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I would probably go, but be as inconspicuous as possible and not go alone. Have somebody there for moral support, comfort, and defense (physical or verbal) should the need arise.
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I'm teaching three. I have found workboxes are my friend! The organization they give is truly wonderful.
Our general approach is that we have some subjects we do together (history, read-alouds, Bible...) and some they do individually (math, handwriting...). I don't care when during the day they do their individual work, as long as it gets done. I have two who like to get it done in the morning first thing, and my third is a night owl who, often as not, is doing her work in the evenings. As long as it gets done, I don't nag.
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Depression doesn't have to be "about" something. It can just be a chemical imbalance.
:iagree: Sometimes it's just "not right," even if you don't know exactly what "it" is. Talk to your dr.
Sometimes it's something similar, like hypothyroidism. Only your doc will be able to rule it out.
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That has always been my (and my DH's) experience as well. Paychecks are usually a pay period behind.
One pay period behind is pretty common. It's a real headache when you're starting a job, but it's really nice when you switch jobs!
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When they do something that's just beyond stupid, I'll look at them incredulously and just say, "Really??"
And this one I got from, of all places, the Garfield comic strip: "You may only play with your food after you've eaten all of your toys." My kids have heard that one enough that I simply ask them "Have you eaten all of your toys?" and they get the point.
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I did not list homeschooling on my resume because I didn't want it to be a potential strike against me if the person reviewing it had a negative view of homeschoolers.
I would list it because 1) they'll want to know what you've been doing and homeschooling is better than being "unemployed," and 2) chances it'll come up in an interview and you don't want them to think you're hiding anything.
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Honesty's always the best policy, y'know. :lol:
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Does she do this to everyone or just to you? I'd plan a little extra time some morning to follow her and see, because that would affect what I'd do about it.
If it's just you, I would choose from the excellent suggestions you've gotten on this thread to stand up for yourself. If it's everyone (if she's a road hog), I'd seriously tell the school because they need to know about this hazard.
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My ds used to be that way too, especially about that age.
One thing I did was to start "processing" my own mistakes out loud in order to teach him healthier "self-talk". And I tried to do it with ALL my mistakes throughout the day, so he could observe that even grown-ups make mistakes or do things "wrong" regularly, and somehow life keep on going. I tried to include the same elements each time: a) what I did "wrong", b) what happened as a result, c) how it made me feel, d) what I am going to do about it, and e) one of a few select "catch-phrases" I wanted to ingrain into his brain so they became automatic in his mental dialogue. Not necessarily in that order. So, for example:
"AAAaargh! I dropped another spoon. That's the third thing I've dropped today. I feel so clumsy and frustrated. Oh well, no harm done. I'll just put that one in the sink and get a clean one."
"Oh for pity's sake. I can't believe I just dialed the wrong phone number. I interrupted some stranger's day, and he sounded annoyed. I feel so embarrassed. Oh well, it could happen to anyone. If he isn't understanding that's his problem not mine. I'll just try again and be more careful this time."
So I did that with my own mistakes for a while, and then started using the same process when he made a mistake:
"Uh oh, you misspelled that word. It says 'mistack' instead of 'mistake" That must be so frustrating! Oh well, everyone makes mistakes. Just take out the c and add an e on the end, and we'll get on with life."
Some "catch phrases" I used (and that now automatically come out of ds's mouth whenever anyone makes a mistake, so it must have worked) are:
No harm done
Everyone makes mistakes
It could happen to anyone
Well, life goes on
No use crying over spilled milk
Well, that was unexpected
I can fix that
(I'm sure there are a few more I'm not thinking of)
Beautifully said! I totally agree that seeing you make and move on from mistakes will be very helpful in working your kids through it.
I tend to laugh at myself with something silly like, "Well, that was embarassing" or "I guess I didn't catch that spoon parachuting out of the drawer" or such. Laughter can really help get them over it.
This is a tough age, too. Ds9 is still struggling with the losing issue, and we've worked long and hard on it. Part of it is the gender (boys are naturally competitive), part of it is the age (8-9 is awful for this!), and part of it is immaturity (which the above will help with a lot). In the meantime, (((hug)))!
We use catch phrases here too. My biggest one is "We'll have to look it up," but that's for a different recurring problem. ;) I know this particular one is working because dd12 mentioned one day that she could hear me in her head even when I wasn't there. Woo-hoo!
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If he's vomiting to the point that he can't keep fluids down, give him just enough to wet his mouth down (we're talking a sip, no more) every 5 minutes. Use a timer, and have him take just a sip so it's absorbed through his mouth before it ever hits his stomach. Baby steps will get you there.
Something else my mom used to use when she worked as a nurse on Peds: warm flat Pepsi will sometimes stay down when nothing else will. I know it sounds horrible but she swears by it. It has to be name brand (generic doesn't work as well), room temp (cold will cause the reject reflex), and you need to shake or stir it to get most of the bubbles out. Again, no big drinks. Regular sips.
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This won't be a good long-term solution, but for when it gets really bad, rub her feet for her. Get out the lotion and everything. I found this out completely by accident when I was on my third can't-eat-anything pregnancy. When dh rubs my feet, he hits some pressure points somewhere that take my nausea away. Unfortunately, when I get up and walk it tends to come back, but even temporary relief from the icks is a good thing.
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No idea, but I want to give you a :hug:.
I have mild hypoglycemia that got really bad when I was pg. Nobody really took me seriously, either, until my sugar dropped so low in the hospital they found me wandering around a completely different ward, IV pole in tow. They had to send somebody to come get me. My sugar was in the 50's. THEN they did something. I don't know why they don't take these things seriously!!!
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I just wanted to add another "no tampon!' voice :)
TSS can happen even with very infrequent, short use. All that is going on is a drying and cracking (for lack of a better word) in the lining of the vaginal wall. Pulling out a dry tampon makes it worse, but just having it in there is causing damage. Once the walls get irritated and cracked a bit - that's when the infection can set in. It can happen really fast.
Thank you for this level of detail. I have explained the why side of this to her and she literally blanched a bit. I think we've talked her out of that one. :)
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I really appreciate all the great info you've given me!! I'll discuss options with her and see what she wants to try first. THANK YOU!!!
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Dd is an assistant instructor at our academy. We don't do the MMA, but we do have contact sparring.
Our instructors are taught regularly how to treat lower belts. In fact, our bow-in oath has a line, "With respect for my juniors and seniors" in it. They take this kind of thing seriously.
In this case, one of the instructors would have broken the match and made sure there was no injury (physical or otherwise). It should not have been allowed to proceed. Unless it was a unique case, the monitor would not have been such a low rank to begin with; most of our assistants are black belts. Depending on how serious the injury is (real or perceived), the match may have been stopped completely -- usually the injured party is asked if they can continue. It's up to the student unless it is totally obvious that he can't fight any more.
When one sparrer is injured, the other is required to turn his back and take a knee out of respect as the injury is attended to. It's not a shameful thing, but a respectful one.
If the black belt was seen to have broken the rules, that would be attended to privately, but rest assured that it would not happen again. While we do not have martial law by any means (pun intended!), it is generally accepted that what you give, you can also receive.
If an instructor saw fit, the students could have been pulled from the rest of the class as well. That would be an instructor call, not the lower-rank monitor.
A black belt was paired up with my son who is 4 belts lower. At his belt level the rule of thumb is "no head contact". They were all reminded of this by the instructor prior to sparring.My son does wear head gear, but none of the head gear at this dojo anyway, cover the top of the head. This black belt is older and much taller than my son.
The match was "monitored" by a student who is 2 belts lower than my son. There were two instructors on the floor, five in the dojo at the time.
The black belt clocked my son in the head, he was shocked as he's never had head contact before, so he paused waiting for brake to be called, it wasn't. The black belt proceeded to machine style punch my son on the top of the head, not where his gear protects him. My son was in shock, had his mouth guard in, and didn't know how to get out of it yet as he hasn't gotten to that training level. He said his head hurt, so he gave the black belt an upper cut which resulted in them cutting their lip. I yelled on to the floor "no head contact" as did another parent by me. Another black belt came up to my son after to check on him and said he saw what happened and it shouldn't have.
This was only a 1 minute match, but seemed like eternity. The two instructors on the floor discussed my son "punching" the black belt in the chin and them cutting their lip, not the no head contact, nor machine gun style punches, nor attacking areas without gear.
As we were leaving the head instructor happened to be coming around the corner and I told them that the black belt punched my son on the top of the head over two dozen times and nothing was done. Their response was that "both get aggressive at times and he'd have a talk with the black belt".
Even after all that, my son on his own, while still on the floor, apologized to the black belt for the punch to the chin. There was no comment in return.
We both know that there is contact after a certain level, but he's not there yet. Both of us thought the contact is to areas that have gear and that machine style pumping is not allowed, one is to use combos instead.
I am curious how this would have been handled at your dojo?
Any tips for me or my son if something similar would occur in the future?
Would you continue this discussion any further with the dojo?
How would you handle if it's brought up by the dojo or the black belt students parents?
Adding, their head gear is like a cylinder around the head with two straps that cross on top of their head to hold it. The straps are not padded.
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**Warning: not for those eating breakfast...**
Dd12 is this close to starting her cycle. She's starting to get those mid-month excretions that bothered me so much that sometimes I'd wear minipads around ovulation. In her words, "Mom, it feels like I wet my pants."
Here's the real problem: While I have always been on the couch-potato side of life, she is very high activity. Specifically, she's a karate instructor... their uniforms are white (whose stupid idea was that?!?) and they kick over their heads regularly. She's tried cloth and disposable pads already and she says they don't stay in place and make her crazy. She's also concerned that one of these days, those excretions are going to turn red and she won't notice....
She wants to wear tampons even though she's not bleeding yet. I've always been told not to do that, but I don't know exactly why and I can't think of any other options. Thoughts? Suggestions? Miracle solutions?
Thanks!
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Have you tried an elimination diet? Eczema and constipation might indicate a food allergy/intolerance. Milk comes to mind first but there are others as well.
This was my thought too. In addition to treating the symptom, I'd be searching for a cause.
My ds had a double hernia as a toddler (his boy parts descended properly but nothing closed up behind them, so his intestines went along for the ride). He had nasty constipation long term, and my ped said that when the intestine gets overly stretched like that it can take years for the full elasticity and muscle control to return. We had ds on Mirilax for oh, goodness.... I forget how many months.... after his surgery. I think it might have been close to a year. Whatever you do, it's not going to be a short-term fix.
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As opposed to dh's version of it:
Super-caligraphic-exponetial-semi-kosher,
Even though the sound of it is nothing like a toaster.
If you sing it loud enough,
You'll win a brand-new poster!
Supercaligraphicexponentialsemikosher!
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We started with Apples last year with all three kids during read-aloud time. Dd12, who hates math with a passion, didn't want to miss the storylines. :lol: We're in Goldfish now.
We have loved them all, and yes, the younger kids are learning stuff. We do occasionally have to supplement with another curriculum just because we needed a little extra explanation. (We use MUS, since we switched from that and had the videos on hand already, but I'm guessing you could use anything.)
This is one of the criticisms I see regularly about Fred: it moves very quickly and doesn't have a lot of explanations all the time. It seems that the elementary series could have the same flaw. It's not a real problem for us, though.
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Another vote for normal. I've been lopsided pretty much all my life -- I can remember going to my own mother in tears because they weren't the same size. I really don't know how she managed not to laugh!
Also a little experience. I had a lump removed at 16. A BIG one -- probably between a nickle and quarter's diameter. My scar is a couple inches long. Totally benign, no problems since, was able to nurse and everything. So.... even worrisome things aren't always terrible. Humiliating, but not terrible.
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That is coming up soon on my list of stuff to buy! I'm starting to feel bad about hogging the library's copy!
I'm feeling the same way here, I have it so much. It's actually on my birthday list. :001_smile:
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Sounds so uncomfortable. Try Eucerin Professional Repair. It's brand new, and is designed to help alleviate extremely dry and itchy skin. Hope he's feeling better soon!
Thanks -- I've never heard of it before. I'll see what I can find.
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I would think that you need to see an ENT - Ear Nose Throat doctor and not a general practitioner.
It's not much advice. Sorry. I hope you feel better soon. :grouphug:
Yep. Pain in your body's way of raising an alarm. Listen to it before you damage your hearing.
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In the past, I have had to clarify the state of a book. I forget what it was, but I just sent them a pm saying, "Here's what my book looks like. Do you want it or not?" I got the answer back and everything was fine.
To sneak a baby-conception over on a husband or not
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How would she feel in this case? She did NOT want a baby, so he told her he'd been fixed but he hadn't. Baby comes. What would that do to her trust in him?
As much as I love kids and all, I have to vote no.