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  1. Okay, I just can't let this go. It keeps popping into my head, so I guess I just need to let it out.

     

    Those movies you mentioned that you either wish you hadn't seen or have decided not to see, Sophie's Choice, Schindler's List, and Saving Private Ryan, are movies that, I think, are important to see.

     

    I can read about the holocaust or about war, but it's nowhere near experiencing it firsthand or seeing it come to life on the screen with masterful directing, superb acting, and a well-written screenplay. I want a movie dealing with a sensitive topic like that to sucker punch me in the gut and put me right there in the middle of it, because the subject demands just that. It's a nasty, disgusting, reprehensible reality in our history, and it deserves to be brutal.

     

    I want that emotional reaction to stick with me so I can have a better understanding of what happens/ed, and why it should never happen again. Just hearing about it or reading about it doesn't convey the horror of it. The visual impact is stronger in this case.

     

    I think these movies are very valuable because of their stories, and they've made a stronger impression on me than any studies in school or any books I've read. Yes, they're hard to watch and even harder to stomach, but shouldn't we face them in the hopes that they'll make such an impression on us that it'll affect our decisions and behavior afterwards? Isn't that how people change? For the better, hopefully? If it's not a subject that you're too familiar with, doesn't this clarify it for you? And give you reason to want something better? And to that end, doesn't it change you a little so that your actions in the future reflect that?

     

    I will say that some books have affected me more than the movie, so I guess not all movies convey the atrocities better than the book. I'm thinking of the book Angela's Ashes specifically. I loved the book even though my chest ached in the beginning, but I was disappointed with the movie. So I think that's why the direction, the acting and the screen-writing make the difference. I read Sophie's Choice (yes, it was much later after seeing the movie), but the movie affected me more strongly than the book.

     

    So some movies, I think, shouldn't be dismissed because they give you the heebie jeebies. They should make you squirm and grimace, because their subject matter is so intense. I don't want to ignore it, sugarcoat it, or pretend it never happened, because I don't want it to ever happen again. Movies that are gory just for the sake of entertainment or whatever (Sweeney Todd comes to mind) do not even come close to being in the same category.

     

    There, I've let it out. Thanks for listening. Now I can :chillpill:

  2. I know the frustration of wanting to find the perfect gift. I took a long time to get just the right one for some friends. One just had a baby, another's babies are 3 mos, another's is 6 mos, and the other two have babies over a year old ... talk about procrastinating!

     

    I finally decided on the Cloud b Sleep Sheep on the Go and Touch and Feel Animals Box set for all of them, but I also got the Singin' in the Bathtub CD for the older ones. (Unfortunately, they're only available from Amazon dealers now.)

     

    Here were the notes I wrote for the gifts from Amazon:

     

    To Lily and Gunnar, May you enjoy the wonder of reading as much as your mom and I have! Love, Stacey (for the sheep)

     

    I know it's late! But I had to get the perfect gift, so I hmmm'ed a lot until I found these. Hope Lily and Gunnar enjoy them muchly! Love, Stacey (for the books)

     

    If this isn't quite what you're looking for, you might want to check out some of these personalized gifts. There are some beautiful gifts here. I sometimes get the grandparents or dh gifts from here. Some of the favorites are:

     

    Dad is King mug

     

    Grammy Award Winner mug

     

    Hooked on Grandpa t-shirt

     

    There were a couple of other items, but I can't find them right now.

     

    Hope you find the perfect gift!

  3. As a military brat:

     

    Born in Okinawa, Japan

    Washington DC

    Ruston, Louisiana

    Dayton, Ohio (loved catching fireflies as a kid)

    Las Vegas, Nevada (loved it here as a kid and always thought I'd go back)

    Great Falls, Montana (df retired here)

    Missoula, Montana (college)

    Larchmont, New York

     

    As a military wife:

     

    San Vito, Italy (dd born in Naples, Italy)

    Spokane, Washington (twins born here)

    Misawa, Japan (dd born here)

    Bury St. Edmunds, UK

    Lakenheath, UK

     

     

    Absolutely loved living overseas and would go back to Italy, Japan or England in a heartbeat.

     

    This reminds me I need to get busy and update my blog. I try to write about the places we've visited so we'll be able to look back on it. I keep meaning to write about the places we've lived, but time keeps slipping away. I'm kinda nervous, because I've never shared my blog here.

     

    Isn't It Midnight

  4. I don't know how I missed this, but the first time I ever had this delicious salad was at the salad bar at a restaurant we rarely go to. It was so good I bugged dh to get the recipe from the lady stocking the salad bar. Turns out she was the owner of the restaurant. There weren't any specific measurements, but she listed these ingredients:

     

    broccoli florets

    dried cranberries (we usually use Ocean Spray Craisins)

    sunflower seeds

    red onion, chopped (not too much or it will overwhelm the flavor)

    bacon bits (dh refuses to use Hormel in a jar, so we use the bagged Oscar Mayer)

    Ranch dressing

     

    It's so easy, and I love it!

  5. OK, glad I took the ibuprofen! The biopsy was a piece of cake but now I have the cramping, backache and get a second "period" this month! Results next week! If all comes back ok then I get to have the cryoablation....another thread for another day:D.

    Soph

     

    I'm glad the biopsy went smoothly, and I hope you feel better soon. I'll be hoping for good news for you!

     

    And I just wanted to say to any other ladies who may have had a uterine biopsy and felt that it hurt like a b&*%#h, you don't have to feel badly about it or feel like you're a wuss. Everybody's different and pain thresholds don't have that much to do with it.

     

    It may depend on where in the uterus the biopsy is done, how experienced the doctor is in doing it, or your own bodily chemicals. Kinda like getting a shot for dental work. Some dentists/technicians are better at giving the shots, and where the shot is placed makes a big difference, too. And some days you're just more sensitive in certain areas. I'm not sure if it has to do with my time of the month or what, but I notice when my teeth are a little sensitive to brushing and flossing. And, of course, my time of the month affects how I feel around my abdomen, too.

     

    Or have you ever noticed that some lab technicians are really good at drawing blood while others need more experience? I just didn't want anybody to feel like it was some kind of sadomasochistic competition for who's tougher and who's not when it comes to biopsies or whatever! Bah! :tongue_smilie:

  6. If it were me, I'd go in a heartbeat. But this is someone who had to be induced for every single one of her pregnancies (even the twins), so I'd have no concerns about driving or flying late-term. Plus, I've never been to Mexico and would love to go someday, so it'd be an easy decision for me.

     

    However, I remember being told very strenuously by my OB doctor when I wanted to take a 2-hour train ride up to a festival in northern Japan six days after my due date that every pregnancy is different. You know your body, so that's something you'll have to consider. I went, had a great time, and still had to be induced ten days past my due date.

     

    The only other thing I'd want to check out is the increase in American kidnappings around tourist spots. I recently read that it's happening more often, but I think it's more frequent near the San Diego, Tijuana, and US/Mexico border. The reason I remember this is because dh and I were discussing a trip to Mexico in the fall, but when I was researching where to go I found all this stuff about it. I think I was searching online right around spring break, so there were more articles about it. Of course, now I can't find the ones I read. I guess the one I linked above will have to do for now. What I remember most is that they're not just targeting the "rich" folks anymore. So, I'd just see if I could find out some more about that before deciding.

     

    Enjoy yourself, if you do go! :D

  7. Thank you all again for your help!

     

    I bit the bullet and bought the combo duvet from Ikea that Stacia recommended. I finally decided on this duvet cover because of its reviews even though I wish there'd been more color choices. Then I checked out consumersearch.com for their reviews on sheets and ventured over to the Garnet Hill website to check out their selection. Now it feels like I'm in some fancy hotel when I go to bed, and I love it!

     

    Oh, I also got those clips, so many thanks for sharing that tip as well.

  8. I'm honestly pondering this question. I'm a little hesitant to post it though, because I don't want this to degenerate into a finger-pointing, name-calling, back-and-forth exchange between the religious and the non-religious. Or the Catholics and the non-Catholics. Or the Jewish and the non-Jewish. Muslim and the non-Muslim. Or ... I think you get my meaning.

     

    So, here's what I've noticed. A lot of times we choose books and recommend books that support our belief system, whether it be about religion, evolution, creationism, global warming, politics, etc. If you already support that position, wouldn't it be preaching to the choir to read more about it? Why don't more people choose to read books that directly contradict their beliefs? I mean challenge themselves to read something opposite and see if there are any valid points made? Compare and contrast, etc?

     

    What one book (besides the Bible/Koran/Tanakh, etc.) would you recommend, as a religious person, to one who doesn't believe? What one book do you wish that the agnostic/skeptic/atheist or whatever would open up and try to understand?

     

    And on the other hand, what one book would you recommend, as a non-religious person, to one who does believe in a God/Yahweh/Allah, etc?

     

    Or what one book would a Wiccan recommend to a non-Wiccan? A Muslim to a non-Muslim? A Catholic to a non-Catholic? A Jew to a non-Jew?

     

    I would like to broaden my horizons a little. I have to admit I've read The God Delusion, The Blind Watchmaker, and The Ancestor's Tale (ohhhhh, did this one take me forever to read! I almost wanted to start Moby Dick instead!) by Richard Dawkins. And I do want to read The Selfish Gene.

     

    But I also want to find some books that challenge me to see another viewpoint. I read Noah's Flood and thought it was very interesting. I'm fascinated by how much information we're able to discover from archaeological digs, although I realize how difficult it is to interpret the data sometimes. But I think I enjoyed that book because it focused on the discovery trail and what that might reveal rather than trying to push a controversial agenda one way or the other.

     

    I'm reminded of a law class I took long ago where we had to learn how to write a legal brief without planning for the outcome. We had to take the facts and apply the law, and then we would end up with an argument based upon that information. We weren't allowed to have an answer and try to fit the facts and law to the outcome we wanted.

     

    Of course, that sounds all fine and dandy but it doesn't happen that often in real life. I don't know that there are any truly objective books on any controversial subject.

     

    Anyway, I'm hoping to find some good book recommendations here. I've had Catholic and Christian: An Explanation of Commonly Misunderstood Catholic Beliefs on my "To Read" list for years. Has anyone read this and, if so, would you recommend it? Dh was raised Catholic, so it's something I've wanted to read for a while.

     

    Thanks for your suggestions on this exploratory journey! ;)

  9. I get to have one tomorrow morning first thing.

    Now, I have performed these on many horses in the past but have never had one myself:glare:. For those of you who have been through this, how much does it hurt and do I really need to take 800mg of Ibuprofen beforehand like the OB recommends? Seems like a lot.

    Thanks for any info.

    Soph

     

    Yes, I'd recommend you take it. I'd equate it to having your membranes stripped. But, if I remember correctly, it won't last as long. Hugs to you!

  10. I think I was around 33 or 34? The highlights really helped hide them, and I only really noticed the grey when the full weave I'd gotten started growing out. Yikes! I wrote about it in the curly girl thread.

     

    Now I prefer using partial weaves so that it isn't such a shock when it starts growing out. One day I'll be brave and just nix the coloring completely like my mom. Hers looks nice, but her hair isn't as dark as mine. Or maybe it's the grey that makes her hair look lighter ... hmmm.

  11. Ah ha, I found it! My little rant about gray hair and the never-ending cycle to hide it ...

     

    I feel like a whiner, but why didn't anybody tell me that gray hair can stand out even more after you've had your hair colored? (m)

     

    I finally went in and had some lowlights and a little red put in to try to cover up all the gray that keeps spreading like a virus on my head. It's actually lasted pretty long but now I've noticed with my roots growing out my gray seems to have increased exponentially! Fortunately, I've talked myself out of chopping my hair all off, but now I'm wonder if I'll be stuck in a vicious cycle of coloring and touching up my hair to hide the gray. And now I find out after the fact, of course, that gray hair doesn't hold the color very long, so that means more frequent colorings. I don't know if it's all worth it, so maybe I'll just get off this merry-go-round and become a roan! ;)

     

    I think I'm still in shock though, because my 60-something yo parents have less gray than I do! Dh even has less gray and he's five years older than I. Any BTDT tips and reassurances for me? Please tell me there are other 37 yo's who aren't ready for gray hair!

     

    Ranted out,

     

    Stacey

    (And here's the link so you can go walking through the park and reminiscing. May 11-15, 2007, egads.)
  12. The worst was, as a child, when I turned on my grandmother's TV and watched "Dark Shadows," and was terrified ---- way too terrified to get up and turn off the TV, which is what I wanted to do!

     

    DARK SHADOWS!!!! Ohhh, I used to get up at night and sneak into the living room to watch that show. I loved, loved, loved it, but then I was so scared I couldn't go to sleep at night. My mom would have to lie next to me until I fell asleep.

     

    To this day I enjoy scary movies, but unfortunately I don't get to watch them as often anymore. My absolute favorite is The Exorcist. *shivers*

  13. Oh this is always fun. :)

     

    Here are a few of me...

     

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    I can't get over how much my littlest guy looks like me...

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    Me again...

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    And here is the only one I have on the computer of dh as a baby...

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    I've started photoshop restoration of some of our old pictures... it's amazing the difference it makes!

     

    Oh my, you are so right. The resemblance is striking. I love that shot of your little boy. Kudos to the photographer!

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