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kubiac last won the day on June 1 2013

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  1. Remembering empathy for our kids is hard but so important!
  3. Hello! I am due with #4 in May. In our area and social milieu, having four or more kids is...not common. We know one Orthodox Jewish family with 10, a Catholic family with 5 kids, and I have a couple of LDS friends who are from large families. But four or more is generally NOT the done thing around here. Where I live, I find that one kid is common, two is the "norm," three is "oh how cute they like having kids and they can afford it" or "well you know those immigrants are so family-oriented," but four is "what is wrong with you are you insane?" Sidebar rant: My parents are somewhere between irked and irate (they only had three, so that's their number). We are 41 and 42, married, happy, financially independent and have a paid-off home. Our kids are well-fed and well-educated. I need to lose weight but other than that none of us have any major health problems. My dad said we were being selfish and expressed a concern that we won't be able to take care of them in 10 years (which is totally unfair since we live two miles away, and are available at their beck and call, and heretofore they have always literally *laughed* at us if we asked if they needed any help with aging) and demanded that we find a birth control method. I was pretty much planning to get my tubes tied after this one, but I told him we do have a lot of ambivalence about birth control versus family building. Heck, just being told I *have* to do something makes me want to not do it and head in the opposite direction and do IVF to get pregnant with #5 & #6 as twins. ANYWAY, I think we have entered the phase of our family building where we are statistically weird. Only 14 percent of American women have four or more children. I was wondering if any of you larger-family moms have any experiences or wisdom on how you manage responses to "you're nuts" or "you're being selfish" or other responses you get from people. Help?
  4. One statistic I find fascinating is that 59 percent of women obtaining abortions are already mothers. ( These must be women who are overwhelmed by their current, very needy and expensive children, and presumably their financial circumstances. It's easy to think of this as a problem of 19yos got too drunk and horny, but I imagine it's also a lot of 32yo mothers of three who just can't do another one right now. The more children I have, the more pro-choice I become. Having a baby is the most life-altering, exhausting, expensive, EMOTIONAL, long-term-project thing that many women ever do, and if woman who finds out she pregnant wants to make a U-turn, it's fine by me.
  5. DS5 has started reading the Horrible Science series. He's been a fluent reader since 3 but he doesn't love it (he seems to abhor fiction), but "human body books" fascinate him.
  6. I'm asking here because I remember this existing and I'm sure I learned about it here, but hell if I can find it again through much Googling. Does anyone have a link to a one-page reading vocabulary/reading level test that was like twelve rows of words (for the 12 grades) and there was a guideline that once the kid didn't recognize like three or five words on a line that was probably their reading level?
  7. Either put it all in aggressive-growth mutual funds or try to find a well-maintained three-bedroom, two-bath single-family home in a good school district around here to buy and use as a rental.
  8. If your human family has environmental allergy issues, you need to find a new home for your cat.
  9. We found this one at a thrift shop and my kid whipped through it. Seemed to leave a good impression: If your kid is 12+ or an extremely advanced/voracious reader of any age, I recommend the Oxford Press version retold by Geraldine McCreaghan and illustrated by the great Victor Ambrus:
  10. I have only the faintest recollection of radical being a math term! Maybe my kids will know it better. Thanks for all the ideas and tips. I am taking notes furiously. Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk
  11. DS7 is very excited about multiplication. We are doing lots of multiplication problems using C-rods. Last night he snatched a book about multiplication out of my hands and hid in a corner with it for a while. Our math program includes lots of multiplication work up to x10, but no further. * Multiplication facts up to x12 * Squares to 30 & Cubes to 30 - inspired by Miko - * Did you or your kids memorize further than twelves? (I knew a kid in elementary school who had them up to 15 and I thought he was a god.) Was it useful to have them memorized even though everything above 10 can be "worked out"? * What other math facts might be good to practice at the grammar stage?
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