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I did the refugee support thing when we were moving and donated a whole house of furniture. The guy who came to pick it up was very pleased at the condition of what I donated. He said that usually what they get is maybe one step above going to the dumpster. He came back three different times and filled his large van each trip, and said the stuff would be divided up to help several families.
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Have you or your DS looked into degrees related to ranch work. I live in the southwest around lots of big ranches, and there are college programs for ranch management, animal science, environmental science, even blacksmithing and gun smithing, and probably stuff I don’t know about.
While I think “forcing” a young adult to go to college is a waste of time, money, and stress, There may be programs outside of your local area that are more meaningful for him. -
My mom made it regularly for holidays when I was a kid. I’ve made it a couple of times for my family, but it makes such a large amount that my little family can’t eat it all.
My mom’s did not have boiled eggs or tomato in it. It was similar to this https://www.mymilitarysavings.com/recipes/salads/seven-layer-saladYears ago,I found the exact recipe on the Kraft foods website, but that company and website has gone through many changes over the years, and I can’t find it now.
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I find it really easy to fall down the rabbit hole of prepping anxiety, and sometimes I have to make an effort not to do that. I try to keep things multipurpose such as Camping supplies that can be used in emergencies, shelf stable foods that are part of the regular pantry, wood stoves that are our primary source of heat, etc.
Because we live in a fire prone area and have had to evacuate on short notice, I do keep a couple of totes of food and kitchen supplies ready to go, and other empty totes ready to pack quickly.
My plan for this summer is to improve my rain water collection that I use for watering my gardens. I currently have a bunch of plastic buckets and old recycling bins. I want to get some metal watering troughs that will be more permanent and not blow all around the yard when empty. That water could be used for flushing toilets if needed or even treated for drinking.
I would love to have a freeze dryer so that I could rely less of our freezer to store meat, but I can’t justify the price. It would really just be an expensive toy.
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I always just juice them and freeze the juice. I’ve never tried freezing them whole or in wedges.
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Unfortunately that is the way it works some places.
One school I worked for gave every teacher a bonus based on specific school wide goals. Then to encourage teacher retention, the more years a teacher worked there, the more bonus that person received, but it was not dependent on grade level or subject taught. That seemed to be the most equitable bonus program.
Other districts and schools had a plan similar to what you described. Teachers in tested subjects got a larger percentage of bonus than teachers in non-tested subjects or grade levels.
other districts include teacher attendance in requirements for bonuses. That penalized teachers with younger kids who got sick more often.
Instead of bonuses, I would much rather see increased salaries for all school employees and/or extra stipends for teachers in hard to fill areas. -
Sounds like he should probably contact his embassy/consulate to find out what he needs to return to his home country. I assume he already has a passport from his home country that was used when he entered the US. He would also need to contact them to find out how to obtain passports for his children as citizens of that country.
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Not giving a type 1 diabetic insulin is flat out child abuse, and I would report them in a heartbeat. Spanking the child for that reason is another red flag with me for possible child abuse.
Some places there is no oversight for homeschooling, so the parents are within their legal rights. Other states would consider that neglect. It depends on where they live.Bringing a gun into someone else’s home when asked not to do so would get that person banned from my house.
The rest of the things I would just refuse to discuss with them at all. If they chose to try to have such discussions, I would remove myself from that location.
There is a guy I watch on YouTube who would say that “they” are the ones choosing to not be in a relationship with you if you have asked them not to do xyz and they continue to do those things. He would say you will have to morn the loss of those relationships just as if the person had died, but he would also say to choose guilt over resentment every time.
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I work with a student who was like this but she has gotten better over the years. I would not avoid correction words.It sounds like you are very gentle with your words anyway. As far as school work goes I just let her get teary. I have the attitude with her that it is fine to cry if she needs to, but I don’t make a big deal. I just had her the tissue box and wait it out. I also would remind her that she isn’t supposed to know everything at school already. If she knew it all, then I wouldn’t need to be her teacher.
Making mistakes and taking correction is part of life. My thought is that avoiding that just because the child is uncomfortable isn’t going to help in the long run. It will just get worse if it isn’t dealt with now.
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I buy Hanes brand socks. However they don’t have extra fabric in the heal or toe and don’t have the arch support. They do come in a variety of heights from very low cut to mid-calf. I get them at Walmart in big bags. They last along time even with frequent wearing and washing, but they are cheap enough that i don’t care when I have to throw some away. I don’t bleach them though. The part I like best is that each different style (height) has a different color of the word “Hanes” on the bottom, so I could get each member of the family their own set of socks, wash them all together, and then sort them quickly and easily. I still have nightmares about the “sock box” from when I was a kid and trying to match socks from six different people at one time.
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It is terrifying.
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That sounds like a very complicated situation.
I don’t have any idea how to convince a guy to do what needs to be done to take care of and protect his kids after his death.
If he has a will, or doesn’t have a will, his estate will have to go through probate. That is not a quick process even with an uncomplicated estate. It is likely that the youngest child will be 18 by the time the estate is settled and any money inherited, so the mom couldn’t take the money unless the kid gives it to her.-
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I just happen to watch a video on YouTube last night which was made of police body camera of an arrest. When the suspect was handcuffed but wasn’t being cooperative with the search of their person, the officers did what is described in the original post. Put a hand on the back of the neck and pushed the person down towards the car hood bending at the waist. Once the person stopped struggling, the person was permitted to stand fully for the rest of the search.
While I know that police do need techniques such as these, that is definitely a restraint procedure and doesn’t belong in the classroom.
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6 hours ago, Innisfree said:
Completely agree. It won’t make any difference to the person with dementia. Would it make a difference to the adult kids, though? Do you think that hiding the keys and the car was easier because you knew that when he was able to make rational decisions, he recognized that necessity?
Nope, the safety of other people on the road and pedestrians far outweighed my parents desire to drive. Of all the things that I felt guilty about, preventing an unsafe person from driving does not cause me any guilt. I flat out told my mother that if I ever found out that she attempted to drive again that I would call the police and I would contact the state board to get her license suspended. (Long story but she had major vision issues) Then I explained what she would have to do to get it reinstated. She stopped threatening to drive.
The state where my parents lived does have additional steps for renewing a drivers license at age 80. Both had to stop driving several years before 80.
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3 hours ago, Ottakee said:
We figure there will be nothing left but we want her to have a good last few months/years.
The selling the house is the tricky thing as without selling she can’t afford to stay in assisted living but selling will make her look “rich”. Renting it out wouldn’t bring in enough to cover the balance of assisted living either.
Yep, that is the way the system works. The house will need to be sold and the money used to pay for AL. Once she is low on funds, then she can apply for benefits. Or you go the trust route. One lawyer I consulted said that about $100,000 of assets per person could be put in the trust and still qualify for benefits. Until then, the elderly person has to “spend down” assets to qualify for medical. And, the spend down has to be done carefully or other problems get created. Assets have to be sold at or near market value not given away to family members.
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People can say what they plan to do regarding driving at a certain age or stage, but when dementia sets in, those plans go out the window. My father decided to give up driving all on his own when he was 78 after getting lost in a familiar are one time. Less than 2 years later, the keys and the car had to be hidden from him or he would try to drive.
I think it is great for people to plan ahead, but I don’t think any document will make a difference in a person with dementia.-
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Medicaid does not pay for assisted living for seniors. It only covers skilled nursing, but it will cover medical care while living in AL or the home which could possibly include some home health services. Aid and Attendance can be used for assisted living.
My mom had too much savings to qualify for Aid and Attendance, but I did talk someone about Veteran’s benefits.
What I remember is that the Veterans benefits allow a higher level of assets than Medicaid, and they somehow deduct the cost of current AL or NH which allows for a slightly higher level of assets I think.My MIL did get both Aid and Attendance and Medicaid when she was in NH and ran out of money. The trick was that her monthly SS and the AA put her just over the limit for Medicaid. A trust had to be created (I forget the name of it). Her monthly payments went into the trust to be used for her expenses. Medicaid paid for the NH at the same time. When she died, any money left in the account then goes back to Medicaid xcept that for MIL once her final bills were paid there was only about $50 left for the government to take back.
There is a way to get Medicaid without selling her house, but then once she dies, Medicaid takes the house. So either way, there is nothing to leave to any survivors.
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I agree with Bambam. Just wait and decide when the time comes. As long as he is in a place where he won’t cause you any trouble at the memorial service, then I don’t see any harm in letting him attend even if that isn’t what your mom wants today.
Promises meant to kept after one person has died aren’t fair to those still living. You will do the best that you can at the time.-
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I have made pumpkin chili similar to this https://www.budgetbytes.com/easy-pumpkin-chili/
It does not taste like pumpkin at all.
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It also can depend on the state. There are places where “excessive” bail is not allowed and for a person who has no money, any amount of bail is excessive since they have no way to pay. The person is released without paying the bail and must appear in court at a later date. I don’t know about California specifically, but with what I do know about how California handles the homeless population in general, I would not be surprised if something like this exists in California.
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It may be common, but it is not a given. My current Fitbit is over 2yrs old with no issues. The one I had before was over a year old before it was given to me used, and i used it for over a year before it stopped working.
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Also depends on your state regulations and the insurance company of the person who hit you. If you are in a “no fault” state then the fight will be with your insurance company, and you probably won’t get what you want. Otherwise, you (or your insurance company) will have to fight with the insurance company of the person who hit you.
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My mom had that done for several years.
According to her, the shots were very painful and there was additional soreness for a day or two after the shots then her pain would decrease. The first shot in the series did provide some relief, but the 2nd and 3rd set of shots provided greater relief. Then after some time, she had to start the series of shots over again.
She was not a good candidate for surgery, so this was her best option at pain relief in her knees. The big downside was that when her knees were not hurting so much she would walk more which caused pain in other areas because her muscles had atrophied.
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Lifestyle creep is a real thing. It used to be called Keeping Up with the Jones’s.
I will admit that my DH and I were part of this for many, many years. While we didn’t think we were trying to keep up with anyone, we wanted all the shiny new things, and we bought them all on payments, and we lived in a relatively low cost of living area. A big part of it is lack of financial education when we were young. We just didn’t understand at first. Later when my DH would listen to Dave Ramsey on the radio, we started to understand but thought we were so far in the hole that we would never get out. It took us moving to a different state, and an extremely different environment (from urban/surburban to rural ranch country) for us to make the dramatic changes that we needed in order to change. I am embarrassed to say just how far in debt we were, and none of it was student loans, but I am proud to say that in less than one year we will have all our debt paid off except for the house. It has taken us 13 years to get out of that hole we built, but it is almost done.I think that lifestyle creep could be a different issue than people who live in super high cost of living areas like California and NYC, but I don’t know enough about that to really comment.
I do live close to popular tourist/vacation areas where there is a huge lack of affordable housing for all the lower and moderate income service workers. The workers then have to live 45-60 min from their jobs and/or the business just can’t find enough workers to support the amount of tourists that want to utilize the business. New businesses can’t grow because they can’t get enough employees so the economy can’t grow.-
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Would you have your son finish his Associate's in high school if he had no interest in attending college?
in High School and Self-Education Board
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Not really related to the original question, but I say this opportunity today and thought of this thread. @Sabine https://nmyrm.nmsu.edu/?fbclid=IwAR3RiR5nQ6ygPwAtIxujbA3fxZDKgJM19SshAFEsglq1FJNDi0VcnZW8oZg_aem_AXoNWVup50CNt79wbH8Pk48aXZ69wYTtT0wnO1mjXHEo4k3MrdJkk2hB8NKB21xUD38
It is a summer Youth Ranch Management camp.