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I think it is important to correct it. I'm trying to figure out why my head was in the sand. Of course, no one ever mentioned it to me until a few days ago. My oldest son (who teaches speech) said it would make people not want to listen to him when giving speeches. That lit a fire under me.
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Okay - I listened some more today. It isn't only at the end of words but it is only with the s sounds. I also looked at his bite - his over bite has gotten much worse. Maybe that has something to do with it. His lisp seems to have gotten worse too, but I am not sure about that. We had him evaluated for braces two years ago - they said to bring him back when he was older. I am making an appointment for him with the orthodontist ASAP. I want to get that evaluated and then take that information with us to the speech pathologist. I actually work contract at a peds clinic and can hopefully get the speech therapy at the employees rate - whatever that is. Hopefully a lot less than the regular rate.
What is a lateral lisp and how does one know if one's child has it?
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I listened to my son more carefully this morning. It seems like he mostly has a problem with s's. Hopefully that means he won't have as much of a problem correcting it?
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The lisp is only at the end of some words. Does anyone know what that means? I'll try to pay attention and see if I can hear a pattern. I can get speech therapy at a reduced rate, but if it's something I can do with him myself, I would rather try that. We don't have insurance that covers it. I'll look up those links you posted - thank you.
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I can't deny it any longer. My 10 year old has a lisp. Is it too late to correct this? Does anyone know what's involved? He wants to be a public speaker.
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The issue of directing kids into an activity that is hazardous to one's health is an subquestion of the question about whether youth groups should be run by younger and less mature people, and whether the emphasis should be on the fun, etc. This activity was clearly dangerous in several ways - vomiting, etc and spreading germs. Even more serious diseases than those mentioned could be spread - a young man at my son's college just died of meningitis. Would you have wanted your child to have drunk after him before he knew he had a serious disease?
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Good financial aid packages are not commonly given to students in any bracket except freshman.
Not to rain on your parade, but Cedarville is known for having only a few merit scholarships. It's possible your son would get one, but I would make sure he has plenty of other eggs in his basket, because you can't predict that. The last I heard the scholarships at Cedarville involved being invited to a scholarship competition weekend. You need to think about that, being overseas.
Keep asking questions - it'll start to make sense at some point.
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I recommend the Grizzly and Wolf Discovery Center in West Yellowstone. The kids get to go into the bear area and hide the bears' food. Then the kids exit, the bears are let back in, and the kids watch the bears eat the food they hid. Plan about 2 hours.
Yellowstone was awesome - just incredible. It's huge. Try to read a few guidebooks before you go so you can prioritize what you want to do. You would have to stay a week to come close to seeing everything.
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I need to buy a round trip airplane tickets for my teenager to Santa, Calif. The cheapest tickets I can find are $400 roundtrip. I'm thinking I need to buy tonight as the trip will be less than 30 days away as of tomorrow. Any ideas how to bring it down?
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Well, I have been beating about the bush, but I would agree with no contact. It will actually be easier on your daughter in the long run anyway.
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You are being a good mother and doing the right thing.
It may be too hot of an issue to discuss the book with your daughter right now. She may feel like you are attacking her friend and her friend's family. You may need to let the dust settle a bit before going through it with her. Or maybe discuss the ideas in the book, without directly mentioning the book (for now). This makes me think I need to discuss those issues in a more detailed, direct way with my daughters. Better forewarned.
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In most of the couples I know, they either seem equally matched, or the husband is weird and the wife isn't. I know plenty of couples in which neither spouse seems weird at all.
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I would find a way to loosen up this friendship. It doesn't sound healthy as far as the mother is concerned, and the daughter as she get older and can express the same views to your daughter. I may be being extreme here, but the thought of your daughter adopting that view and marrying into that type of relationship would scare me to bits.
What about involving your daughter in a new activity (maybe temporary) that takes up a lot of time, like a sport. She will just be too busy to be with her friend, but won't hardly notice as as she is having so much fun and even is tired out from the activity. In a few months you can back off the activity and maybe your daughter will have gotten used to not seeing the girl and move on.
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I think it is ironic that while she is studying how to be a super submissive wife, she undermined your authority as a mother. I might back off on my daughter spending time with her, and see if the mother sticks to this philosophy or it's just a phase. Either way, I would have my antenna up, as she was not respectful of you as a mother, and that would make me cautious about her influence on my daughter. Sometimes something like this makes me think the person is a bit wacky and not someone I want my child sending time with as a figure of authority. I am a conservative Christian, but some people seem to go overboard in their interpretation of things. If that were the only friend available, I would reconsider.
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Maybe her other kids were so sick even she wouldn't bring them and she got someone to babysit them.
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Anyone have a free shipping or other money saving code for the Teaching Company?
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If you google "sample SAT essays" you will find some.
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I was going to say the same thing about the exhusband being an idiot, but was trying to be nice. I heard a sermon once in which the pastor who had done a lot of marriage counseling said that most husbands who leave for another woman or women leave for a less good looking woman. He seemed to be implying that their actions don't seem to be rational, among other implications.
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The Civil Rights Museum in Birmingham is great - allow 2 - 3 hours. 2 hours to see it all, 3 to linger and dig deeper. I would say it is suitable for ages 7 and up.
If you are into music the Alabama Country Music Hall of Fame somewhere in northwest Alabama is interesting. Also, the Pest Control Museum in Decatur, Alabama was interesting. Our car broke down and then we had some more mishaps - we stayed for a week in Decatur, Alabama - a town I had never heard of and never planned on going to. I scoured the area for museums. The space Museum in Huntsville is big and very good.
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Wow - you never told us you are beautiful. I wish you all the happiness in the world with your new husband. He's not shabby either.
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I'm starting to think you're really a troll and making up all these stories (just kidding).
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You are gifted at this - beautiful, wonderful pictures.
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The coach doesn't even know the first girls were recruited then scratched. He sent me his requests after they responded. He wanted no more than smaller 4 - 5 girls so they could all get equal playing time and still be competitive. He is nice about them all playing the same amount of time. He is new to coaching with us, so I wasn't familiar with his style. Well to get the bigger, older girls, we had to let their little sisters come, and that makes up the group of smaller, younger girls. It's a matter of older and bigger girls, not just bigger girls. I see know that I should have communicated back with him and let him know what was going on. The first mom did put it that her kids were available, not that they wanted to play. They live a long way from the game, so I assumed she wasn't dying to drive them there. I will call the mom and explain that I handled this poorly and will try to do better in the future. I am new to being a sports mom and to this position. I ran this by my husband first, who is better at knowing how to handle situations than I am, and he thought it was fine - guess he isn't a mom looking out for her darlings (I use that term in a positive way) and didn't see this from a mom's perspective. Well, I don't think the first mom is livid at all, but I did handle this poorly and will apologize.
To explain more, we ended up combining an older team and a younger team to meet the age requirements of the tournament, which was in between the team in ages. That said, we play up all the time - in fact most of our games are playing up. The difference is that in a tournament if we lose two games, we're out so it does matter if we lose. It's nice to play more than two games in a tournament. In regular games of course, we lose all the time - no big deal.
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AngieW - I am glad that things worked out well for you and your dd scholarship wise, but the opposite is a more common experience. Scholarships vary greatly from school to school and state to state for public schools. My state is known for very few decent scholarships in the better state schools. Better to explore the options now and plan accordingly than be sorry when it's too late to do anything but wait another year and apply all over again (which most kids are very resistant to anyway).
How do you pick yourself up when you feel unappreciated and criticized
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I, like you other mothers, put a lot into my children. Criticizing me seems to be the family sport for the girls, with dad tacitly giving his approval and joining in. It gets very discouraging. My kids have done well, much of it due to what my husband and I have both instilled in them, along with our church. Of course, the criticism part is not good at all. The criticism is along the lines of criticizing my driving, my lack of indepth understanding of the sport they play, my forgetting to turn in library books, my pushing my son to complete college scholarship essays, etc. The boys are actually the nicest ones, with the younger son a real sweetie. If it weren't so constant, with very little in the way of compliments or appreciation, that would be understandable.
My husband's mother, while a wonderful woman in almost every other way, was not at all given to complimenting or encouraging people. I would be surprised if I received more than 10 sincere compliments (not about the clothes I was wearing, etc) from her the entire time I knew her (over 20 years until her recent passing). She was not at all critical however, so it balanced out. I think she just came from a stoic European German type background.
My late fil was actually a very critical sort - enough said. I mention his parents to say that my husband does not know how unhealthy it is to the entire family to tacitly approve of so much criticism of me. He is not very critical of the children, just me. Anyway, just giving a lengthy background here. I'm not asking for marriage counseling here - there is a lot more background here that I am not going to get into.
I mainly am asking if you ladies can share how you keep from being utterly discouraged if you have a similar situation. And how to take steps to end it - at least with the kids. I am thinking of practical boundary setting - i.e. if you are critical of me, I won't drive you where you need to go. Why would I want to do a favor for someone who is unkind to me? The problem with this is the place they need to go the most is to their sport. If they don't show up, it harms the whole team. I am thinking of keeping track in a visible place in the house, of the criticisms and complaints, and if they reach over a certain level, which should be very few, saying I won't take them to their sport for the next season. I won't sign them up period. What do you think of this, and do you have any other suggestions?
I make a lot of mistakes in life and there is plenty to criticize. But I don't think it is the children's place to constantly do this. While not extra sweet, I am not a yeller and actively encourage all of my children very frequently. Words are my love language, and I feel like I am crumbling inside so much of the time. I do have 2 very encouraging friends - they are what has kept me from severe depression over the situation over the years.