Ananda
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Assuming you are okay with shooting people with toy guns. I think they are great fun.
As everyone has said must wear eyeglasses, pellets hurt if they hit on bare skin.
If you use them indoors, they will leave millions of tiny little dents in drywall. The advantage to indoors, and why as a silly college student we played indoors, is that you can easily sweep up your BBs to reuse them. I also think it was more fun to duck into door ways and wage surprise attacks. Honestly I can't imagine what we were thinking playing indoors. :lol:
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Well, that puts it into perspective. Thanks.
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No, no I think it is rare that someone is run off who doesn't deserve it. I think I side tracked into a discussion of troll hunting and intimidating people with low post counts. I don't think it is intentional. I agree with the previous poster who said that sometimes it feels like we are intruding on a gathering of old friends. I feel welcomed and encouraged in this thread and have started posting little bits here and there. I wanted to explore peoples thoughts on lurking, and on how to begin participating. I won't post crazy crap, and you won't accuse me of stirring the pot when I politely disagree with the hive mind in an exciting thread. Agree?
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I remember shoes in the house, shopping carts, crock pots, picky eaters . . . I guess everyone has their weird touchy thing. I of course would be honest and kind. I guess I will just do my best and if I get branded a troll go back to lurking.
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I will reply to your post if I see it.
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Obviously your relationship is different than mine so my experience may or may not help but . . .
When I met my husband he was obese, I was thin (too thin) and I generally thought fat people were lazy and lacked self control. Despite his weight I fell in love with him and married him. I used to pick-pick-pick at him about his weight, what he ate, how active he was. Obviously that was bad, don't do that. When I stopped commenting all together because it was hurting him and us, he gain a bunch of weight. I wouldn't suggest ignoring the weight problem either.
What has worked best for me is to encourage healthy eating by making healthy breakfasts, snacks & lunches convenient for him. I don't keep too much junk food in the house, but occasionally get a favorite treat so that he doesn't feel deprived. I try to encourage him to do the more active household chores like walking the dog & mowing the lawn. I suggest active outdoor things to do as a family. We got a wii fit and he enjoys that. I praise his weight loss successes and pretend not to notice weight gains until he mentions it.
As far as it affecting his job prospects, it may be depending on what position he would like. I wouldn't mention that aspect though. As others have mentioned weight loss is slow, and you are likely to make him more uncomfortable in interviews. I think even a small weight loss could probably add some confidence that would help him interview, even if it doesn't change his appearance much.
I suggest you look at his interview attire. Make sure it fits his large frame well. A fat man in a well tailored suit looks very sharp and professional, a fat man in a suit that fit 30 pounds ago looks fat and uncomfortable.
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I am sorry that your thread didn't turn out how you hoped. I wish you the best in your mysterious situation.
I wanted to thank you for giving me the push to post my first thread. I am a devoted lurker. I was aware that my little clicks added to threads view count, but I wasn't aware anyone cared about view counts. I hope I haven't made anyone feel as you felt today when you decided it was best to delete your post. I understand the vulnerability posters have when they post personal threads.
I do want to say as gently as possible that people use these forums for different reasons. I myself lurk on threads to gain information on parenting, homeschooling, marriage, daily life, current events etc. This information has been invaluable to me. I am ever grateful to people whose posts have helped me along the way. Admittedly, I also read threads for entertainment. When I saw you had deleted your original post, I opened the thread to try to find out what juicy thing I missed. Instead I learned that sometimes people get hurt even when I don't say anything.
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I said I would never marry or have kids. I would never spank (unfortunately I tried in once when nothing else seemed to work). I would never let my kid eat junk food. I would never get a credit card. I am sure there are others, I am not very self aware.
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So if I avoid being questionable or suspicious I can post freely? What exactly is questionable and suspicious? Low post count and . . . ? What behaviors shout troll? I understand it is improper to ask for money or other in real life support. I understand that I shouldn't tell sob story after sob story to illicit sympathy. I understand that I shouldn't lie or pick fights or be rude and deliberately offensive.
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I understand, people don't like trolls. I have lurked long enough to see many troll situations develop and the ensuing feelings of betrayal and paranoia among forum members who were played. I understand that you have no way of knowing whether I am trying to build a bit of credibility so I can be the great troll of 2012 or if I am a honest to goodness lurking, observing the party. I think it is probably best that I don't dive right in to the hot threads or post controversy of my own. I understand that people can't know my intentions and have been burned before. I just feel like there is such a chasm between noobie or lurker and supreme beekeeper overlord or whatever we are calling it now.
If you have any suggestions for those with a low post count, I would love to hear them. Obviously be kind to others and don't pick fights. But how can we appear less trollish and more "real"?
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:iagree: I don't really see the point in saying something for the 30th time that has been said 29 times before. I also agree about the fly on the wall, position. Most homeschoolers are introverts if I remember correctly. I also worry what the low-post-count hate will do the forums. If and when lurkers decide to stop lurking will it be safe for them to post? Will new members be able to become regulars? New blood is important to a forums vitality.
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Or at least have more inhibitions.
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I wish I could say the reason I don't post is because I don't have time. I do think some people are more confident and willing to share their little bit of wisdom. Others are less sure and miss their openings so to speak. I hope you find what you need to tackle 6th grade writing and tricky word problems to to speak. But of course, I am no help. ;)
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I don't try to hide. Most of the time I feel like that person in the large group who just listens and occasionally makes that insightful comment. In real life I am the person. The difference is, in a real life setting, you could see me smiling and nodding. Here I am just invisible, and I never make my little comment because someone has already done it. You are right I should just join the chorus of I agrees sometimes.
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The recent threads are tricky for those of us who are more introspect. While I understand that a blog and high post count don't make a better person, it is sometimes hard to shake the stigma of being a larva. Maybe people just need to realize that different people use the forums for different purposes. I have been conflicted about my lurking for a while now, this was just the catalyst for me coming out and asking.
I understand that everyone lurks sometimes, some more than others. It can be hard to dive in with the big fish, but I have decided to try. (I think . . . )
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Ditto. I have a toddler that loves the occasional bit of veggie tales, but we aren't Christian either. I love the whimsical stories lighthearted lessons in morality; I am conflicted about the religious content.
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In light of a few recent threads I thought I should start a thread on lurkers. I am a lurker. I have read the forums religiously since the old boards (2005). I follow the general board, both curriculum boards, the accelerated learner board, the afterschooling board, I even occasionally pop over to the special needs board. I read your blogs. . . but I never post.
I have many reasons for not posting, but foremost I am just painfully shy. When I first starting lurking I was a 20 year old college student. I was public schooled, I had no children I had nothing of substance to add. Now I have graduated, I have a toddler son of my own, I will someday soon be a real homeschooler. Still I have nothing to say.
While years of lurking allow me to know the answers to most noobie posts, I have no practical experience homeschooling. While I have read curriculum samples and books on homeschooling, I have only held a few materials in my hands I have used only a fraction of those as a student in public schools or in my independent study, I have never touched them in a teacher role. I only recently gained parenting experience and then only the baby-toddler stage. There seems to be a climate on the board that advice is best given by veteran homeschoolers & moms of many older children. I don't disagree.
My question: Is it creepy? Is it improper for me to know so much about you, and you nothing about me?
Since I would hate to give up my dear boards, I see the only other option to be posting, but what to post. I have no business posting on most threads, should I then not read them? I have gathered useful information that has saved me from many of the costly mistakes of youth. I have learned things that have improved my marriage to my husband, my tricky relationship with my mother and in laws. Things that have helped me raise my little boy, and run a house. In a few years when I embark on my homeschooling journey, I will be prepared.
Often I see a thread and in excitement think "I have something really good to say, today I will post." Then my heart falls, as I see a sea of people saying exactly what I would have said but with more grace, clarity and brevity. Should I add my smiley to the endless string of I agrees & group hugs? Is that really any better?
Sometimes on a hot thread I want in on the action. I debated in high school & college, I am good at it. I might have something different to say or feel I could play devils advocate. If I only enter hot threads to argue controversial view points, I am a troll. Better lurker, than troll.
I apologize for writing a book and for being a creepy lurker. I would relish suggestions on how best to participate or reassurance that it is okay to lurk.
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Another lurker adds to the count.
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-mini playing cards, regular & uno
-mini tubs of play-doh
-large bouncy balls
-little rainbow slinkies
-boxes of 4 crayons
-glow stick bracelets
This is my first year handing out goodies so I don't know how many we will get. I probably went overboard, but since it isn't candy we can save it for
next year. I tried to get things I would have liked as a child. I figure they will get more candy then they can eat.
Ananda
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I would be proactive about correcting it.
As a child I said s's & z's incorrectly. (I put my tongue outside between my teeth on the sides resulting in mushy buzzy s & z). When I turned 4, she tried to get into speech therapy. The school told her I would out grow it. When I was 6 and started kindergarten the school decided to put me into speech therapy. I could make the "s" sound, but did not use it. After two years of speech therapy the school decided to give up on me. I had no problems with correct pronunciation when concentrating, but in daily life my reflex was to revert to old habits. I never could hear the difference and I had done it for 6 years so it was automatic.
Now I say my s's & z's correctly when in formal situations, but I am making a concerted effort to focus. For the day-to-day I still have a lisp. My mother was rather upset that she hadn't insisted I speak correctly sooner, before it became an ingrained habit. My brother's r to w problem was corrected well before kindergarten at her insistence.
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I am terrified of anything to do with the mental health profession. I absolutely point blank refuse to take any psych drugs. Councilors and psychologists are quite bad but I can keep calm. Psychiatrists evoke a fight or flight response. My greatest fear is being incarcerated in a mental health institution. I have nightmares, and long discussions where my husband promises that he will make sure that never happens.
More minor phobias:
*Answering the door. If the door bell rings, or someone knocks my heart races.
*Using the phone, both calling and answering.
*talking to strangers
My husband has a phobia of driving, this fortunately for him is a phobia he can completely avoid. He takes the bus to work; I drive everywhere else. Unfortunately, he isn't keen on using the phone or talking to strangers either, so we have had some complications in our young marriage. For example, our air conditioning stopped working a month ago. Neither of us has the guts to call someone to repair it; we would rather sweat. I am contemplating doing it soon because it has been quite hot here, but I always rationalize that one day won't make a difference. One day has becomes a month and a month will likely become the summer. . . I really wish the phone would become outdated technology, and everything could be done by email.
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It was 3 weeks before my 22 birthday. We have been married 13 months. We dated 6-ish months and were engaged for a year and a half.
Ananda
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I've heard this over and over and I wonder why the students keep coming over here. If the year of school here is academically a waste of time, what happens when they go back home? I mean, they have missed a year of learning and can they move on to their universities without that year of study? In our town, the Catholic school has used the same exchange program for more than a decade, so if the education is a waste, why do the kids keep coming? For the glorious experience of American teenage culture? I just wonder.
I assume every exchange student has their own reason for coming. That said in my experience it is desire to experience the culture. Academically speaking it is the most sure fire way to become fluent. I was a foreign exchange student in France when I was 17. That experience is infinitely valuable. I have a lasting bond with my host family, my school mates, and my second country. I am intimately familiar with the daily life, education, politics, religion, holidays etc. of France. For me it was my coming of age story, I left America an average teenager and came back an adult. Foreign exchange students experience the country in ways that can't be touched by a vacation. I am sorry I can't articulate this better:blush:
As far as what happens when you go back, I suppose that depends on your country of origin. I would never say the year is academically wasted, but yes, it doesn't "count". Why is that shocking? Often students will graduate or take their entrance exams before their exchange, then enter university after the exchange. Other students will take a year off and return to high school where they left off. Personally, due to the inferiority of American education:001_smile:, I graduated in three years: two before, one after my exchange. Realize that in many countries (including Germany & France) each year of high school is a very concrete set of classes with few electives. Each year must be taken and passed in entirety before passing on to the following year. The course material directly prepares students for rigorous university exams. American high schools don't teach to the French Bac or German Abitur.
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I bought a 2007 Toyota Corolla form car max in February. The price was VERY reasonable (less than other dealers were charging for 2003's). The dealers make a per car commission so they have no incentive to up sell. They have no haggle pricing as well. This is my first car buying experience so I made a lot of beginner's mistakes, they were very patient and helpful. They even gave me a full tank of gas and washed the car. (I don't know if that is typical . . .)
Lost a hard drive...would you pay $$$ to get photos?
in General Education Discussion Board
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Our data drive died about a year ago, without warning. It was our newest, nicest drive which is why it had the honor of holding the "data." We lost almost everything: our engagement photos, all of the photos & video we had taken since we had gotten married including those of the first year of my only child's life, all of the papers & programming projects we had from college. It was devastating.
We looked into data recovery, but the quotes we received were impossible for us to justify. Both my husband and I are still discovering things that are gone forever, but many things we got back. We got a ton of baby pictures from grandparents & aunts. We also were able to retrieve a bunch from data cards & thumb drives. We had paper copies of many of our most of our financial information.
So, short answer no, I wouldn't pay to retrieve the photos. Especially considering you can pay all that money and still not have your photos. Instead I suggest asking other people what they might be able to share with you from that time period.
I am truly sorry for your loss.