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My daughter was so excited for me to see how the lime juice was eating the "confederate" sugar up in the icing she was making.....gotta love good ole southern sugar. She was shocked when I had her reread the yellow box....confectioners sugar? I have been saying confederate my whole life....LOL Has me chuckling days later
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ditto Mrs Mungo. Our focus today and tomorrow is to get all the books looked at,introduction chapters read, and next week lined out. Tomorrow they will be taking a standardized test . I love to compare the same test at the end of the year. It helps all of us see the progress that has been made.
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In our state we are required to keep
(1) a plan book, diary, or other record indicating subjects taught and activities in which the student and parent-teacher engage;
I was wondering what others use to keep a record of what you do each day?
I am especially interested in hearing from those who do not write out detailed daily lesson plans on each subject.:bigear:
I do not know what to use and thought to see what others have found helpful.
Thanks
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That is awesome! Congrats to him and to you!
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yes many times trial and error is the best teacher. Thanks again for all your input and suggestions.
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oh it is a good book and a good reminder. I was not trying to say to keep upping the consequence but rather be specific about what is expected and what the consequence is. Yeah when they are willing to take that consequence then its time to rethink and see if you can find something that motivates him internally to make wise choices. I know many times they think of doing things it never occurred to us as moms to talk about not doing.....chucking as I remember my 3 year old standing on the table spinning my chandelier. I had never told her not to spin it....she had seen me cleaning it a few days before.....oh the joys of parenting.
Your son sounds very creative. Think of all the chuckles you will have years from now : )
HUGS to you during this time of figuring it all out.
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Hmmm... I am going to be the outsider I guess. I will get to that in a minute
First HUGS!!! I remember reading Dr Dobsons book the Strong willed child when I had 2 preschoolers and he was so compassionate to moms of multiple preschoolers. I would cry when I read the section on boundaries and the need to determine the difference in childish irresponsibility and willful defiance. I remember those were tough years. My heart goes out to you. Take heart it does go fast and they will be preparing to fly the coop before you know it.
I love the idea of sensory projects. It sounds like your little guy loves them. You can make your own play dough...choosing the color of the week was reward for good behavior at our home. Gak sounds fun. These could be rewards that are earned or taken away depending on obedience.
This is the outside part (spoiler alert)
I know its not popular to talk about training to obedience but it is so important. There are always acceptable and unacceptable behaviors throughout life. It sounds like your little guy is testing the boundaries and asking where they are. Dr Dobson would say he is feeling insecure...maybe the change in routine is part of it...he wants to know he is ok....so he tests...remembering this would help me deal a little more calmly with my tenacious DD...I would think...oh, you are feeling insecure..I can help you feel secure...Then I clearly laid out my expectation and the consequence and waited on stand by....she was going to test me!!! guaranteed.!!!!.she just had to. As soon as she stepped over the line I followed through with the consequence...it did not take long until her behavior would taper or calm down.
Aslo the five love languages book is helpful with dealing with childrens behavior. The premise of the book...if a child love tank is not full they will act out. The tank may be filled with touch, time, gifts , acts of service and words of appreciation. Sometimes when we get busy my kids do not get enough time....maybe we shorten bed time routine...that takes our snuggle time (touch) as well as time (time). If I am really perturbed with them I am less likely to be speaking words of appreciation....LOL
Many time just taking time to see if we have changed our schedule and are not meeting their love languages...then to remedy that takes care of the behavioral issues. Our teens 15 and 16 still act out when their love tanks are empty....
Sorry this is so long a reply. When we first had kids we wer given a huge challenge
"if you invest the time in training your children their first 5 years in your home, they will grow up to be delightful years their last 5 years in your home" I can say we took that challenge and are reaping the benefits now. We worked hard to raise kids we enjoy being around. That meant I could not excuse behavior I knew would not serve them (or me) well in the future. I cold not allow disobedience to continue. It was exhausting work! Thankfully there are others to encourage us along the way! Those that offer hope that this too shall pass.
Give yourself a hug and breath deep. Tomorrow is another day!
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oh thank you for your input. I have much to research. I have heard that spelling power could be used for both girls?
Thank you all again
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yes it does cost. I feel it was so worth it. The encouragement alone was wonderful not to mention the advice on scheduling and setting goals for my kids in 4 areas.
a quick view of what I took away in scheduling and setting goals.
1. Scheduling...sit down with a paper list hours on left side in half hour increments and days of week across top. Now place all your commitments in the schedule...piano lessons, church, volunteer time, nap times, driving times etc...this will show you if there are any conflicts with your lesson times. It will also show you what hours you realistically have to do school work. If you have conflicts you may need to say no to some things in your life...even church. She recommends going to your husband and talking with him about your conflict and seeing what he has to say.
Coming from a Christian viewpoint of the husband being the head of the family she said she did not always believe this way but has learned that her husband does not need to understand the details of school and such for God to give him wisdom for their family to follow. One year she decided to take what her husband said as being Gods will for her family and she was amazed at the results and the wisdom God gave her husband.
2. setting goals for each kid
4 categories with examples for lets say Katie
Social- to learn to speak kindly and give up her desire to serve others more easily
Spiritual - Grow in humilty, kindness and patience though seeing Jesus more clearly
Skills - learn to clean the bathroom thoroughly, practice clarinet daily, learn to cook a new family dinner each quarter
Academically -
Bible- survey as part of TOG
History - read all TOG core readings and do 1 hands on project a month
Math - finish chalkdust pre cal book and published tests
Geography - TOG maps each week
diction - complese these each day for 1 unit
writing and comp - TOG writing assignements as given
Science - Abeka 6th grade text plus tests and 2 projects
Literature - TOG as written
Spelling - spelling power daily faithful use all year long
I looked at all this and thought...I can do that.
I also really appreciated her encouragement that God would help me as I looked to him to set up the schedule for my family. It seems like I should not need this reminder but it was so comforting to be reminded that I am not doing this alone. I have the holy spirit to guide me and help me.
I hope this is helpful
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oh thank you. I am reading about this program. Do you think I could use the adult version of the program for her? I am thinking she might could go through that one...but if I start with level 1 we could doit with her 10 yr old sister too I guess....
Any more thoughts?
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My daughter pukes the first day or so of her cycle too...
HUGS to you and your daughter.
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This will be my first year using TOG but I have been in the prep mode for a few weeks. I have an UG student like your 5th grader and I can say that it is not that intense for her as compared to my high school student. The wonderful thing about TOG is that you as the teacher choose what your children will do. The lap books for younger kids helps keep them interested and provides a great keepsake of what they have studied (my friends daughter did this and that is part of the reason we picked TOG this year...and the discussion time for my older daughter too)
I just listened to the lesson planning 101 teachers DVD and I have to tell you it was great and awesome and wonderfully encouraging material. She really supports you as the teacher selecting what works for you and your family....
all that to say YES, I believe you can. They have a sample 2 weeks you can try or you might find a unit someone is selling you could try also. My kids are very excited to be studying pyramids this year. My daughter 10 yr old wants to make a paper mache mummy...lol sounds messy to me but fun to her.
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We've just read Detectives in Togas. The kids loved it. They are also loving the Ranger's Apprentice series.
My whole family is enjoying working through the rangers apprentice series. We are on book 6 and love that our dad reads in many different voices to us.
:bigear: for other good read alouds
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That is too funny Unicorn.
We had a very mild winter in the South with little freezing temps to keep them in check. The vet told us there are many people without pets that are having flea problems this year.
HUGS to you!
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Just for thought....is he committing to PS for the rest of high school? If not then you can try it out and see how he does. My DD chose to come back home after her freshmen year. She was frustrated by the wasted time in school and decided she learns more in less time at home so this year she is participating in band at the high school but doing her work at home.
EDT just meaning he does not have to stay in public school just because he goes this year. He may find he loves it and thrives or he may find it is not to his liking.
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My DD is 15 and a voracious reader. Spelling is another story all together. I had her write out our grocery list and was simply amazed by what she could not spell. (She was home with me for 7th grade and is coming home this year for 10th).
Her reasoning for frute was it sounds like a flute.
I am not sure what curriculum is out there to help poor spellers?
Hive what do you suggest? I am not familiar with a lot of curriculum so could you please spell the name out? I have come across many acronyms of curriculum like HTTS, LOE and Kiss but I have no idea what those letters stand for.
I am all :bigear:
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Sure Angel
Hmm... you can copy and paste that in your browser.
Or google tapestry of grace and click on their site. at thet op click on store and on the right is teacher training. The lesson planning 101 is the one I recommended. The other training is specifically for TOG curriculum but that lesson planning 101 is cool for all....IMHO
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I wish I could remember where I read it, but I remember an article where the author pointed out that while there are many things kids can be involved in that are good, you need to decide not just what is *good* but what is *best* when it comes to your time. The example she gave was your neighbor getting all her kids ready to go to pee wee tennis or whatever while you are making dinner together and feeling bad b/c your kids aren't doing tennis lessons.
She points out that while the tennis lessons may be good they are not necessarily the best use of time, when compared to the value of eating together as a family. I try to remember this point when signing them up for stuff and ask myself if the activity would be replacing something of higher value-like free time, time as a family, lazy time on weekends, etc.
DH was adamant that we eat dinner together as a family each night, and I'm glad he was. We have so many fun memories of being at the table together, playing word games, reciting funny poems, sharing stories and jokes, and just "bonding" as a family. We still eat together several nights a week, but with 2 adult children, it's hard to be "adamant" about anything now. :lol:
I agree with what others have said: that it's not usually necessary to have extra-curriculars, but it can be beneficial. It's just so easy to get sucked into a frenetic lifestyle (especially in metropolitan areas where opportunities abound), which doesn't benefit the kids, the parents, or the family as a unit. I encourage young families to proceed with caution!
I agree many times figuring out what is "best" is my hardest task. I think extra curricular are nice but I do not view them as necessary. If we become so caught up in doing that we stop being as a family then I fear the long term repercussions. I firmly believe the best thing I do for my kids is invest in my relationship with their father and keep our marriage strong. The next thing I feel I must give them is a belonging and sense of family. In the military we move a lot so many times we are all each other has. We work to cultivate those relationships. Dinner times are so very important...I think bringing up boys talks about how just 3 sit down dinners a week (can be in restaurant) is a huge deterrent for kids getting into trouble.
I have found the times we are most busy my kids love tank (five love languages) does not get filled and we pay for it with attitudes. Plus, I miss out on having the opportuinity to talk with them about things that really matter. I feel preparing my kids for life is my greatest task....the reality of life is we cannot always do what we want to do. We need to do what is best for the whole family. If we sacrifice family for activities then what will we have in the long range....I do not want to raise kids that are too busy to visit us with my grandchildren.....LOL ;) totally selfish on my part I know.
As I work, believe me it is hard work, to keep hectic out of our life I beleive I am teaching my children how to make hard decisions as well.
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Tapestry of Grace has a webinar titled Lesson planning 101. She talks about how to look at your families schedule and to deconflict commitment times. She also addresses setting goals for our children for skills, social and spiritual as well as academic.
I cannot say enough about how helpful I found her webinar. You do not have to be using TOG to enjoy the info and encouragement she gives!!!
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Have you thought about how you can teach your children the lesson that with privileges comes responsibility? And having them pick up doing around the house what they can do to free you to take care of what only you can do?
Just as responsibility allows privileges...ie...job = spending money, house payment etc....so too privileges require responsibility. As a memeber of the family they have the opportunity to request family funds, time and effort be spent on their activity. As a family member they are expected to be helping around the house too. There are some jobs only you can do....like driving to and from. There are other jobs in the house they are capable of doing like laundry, dinner preparation, house cleaning that sort of thing.
What a great opportunity to teach the life lesson that household responsibilities must be completed no matter how hectic their recreational schedule becomes. I think this helps prepare them to become an adult and can take some of the burden off of you.
Oh and the answer to "do I have to do this (clean kitchen, cook dinner)? is always "no, sweetheart you do not have to. If you do not want your privilege then you do not have to fulfill the responsibility. The choice is yours." It is amazing how motivated they become to clean up after dinner so they can get to soccer.
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My kids love granola bars I buy as Sams and they dip it in apple sauce. I have two growing teens and they eat all day long. I let them have bread with peanut butter and nutella, I only buy wheat bread though so they do not love that and do not eat too much of it.
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Planned snacking helps. When our kids were as young as yours, we had two snacks a day- usually one before bedtime and the other was during the day- depending on our schedule, it might be that we needed a snack late morning because we were having a later lunch. Or we needed an afternoon snack because we had an early lunch. Either way, two snacks a day.
In addition to limiting snacks (which helped them eat better at mealtime), I portioned the cracker type snacks into snack size baggies or small snack containers. That kept them from eating too much at one time, and got them used to portion size.
I had a basket on the table that held the snacks in the bags, and also had the fruit. At snacktime, a kid could choose. The fridge held other options, but in small containers. We still use the 1/2 cup rubbermaid type containers for holding cut fruit, etc. Grab and go makes it easy AND keeps them aware of portion size.
It's really not a bad method. We no longer limit snacks but the kids still like having the basket of stuff available. When they're rushing out the door to their college classes, it's so easy to grab a granola bar and a snack or two to get them through until they get home that afternoon.
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Iagree with Apryl the maximun ride books are for a little older crowd....
Have you looked into the sisters grimm? My 10 year old has been reading these non stop the past few weeks. She is on book 6 now....I even enjoyed them
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My 4 year old often will stick his hand down my shirt and just want to leave his hand on my breast. Sometimes he is just chattering and it seems to be something to keep his hands occupied and other times it seems he does it for comfort. Both my girls did similar things but out grew it. I am sure my son will too and while I don't let him leave it there it doesn't bother me unless he tries to do it in public. Are my children "odd" or is this pretty normal?
I think it is pretty normal for kids...especially those who breastfed...that was their comfort place. It is soft and warm there. He will outgrow it. He will be spending more time "out" playing with friends and such not so close to mommy so it will happen naturally. You could give him another option of soft to touch...like inside elbow..or something. We touch body parts we can see not those covered by clothes...just brainstorming here :tongue_smilie: thinking that later in life it might be helpful as a young man to remember to keep his hands to uncovered body parts.....hehehhehe
How do you deal with kids who push each other's buttons all day long?
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We have used scripture copying as discipline very successfully. They know it has to be in their best handwriting and up to dad's standards or they will have to write it all again.
You could use the passage from 1 Cor 13:4-7 "love is patient, love it kind...
Galatians 5:22-23 "But the fruit of the spirit is love, joy, peace"
I use the toolbox in the book "Creative Corrections" by Lisa Whelchel for a ton of different verses that deal with all kinds of behaviors. Some of the scriptures are
Speaking Unkindly: Prov 15:4, Prov 12:18,Prov 15:1, Prov 18:21
Talking too much: Prov 10:19, Prov 17:28, Prov 21:23
Teasing Prov 26:18-19,James 3:5
Sibling Rivalry Prov 17:14, Prov 25:21-22, Romans 12:10, Rom 12:18,Rom 12:21, 1 Peter 3:8-9 and 1 John 2:9-10
I especially love Romans 12:18 "If it is possible,as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone"
Self Control; Prov16:32
Peacemaker Prov 21:3, Prov19:11,James 3:18 and Matt 5 :9
As the kids have gotten older we have had them copy whole chapters out of Proverbs and then talk with us about what they learned from the passages they copied. It is always interesting to see what they take note of. I figure good messages in...should equal good out. At the very least they work on penmanship and are motivated to get along so they do not have to write more...LOL
On a more funny note...If their mouth keeps getting them in trouble I have had them hold their tongue to help them remember to guard what they are saying (either in tone of voice or not to be bossy). After 4 or so minutes the tongue gets dry and yucky.
It was very successful with DD #2. She would even do it to herself when she knew her tone was unkind...first time she did it I about rolled on the floor laughing. The fun thing was I had not thought to have her hold her tongue....who was I do tell her not too?
Keep on keeping on You are doing a good job with your kids. It is so hard not to grow weary in well doing during these years with young at home. It does go quickly though and somehow they do learn the lessons we have worked to instill in them.