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typical southern winter in Alabama along the I-20 east - last weekend we had below freezing weather road iced over and everything shut down and this weekend I'm in shorts and its in low 70's today
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clinical depend on the program and your last semester is really your choice. I did night shift for my practicum. I've also chose night shift most of my career.
I know in my area we are having nursing shortage and use travel nurses so I believe new grads have no problem getting days.
​next summer will be 25 years bedside nursing and I still love the evening/nights. I work 3 p- 3 a
I have no interest in management or NP.
THe NP program was new for my area in the 90's and I have friends that did that when it was new and had to leave the state to find jobs. The NP still don't make that much in this state. I think this is going to change cause they are giving them more autonomy because we have a GP shortage and mostly rural
I know you can make it through school. When I attended school we had a student had just finish chemo non Hodgkinson lymphoma. She was still sick all through school and died a few years afterwards.
So if you really want nursing you can make it happen good luck
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I doubt Oster are made like they use to but I've had mine for 26 years still going strong. I've only changed out the gasket. Its glass with multi-speed.
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well i'm 47 and wear French braids and pony tail at work. I have waist long thick hair. I work with older nures that also braid. I thinks its whatever makes you feel happy
I also know men don't care it ONLY other women that judge.
So do what make you feel comfortable.
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I ask for a new room. I seem to always get the room that neighbor the screaming baby or enthusiastic couples either fighting or ya know LOL
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when I lived on the coast I learned quick to have one. We usually lost power for a few days but it was around 3 weeks post Katrina. We were on a bayou so it took longer. The gas station and stores it took a bout a week. So we make sure to have a weeks worth of gas and enough cans to fuel a car.
We did not have one during the Blizzard of 93 but we had wood burning stove and camping stuff so we were fine. We lived rural so it was around 10 days before power.
I now live about 4 hours from the coast and currently sititng here during a Ice Out. We have not lost power but all roads are closed. My dh hit ice last night on way home, truck was 4 wheel drive but the truck got stuck on sapling and he walked home 4 miles.
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I got mine at Kmart around 2000. I think for around 120.00. It has not lost any of the fullness all the lights are still great. It still looks new.
I I've kept it in orginal box but not closed up. I sheet over it to keep dust off in my attic. I live in the south so our attic space gets 100 +++ in the summer and we rarely have below freezing temps.
I'm guessing quality and storage may effect how long it last. This see the tree lasting longer than the lights. I keep thinking each year the lights will get a short and quit but they keep going.
anyway this tree is set up every year
and some years I will get a live tree for another room. It really just depends how much entertainment I'm having for the season.
This year its just my old faithful
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thank you for your kind thoughts I came in this evening and so use to her being there to great us - just so sad really miss her
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This is a timely thread for me.
Rip - Coco 9/04 - 12/6/16 a sweet, loving, peacful, gentle friend. We will miss you.
Our dog died last night. We were lucky all off and at home. She was my oldest son's and he laid down with her from 10 pm to 5 am as she passed in our basement. Its been a sad day but she had good life. My oldest son had issues with depression- suicidal as a teen and she was his best friend and what really helped him. My son is mentally healthy now and was prepared for her to die. I'm just so grateful to her for giving my baby boy what he needed. She was a gift to our family but especially to my oldest.
We now have a very old cat that showed up in our barn and a 6 yo cat
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not a lawyer and never been divorced but I see over the years society and courts have NO RESPECT for sham moms. They see women that decide to stay at home as lazy and living off their husbands. We are in a feminist society that pushed for that mind set. I also see 100% of the time with middle age divorce were the women stayed home with the kids. The soon to be x-husband thinks of the sham mom as lazy and living off him. He doesn't see you taking care of the kids and house as working. He thinks he did it all on his own. He will fight for not giving you a dang thing especially if he waited till all kids were over 18
I've seen this so many times. The only nice one I've seen recently the story . He knocked her up at senior prom. They stayed married and raised 2 kids. She got diagnosed with MS in her 20's He stayed out of responsibly. He was never in-love with her He has been supporting her post divorce for 3 years. She is now seeing someone. The x is a nice guy and feels bad leaving but he like so many of us that stayed married cause of children, religion or obligation . We hit middle age and feel major regrets in life or feel like we missed out. He agreed in the divorce to continued paying the mortgage until house is paid off. They've been divorce for 3 years. SHe is dating someone and so is he. They all vacationed together with the 2 adult children this summer. WOW best divorce I've ever seen.
anyway they are the only couple I know that have had a long marriage with a friendly divorce.
YOU need a good lawyer that actually respect sham moms. I've heard more than one that thinks SAHM are leeches and lazy
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we have a full weight room barbell, dumbbell, racks, smith machine, leg press etc. and a aerobic fitness room for hiit training, box jumps plus my dvd workots. Then the other area of our home gym has sparing room with all things MMA training speed bag, weight bag, mats, pull up, ropes.
So I have a really good home gym. I would think if I lived in a cold climate I would also want indoor court or something
But we live in Alabama so its really never to cold to go for a run or play some type of sport outside. We get an occasional few weeks of below freezing and off course the national news event of snow but its just not often enough to justify needing an indoor court
But totally you ever find me living north of Tennessee LOL I would need one cause I do not do cold weather. I pretty much wear flip-flop all year
Seriously how do you folks deal with 6 months of cold just no thanks
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As far as the bathroom the problem is that she shares it with her brother who then has to deal with the mess. Yes he could clean it but he has his own responsibilities around the house. She doesn't listen to him either. I don't think it is fair to him to have to deal with garbage falling out of the trashcan (used female products) and all the rest of the mess. We will also need to use that bathroom for company in 2 weeks and it's going to be such a big job now. I never say anything about her room but get so frustrated when she leaves wet towels in a pile on he floor and then they get all gross. It affects the rest of the towels.
I do understand and I had issues like that with my oldest for awhile. I finally told him he could clean up or he would need to pay his brother to clean the bathrrom. He didn't like it at first and was making excuse. I finally told him he could leave or do his share. Then showed him how much apartment etc are in our area. He decided to pay brother.
I don't think its fair that your son clean up your daughters femanine stuff. I think its time you may have to tough love. I don't know your daughter personality but I've got a passive aggressive pain the ass older son. I love him but he totally would leave everything up to his younger brother. I don't' know the age difference between the 2 but it took the younger brother finally speaking up and not allowing older brother to walk-all-over him.
I also think your daughter has similar issues in that she is self center and doesn't think about anyone but herself. I know my oldest is like that along with a mental health issue that when he was younger I did give him a bit more slack cause it just wasn't worth the fights
But now I just treat him like an adult. I tell him he is a adult in this house and since he is one of our room mates we expect him to take up the slack or he will need to find another house.
I feel your frustration and hurt cause we love our kids. I know with my son him living with us is honestly the best thing for him but I also have to do what best for my younger son.
I'm glad he decided to stay and everything is working out
I wouldn't want your son cleaning up but maybe her paying you. I wouldn't' do it for her without payment. She is an adult and if she doesn't want to clean then she needs to pay for the service.
and for my guys there bathroom my youngest is getting better with the cleaning they are almost up to my standard but just not often enough.
I missed the part about her being bipolar. I'm not dealing with that but my son has issues with depression so I understand sometimes wanting to just give in.
He see's his own doctor and has been stable for years but I can feel your pain and feel regarding your daughters behavior. My sister is bipolar and its been an emotional roller coaster for year
I totally feel for you
I hope you have resources IRL to help you out.
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I have a 23 yo living at home saving up. He and my 19 yo share a bathroom. I don't mess with their room or bathroom. THey can live like single guy or whatever. I know at some point they will grow up and take care of there own home. So I say don't stress about that. I only make a big deal if we are having company. They will clean up when I ask but I can guarantee you if you tell them like they are children they tend to act like children.
I don't expect them to check in with me except to let me know if they will be home vs staying at a friends or out of town. THey both are good about giving me a text.
Now my youngest sons is dating another college student that also lives at home. Her parents pretty much have the same view. She and her sister help mom out with general stuff like loading the dishwasher but there bathroom and room are there to live like pigs or clean LOL this comes from
My son whoms room is not the neatest says girlfriend is a pig pen so lord that must be nasty LOL
THe kids work, study and have college so I get they are busy and just dont' push it.
Now the op daughter is like my oldest son an independent adult. I know we moms expect things but honestly the best thing you can do is do just row with it and build a relationship adult-to adult.
You dont' tell another adult how to live or guide there actions.
You just have to bite your tnghe and be their for them. They will grow up. I've seen great changes in my older (problem child) He has is finally making more reasonable decisions .. Thank goodness
As for our marriage I'm so sorry you are having issues lord knows my dh and I are figuring out life with just the 2 of us.
The boys live here but have their separate life. I only cook for him and I. I will cook for the boys when they let me know they will be home. THey dont' tell me then they can get their own food !
I've learn to be my sons best friends. They feel open to share anything (I mean anything) I'm glad they can confide in me. They also know I'm a Christian and don't' always agree. But what they do know is I never preach or guilt them. I'm just a wise old lady. ;) They both along with there friends tell me I'm always right after the fact LOL.
I wish I could stop them from doing hurtful stupid stuff but I had to learn the hard way and sadly my oldest son is like me. Thankfully my youngest son is making wise choices.
:grouphug: ​ Middle age life is not for sissy's :willy_nilly:
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had the same white board for 15 years when it gets build up I use rubbing alcohol with paper towel and thankfully even get off permanent marker
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Cracks me up that animal control would come out for a snake.
me to - since I live rural and see snakes all the time. If they are non venmous we take shovel and move them away form the house . If they are poisonous we use a hoe and chop head off (only if they are close to house or in house I've had water moccasin in my basement. But thankfully I have king snake that is living in my barn. I haven't seen any poisonous since it moved in. I've only seen a few non poisonous.
But right now it's not the snakes giving me trouble. We are in a drought and having problems with black widow spiders.
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I was married at 20 and have never taken a time or advise form parents since I was 18. My sons have a real relationship with me. We talk about everything. They know my opinion on everything LOL. I told them a long time ago I've raised you with my ideals. I trust you to make the best choices for your life. I may not agree with them but I'm here to listen. I only offer advise when the ask. AND yes they do ask cause they value my opinion. I started treating them like individual young adults in high school I knew from having my way or the highway parents that was the way to loose your children. My sibling and I all of us in our 40's really still don't like or have relationship with our parents. I take care of them but they were so dogmatic about their Christian ways they couldn't see the forest for the trees.
I didn't' make my kids do things my way. I know from experience the best lesson learn are from mistakes.
I would love to keep the pain of life from them but that doesn't help them grow to be full responsible self sufficient men.
The funny thing is they come and tell me all the time "mom you were right" But they had to figure it our for themselves.
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within the past 5 years we've replace 2 units and just - wow totally worth it. We crank the thermostat way down for this summer (this is the dirst year wwiht 2 newer units) and still we are 200 dollars less each month than we were 5 years ago with 2 old units circa 1997
when we replaced the first unit downstairs it dropped our bill 150 a month but we were still using the old upstair unit. We kept the temp set on 78 all summer and 68 all winter.
This year we were able to keep our home cool the thermostat has stayed on 72 on days cause of day sleepers (the cooler house helps body adjust to a (regular type night sleep)
My bill is till 200 under my 2010 bill even with lowering the thermostat and the house is so much more comfortable
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well my father lived with us in early stage but after he started becoming dangerous to himself we gave up care. He got a hold of car keys and tried to leave in the middle of the night. He left stove, started a fire, tried to work on our electrical panel on and stuff like that there just was no way we could continue to watch him 24/7.
My son was 12 when he had to start sitting with my father for short times. It really influenced his life.
He currently works part-time in a dementia lock down unit. These are the ones that are in their last days. He says they loose several patients each week. He is in grad school for neuro studies his goal is dementia research.
I do believe care units for dementia patients is needed but the sterile hospital style lock units adds to their confusion.
I would love to the US start dementia town like facility like some of Europe are trying. They are seeing less confusion with their patients
anyway I have no book recommendations but do understand how outsiders think the American dementia units are cruel and also understand why patients don't like them. They look like a prison who wouldn't be confused and combative.
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well I'm a conservative and voted in the primary for someone other than the winner. I think that the winner of both parties are liars and crooks. The one party gal has been given payoffs for actions through her families foundation.
The the other guy is just a narcissistic bat-sh*t- crazy time bomb. I tend to vote this party but he is just dang crazy dangerous looney toon. I get why they picked the VP slot cause he would make a better president then nut hole . They picked him hoping someone like me will "hold their nose and still vote for the party"
I'm skipping my first election since turning 18. My state will go with bat-sh*t guy so its a vote that doesn't matter. We aren't swing and I here lots blue-dog democrats saying they are voting for nut-job.
seriously it would be a better choice if both VP were top on the ticket.
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Scarlett you are wanting your son to treat his stepbrother like a guest. Its just not a natural thing for a 16yo to take his 15yo brother with him for social stuff. My sister that I grew up with was 2 years younger than me and we didnt' socialized together.
Its not being mean it sound like normal sibling attitudes .
And yeah my sister would beg to go out with me at 16 cause she couldnt drive yet. I didn't want my younger siblilng cramping my style. And if my mom would of tried to make me I would stay home too. I would felt like my mom was treating me like a child.
The age does not like being told what to do.
You can talk to your son and maybe get him to feel some empathy for stepbrother but do not make him it will cause resentment.
So not knowing all the back story. You get step son for the past 6 years as a visitor. He is now living with you full time. I'm guessing your son not being 16 yet and free to roam with his own wheels didn't mind having a built in friend at home.
But now he is free and doens' want a hang a long. It sound to me like just normal teens.
We as adult thing gosh 16 year old is cruel selftish kid but he is acting like all 16 yo.
I can see making 16yo drive younger sibling to practice or something but not to hang out.
The 16 yo want his own automy. Plus he also has to adjust to a partime visitor stepbrother to a full time borther. I"m guessing he may also be dealing with maybe a bit of jealousy. He had you all to himself. He now has to share.
anyway that's what it sound like to me with the bit you've poster
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My youngest son went to a k4 christian school, then K5 public school, then back to a different christian scshool for 1st grade. The christian school said my son was behind and the only reason they accepted him was my 4th grade student was ahead. THe oldest was the student that made them look good. (BUT the oldest had spent K4 Christian school, K5 and 1st grade at one public school, 2nd-3rd another public school.)
The point in all the rabbling is your children are not behind. The schools do not teach the same thing each years. Its suppose to be accumulative so that by the end of 12 years they got everything.
We had one school that taught multiplication facts in 3rd grade, another didn't until 4th grade.
Its all arbitrary crap.
I don't know like the above person said your child has a learning disorder or not but I do know having 2 kids I homeschool for 10 years. They don't learn by some random group of education robots saying they should learn at the same age.
But I understand people don't' have choices and have to use public, charter, private school for education. There is the chance your child has some developmental issues that has caused him to actually be behind. This is not on you. You are trying to give the kid the best education your able. I don't' know the back ground about your homeschooling but obviously your trying to get the best for your kids.
Antidotal regarding by "behind child" . I started homeschooling the younger one in 3rd grade. He didn't really start enjoying reading until in was in 6th grade. He then read everything in sight and caught up. He made a 29 on the ACT. So behind does not mean a damn thing IMO.
It sound like the charter lady is bias to homeschool and only wants student that have the right test scores to make her look good
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My parents never attended church. They said church was for hypocrites. However they did make sure I knew the Bible. I started attending church in my late twenties, married to my second husband. We were having issues in our life and I decided to start attending church. (My DH is Baptist and attended as a boy and young man). I picked Lutheran because my great grandmother was Lutheran (she was Catholic but she disagreed with a lot that they professed and switched to Lutheran). We found a small church (lcms) and enjoyed it, even becoming baptized-my father, our children and myself and my parents even started attending. There was a problem at the church where certain elders and members did not take it kindly when the new pastor refused to allow people who were not Lutheran to take Communion (or Lutherans that could not take it for certain reasons). They forced out the pastor and the church split with some staying, some going to another church and others going to a different church. We were one of the ones that went to a different church, still lcms. It was a pretty miserable experience and between these two experiences, I saw that my parents where right and that church was full of not just sinners, but HYPOCRITES. Hypocrites that took pleasure in tearing down everyone else while exalting themselves and their chosen few.
This was FL, we moved to SC. Just before we moved I had given birth to our twins. Emily died and Meghan was born and survived with VACTERLS Association. We had hospice involved while I was pregnant, we knew Emily would die and possibly Meghan too. Our pastor told us that was not allowed to use hospice, we could only use him. I was blamed for the fact that only I was attending church by this point because no one else in our family wanted to attend. I also had people turn against me in the church because I was put on bedrest and could not attend including a funeral. Because of course I was suppose to endanger my life and the life of my babies to be there. Lots of other issues of again, the congregation being a bunch of hypocrites. My parents had switched to a different Lutheran lcms church too, but again, it was filled with a bunch of sniping hypocrites and they stopped attending. Shortly after we buried Emily, we moved to the Upstate of SC. Our next door neighbor was a missions pastor and we started attending his church. It went pretty well but it was (is) a HUGE church. We were not used to that. Also switching from Lutheran lcms (the children being alters and such) to a more modern church, gave the kids a shock, lol. Not that it was not a sound church. The sermons were great. We started to have some issues though with certain people that chose to judge us based on things they did not understand and we were not going to explain to them, it was not their business. We stopped attending. We then started attending a friend's church and we liked it but we could not participate in most activities because of my DH's work schedule (he was out of state during the week and would be home on weekends, and on occasion a double week, etc). Also this friend of mine who is very religious felt she could dictate my every action and if I did not do exactly as she said and did that was cause for extreme disapproval. Her husband was quite abusive to me too, he did not like my perfume (which people consistently compliment me on), or that I wore make up or that I am fat and so on. Her children were also being rude and judgmental of my daughter and myself. (This family loaned me their book by the Pearls if that gives you an idea of their philosophy), it got to the point that I was afraid to open my mouth in their presence or even dare move). They kept track of when I attended church and did not, how many lights were on in my house SERIOUSLY and other such things. Things came to a head when we had it out and we stopped attending their church. We went back to our original church and it had become even more uppity and condescending. So we just gave up. We are guilty of the sins that even Jesus could not forgive, me being too fat (18/20) and us not having money to throw around. My daughter does attend AHG and they have been a saving grace. I have not totally given up on my faith because of them and because I guess I am a glutton for punishment. They are a lovely group of gracious, loving women. My daughter did want to attend youth group and I found a church near us that is Baptist and more liberal than past churches we have attended. She does like it. We stopped attending for a bit because I have not been well but we are starting back this Wednesday (tomorrow). I am very cautious and I do not have the thirst for God like I had before...I feel nothing.
My daughter had not wanted to attend for awhile either. We attended CC and my daughter has multiple birth defects. At one point she was seeing twelve specialists and had multiple surgeries on her spine, heart, anus, etc. She just got rid of her feeding tube two years ago and still wears pull-ups. We missed quite a few sessions and instead of lifting us up, we were gossiped about--why could we make it to a birthday party or to gymnastics if we could not make it to CC? Seriously? My child has missed Christmases and Thanksgivings and her birthdays being in the hospital at times fighting for her life. She has missed out on gymnastics, horseback riding, piano, guitar and singing lessons because of her issues. On top of that, they wish for her to be punished for not attending whatever it is they felt she should be attending--even though it was okay for them to miss because of vacation-eye roll. We could do no right with these people. She was also told because of her birth defects that she would be the type of child a mother would abort. She did not even know what abortion was until these fine Christian folks told her. She was also asked if she was going to marry a man "like her" (with birth defects, hers are internal, btw). I think they could replace the word Christian with the word Nazi and it would work.
I feel the reason so many are leaving the church is the pure outright meanness of Christians. I am almost fifty and I have never met nastier, more cruel, sanctimonious, eager to find fault and revel in it, gossiping EVIL excuses for humans in my life. I have thought of it the last couple of days and the people that have caused the most damage to me and mine have been "CHRISTIANS" time and time again. I am not saying on extremely rare occasions I have not come across gracious and loving ones such as my daughter's AHG troop, but I tell you at this point I would rather go to damn hell than go to heaven to hang out with such a nasty group of so-called believers. When I am around people that do not attend church or stopped attending is because they did not feel welcomed and/or they became fed up with the drama and chaos of members.
I miss being spiritually thirsty, I miss having faith and hope in my God. I am very bitter.
This post breaks my heart because I love Jesus and believe the church should be like Jesus. The church is suppose to be unconditional love and support. I've had my share of meeting evil and ugliness in churches. I'm sure after so many years on this board I've posted about my encounter of a bunch of lady bullies that accused and insulted me during a bible study. It took me several years before I tried another church. Then I found another church and we loved the service and ministry but come to find out that members of the church thought the minister was being to friendly with me. I'm married but my dh never attended church with me. It was me and my boys. He really was giving me helpful spiritual counseling regarding my marriage and raising children We would have our conversation in front of everyone so it wasn't like we were in close office or something But church gossip got back to his wife and anyway. I left cause the minister was doing nothing wrong it was just a bunch of evil gossiping women again. I didn't want his ministry hurt.
I just want you know this lady loves you and feels your pain. Jesus loves you and your family and I really pray that you can find a true Christian church family.
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grew up in legalistic church left home became a born-again Christian and started church shopping. I just stop in on sunday morning services until I find a pastor I like. I have my conviction and go where the holy spirit leads.
What you need to ask is why people leave the church? I can tell you one of the biggest for me is having a great pastor but the congregation does not include you. I went to my last church for several years. I talked to people after service and tried to integrate into there "family" I had moved to the area and they were friendly at a superficial level but they were not interested in making friends.
I also know lots of seekers and they will tell me that a church looks cold or they have meet people from that church and they are cold people.
So the best marking for a church is truly loving people not Sunday morning cold Christian chair warmers.
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How old when you stop reminding...
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I still remind mine to take a coat with them LOL They are 19 and 23 :laugh:
Its a mom thing they use to get snippy and remind me they are not babies. Now they just give me kiss and tell me thanks.
They know I do it out of love.
and we live in a crazy climate warm to freezing in 12 hours so I still worry