? I can't say for sure, but it was a symptom of the adhd here. There are lots of meds to try if they are indicated. good quality fish oils are enough for some kids---here my daughter gets those with her meds. Can you get in to see a pediatric psychiatrist or other specialist for the meds? They have a lot more experience and can help you find the best med for your daughter with the least side effects. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Plucky Posted July 19, 2011 Author Share Posted July 19, 2011 I can't say for sure, but it was a symptom of the adhd here. There are lots of meds to try if they are indicated. good quality fish oils are enough for some kids---here my daughter gets those with her meds. Can you get in to see a pediatric psychiatrist or other specialist for the meds? They have a lot more experience and can help you find the best med for your daughter with the least side effects. My pediatrician is an ex-special education teacher and the adhd ped in our area. She will work with us. I think it's just been my reticence. I don't want any of my kids on meds. If it is needed I will. I guess I just have to bite the bullet and go back in. I have all my kids taking fish oil except her because she says they are too big to swallow. Can you pm and tell me a little about your dd & what meds she takes? Thanks. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Plucky Posted July 19, 2011 Author Share Posted July 19, 2011 Thanks, Ottakee. I feel so much better. I looked up the symptoms of the hyper/impulsivity and it pretty much defines her. Yay, just what we need. Oh, well, at least I know how to help her now. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rwjx2khsmj Posted July 19, 2011 Share Posted July 19, 2011 This sounds like my dd from age 8-10 and sometimes still. We spent a lot of time being very intentional about complimenting her for appropriate behavior and ignoring or giving the absolute minimum attention to inappropriate behavior. We also spent a lot of time rehearsing what would be appropriate in given situations. As a family, we try to rewind and redo situations where the behavior is inappropriate and can be corrected. My dd is not adhd but she believes any attention is better than being overlooked. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Plucky Posted July 19, 2011 Author Share Posted July 19, 2011 This sounds like my dd from age 8-10 and sometimes still. We spent a lot of time being very intentional about complimenting her for appropriate behavior and ignoring or giving the absolute minimum attention to inappropriate behavior. We also spent a lot of time rehearsing what would be appropriate in given situations. As a family, we try to rewind and redo situations where the behavior is inappropriate and can be corrected. My dd is not adhd but she believes any attention is better than being overlooked. I've been trying to guide and train my dd for many years. The last 2 years it has just gotten worse. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LittleIzumi Posted July 19, 2011 Share Posted July 19, 2011 Nordic Naturals has a chewable fish oil. Dd takes it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
myboyluvsdinos Posted July 19, 2011 Share Posted July 19, 2011 My daughter, now 9, has struggled with this type of behavior as well. I think these behaviors can be rooted in many different causes: ADHD, low self-esteem, personality, bipolar tendencies, etc. If you can figure out what's causing it, then you may be more effective in helping her. My guess is that if you've been working with her for years and she's getting worse, that you MAY be dealing with something like ADHD, where she's truly not able to control it. My daughter has definitely improved, but there's still that edge to her. Thankfully, she now has friends. That's so hard when they don't. :grouphug: Carolyn Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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