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Have you looked into the County hospital? Years ago I had to go to one because I had no insurance. They charged on a sliding scale, and because of a very recent major financial setup they put me at the lowest rung, which meant I only had to pay for supplies.
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FWIW SKL the setup proposed by your might have been husband is hardly common in mainstream America. It sounds more controlling and dysfunctional than typical. I don't think that it is culturally unacceptable at all to have separate funds in some form or another. But I reject the idea that it needs to be separate either. What works for different couples is, well, different.
I used to work with a couple that met while working the same manufacturing job, starting at basically the same time. After they became serious, she learned that he made more than she did and he said "Of course, I'm a man." Compounding the problem was that her numbers meant that if anything she should be the one with the higher salary. She went on the war-path with both her employer and her future husband. It was rough enough that they came close to splitting up. They made a decision that they wouldn't even tell each other what their income. Ever! It worked for them.
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I know what to do.
- Give up on Mainstreaming.
- As part of giving up on mainstreaming, allow the class sizes to vary. If the kids in a class need a lot of intense teacher attention, then have the class size by 5-10 kids. For the normal and gifted classes have it be 20-30.
- Sort kids by ability not age, and allow different tracking by subject.
- Have alternate schools for the kids that are capable but disruptive and/or violent.
I am shocked that all states don't do #3 (eta: I meant #4). I used to work with a teacher at one of those schools. He said it was great. He could concentrate on teaching since there was a cop in every classroom. Kids know that the alternate school isn't any fun, and it is a deterrent.
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I've had a problem with this. It started when DD was a baby. I have a friend with a son 2.5 months younger than DD. Friend would ask me about milestones as a realistic "What to Expect" since the books are totally useless. Then I noticed later that she'd double-check the ages DD did something, and then I'd noticed she would be upset. I figured out that her son wasn't doing some things at the same age as DD. Of course, there were probably other things that she did later. So, I started to emphasize the negative. Like friend was really concerned about her DS drinking out of a cup and when DD did it. I said, "Oh, she's been able drink out a cup for a long time. But, remembering that the cup is in her hand hasn't happened yet. She forgets and pours out the drink on the carpet" While it was truth that she would sometimes forget and pour the drink, I made it sound like it happened all the time. In reality, she did that rarely, but my tolerance for it was zero.
There have been other problems based on my cluelessness about what kids "should" be doing. I mentioned to a mom the potty training idea of having the child count to 30 in order to give a good honest try at the potty. She looked at me like I had 3 heads. That was my clue that her kid couldn't count to 30.
I don't want to make anyone feel bad. I don't like disparaging DD either. I think the sun rises in the morning to see her, and I figure other parents think that way about their kids too. DD loves her sandbox and I would guess most kids do. But how can you talk about sandbox activities?
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I don't think it is what I would do, but I'm not going to throw stones.
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Wow. I don't remember those when I went to P.S.
I noticed this in the article.
"fails to recognize the need for local school personnel to make decisions based on their onsite, real-time assessment of the situation."
I wonder how often this is used to just get a child out of the teacher's hair?
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not to mention the cruddy marriage to the man who hadn't touched my body in more than three years (but that's another story).Well, gee, do you think that might have something to do with her issues? If I were tethered to a man who didn't want to touch me, I think I might start to have some problems. "Losing my sexy" would be the least of them.
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I would prioritize being home when he is home, and then see stuff with just you and the kids when he is gone. Then you can have the kids tell him all about the things they saw/learned when he gets back.
Then if he really wants to see something, go those places on your vacations.
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Yes and yes..l
Also why can't you buy undies in a size 1-2... My toddler is on the smallish side and the 2-3s fall down but we are ready to toilet train.
You can, but they are an extreme specialty item. Look into supplies for ... I forget the name Diaperless baby or maybe Baby Potty Training. The idea is that you skip the diapers all together and just get your baby over a potty or the toilet when they signal you that they need to pee. At the local Nappy Shoppe, we bought some cloth underwear with snaps on the side and little inserts that were basically cloth panty liners. I would start at a cloth diaper store. If you don't have one near you, I'd guess the one near me in Plano, TX would ship some.
We did the diaperless thing from about 6 months old when I figured out why she screamed and cried for about 5 minutes before peeing. It was because she didn't want to pee on herself. Until about 1 year, when she started to walk and she decided that peeing on herself was better than stopping the fabulous thing she was doing. Of course, immediately after peeing she then cried and had to stop the fabulous thing, but she wasn't exactly at the logic stage of life.
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Not Honeymoon, but on a business trip my room at the Days Inn had been a location of a very recent murder. It didn't take years of Law and Order episodes to recognize that someone had been stabbed to death, left to bleed out, and then the body dragged out the door. I don't think they even tried to clean it. I was allowed to make my own travel arrangements after that.
On Honeymoons though, we stayed home for ours and planned on starting to plan the trip to Hawaii immediately after the wedding (I love to plan vacations). The 2nd - 5th day of our honeymoon was spent wet vacuuming the floor because the water heater busted.
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I also didn't particularly trust the height measurements until she could stand. There was too much variability when it involved a wiggly baby. Although, it would have been good enough for clothing selection.
One reason might be that you can't really complain to the manufacturer when the size is off and they only label the weight. They can just say "Well, your kid is fatter or skinnier than the norm." But if your kid is X height and you buy footed PJ's and they are too short, then you would be complaining.
One idea is to buy those clips that snug in the waist. They look like the clips that attach mittens to coat sleeves. I've also seen the reverse. You roll up the pants hem and put these decorative giant paper clips to hold the rolled up hem in place.
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I attended a ... I don't remember the official name. It was a brand-new Opera house and they wanted to fine tune the acoustics. They needed a full house for that. The tickets were free. They did a variety of different types of performances. Solos, choirs, big church bells, little bells, cannons, various instrumental only. There was one that they announced would be quite long , i.e. around 10 minutes. They asked that people find a comfortable spot on the seat because they didn't want people moving around, and to remove any children that couldn't sit still without a peep for that long. When that piece was done people would be invited back in. There was a baby making happy cooing noises! Normally, there would be enough shifting around to cover that. But with everyone else pretending to be statues, the baby noise was as obvious as the performance. If I'd been in charge, I'd have stopped it. Ejected those people from the building (not just the performance area) and started again. They had been warned.
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We believed in dresses. Not because "females must wear dresses", but because they are practical. It was nice to have easy access to the diaper. Since then it has been nice that we don't have to worry about length. Although she wore pants and a shirt when she was crawling. But as soon as she got reasonably good at walking we switched back to dresses to encourage walking. Just last night I realized she (3.5 years old wearing 3T generally) was wearing a 9-month sized dress as a shirt. Several of her baby dresses are now shirts. I wish people still did like they used to, i.e. all infants wearing white dresses.
The thing that drove me nuts about infant clothes was shoes. She started to walk at a normal age but her feet were a size 3. 98% of size 3 shoes are booties which slop around on the foot when they try to walk.
But, you are right, length is far more important than weight for infant sizing.
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It makes me laugh how many of our kids think WE will homeschool THEIR kids :D My youngest expects the same thing!
Because, of course, homeschooling is just so darn much fun for you.
It would make me a little sad if DD announced pre-kids that she wanted to send her kids to an institution. I would have a hard time not believing that we'd failed in some way.
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I hate poetry. It either better be non-fiction or have a story. Otherwise I'd rather read random signs.
I haven't even read every poem written for ME. A boy I met between high school and college sent me a letter with a poem in the middle. I eagerly read the letter, but I never got around to going back and reading the poem. And, it made me lose interest in him.
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I've heard it said that martial arts classes can back-fire by making women think that they can protect themselves in any situation and therefore go where they would and should be otherwise afraid to go. But, in early high school my parents made me take martial arts classes for a year. I hated it with a passion. Part of it was what to do to get out of certain holds. One was when someone has their arm around your neck and you're kind of bent over. They try to make it as realist as possible. So, you are supposed to bite a bad guy and are supposed to bite the fabric they are wearing in class. Then you stomp their feet really hard (next to the feet in class) and then stand up. Senior year of high school, I was rough-housing with my boyfriend in the front room of my house. I felt zero fear. His best friend was there too (so no sexual tension), and my parents were in the next room. He did that hold. Without thinking, I chomped down hard on his side (left a bite mark bruise), stomped NEXT to his foot and stood up. I swear I was as surprised as he was.
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Oh, she has a ton of books already, and she goes to the library once a week. In a few months we will be moving to a very small town, and I was dismayed to notice that she has more books than the library. She just doesn't want to let any book be unread.
I really hadn't thought she'd find them interesting. At the moment her favorite books are the "Long books" as she calls them. Books with pretty pictures and >50 words on a page. So, stick figures and ~4 words per page would seem to be uninteresting.
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No. The public education crisis of the 1980s was more influential than the current public education crisis. I opted out of this one before it started.
(I might need some definitions of terms...)
This is the reason for us. The education I got in the 80's was pretty crappy. I was in a school district considered one of the best in the state, but the state as a whole was ranked very low. I don't remember how low, but I remember teachers talking among themselves and being genuinely happy the state wasn't last. My school district also targeted homeschoolers enough that a famous lawsuit resulted. Which brought the homeschooling idea into my brain.
The only reason the school did not negatively impact my life was that I was smart enough that I could get their work done super quickly and then read my books. Teachers quickly learned that I disrupted class by chatting to my neighbors otherwise. My husband has always stated that he got "a fine education" in the urban school that he attended. But, based on his stories I pointed out that he'd taught himself from 3rd grade on. He was bored in 3rd grade math class, and disruptive as a result. So, the teacher handed him the 4th grade textbook, then on until he was teaching himself Algebra. After that his SOP was to take the final exam the first day of class and be left alone. When they did try to fit him into the mold he would be even more disruptive than me. Things like lighting his farts on fire in the class. In one of his classes, about once a week the class could see how many desk they could throw out the first floor window before the teacher noticed. Once they almost got all. Oral s$x also happened in the classroom, during class. SO, my husband was quickly converted to the idea.
So, Crisis isn't the word I'd use. It has been going on too long for that. I haven't heard anyone say that public schools are better than they were in the 80's
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Mine advice would be much more practical. I'd really rather it not happen in the first place.
Never ever let your drink out of your sight.
Never get very drunk. You can not count on your friends/other people to protect you.
Never be alone with someone unless you completely trust them.
Even then have a back-up out.
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I read a Dad writing about taking their kids to Disney World. One of parents was arguing that they NEEDED to go again because the youngest hadn't been yet (All three kids were pretty young). One of the parents asked the oldest what they remembered and liked from the trip to Disney World the previous summer. The answer was "The hotel pool was really neat". Not much else was remembered. And, it was DISNEY. If you can't count on Disney to make an impression, you certainly can't count on a book about someone he hasn't met.
I filed this under the heading "Disney Test" We are not going to Disney until DD can remember more than the pool from the previous vacation. I don't remember the age of the kid in the story but it was definitely more than 5.5.
One thing I do with DD because I read that its helpful for recall (and snuggly) is I ask her what the highlights were for the day. I am usually shocked what was important. Like yesterday, DH and DD went to the zoo. It was a beautiful and they'd added new/neat animals. She got to pet a Flamingo. What does she remember most? That she tripped and "went splat 4 times".
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Since you are worried about arithmetic, have you looked at the Math Games book that is part of Right Start? That may be the way to cement the low-level math.
Part of the problem with 59 +31 was that his brain shut down in boredom. I remember once in school being forced to do a math worksheet that was grades below my level. (I think it was a confused sub) I made mistakes. Embarrassing mistakes.
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I don't know how this works in real-life blueprints, but I fantasize about a laundry room that is connected to the backs of everyone's closets. These closets, would have drawers that open in the laundry room as well as the bedrooms. They would also have hampers accessible on each side of the wall.
We are in the middle of remodeling our next house. One of the things I insisted on was that laundry room share a wall with our closet and there be an opening between and a closet rod going through both. I hang up my nice clothes out of the washer. When they are dry, I'll just shove them into the closet.
But, now I think we will need a low opening for a hamper. That is a great idea.
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What does UO stand for?
Note, I think I am mainly grumpy with a friend of mine. I've watched her son become ...not as nice of a boy and he already hates school. He is in preschool "because she has to work", He's decided he is dumb and hates reading because he is having trouble learning sight words. He just turned 3.5.
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Hey! I thought there was a Be Nice rule in this thread.
This is confessions not disagreements thread.
Your first baby
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I spent the first year worrying that she would stop breathing. No health issues, just a major fear of mine.
I was scared to leave the hospital. If we have another, I've told my husband I want to tell the hospital that we are getting out of there as quickly as possible, even if I have to bring the newborn back for tests.
Another worry I had was falling while holding her and which instinct would override. It happened and "protect baby" prevailed, which was a relief. Even though I broke my toe. I forget the exact setup but it was something I could have easily protected myself from, so much so that the doc gave me a funny look like "This doesn't make sense. Domestic Abuse?" When I said I was holding my baby, then I got a knowing nod.
I think this fear is pretty common. My MIL was telling me that "She wasn't tired at all when she came home after her first baby". Knowing which decade that was, I asked how long was she in the hospital. "A month". This was a healthy normal pregnancy, they just figured it took that long for the mom to figure out how to take care of a baby.