battlemaiden Posted July 4, 2009 Share Posted July 4, 2009 I'm at a loss. It was a flat-out, bold faced, lie. Not serious (doing a chore versus playing legos), but a lie nonetheless. What is fair. I'm exhausted. Help me think. :confused: Jo Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jean in Newcastle Posted July 4, 2009 Share Posted July 4, 2009 Pack up the legos (not indefinitely). They were more important to him than obedience. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BillieBoy Posted July 4, 2009 Share Posted July 4, 2009 Pack up the legos (not indefinitely). They were more important to him than obedience. :iagree: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fivetails Posted July 4, 2009 Share Posted July 4, 2009 Last time my dd12 told a flat out lie, she was stuck cleaning the upstairs bathroom -- a chore she *really* doesn't like. ;) (of course, this was also followed by a heart2heart discussion about the whole thing) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Danestress Posted July 4, 2009 Share Posted July 4, 2009 I find it tricky because I think if you do the, "Now that you lied, I no longer trust you, that's what happens when you lie" lecture, than your child figures you don't trust him anyway, so he CAN like. My mother always said (over and over in my childhood), "I KNOW you would never lie to me." And that made me want to never lie because even though I had lied, she believed in me and I really wanted to live up to that. So I would treat it as an aberration if it's never happened before. I would talk about temptation and admit that I have also given into temptations and encourage him to fight that particular one. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ChrissySC Posted July 4, 2009 Share Posted July 4, 2009 If is the first time, nip it quickly. I wouldn't be severely harsh, but I would seek to make an impression that you will not, and nor do others, like that type of action or the person who performs. I, unfortunately, have a teen that tells the little petty white lies. This drives me crazy. I've since learned that no form of lie will be tolerated by the other two, and I punish according to the severity of their response. This is a tough call. Only you will know the intent behind the lie and whether or not it was to not get in trouble or to not be discovered at avoiding the chore. Yes, as confusing as it sounds, I believe there is a difference in the two. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mamaof2andtwins Posted July 4, 2009 Share Posted July 4, 2009 Pack up the legos (not indefinitely). They were more important to him than obedience. :iagree: This would be my response as well. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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