Hi there,
This is my 3rd posting and I feel like I'm sticking my neck out a bit. My DS is 12 yo and was diagnosed gifted with maths/handwriting/reading disorder. A 55 point discrepancy exists between his Verbal comprehension and Processing Speed (WISC-IV)....Not certain any of this info is relevant. Anyho...
DS is highly empathetic and easy going. He totally understands cause and effect. He doesn't seem to suffer in the humor department. He tells jokes and is extremely funny. I understand that some kids with LDs suffer in the friends department. DS has many friends because he uses humor so much. He's loyal and a defender too. He's been known to come to the defense of others without knowing the full story. I suppose that makes him impulsive to a degree, though I wouldn't generally label him that way.
DS is extremely forgetful, messy, and doesn't manage his time well. He transposes numbers while copying. We use timers a lot. He is not diagnosed ADD, but exhibits many of the tendencies. I use the book "ADD Friendly Ways to Organize Your Life" to help us keep on track. I find the book's recommendations to be extremely helpful and easy to implement.
As I understand it, all teenagers and young adults have difficulty understanding long term consequences as their brains are not fully developed. They are me-centered and ruled by their emotions until the brains develops at about age 24.
A bit about dyscalculia: DS memorized Psalm 150 as a 6 yo, but still pauses to calculate 1 X 2. Dyscalculia is crazy to me. It's easy for me to look at DS and think that he's pulling my leg with math problems. I read a book called "How the Brain Learns Math" by Sousa to get a real handle on math, and the book has changed my attitude about teaching and learning considerably.
I was advised by another Mom to remember the 3 Ps when dealing with my son. The 3 Ps are prayer, persistence, and perspective.
I wish you peace and as you and your family choose a path.
Blessings,Heather