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There is no way I'd ever switch pronouns in a book I was reading aloud. I mean, is anyone else here able to read aloud on autopilot? Like you're able to think of something else entirely while reading aloud? Having to switch pronouns would make me have to think far too much.
Yeah, I can do reading on autopilot too. Especially if it's not a book that holds my interest or one I've read several times.
I personally don't see the point in changing a pronoun while reading aloud. But that's just me. I wouldn't change it in any book I was reading to myself either. If I felt I needed a book with a strong female character, I would find one to read. However, I don't even look at books in that way and in my imagination I am almost always a strong, female lead.
I also don't think it's a big deal if someone else chooses to change stuff up while they're reading aloud to their children or to themselves. Whatever. That doesn't affect me in any way.
For my son -- well, I guess gender is just is a non-issue. We both know there are strong female and male people in real life as well as in books. We also know there are rude, deceitful, unkind, weak-willed, etc, people of both genders in books and in real life.
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Omg you totally get it! I didn't think anyone else did this!
A few of us have outed ourselves. :)
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Yeah, I have definitely not visited Game of Thrones in my imagination. lol
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See, I just checked him now and he forgot to scrub, so back in he goes!
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My 8 year old definitely stinks! And has for the last year. He has always had daily baths or showers too. Now I have to give him a sniff when he gets out of the shower to make sure he scrubbed his pits good. He doesn't seem to mind and often runs over to stick his armpit right in my face to smell without even asking. ;)
However, my sister was going to give him some natural kid's deodorant for Christmas! She was well meaning, but enough people told her that would be rude so she just gave it to me. I haven't used it on him. I use the crystal myself and have thought about using it on him too, but making sure he scrubs well seems to help a lot.
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Ok, I won't lie, sometimes now I make up stories in my head, too, to fall asleep at night. I'll insert a new character into a show I'm currently watching or a book, and it knocks me out in minutes. :D :lol:
I do this too! It is my regular bedtime habit.
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I still would like a link to the DVD in question here.
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We never hear Christian music in public places here. I am not anti-Christian, but I wouldn't want to live in a place where everyone asks you where you go to church (we don't attend church,) or where religious music is played in stores. That would seem so weird and intrusive to me. :eek:
I live in Houston as well and the only places I hear Christian music in public are stores that are geared towards Christians or are associated with a church (such as a thrift store) and Chick Fil A.
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There is nothing stopping them from continuing doing the same work, but as Christians operating an organization that is secular. If it was really persecution based on being Christian they would not be allowed to work in that field at all. This is not the case. To be honest, your example is one that makes me roll my eyes. If that was their calling and their ministry, they do not need to have the word Christian to do the work. They can still live their religion and do the same work of finding children a family.
Exactly. You think pride would take a backseat in a situation like this.
What was the other charity company recently that announced they were fine with hiring those in a same-sex marriage and had so many people stop their donations?
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And why do you care one iota what dirty minds think?
The stereotypes are beyond ridiculous. Like, no woman ever had an affair with the plumber or the UPS guy or, gasp, another woman.
Maybe it's predatory lesbians the gossipers should watch out for.... the dangerous kind that looks like...other homeschooling moms.
Oh gosh, that made me laugh!
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We school year round, but I am looking at what to do this fall as far as science and history. We'll be finishing up Mystery of History II this summer. I may do MoH III, Build Your Library, or SL for history. I'm still looking and haven't decided yet.
For science it will either be Build Your Library (most likely) or Apologia Chemistry and Astronomy which are through Minecraft.
We're currently only a few lessons into WWE 2 and FLL 2, so we'll continue with that until we're through with it. Ethan has been whining so much about TT we started doing Everyday Number Stories instead. I actually really like it. Ethan still whines about that as well, but it's got him thinking and that's good. He was actually begging to do TT. So, we'll see how that goes. I do have Saxon 5/4 to start after Everyday Number Stories.
I really stink at sticking to just one curriculum. We have an art curriculum we're doing and I'd like to do some composer study too. We haven't done that in a while.
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I've never been to a megachurch, but Joel OSteen's church is here in Houston and it's huge! From the outside anyways. :)
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Why is this one article being believed over the many others that say there will be another full season?
I am wondering the same thing. Everything I have read has said there will be a Season 4, but it won't be for a while. IMDB has it for 2016.
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I can only hope there will be a season four as there is a lot of mention of it when Googling, though not until 2016 at the earliest.
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Are they rhetorical questions? If not, they've been answered quite clearly in this thread.
Dang, you beat me to it!
But yes, those questions have been answered by Christians and those who aren't Christian as well. I think the general consensus is that everyone "brainwashes" their kids simply because your kids are going to learn not only what you purposely teach them, but from what they observe of you as well. At some point it's just going to be called "raising your children as you see fit." I think the general consensus is that actual "brainwashing" occurs when the children are forced, sheltered, discouraged from asking questions, and/or not allowed any knowledge of anything outside of what their parents want them to know or being told there are dire consequences for deviating from what the parents are teaching, therefor forcing the children to cling to the teaching out of fear.
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This is what I was thinking. A committed Christian is going to teach their children that salvation is through Jesus alone; theology might differ among different Christian denomination, but Jesus is the way is constant. Other religions lead to eternal damnation. I expect Christian parents to teach their children that belief, but I also see how many people could call that brainwashing. The word brainwashing is most likely defined differently for different people.
When I was inside the church I most definitely taught my children that we had the fullness of truth, and that Jesus was the only way to heaven. That didn't mean I didn't expose them to other religions, Christian or non-Christian, or positions that were opposed to our belief, but I always countered that with what our faith taught, and I presented that as the truth. I wasn't a parent who sheltered her children from opposing beliefs or from people who held those beliefs, but I'm sure many people would have considered my children brainwashed.
I do not want to brainwash my children, but I have to admit I know I have great influence over them. They are being indoctrinated with my views because they live with me, day in and day out. I still explain opposing views, and try to do that fairly, but I have the bigger voice simply because I'm their mother. Of course none of my views include anything such as eternal ultimatums, earthly consequences yes, but no eternal rewards or punishments. I'm just not sure that all parents don't do some brainwashing, intentional or not, because of their position.
This!
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For me, I teach my kids what I believe. I tell them it is what I believe and what I feel is true. We talk about the aspects of our faith that others may not believe and I tell them that they need to make up their own minds. I think the difference between passing on your faith respectfully and brainwashing is that being respectful means allowing people to investigate the evidence and question without berating or shaming them. I'm not going to pretend that I don't believe what I believe, but I'm also going to be a safe place for my children to come to no matter what they believe. I think you can't please everyone and some people may say I'm still brainwashing my kids, but I don't care. I'm doing my best to be consistent.
My parents were definitely not open to other faiths at all. I can still remember my mom shutting down any interest or questions I had. It drove them crazy when I joined that crazy group. It may partly have been because I started telling them they were going to hell if they didn't convert, I don't know. :) But I assume they were so happy when I finally left that church that they never said anything negative about any avenues I explored after that.
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For the last several months I have been stressing choice and consequence with my son. Over and over and over. I hope, so hope that eventually it will sink in.
BLA5, I hear you though. At some point you do just have to let go and not worry what everyone else is thinking about you and your horrible parenting. It is rough. It is hard. Then I get mad at myself for treating my son in a manner that is not conducive to anything positive just because I'm concerned about what some stranger thinks.
We are currently living with my mom since my ex and I separated a year ago. She engages. It drives me crazy. I ask her to ignore his behavior, to set boundaries and to let him know she won't converse with him when he is talking that way. She is 62 years old and responds and engages and I wonder how she can expect more/better from an eight year old. Then she says my brother and I never did that when we were that age. Ugh, we did.
He has consequences for talking in that manner and he knows that and I get told that I am unfair all.the.time. It can be rough at times.
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Honest question here - please don't be offended. How is what you are doing different than what you consider brainwashing? I assume you're teaching your children that the Biblical God and the Bible are Truth, that Jesus Christ is the only path to heaven, that non-Christian religions do not have the truth and therefore do not have salvation. If I've made an incorrect assumption, please tell me. I guess I don't see how this is any different from the many, many Christian families I know.
I can't speak for Slache, but I'm thinking that even if she is teaching what you mentioned, it seems she is open to educating her children about different faiths, beliefs, science, etc. I am thinking that there are families of faith who don't ever explore any other belief besides their own and shelter their children from anything else as well and maybe that is what she is trying to avoid and/or why she is asking questions.
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I am not really sure how to answer you. If you have a belief and that belief is strong why wouldn't you want to pass that on to your children?
I was talking with someone of the JW faith once while we were waiting for some car work to get done. I told her my current standpoint on faith and that I didn't want to influence my son and that he should be able to make his own choice regarding faith and spirituality. She said she thought it was my job as a parent to guide my son in the way of the faith to give him a good backbone, I guess. I thought it was irrelevant since I don't follow or subscribe to any faith, but I understood where she's coming from.
I think I can see where Slache is coming from too and I commend her for asking her questions. I think they're legitimate and good questions.
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Well, I am not Christian, though I have been in the past and I was raised Catholic. Although many conservative views that get tied in with religious views upset me, I am often open to the faith and fluctuate back and forth and struggle with it a lot internally.
That said, I do similar to what you do. I teach and expose my son to different faiths and beliefs. We do use some Christian curriculum because we are taking Minecraft classes that use it. It opens up a lot of discussion. He is all sorts of confused and I feel bad, but I'm confused and unsure myself so I can't give him any clear direction with that. I do want him to be able to make his own decisions as he grows and I don't necessarily want to "brainwash" him one way or another. It is rough around here. lol
I was brought up as a lax Catholic, but my parents never discussed theology or religion. They did not encourage exploration or discussion of other religions. I had a very simple faith which was shattered when I joined up with a fundie, cultish type group. I sometimes wish I still had that simple faith!
Anyways, although I'm not Christian, I'd thought I'd share my view on it because it is at the forefront of my mind often.
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Of course there are lazy parents. There always have been and always will be. I think the point trying to be made here is that one can't tell from a few minutes in a store if the parent is a lazy parent or if there are other issues going on or anything at all about the person, their kids, and how they choose to parent.
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Fair enough, but we all know snide remarks are sometimes couched as innocent questions. If that is not the case here, I apologize to unfrumpable for misinterpreting her intent. If that is the case, I maintain that snideness is always unnecessary and reflects poorly on one's position, as well.
Well, I admit it was partly a snide remark, but I am also curious as Luann has never stipulated before as to having an education past high school.
So, I apologize for the snideness of it. I am still curious if she does have an advanced education in the subject that is under discussion here.
On another note, one thing being a parent has taught me is that I don't know jack about kids. I sat regularly from my teens well into my 20s and I have a sister who is 15 years younger than me. I had a lot of exposure to being with kids. I sprouted off all sorts of bad and unwanted advice when I didn't have any kids of my own. I look back on that now and hang my head. I only have one son and I'm not even an expert on him let alone other people's kids.
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Did I ask for advice? That would be a no. The people I was referring to particularly I know very well. I have over 10 years of working in day care and have a degree in Early Childhood Education. You want to believe I know nothing about these families or about children so you can feel like you are right in not disciplining your own children. I also mentioned (if you had actually read my post) that I wasn't referring to spanking your children (not that I am against that), but I know a lot of children don't need to be spanked to behave properly. Any of you who believe that children don't behave worse than children used to behave are just kidding yourselves.
I did not know that you have a college degree. Just out of curiosity, is it a Bachelor's or an Associate's?
Gender swapping heroes in literature
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How about Ms. Frizzle? She's got a large book series as well as a TV show.