WTMindy
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I would just insist that my kids are not paired together. I would talk to the leader before teams are chosen and say, "I would prefer my kids are not all on the same team, please." Every week. :-) I wouldn't be rude about it, just firm. You are paying the money. I think it is weird to put siblings on the same team.
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I think kids will sometimes say this because they know that those words will dig right into a mommy's heart. My son will do that every once in a while as more of a manipulative thing. I just pull him close, give him a huge hug and say with a big smile, "Is that REALLY what you think? Do you REALLY think I don't love you?" I tell him all the time how much I love him, how crazy I am about him, etc. So, I KNOW that he knows that I love him. Once he admits that he knows I love him, I deal with what he is really saying, which is, "Why are you speaking/acting harshly?" I will apologize if I have been harsh and ask him if he thinks that he shares any of the blame. Usually by talking about it, we work it through. But, I tell him, he is only allowed to speak truth and it isn't true that I don't love him.
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I personally do not get too emotionally invested in topics. If I disagree with something or something offends me, I just skim over it, perhaps with an eyeroll. Maybe I'll respond, maybe I won't. I have never used the ignore function. I LOVE the diversity of responses here. It is what I have always loved about these boards.
I used to wonder why people cared enough about opinions on a message board to let it bother them, but, I know many people who deeply personalize the discussions here and feel deeply and strongly and can not let things go. I would much rather them hit ignore sometimes rather than just leaving the boards. It is inbedded into their personalities, and really what I love most about them. This board wouldn't be very interesting if there were a bunch of "me's" here, who are content to just skim over things. It is the people who deeply invest themselves into the conversation that make for such GOOD stuff!! So, whatever makes it easier for them to contribute.
However, I agree with you that I don't love all the disclaimers. I think often it makes the problem worse.
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We've often stood on opposite sides of issues, but I really do respect you. And I'm very sorry that you can't stand feminists. Because in saying this, truly you are saying that you can't stand me.
And that might be true, and that's ok. I don't need for everyone to "stand" me.
But golly. I might not like the extremes that a particular branch of, say, vegetarians have taken in defending animal rights. But I would not say I can't stand vegetarians. Or I might not like the shrill attitudes of my political party, but I would not go so far as to say I can't stand [insert people who affiliate with my political party here]. (Ok, that last was rather silly, as I'm officially an Independent and vote the person not the party, but still. The point is the thing.)
Do you really just so dislike the feminists you know? Do *they* know you can't stand them? Or is more a "hate the sin, love the sinner" thing?
You might like my girls -- my girly one and my not-much-makeup-but-modest-with-long-hair-who-wears-dresses-at-least-half-the-time-one. You might approve of how I've reared/am rearing them -- to be respectful of all people, to be modest in dress and speech, to be kindhearted, to have a gentle spirit, to be emotionally tough, to be wise and harmless, to listen to each side, to stand up for themselves and the weaker "brother," not to play games with men. I hope with all my heart that they will self-identify as feminist. Not in a confrontational sense, certainly, unless that is called for to preserve civil liberty, but in a sense of assurance that they will not be victimized or exploited or discriminated against.
I'm sorry that you and perhaps others can't stand me and them just because of how we choose to view ourselves and name ourselves in the wide world. If you got to know us, you might like us and even grow to appreciate what we believe, even if you don't believe it yourself.
When I left (long story) Christianity, I was wary of being like people I knew who left religion and then just grew bitter and hateful about it. They would turn on Christians and religious folks as deluded and stupid and preyed upon. But people are people. And we all walk in the light we're given, and we all have struggles and we all love our kids the best we know how and we all take our trash out to the curb on Tuesday like regular folks.
I'm sorry. I'm rambling now, but this makes me sad. If there's anything more I can do or say to make you change your mind about people like me, I'd love to try. We're not evil, mostly. I'm just a simple wife trying daily to mutually submit to my husband because I feel it's the wise course of action in life and relationships, and to do my best at my job and in the rearing of my kids. And I'm a feminist, and I'm not a bit ashamed of that.
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Pam, will you marry me? :-) I just love you. Although, I would put myself far away from the "feminist" camp, I think we are so very close to the way we raise our girls. In my life I would have to say that this has been a non-issue. My parents didn't treat me differently, my teachers never expected less of me, my husband respects me and we work together to do all aspects of running a home/raising kids/earning money. I have never been denied anything because I am a woman. I love men. I obviously love women because I proposed to Pam. To me, it is about love and respect of people in general and to answer the original question, Yes! It bothers me how men are portrayed in the media.
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When our marriage has hit rough spots before, I've tried to remove all expectations. That's what I'm doing now. I'm trying to think like I'm the only one who can improve the situation. Otherwise, I'll just be angry, pointing fingers, & still in the same situation, kwim? :001_smile:
I always admire your attitude, Aubrey!! You are a good woman. :001_smile: I will pray that God will bring the exact right job for your husband that will allow you to stay home.
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Resurrecting this from a while ago.
If you're around Mindy - I've been looking for a new format to give my soon to be 6th grader to help her schedule her week with TOG now that she's movin up to dialectic level.
I remembered your great blog and peeked around there, but didn't find something you give to your kids each week.
Maybe you don't use a form? I looked at the sample on TOG's website but it isn't typeable - only good for printing. There are others there that I could type on but they include other subjects that we might not do so I'd have to modify it. Plus, I'm just curious as to how you've managed to get them so independently doing work at this age :)
Just askin - I could make it work with what I've found but since our girls are so close in age and doing TOG, I thought I'd ask.
Anyone else reading and feels compelled, I'd love to see a weekly schedule sheet for TOG subjects.
Thanks.
I have used a variety of different things, and I change the "form" frequently to meet my needs better. I now am thrilled to be using Homeschool Tracker Plus, where I print out weekly assignment calendars. There is a bit of a learning curve with the HST, but now that I get it, I really like it!! All the TOG reading assignments are listed on Monday and then the kids just make sure they are done with their reading and questions by Friday. We have a block of time on Monday afternoon where we get a good start on their reading and I read some history out loud to them also. My dd is a self-motivated student (my son is less so. :-)) and so, she is pretty good about making sure she gets her stuff read. With my son, I just ask him each day if he is on track with his reading to make sure he is getting it done. They know they have to finish it on the weekend if they don't get it done, and they don't want to have to do that. :-)
I don't know if this answers your question.
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I need a little clarification. Isn't this a temporary problem while your husband is in school? It sounds like you are making major life changing plans, rather than just how are you going to get through the next couple of years. Please forgive me if I step over the line here, but it seems like your husband needs to be figuring this out with you. As I've heard you talk about the financial situation in the past it doesn't seem like he is stepping up to the plate on providing, choosing to not earn what he could. I totally understand sacrificing and suffering through seminary (my sil and bil just finished seminary with 3 kids and he worked nights and it was awful for them!!) but this seems like a much bigger plan. It seems like you are planning on becoming the major bread-winner of the family, which to be honest, seems like the opposite of what I have heard you saying over the past years.
Are you both wanting to continue homeschooling? It doesn't sound like either option will allow for that at this point in time.
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We don't say it, but I make sure my kids know it.
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I will say that I got the Homeschooling in the Woods CD with ALL the figures on them and it has been something I have used OVER and OVER for many different purposes. I love the CD because you can pick and choose individual figures and resize them and do all sorts of fun things with them. It is well worth the investment, in my opinion.
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It's unethical.
I would disagree with you on this. According to what I understand, it is NOT TOG alone that is making this decision, but the sources that they are using, like World Book. They are going with the industry standard procedure.
I can see why the friend feels frustrated, but at the same time, I don't know that this is the place to vent your frustration. Marcia works hard on her message boards to not talk against other curriculums and I think it is inappropriate to not offer her the same.
I think it is fine to disagree with what they are doing, or to be unhappy with the price, but I don't think it is at all fair to say they are unethical.
ETA: Not all this is in response to Cadam.
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It totally depends on the spirit in which it is said. But, I think it is usually meant in a bit of a derogatory way.
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I think it is best to be up front and say, "There is a chance that in months I might be doing _____. I just want to let you know that up front."
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I would borrow if I could. There might be some that you don't want to use the second time around. I also like to buy my curriculum early (like you did) so I can spend the time poking around the used books and try and pick them up used.
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I love my smart chopper!!!
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Holy cow!! I babysat in the wrong generation!!!!!!!
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Those things don't sound abnormal to me, but I wouldn't let my kids go to camp if I wasn't sure that I could trust them to make good choices.
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But, our German exchange student turned the water off while he was washing. He was pretty excited when he learned he could keep the water running the whole time.
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My kids are pretty strong readers and I haven't yet found the pace to overwhelming, but we are not in rhetoric yet. Here is what we do. On Monday I give them their reading assignments for the week (I have one D and one UG). Monday afternoon I spend quite a long time reading outloud to them. I read to them all the church history/worldview books ,for both levels. Sometimes there is some overlap. I also read the fine arts stuff and usually I throw SOTW in there because we loved it and I think it is great. This takes a couple hours and the kids color their timeline figures (or other projects) while I read. They are responsible to read the history core, in depth and literature on their own by Friday and do the lit worksheets and history questions by Friday. They have done a pretty good job getting their work done.
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Edited: I just remembered that I was posting this on the high school board, and my advice is really for younger kids, but I do agree that traveling, tapping into their interests and reading out loud lots are great for that.
We certainly haven't done everything right, but so far our kids (10.5 & 12) still love learning and I think there are a couple things we did right. I don't really know how to start it at a later stage, but these are some things we did from the beginning.
1. We really limited screen time. Our kids watched very little TV when they were little. They still don't watch much at all.
2. Most of our trips centered about driving and seeing museums and historical things rather than amusement park type trips.
3. We read, read, read, read, read to the kids when they were little and still between dh and me we read to the kids at least 1-2 hours a day.
4. BOth dh and I love to learn and we model a love of learning for the kids.
Don't get me wrong, my kids don't love every assignment they get, and I don't particularly try and make things like math and grammar interesting for them. But, somehow they have managed to hold on to their curiosity and their enjoyment of learning things. I'm praying it continues through their teen years, although I'm preparing for a few more eye rolls!!! :001_smile:
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We liked them! We still pull them out occasionally for review.
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You can do SOTW secularly and I would say that year 1 probably takes the most work to make secular of all the years. But, it can certainly be done.
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I guess I'll put it on the shelf next to my first volume. :-) That is if I can find my volume 2.
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What are you feeling insecure about? Both dh and I have FB accounts (as do both of our parents! :-)) It is a fun way to connect with people. Last week I used FB to connect with old friends about travel plans, set up a carpool for my dd, remind someone they need to bring snacks for the soccer game, chatted with good friends, laughed at things people posted, etc. I have some old friends on there, but I don't really talk to them after the initial "Hi, what are you up to."
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So, I wonder when we can order at PHP!
If you were going to plan a trip to New York City...
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One of my very favorite memories of our New York trip was walking across the Brooklyn bridge at sunset (towards Manhattan) You can see the Statue of Liberty and watch the city lights come alive. It was just beautiful!!