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  1. Is it an either/or, as in Either you have it Or you don't? How do I know if my child can multitask? How can a person learn to multitask?

     

    My son has Aspergers and I read that multitasking is usually difficult for Aspies, and that they should choose jobs that do not require this ability. That sure seems to limit job prospects.

     

    I'm reading a book called "Quiet" -- it's all about introverts. The author claims that multitasking technically doesn't exist, it's a myth -- that "studies have shown" (I haven't confirmed this, but this is what she says) that multitasking isn't really our brains doing more than one thing at the same time, but rather just switching really fast from one to another because our brains can't truly concentrate on more than one thing at a time.

     

     

    For the record, if I'm remembering correctly, she says that extroverts are, as a group, better at "multitasking" than introverts, as a group.

  2. Yes, for a couple reasons.

     

    One, it's available! If a prequel's not available, I won't wait for it... but in this case, why not start at the beginning?

     

    Two, it's much shorter. If you don't like it, you don't have to suffer through three rather long books to finish. Some people just don't care for Tolkien's style.

     

    Three, it's a complete story in one book. Similar to my point two, but especially if you're using library books and book 2 is checked out or you don't happen to own the second book in the series, it can be frustrating to wait for it.

  3. I am to the point where I have to give up my ultra-relaxed approach in favor of -- ack! -- an actual schedule for us to get all our work done, esp dd11. I'm thinking of the subjects she'll actually need me for, like science labs or explaining trouble spots in math.

     

    I do read-alouds/group work with all three kids every day, but past that so far I've been pretty relaxed and it's somehow all gotten in (or not...) but that's not going to work so well beginning next year. Dd11 is going to need more formal structure to keep her on track to finish everything.

     

    So how do you get in all your junior high work and still have time for younger kids? Do you have the same subjects every day? Do you alternate (some on M/W, some on T/Th)? Do you follow your nose, and hope it all gets done by the end of the week? What kind of deadlines/requirements do you set?

     

    Help me figure out a weekly plan that will get it all done and still leave me with a little sanity. (Yes, that's an assumption, but let's go with it, shall we?)

     

    Thanks!

  4. I would take a good hard look at what's not working and why. It might be that a simple change in curriculum will help, or you might have to change your entire approach. Is he a visual, audio, or kinesthetic learner? That makes a HUGE difference.

     

    Another idea that I'm going to throw out there and then duck and run, is that sometimes they have to be shown all the options. The grass is always greener and all that jazz. Maybe putting him on that big yellow bus for a semester would help him appreciate it at home. When ds9 was ready to start kindergarden, he *really* wasn't sold on the hsing thing and wanted to "try" ps. Okay, so I took him to a local elementary school to see what it was like. At 3pm, with all the busses and busy-ness. We didn't make it in the front door. :)

  5. Hi Colleen,

     

    You can take 800 mg at a time, every 4-6 hours, which is prescription dosage. I do it a lot when I have killer headaches -- just don't do it for a long period of time without consulting a doc about the base problem.

     

    For reference, if you have a choice between taking the true prescription (one 800mg cap) vs taking four OTC (4 x 200 mg cap), it's better to take the one 800 cap because of the way it dissolves and enters the system. But since you don't have that option, I'd go for four OTC ones without a whit of hesitation.

  6. How should i react to this. I still cannot believe i heard this.

     

    I agree with the others: more for you!

     

    If it makes you feel any better, my sister won't eat my cooking voluntarily either. She's single, spends quite a bit of money at the local pizza place and drinks gallons of soda, but she mistrusts my cooking because she "doesn't know what's in it." She knows I put healthy things in my cooking, but come ON.

  7. The first story is ridiculous. The family went there for a child's birthday and left the birthday child behind and didn't realize she was missing until the next day. Don't you tuck your birthday child in with extra kisses on their birthday.

     

    This floored me, too. Not only did they leave someone behind, but it was the guest of honor. Incredible. Needless to say, she'll remember THIS birthday all her life!

  8. Does anyone know the difference between isolated vs. scattered thunderstorms? Trying to plan some outdoor activities based on weather predictions.

     

    IMHO, they're both a fancy way of saying, "It might rain somewhere, but we have no idea where."

     

    I saw a video once that talked about the space missions. They had some footage of this high-tech weather predicting station on the ocean, with all the latest and most impressive gadgets and gizmos for predicting weather. The specialist who worked there was pretty blunt when he said, "Overall, the best instrument we have for predicting the weather is this window right here." *sigh*

  9. All of my kids have their own desk, but none of them use them for school regularly. One uses it as a storage container (grump, grump), one doesn't use it for anything, and the third... come to think of it, I don't know where he even put his. Maybe I should check on that.

     

    We use the kitchen table when we need to, but more often than not they use their laps while we're out and about. Waiting for another child at sports, for example. Group work is done on the couch. So... we don't really fit in anywhere on the poll! :giggle:

  10. She is only ten and needs help expressing herself, acknowledgment of her feelings and a discussion of a better way to handle things, not punishment. Her feelings are going to get stronger as she gets older and now is the time for you two to build your relationship and work out your own method of handling these things. You can't control her feelings but you can help her find appropriate ways to act on those feelings.

     

     

    I agree.

     

    I tend to look at it this way: The relationship I have with my kids is the foundation that we build on. If that foundation is sound, they will want to do what I ask, rather than being forced. If that relationship is sound, they will know they can come ask me about anything, anytime, at any age. That is important to me.

     

    I tend to use the word "choice" a LOT in this kind of situation. I tell my kids that I can't control them (they were a bit shocked when I said that the first time) but that they can't control me either. So if they make the choice to leave a mess for me to clean up, for example, I will choose to not take them to the park later. It all comes down to the choices we make.

     

    In your situation, she made the choice to talk back. Feelings are fine; opinions are fine (they're like bellybuttons, after all -- we all have them, but they're not all pretty). It's what we choose to do with those feeling and opinions that matters.

     

    I have also taken away the privelege of speaking if they can't be nice. Yes, I'm the lady who made her daughter walk through the grocery store with her hand over her mouth because she smarted off in the van. "You know, honey, if you can't talk to your mother nicely, I'm afraid of what you might say to the strangers in the store. I can't take the chance that you will choose to smart off to them, too."

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