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Katia - You are brave to address this issue here.
Also, what an opportunity to speak with your daughter about something that is perhaps not often spoken about. I'm not speaking of homosexuality here, I'm speaking of whether or not it is acceptable for a person of faith to "ambush" someone, which is what it seems like you are describing.
Insert any other issue that your faith deems sinful for the words "bisexual" and "homosexual" and re-read your post to decide if the actions are appropriate.
You are in a unique position, being pastor's wife. All eyes are on you, expecting you to do the right thing, and many will take their cues from you. I do not envy you this position. Especially if "what is right" is not the same as "what is popular." More good lessons for your dd.
Good luck. Let us know what you decide.
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I'm not the moderator, but ...seriously? Seriously? You seriously think such a discussion won't spiral downward into a "my side" vs "your side" and snide, thinly veiled, sarcastic, remarks about liberalism vs conservatism or socialism vs capitalism?
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We are at the library 2-3 X each week. The librarians "know" us. I make my boys approach the librarian, look her in the eye and ask "will you please help me find a book on X?" They love to help, and then they point out the numbers, the sections, in a very casual way. So, my boys are becoming very familiar with how to find books. They are also learning some valuable social skills, and that it is okay to ask for help. My younger son, who is especially shy, has made great progress (so much so that one of the librarians commented on it).
We are fortunate to have excellent librarians who truly love helping kids.
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There is a range of "normal" for cpox. The shot does not guarantee immunity, but usually if one does contract it after vacc, it is a milder form.
When I was a kid, my sister got the pox first. She was miserable beyond miserable. A very bad case, and she has scars to this day.
Then I got them. I stayed home from school and played outside all day. It was great! I had a very mild case and did itch a bit, but it never sidelined me the way it did my sis.
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or surf the net, check the boards/blogs I follow. between semesters I read novels.
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I love starbucks, but sadly, it's rare to find it living overseas. I'm usually half asleep in the morning and would probably spill more milk on the counter than in my coffee cup as a result. I drink it black to avoid having the clean up.:D
Are you at Osan? doesn't the BX there carry starbucks or duncan donuts coffee beans ground? Not exactly like *going* to Starbucks, but still very tasty coffee.
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*I* think an intelligent, motivated woman can do anything she puts her mind to....but not without help and not without making compromises in other parts of her life.
With that said, I am in grad school. I work full time (but for me that is 3 12-hour shifts per week, and only until my contract runs out in April, then I can scale back). We hs ds8, ds7 & dd4, although dd4 is in preschool 3 mornings per week outside the house and does Kindergarden HS the other days.
My dh has an unusual schedule. sometimes he's home, sometiimes he's gone completly. He is able (mostly) to arrange his schedule to be home when I'm at work. He does, literally, more than half the work right now. Of course when he's gone, I do it all, so we feel its a fair division of labor, plus he loves being home with the kids and he's great at it. this is my saving grace. he also supports my education, because when I'm finished, it will mean a better quality of life for the entire family. So, there's my help.
My compromise comes in that I do not tell him how to do things. He does not do things the way *I* would, but I have given up control of certaiin things. Less stress for me, less stress for him, happy kids. Win/win situation, but easier to say than do.
I also tip my head at a certain angle and squint my eyes slightly so I don't see the house (floors, toilets, countertops) so clearly. I *must* work on schoolwork above housework. this works for me, because my house is not an extension of my personality/inner self. If someone comes over to a messy house, I don't care. they're coming to see us, not the house.
I make time for rest. I have an underlying chronic condition that basically means I *must* be aware of my body and take care of myself. Thankfully, my dh is supportive, so when I get home from work, I basically eat, visit with the kids, and go to bed. I know that my getting adequate time in bed is not "wasting time" If I don't do it, I *will* get sick, be unable to function and that cannot happen.
So, make sure you have help & support, be ready to lower some standards where the standards really don't matter, take care of yourself & you can do it. Once you start, stick to your guns, and keep your eyes on the prize!
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The best coffee I've ever had and the only coffee I really like black is when a relative of mine makes it.
He imports his own green beans
roasts them
grinds them
boils water in a teapot
makes coffee in a French Press.
*That I will drink black*
Even for my own w/soy & sweetener, coffee made in a French Press tastes better than from a coffee maker. I've been told it has to do with the temp of the water being filtered over the magical beans.
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No, my avatar is not me. I would rather look at Bruce than look at my own picture up there.
I don't know what you look like, and please don't take this as an insult, but I'd rather look at Bruce's bootie than at you, too! :D
My avatar is a picture of my kitty, who was unwilling to look at the camera on my laptop.
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I didn't even know homeschooling was a lifestyle. I thought it was an educational style.
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I would think simply because by putting it inside you exclude the overwhelming majority of people who want to witness the event. I think the uproar over making this an indoor event that ordinary people would largely be excluded from (I'm not aware of any 1 million+ venues. :D) would be much larger then discovering that some of the artists had to fudge a bit due to the technical limitations of their instruments.
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So show the recording on a big screen, them performing it. Or have the inauguration inside. Have them play live, inside, and broadcast that. I just don't get it. Why are we having it outside in January anyway?
You know, I wondered this, too. Perhaps there is not a venue large enough in the DC area to accomodate all who wish to attend? Of course, earliest arrivers could get the inside, and the rest could watch via big screen TV, just like the people who were 1/2 mile away from the platform. Perhaps b/c outside is nonchargable? Or for the historic granduer of the visable monuments? I suspect it is because it has always been outside, so outside it remains.
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I have been toying with the idea of switching our school day around a bit. I'd like to start working with one child on their teacher intensive subjects while the other does independent work and plays, followed by the "together subjects", then the teacher intensive subjects with the next child while the first does any independent work and plays.
The problem I'm running into is the play time. I mean, it IS still school time, and they have to play alone, and they can't be constantly interrupting me to show me or sibling something.....
So I'm thinking of coming up with theme boxes filled with educational, independent, easy to figure out/set up/work materials (appropriate for 7 and 9 yos). I've thought of math/science filled with pattern blocks, geoboards, blocks, legos; art filled with picture study, playdough, wikki sticks, misc. art supplies like tissue paper, pipe cleaners, etc; role play filled with dolls, play food, dress up stuff; and a reading basket that they could have access to only during school time. I'd like to have 5 to 10 boxes put together, covering a variety of subjects, that I could rotate through to keep things fresh. Any ideas? I know that there are a lot of pre school age ideas out there, but what about elementary?
I'd really like to start doing school this way. The focused time on one child helps me to teach effectively, unlike the way we do it now, where I sit them both down at the table, and try to teach two different levels at two different speeds from two different books. I've combined as much as I can, but some subjects you just can't combine.
Thanks for making it through this long mess, and for any suggestions you have!
I have the same problem with my boys, almost 9 & 7. Math and grammar are the subjects that require the most mommy time, so to speak. Here's how I do it, with varying degrees of success (depending on, well...boys)
I start my older boy on some more independent subjects. I give him his materials and tell him what he needs to do. For example, spelling workbook, read history lesson, do 2 pages of handwriting.
Then I get started on math with the younger. If the older gets done before I'm done with math, he reads to himself (I either give him the book I've decided he needs to read or let him pick from any book in the classroom. He usually ends up looking through one of the Usborn encyclopedias).
When math is done with younger, I get him started on something that is more independent, like handwriting (which could take a loooooonnnnngggg time. Lots of complaining, but no need for help) or an easy crossword puzzle, which he loves.
When younger is set up, older & I do math and grammar. Younger usually ends up taking a break upstairs while older & I finish up grammar.
Then older takes his snack break while younger comes back down to do grammar.
Then the "together" subjects are tackled.
As I re-read this I realize it looks very good...on paper. :tongue_smilie: We have our struggles. The only time it goes super-smooth are days like today, when dh took one kid to the library & I stayed home with the other. Throw dd into the mix (she goes to preschool outside the home 3 days per week) and we spend almost as much time fussing & interrupting as school kids spend standing in line!
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We use the natural peanut butter that needs to be refridgerated. Dh puts the jar in the microwave and heats it (without my knowledge until now) uses it, then refridgerates it again until next time. Do you think this is okay/safe? I don't have any concrete reason why not, but am thinking it's not good.
Hit me with your expertise please!:001_smile:
Well, how long has he been doing this? Has anyone gotten sick so far? If the answer to the 1st question is "a long time" and the answer to the 2nd question is "no," then I'd say based on the evidence, it is okay.
It's your own little science experiment, with your dh as the researcher, and the rest of the family as guinia pigs, so to speak. :)
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I'm probably not your target audience for this question, but I find it very thought provoking. Regardless of where one thinks one will end up after death, or even if one believes death is the end, I wouldn't want to stick around forever. Seems as if it would get tiring.
And would this immortality mean our children would remain at their current ages? I look forward to my dc growing up, experiencing new areas of independence. I want to see them as mature people, even see who they choose to partner up with in life, and wonder if I'll have grandchildren, and what those grandbabies will be like. I don't want to give that up for living forever.
I'm also reminded of the main character in Stephen King's The Green Mile. He was very tired at the end of the book. All his friends and family had, indeed, died. When the mouse who was also given long life finally died, it was bittersweet. Bitter because of the death of the only creature who had endured with him for so long and foretold his own death. Sweet because death was not the enemy for him.
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I will respectfully offer the other side here. Both my kids have the Nintendo DS. Both my kids do not enjoy playing alone with it, once they got used to playing with others.
The Nintendo DS comes with a wireless feature that enables quite a few games (but not all) to be played with others. My son has made quite a few friends that way last summer at the pool. The 'individual' game system isn't that individual anymore...
Good to know. I did not know that DS had that capability.
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I just had to smile. Read that again but substitute "books" for "individual gaming systems"
True that. I was very antisocial as a child, with my nose in a book, ignoring everything around me....well, come to think of it, I still am. My dh says books are like drugs to me. But I will counter with the fact that at least I have a head full of useless knowledge because of my avid reading.
The door is still open for NintendoDS at our house...my oldest is only almost 9. I'll never say "never" :)
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I have a lot of fun playing "Burnout Revenge" on the XBox with my sons. We high five, cheer each other on, and hoot & holler. Is it educational? Well, I wouldn't go that far. But they have learned to take turns and they even include their little sister in some games, which doesn't happen very often in real life, so to speak.
We haven't gotten them individual gaming systems (like Nintendo DS) yet because I see that as antisocial. Maybe it would be good for a very long car trip.
Since we've gotten the gaming systems I don't hear "There's nothing to do." And it hasn't cut down on our family boardgame time, because the kids will pick playing Sorry or Backgammon with Mom over a videogame every time.
Other families may be different. My kids tend to self-regulate and I never have a hard time getting them to go outside.
I hesitate to add this, but the one big benefit in our house is sometimes I get an hour to complete a paper or finish reading for my schooling.
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He's 7--that's young for a boy to write well, based on my wide experience with my 2 sons :wink: Maybe in a year or so, have him add in handwiting and then after a bit add in spelling written nicely? Just very oft and gradual.
Thank you. I needed to hear this from someone who has btdt. I feel like foregoing the HWT alltogether for a while, because for us it is not without tears. There are some things he has to write, but I feel like I'm operating a torture chamber, not a schoolroom. Did I hear somewhere that homeschooling was supposed to be pleasant?
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Okay, I'm right there with ya, banging my head. My ds7 not only has horrible handwriting, he hates, with the white-hot intensity of one thousand suns, hates writing anything. I have resorted to letting him do his math verbally. He knows the answers in all his subjects, but it takes him forever to finish any work because of his loathing of handwriting.
Enforce standards?!?! Puhlease! I just want to get to the point where he will write anything.
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I heard of this before, but it just flabbergasts me. The idea that they can just TAKE a home from someone - I mean, if a business wanted your land & house and you don't want to sell, even for a pretty penny, you don't. But the state can????? They can force you to leave your home like that??? Unbeleivable. I don't get it. What happened to respecting a person's rights to their own property? I don't care how much they offer a person - a home is so much more than what it cost. So you could have a home that you put your heart and soul into for many years, and they can just say "tough, get out." ....and toss a family out???? (Yeah yeah, pay them, but that's not my point!)
I dunno. Just shocked this exists. That people would LET it exist.
Back where I used to live, there was a story I was told of this old fella who would NOT would NOT would NOT sell his little parcel of land to a big company who owned the land all 'round it and wanted his, wanted it bad. He refused for many many years, despite the increasing offers of money. Last I heard, he was still holding on to his home and his land. Unfortunately, I also heard that he's quite elderly and his son will, eventually, be the one to make decisions...and will likely sell. Blah.
Anyway. Why do you/people/we/etc allow a government (assuming it's gov) to do this sort of thing??
I know of a case where people were forced to sell their house b/c a Walmart wanted to move in. The county(?) gov't forced them to sell, and at a lower price than what they *thought* they should have gotten. Their argument was that the property was valuable to Walmart. They lost. What used to be their house is now a parking lot.
And, to the OP...we recently fought the hard fight in order to keep a landfill out of our rural area. It took almost everyone in the county signing a petition, going to numerous meetings, people who have never spoken up before speaking before the Board of Appeals, and a court fight funded on our side by donations. By "our" I mean, I was one of the county residents who would, if the landfill came, live 1.5 miles away from it. I joined the grassroots effort, but was not involved in the "top" so to speak. I did speak up at meetings, however, and wrote letters upon letters upon letters. Our saving grace was we started prior to approval being granted. It took 3 years until the company finally cried uncle. If the landfill went in, we would not have wanted to live in our house, but would not have been able to sell it. If the highway is within spitting distance of your house, will you really want to live there? The noise, trash & fumes will not be fun.
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My very favorite First Lady. I think she was the first to actually take on specific causes and be more than "White House Hostess."
"When Mrs. Roosevelt came to the White House in 1933, she understood social conditions better than any of her predecessors and she transformed the role of First Lady accordingly." from http://www.whitehouse.gov/about/first_ladies/eleanorroosevelt/
The biography of ER would be great for any of you who have daughters. What a role model! Heck, I think I'm going to put it next on my re-read list. She remains one of my role models.
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I don't think this was pot-stirring.
As long as she has posted on these boards, Karen has used that spelling. Yesterday her spelling was called into question (by you, right? With the womAn post?), and this seems to be a concise explaination of her reasoning.
Thank you for the background. I think it was needed.
I had noticed her spelling "womyn" before and never thought much of it, other than noting that it was consistent and, therefore, not likely a typo. I thought today's post was just an explanation, perhaps in response to a question (I guess I missed the post you're referring to) until I noticed the underlying snark in other posts.
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