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I've had SPD three times, so severe I was induced all three times as I was in insane pain and barely able to move. With my last one (6 months ago) it did not go away.
I was desperate and reluctantly went to a chiropractor after having already seen one in a previous pregnancy with no changes or help. However, this chiropractor was specifically trained in techniques to help women and infants. I only had two very specific adjustments, but the first one brought immediate relief and the second one completely fixed everything.
Try and find a properly trained chiropractor, it makes a huge difference!
I agree with this. Not all chiropractors are the same! I'd look for one that is particularly familiar with pregnancy and childbirth issues. A midwife would probably be a good source of referral for a chiropractor experienced in these problems. I've had many ailments related to pregnancy and childbirth, including pubic syphysis and a well-trained chiropractor can make a huge difference, while a general practitioner may not help much at all. In my case, seeing a female chiropractor has been more comfortable since working on ribs and sternum (from a car accident, not pregnancy) and a broken tailbone (from childbirth), and SPD and sciatica pain in the deep hip and round ligament pain (pregnancy) have all involved rather intimate areas of the body. ;)
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Some people are afraid of paypal or any other online banking service. I would offer to pay with a postal money order - I can't imagine anyone having a problem with that. The recipient can cash it right at the post office.
True it's safer for the seller, but for the buyer, there's not much recourse if the seller doesn't follow through.
On rare occasions I will send a money order, but it is usually not an item I want so badly to make it worth the trouble of getting it. My time/gas/trouble is usually worth more than whatever I'd be saving, and even if it seems worthwhile, I'd only buy from a very established board member since I'll have no recourse if they don't send my purchase. As a buyer, I generally just skip the non-Paypal threads.
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DH is a Pathologists' Assistant. Basically it is equivalent to a PA, but specialized in Pathology. He has a Master's in Pathology and a Bachelor degree in Russian.
We lived apart for two years so he could go back to graduate school. I worked to support our family during that time and my mom watched our boys. So I feel very grateful that we are now able to be a one income family.
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:lol: I'm glad it ended well & that you & your brother were there to help. :grouphug:
And, since summer is nearing for those of us in the northern hemisphere, I'll repost an article an article about what drowning looks like.... It's not yelling, waving for help, etc....
Thanks for posting this! I was just going to go looking for it as well. So scary, but a great reminder.
To the OP, thanks for being a hero! Hope you're not too sore today.
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My dh is seven months into his new job and the whole family is much' date=' much happier. I'm so happy for the OP![/quote']
This is us too. Having a job that is both fulfilling and supports the family is such a blessing!! My husband was so demoralized during his period of unemployment/poor employment. Congratulations!!
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yeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeees.
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I think it's perfectly normal! You've been there and done it before, so you KNOW what you're facing! It's a lot of hard work, no doubt about it, but just keep focusing on the fact that it's only one day.
I'd definitely go for the doula option, especially since you know the hospital has a history of interventionism. And I'd encourage you to listen to your Hypnobabies every night. I know it can be hard to fit in with lots of little ones, but it definitely helps me relax and feel more confident going into my births. I listen each night as I go to bed, since that's usually the only free quiet time I have. Have you done the fear release yet? That would be perfect for resolving your pre-labor jitters. And listen to the pregnancy affirmations during the day as you go about your other business. That can help fill your mind with positive thoughts about labor and help push out the negative ones.
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Zimmerman's father is white and his mother is Peruvian. Why should they only refer to him as "Hispanic," and ignore the fact that he is 50% white? :confused:
Jackie
It's more about how each person self-identifies, when you're talking about mixed races or heritage. President Obama says he self-identifies as a black man, and so we respect his choice, regardless of the fact that his mother is white.
My dc ask a similar question.
Are we Irish-Mexican, or Mexican-Irish?
It doesn't help them that dh and I see ourselves as Americans and have no loyalties toward our ancestor's homelands.
Check whatever box you want to is what I tell them. :tongue_smilie:
My children are Irish/Italian- Mexican. Three of the four look white and would not be identified on sight as Hispanic by anyone, although two do tan more in the summer. One of my sons looks very Hispanic (brown) like his father. I mark them all as White Race and Hispanic on census or survey forms. I am glad there is a designation now for Hispanic on the forms because now it acknowledges their father's heritage as well as mine. Leaving off the Hispanic makes if feel to me like "white" is more important. However once they are adults, I am fine with whatever descriptor they choose for themselves.
Ironically, although my husband is brown-skinned, his racial/cultural heritage is confusing for many. Here in Texas, people generally assume that he's hispanic. However, since he speaks without an accent (except for Texan) and is professional and acts more "white" than many of his family members, people often ask him what his racial background is. This annoys him, but he usually responds that his family background is Mexican, but that he is Texan. :D While traveling in Europe and Russia, folks often asked if he was either Gypsy or Arabic. On forms, he'll generally self-identify as White and leave off the Hispanic, especially if there is any sort of privilege associated with the Hispanic designation, because he is personally offended by that.
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In the three cases I mentioned, the gunmen did not attend the church [ETA - and they were there with strong anti-religious motives]. Unless the church was checking people at the door (a very bad idea, IMO!), the church policy wouldn't have prevented anything.
The church policy may not have prevented a non-member with an agenda from bringing a gun onto the premises. But the policy would likely prevent a member from carrying and being able to defend the folks there and possibly preventing additional loss of life.
After those shootings, I've always felt a little uneasy in church. It just seems such a vulnerable position, to be sitting with all our backs facing the doors. Several churches I've attended have folks who carried, especially since then, and I feel better for it. In one congregation, a city sheriff was an elder and he was always carrying. I prefer knowing that if someone comes in and starts shooting, I can duck and there will be some folks shooting back.
'Ten states -- Arkansas, Georgia, Kansas, Louisiana, Michigan, Missouri, Nebraska, North Dakota, Texas and Wyoming -- specifically bar concealed-weapon permit owners from carrying their weapons into a church or other house of worship.South Carolina prohibits guns in a "church or other established religious sanctuary" unless permission is obtained from the appropriate church official or governing body.
In Utah, people who get licenses to carry concealed weapons can carry them in a church unless a "No Guns" notice is posted at the door or the church registers with the state as a no-guns site.
Virginia prohibits taking a firearm to a place of worship "without good and sufficient reason." ' from http://www.baptiststandard.com/index.php?option=com_content&task=view&id=11319&Itemid=53
This information is from 2010, so it may not be up-to-date. I am wondering if OP is from Virginia and hte "good and sufficient reason" has come up.
I don't know about the other states, but in Texas the law is written oddly. It does say that churches are off limits (as well as other places like amusement parks and bars and hospitals), but it goes on to say below that, that this is only enforceable if there is a proper 30.06 (the statute number) sign. Most of these places DO NOT post such signs, especially not churches, so concealed carry in a church in TX is actually legal.
Again, I would have no problem with highly-trained church members providing security. My problem is not with that at all. My problem is with random people wanting to carry a gun *everywhere* just because they can, and many of them *are not* trained. That makes me really uncomfortable. I know someone who was shot in circumstances close to those in the article (but not at church).I appreciate your concerns about how trained folks with a CCP really are. I have several friends, mostly women, who have gone for their CC license and their ONLY experience with guns is from that class. That does make me feel a little yuck. But, I personally would not feel any more uneasy about this in a church than in any other place. In fact, I think that in a church, things are less likely to get out of hand, so there would be fewer opportunities for undertrained folks to cause problems. So overall, I'd prefer that folks with a CCP be allowed to carry in churches.
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I believe the Bible supports life beginning at conception. In Luke 1, Mary has just conceived Jesus and goes to visit her cousin Elizabeth. The six month old fetus John in Elizabeth's womb leaps with joy when Mary, in very early pregnancy with the embryo Jesus enters the room and Elizabeth proceeds to praise Mary as the mother of her Lord.
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We skipped it because we prefer to take our days off here and there for special events, not just because everyone else is off. We also prefer to vacation in the off season. So, we actually got a lot of school done that week, because most of our outside activities were cancelled for the week. I didn't tell my kids it was spring break though. ;) I was surprised that they didn't pick up on it, and I almost got away with it completely, until the next week we returned to cub scouts and the cubmaster asked the boys what they did for spring break. I cringed and my nine year old turned and looked daggers at me. :lol: We'll be taking off several weeks when our new baby is born and plan several vacations later in the year, so I'm not worried about it. Plus, we school through the summer so we can take lots of random days off during the spring and fall when the weather is nice. So we're good!
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I've used Hypnobabies successfully 3 times and am preparing to use it again for a fourth time in a few months.
I wouldn't call my births pain-free, as in just chill out and and baby pops out. :lol: But, all my Hypnobabies births have been very manageable. Intense and very physical like mountain climbing, but not painful or acute like breaking a bone. With my first baby, before I knew about hypnosis in childbirth, I ended up with pitocin augmentation and despite my preparation for a natural childbirth, was begging for an epidural by the end. Even with the epidural, pushing was the most difficult and painful with that birth. During my Hypnobabies births, I never have felt the need for an epidural or other pain relief. Again, it's like being on a long, challenging hike. It might not always be comfortable, but it feels like effort for a purpose, not a painful injury to medicate.
Using hypnosis during childbirth allows me to remain very focused and relaxed and mellow during labor. This is important because tension prevents the body from doing its job and fights against the contractions. It is this tension that is the source of much childbirth pain. Hypnosis training also helps you to focus your body's natural endorphins on the source of discomfort, helping to numb yourself to painful sensations. I know this sounds all hoodoo voodoo, but hypnosis for pain relief is a real thing, and is used by some folks for surgical and dental procedures when they are allergic to anesthesia. I remember during one of my hypnobirths, I was breathing and rocking through a contraction, deep in hypnosis. My husband and doula were laughing and joking about something, and after my contraction ended I started listening to them and ended up laughing with them. Before I knew it, the next contraction started and it surprised me how much it hurt, because I was no longer in my hypnotic state. Prior to that, I often wondered if my hypnosis was actually "doing anything" besides just helping me to stay super relaxed. This experience confirmed for me that I was indeed experiencing a more comfortable labor and avoiding the painful sensations I would otherwise be subject to.
With my fourth baby, I ended up delivering him without pushing at.all. Once the urge hit, my body took over and he came barreling out on his own. An intense minute to be sure, but I certainly didn't miss having to push! I don't know how much of that was due to being completely relaxed and in hypnosis and trusting my body to birth my baby and how much was due to it being a fourth baby, but all I know is it was amazing.
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I can almost qualify for your thread. :)
My fourth came at exactly 38 weeks. I have longish early labors (like 24 hours of early labor), so that part throws me off. But by the time I decided things were getting serious and went in to the birth center, he was born about 1 1/2 hours later. I intended to have another water birth and didn't even make it to the tub. After my initial check in and check up, we walked around the center to try to get things moving even more quickly and only made it around once before my water broke. We headed back inside and I said "I want to get in the tub NOW!" While they ran the water, I impatiently waited, and once they finally told me it was ready I got up to walk across the hall and decided I needed to go to the restroom first. Uh, no. It wasn't an urge to void I felt! While squatting over the commode, he barreled right out like a train through a tunnel! My midwife was in the next room having a sandwich and came running in and slid across the floor just in time to batch the baby if my husband dropped him. I didn't have to push AT ALL. {Insert joke about having so many babies they start to fall out here} I'm not sure what to expect this time, but I have decided to just go ahead and stay home since I scarcely used the birth center anyway! I might feel a little put out if I actually have to push this time! :lol:
Good luck to you! Hope your baby is born exactly when he/she should be and as quickly and safely as possible!
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I have no personal knowledge of this case and am a little perplexed about why HSLDA is involved, although I can certainly appreciate that someone needed to advocate for the family. But I have absolutely NO problem believing this story is potentially true. We know of a family here in Texas who dealt with almost the exact same scenario, ending with a confrontation with CPS, all because they declined the Vit K shot in the hospital. They were harassed appallingly at the hospital once they were labelled as troublemakers and they were coerced just as the parents in this story with threats of having the baby taken away if they did not comply. It took months for the family to be completely absolved by CPS.
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My boys love Iron Man. We skip the one night stand scene in the first movie and the convention dance scene in the second one. There are a few innuendos as listed in a post above, but they fly right over their heads.
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I see in your signature that she's nine months old. That is prime age for separation anxiety. Being in a new home with new people would seem to only add to that. I would be trying to wear her as much as possible during the day, so she knows that *someone* is always there.
My other thought is about the Soy formula. Presumably she had trouble with dairy. But lots of babies with dairy issues also have soy issues, particularly if it is a protein issue. It's called Milk Soy Protein Intolerance and three of my four had it. It causes severe gastrointestinal distress and gas, and with my kids lots of really ugly diaper rashes. Unfortunately, the non-dairy, non-soy formula options are pretty spendy, so I'm not sure how that would work in a foster care situation.
Poor baby and poor mama! Thank you for all you do. You are an angel. :001_wub:
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:party: Wonderful news!!
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Better early than late :D
Bill
Snort! :lol:
She's adorable!
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I want to be clear that I am not blaming the victim here and I don't advocate rejecting black culture (although I am sure many would say that not allowing your child to wear baggy pants isn't rejecting black culture.)
I totally don't think you are blaming the victim. But when we say that being better prepared can help avoid tragic outcomes, I'm wondering which of the "preparations" advocated in this thread will actually do that. Or if he was simply a victim of random violence. But it's not so random when racial insults are being hurled. Trayvon could not change his skin color, and no one accepts that he should have had to change his location, so it seems to me that the only factor worth changing in this scenario is the heart of the shooter.
As a mother of bi-racial and bi-cultural children, these considerations resound in my heart. My husband is hispanic and has been pulled over as a young man in a nice car and hassled and harassed. As a young man, he was unjustly accused of a crime, simply because he "fit the description" of the suspect, and was in the same general area. All of his academic achievement and success has been accomplished as an adult and despite the shortcomings of his childhood education, and he recalls bitterly the low expectations and opportunities afforded him as a child because he was "just a dumb mexican" (his words). Since several of our children are relatively light skinned, he sometimes faces suspicious scrutiny when he is out with our children without me.
As a result, there are several factors in raising our children that my husband has always been adamant about. He absolutely refused for our children to learn Spanish from infancy, believing they would be better served to speak English fluently first and then to learn Spanish secondarily. None of my arguments about raising bilingual children and the ease of learning two languages from the start were able to sway his conviction that his children will be better off speaking an unaccented English (of course, they are also Texan, so...). He is also very interested in our children being exposed to the richness of many various cultures, not only the hispanic ones, so we make a point of eating many types of foods, listening to many types of music, visiting festivals of all ethnic flavors, and befriending folks from as many cultures as we have opportunity.
A lot of this makes me sad, because I feel like we are compelled to dilute the effects of the rich cultural heritage of my husband's family. I find it frustrating that we have to teach our kids Spanish the hard way, simply so ignorant people in the future won't make unfounded judgements on the intelligence and potential of our children.
On the other hand, I also find it sad when various cultures impose a standard of the only right way to raise a child of a particular race. Or to live as a member of that race. Because my husband is well educated and professional and attempts to speak English properly and doesn't teach his children Spanish first, he has been accused by some of selling out and turning his back on "his people" and trying to act white. Of course many black folks experience this same kind of reaction when they try to live outside of some accepted norms of black culture. What a shame! Here again is a disparity between these cultures and various white ones. It is generally acceptable to be a Nascar loving redneck white, or a waspish professional, or a crunchy hippie or what have you. Of course, a century ago my ancestors were "dirty" Irish and Italian immigrants, and most of those prejudices have melted away over time, so perhaps it's not too optimistic to hope for the same for our hispanic and black friends. Although, the women who hand rolled their pasta and could make a mean ziti have mostly died off and the only true vestige of our Irish heritage we have remaining is our red hair. So is the tradeoff truly worth it? My husband's grandmother recently passed, and took with her the last of his immediate family to know how to make homemade tamales well (without my having spent the time necessary to learn from her, to my shame).
I do think it is silly to refuse to acknowledge current cultural norms among various races. There is nothing wrong with recognizing commonalities among many people with shared racial backgrounds, it is the value and moral judgements that often accompany these observations that are wrong. Some of these "norms" are relatively harmless- it really doesn't matter whether one happily enjoys fried chicken or menudo, or chooses to abstain to avoid falling into stereotypical patterns. But when we fail to acknowledge larger social issues like the disparity of black and hispanic young men committing crimes and disproportionate rates of incarceration, and try to moderate our thinking in politically correct ways by telling ourselves we are just as likely to be a victim of a crime from a white person, then we also fail to address the underlying issues that contribute to these disparities. I don't think this types of backlash against stereotypes is ultimately helpful, but rather prolongs the problems in favor of looking virtuous. The very picture of a Whitewashed Tomb.
In my ideal world, black families and hispanic families would come in all variations of social classes and cultural customs, and would be considered perfectly black and brown enough just as they are. And we would help our children to mold their instincts along the lines of judging people's actions rather than their appearances.
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I grew up believing that when we die we go to Abraham's Bosom, also known as Hades or Paradise, and that other folks would go to a place of Torment across the divide (based on the Lazarus and rich man parable). And then at some point in the future, the world would end and the Judgement Day would happen and "sheep" would go to heaven and "goats" would go to hell.
Something about that scenario didn't ring completely true with me though, because if immediately after death we went to either Paradise or Torment, then what was the point of Judgement Day- hadn't we already been judged?
So now I believe that the Lazarus parable was illustrating what happened after death for those folks who lived prior to the death of Christ, before his blood was shed to effect reconciliation with God.
I think our very concepts of heaven and hell and a realm without time are all constructs to help us imagine a spiritual place within physical descriptors. So, based on my perception of eternity, I believe that when we die, for us it will be Judgement Day immediately and contemporaneously with all those we ever knew and who ever lived. Time has no meaning in the spiritual realm, so there is no "waiting around" for our loved ones to die and rejoin us. I believe that those who are found faithful will spend eternity with God and those who are not will be doomed to spend eternity outside the presence of God. No literal flames or torture, because our physical bodies will be no more, but that the descriptors of hell represent the spiritual anguish of a soul banned from the presence of God.
One factor I've never been able to satisfactorily reconcile in my mind is being completely joyful in heaven, while knowing that souls I love languish in hell. Will my memories of them be obliterated? Will I experience peaceful acceptance of their fates? Will we even know each other as the same personalities we have here on earth? All difficult and sometimes painful concepts to contemplate. Yet I do have faith, despite my inability to mentally scratch the surface of a purely spiritual existence.
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What would give kids a complex is not understanding that they will be confronted with racism and not having the tools to deal with it when it inevitably will come up. And, as made clear in this case, the consequence of not knowing how to respond in this kind of situation can be deadly and heartbreaking. Again, for the OP and any other white parents of transracially adopted kids, I also really like the blog Heart, Mind and Seoul on this topic.
Reading this entire thread with interest. So far, I can appreciate the merits on all sides.
The statement above gave me pause though, and I was wondering if you or others could elaborate on it. What exactly did young Treyvon do *wrong*? Was he in some way unprepared or should he have responded differently than he did? I am truly curious what additional preparation he could have had or action he could have taken to prevent this tragic outcome? Or, was he simply an unfortunate young man who crossed paths with the shooter who's unfounded suspicions appear to be racially motivated? Would more ignorance of the harsh realities of life and more love at home have protected him? Would rejecting all semblance of black culture have protected him? Would just being himself and not living in fear have protecting him? Or was he just doomed by fate and circumstance? :confused:
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How many days ago was this?
If it's fairly recent, there's a good chance that this is the modern social networking version of the "That's it! The wedding's off!! Sob...." scene from Father of the Bride. A bit melodramatic and then embarrassing if they change their minds back again (although potentially easily covered with a "Ha! We gotch'you all!"), but nothing completely new.
I'd probably hold tight and see if the statuses mysteriously change back again soon. If not, I'd hope for a more formal acknowledgement of the wedding cancellation. I probably wouldn't even inquire directly even if it has been a few weeks, because eventually some other bold soul is going to do it for me on their FB page. :D
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My first two children did the same thing. It was a combination of me having Overactive LetDown (OLD) and my babies having a sensitivity to dairy. I had no idea about the dairy thing with my first; she basically just projectile vomited fountains every day, but gained weight normally and the ped was unconcerned. By the time I had my son, I'd read about casein (milk protein) sensitivity, and so I eliminated it entirely from my diet. Within days, he was rarely vomiting, and it stopped entirely within 2 weeks.
I knew for sure that was it, because if I ever slipped up and had even a teensy amount of hidden milk, it would start again within hours. As long as I was clean, he was fine. I was able to reintroduce dairy when he was about 10mos or so, although he did react to it again from 2-3yrs old. A year of eliminating, and he's fine now, although he refuses to drink any milk.
This was us almost exactly. My son was projectile vomiting big time, definitely not normal spit up. My doctor mention Pyloric Stenosis and we would have explored that further, but first she recommended me cutting dairy in all forms from my diet immediately to determine if it was dairy induced reflux. We had the same experience- within two days it was a lot less frequent and within two weeks completely better.
I had to stay off dairy until he weaned at 21 months, and he was avoided dairy (and eventually soy and corn too) until he was three until he outgrew the sensitivity completely.
Pyloric Stenosis is a real possibility, but it takes a upper GI scope to diagnose and that wasn't going to happen within a few days anyway, so my pediatrician said it was worth trying the no dairy approach first, and I'm so glad we did.
Incidentally, she never mentioned reflux medications, except as a third possible option down the road if we couldn't identify an allergy issue or a structural issue like PS. I've had many friends who take their babies in for similar issues and are put immediately on reflux meds without trying to determine the cause of the reflux. :confused: So she may want to ask more questions if that's the first proposed solution.
s/o not wearing wedding rings
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Me too! I have a "pregnant ring" that I only wear when my fingers have swollen to much to wear my regular ring. It's just a simple silver band, but my husband is too cute and always gets on one knee to put it on me when the time comes. It's a fun little tradition for us.
I tend to look for wedding bands, just because I like seeing pretty rings :) but I generally don't assume that the lack of a ring means unmarried. Too many women I know and especially men don't wear their wedding rings for various reasons.