Murmer
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Vaseline merely coats the skin...it isn't really absorbed. I use coconut oil on my babies all the time because it absorbs. Also if it is not refined then you can also eat it (good when using on a little baby who like to try the oil).
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A lot of leveling in schools is done by a guided reading letter...therefore many lists of books are also leveled that way. If you check scholastic and click on the more info one of the pieces of info about the book is a guided reading letter. Use that letter to google titles guided reading level and the letter. I just random googled M and found 5 or 6 booklists that had ideas for books to try. The higher the level the easier it is to find the books at your local library.
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No charter schools here in VT :( I actually feel that there is a place for charter schools in the educational world IF they are formed to offer something that the current public school can not. IE a technology charter, classical education charter, hands-on charter, performing arts charter. Sadly a lot of the charter schools I know about (in other states I have lived) have mostly been "I don't like the public school so lets do a charter" and I pretty much see that as sending their kid to another public school just with a different name and a little smaller.
Also many of the charter schools in other states I have lived in pay less and have less trained teachers than the public schools (although some have more dedicated staff because they truly believe in the charter)
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Who is responsible? That's a matter of opinion.
When dealing with an individual, I tend to believe the risk is mine, assuming the seller can produce a tracking number that was manually scanned at a post office, not just printed at home. For small purchases, I don't purchase insurance. For larger ones, I request that it be added, and I mention that insurance is required for the transaction in the PayPal transaction details.
When dealing with a businesses, I believe it is their responsibility to re-send the product or refund my money, because they can write off the loss at tax time.
Very small (ie. work at home mom) businesses are something of a gray area in my opinion, and in those cases I request insurance.
PayPal will likely side with the seller, as the tracking number proves the package was sent. If you paid via credit card, and file a chargeback with your credit card company, they may very well side with you and refund the charge. Credit card companies tend to place more responsibility on the retailer. After all, you held up your end of the deal, and the company can write off the loss come tax time. You can begin the chargeback process by calling your cc company, but don't do that until after PayPal has decided the dispute in the seller's favor.
Actually from all of my experiences and time on other selling boards paypal usually sides with the buyer. They seem to rule off the premise that it is the job of the seller to ensure that the product arrives at its destination. That is why they require delivery confirmation (which is not tracking but only confirmation of delivery) and sadly if it says delivered there is little to no recourse for not as described (except on Ebay). But they do usually side with the buyer in not recieved cases.
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Being in the adoption world for a while it is pretty commonly expected that any child who has been in the foster care system will have RAD. Talk talk talk to the social workers, I don't know what you should ask (I have done newborn domestic adoptions) but I would want to know how many past families he has been with (that will let you know if he has had a chance to bond with any family), if he has had to be removed and why, if there is reason to suspect sexual abuse (sadly victim can become perpretrator). Also I would prepare all safety precautions as if he was the worst case, locks on doors above where he can reach, alarms on doors. Set forth rules about not being in bedrooms, one person under a blanket ect. But with all of that if you truly feel you are his family then take the plunge, he deserves a family that is loving and can teach him how to love in return and it sounds like you are prepared to deal with his medical issues beyond RAD.
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Gluten free cereal with almond milk. Find a good health food store and you will discover just how much there is to eat, we got allergy friendly (meaning none of the top 8 most common food allergies) and gluten free goodies there for my milk allergic daughter including cake mix, pancake mix and cookies. I am sure these are not on your diet per say but you will probably find great things to eat that way.
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A couple of thoughts:
Model how the reading should sound and then have him read it back like you did...sometimes choppy readers forget how to make is sound like talking (or like mom).
Break it into phrases and have the child read the phrase quickly and fluently then have them put it together with other phrases to make the sentence.
Use your finger to cover the words making him read faster, so you would move your finger right to left covering up the words he just read and pushing him to look to the next word more quickly make it a race.
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We just paid our 14 yr old babysitter 5 dollars and hour for 2 kids ages 1 year and 2 years old.
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So another lover of NZ....I know that there is an official work in NZ site that has some information so if you haven't joined I would recommend it...the emails I get are from immigration new zealand so try that. I so want to go back to NZ!
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My dd was allergy tested at 2 yrs old. They did the scratch test for milk and when it reacted positively they did the rast which is the blood test. Honestly the allergist didn't believe my dd was allergic to milk until he had 2 positive responses. Then we got an epipen but it was a process. I would get an a ppt with an allergist and keep at them until you have an answer. The person who led us to the allergist (not our dr but a church friend who is a dr) said for many babies this young it is milk or where so you may try removing wheat to see if it helps.
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Since my sister and I married brothers and my brother married my best friend, yes they all know and spend time together. My mom even did Christmas with my inlaws this year.
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Since I just saw this...I live in then upper valley vt/nh border near Hanover.
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I like to make a game board on a file folder. Then make different card sets based on CVc words. When the word is read correctly they get to move, if they make a mistake they get to try again. Then it's the next persons turn. I use this game for CVc, silent e, r controlled vowels, blends and digraphs any phonics I wanted more practice on.
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Technically if you filed with pay pal you would get a full refund...so you need to decide if you believe she really did ship it or not. If you think she is honest and believe she sent it then both of you are out money so a split could be fair but if you really need the money then you woud be entitled to it according to pay pal. Good luck on the choice it's hard.
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I just got the moment. I love the keyboard which is why I got it. It is bigger because of the keyboard than the others. Also I had to upgrade as soon as I got it that was a pain. Now it is harder to unlock which is a pain. I did not really look at the other two to compare.
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To teach child how to think and make them valuable participants in the world...which includes sahms!
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I would so be there...one of dd friends uses a walker and I love that she will grow up with it being normal to see a child in braces with a walker. I would love for her to spend more time with children in a diverse group setting so other abilities will be normalized to her. I guess my only concern would be how discipline would work both for my child and those that may be differently abled.
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I had a mom tell me that when her daughter expressed interest in makeup she would take them to one of the Mary Kay skin care things and then let her know that if she was diligent with taking care if her skin for 6 months then she could have a little bit of makeup. That showed if the child was truly interested or just following the crowd.
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As the mom of two children on the autism spectrum I would say that this is a red flag. Here is a link with symptoms that you can watch for:
http://www.autismspeaks.org/whatisit/symptoms.php#top
Your story sounds so familiar to me. I thought our problems could be solved with "discipline" and wasted a lot of precious time when I should've been changing pediatricians and pursuing a diagnosis. It was actually a blessing that our dc needed speech therapy because it was the speech therapist who told me that she saw red flags for autism.
For some children, the "terrible twos" only turn into the terrible 3's, 4's etc. without the right kind of intervention.
While we do not believe she has autism based on lots of research and knowledge from family that have autistic children we do believe she has something. We are leaning towards sensory proccessing (she loves pressure, self calm by rubbing bony body parts and sucking her tongue, and has an extraordinarily high pain threshold) or adhd emphasis on the hyperactivity/impulsiveness but whether we can get anyone to take use seriously at her age is a worry. It took over 2 months and a casual conversation with a dr outside of our state to diagnose a milk allergy that we had been telling the dr of symptoms since she was 6 months old but no one connected them to milk (actually most of them said not to worry she just had a continual cold and her vomiting was for attention) so I am disinclined to trust drs :(
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I do know about food triggers. Dd was diagnosed a year ago with milk allergies pre removal of milk she was uncontrollable. She would have screaming fits that lasted over an hour. She would be extremely abusive hitting kicking ect. Off of milk she is closer to typical but still not like other 2 year olds I know. She just go go go go goes and does not respond to discipline.
While I definitely cannot put myself in your shoes, as I had rather "easy" toddlers, I can tell you how I used to calm mine.I figured out very soon that refined sugar triggers hyperactivity in my younger daughter, and so do the loud and "psychotic" media. I cannot tell you how much that child changes, even today when she is 12 years old, when she doesn't consume ANY sugar and ANY TV. Now that she's older we can talk to her about it, make her realize it triggers some of the behavior and frustration nobody likes (including her), so she can moderate it herself - but when she was younger, we really took care of it, for both of them. I also know a LOT of close friends and family who do the same with their kids, particularly toddlers. I cannot guarantee that your child is among them, but for some children that really seems to be a magic cure: strict diet regulations, and strict "mental diet" regulations with regards to loud, special effects media which make you nervous (as in, your body prepares for the reaction, which doesn't occur, so you have almost literally blocks of unused energy inside of your body - with a small child who doesn't even get why is that happening it's even more dangerous).
That aside, the WORST thing you can do is to "bribe" the child. Never, ever, ever do it - giving them a toy or something to calm them down. It might be an instant cure for that specific situation, but you're doing a big mistake by doing so.
Make sure they don't hurt themselves and just ignore them. Takes a lot of nerves to be able to do it, but with my kids it worked in those few "sessions" they tried pushing my buttons. :D
If you're in a situation in which they would disturb other people, get out immediately (without buying anything, without eating at the restaurant, without attending mass, you name it) and if possible, don't expose them to such situations until they can handle them properly (that's easier said than done, though).
I know they're toddlers, part of it is completely normal, but they have to learn to control themselves, gradually, with your guidance. Check first if it might be a nutritional issue (people would be surprised how many things and illnesses can be tracked down to nutrition - hyperactivity and depression, concretely, are more often than not caused by the excess of sugar), or too much media, or the kid not getting enough physical exercise, and only then think about alternative discipline issues.
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In this case, I would carry the child out (you can't be in Mass if you're disruptive), and place her in a corner in an empty room (where there's no one to pay attention to her and no one to be disturbed) and sit with my back to her (perhaps even close enough into the corner so that she can't move out, if necessary). No, you don't want to reward her demands for attention with attention -- but she can't be around people (in mass) if she's being disruptive. I would also be working hard to make sure she realized that whatever alternatives existed, they would be more boring and less pleasant than sitting quietly on Mommy's lap (and looking at a board book or holding a favorite stuffed animal, etc) during Mass. Even sitting on a toilet in a bathroom stall (if there's no other good place to isolate) with Mommy refusing to meet her eyes or communicate other than to say, "No, we sit quietly in mass"... And, of course, when she's ready to behave, lots of kisses and a snuggly place in Mommy's lap when it's appropriate to return to Mass...
Sadly we currently do this and have for the last 6 months, most Sundays she is in the little room almost the whole service with nothing yet she cannot sit. This is with toys that we play with with her during the service and she can't make it more than 15 minutes. She isn't loud during services she just can't sit or stand in the pew she takes off when her attn is up.
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We are doing love and logic and it means nothing to her. We can't transfer it out of the house because she just doesn't care. I really think a lot of things are out of her control but that doesn't excuse it. I don't know what to do to help her and other people don't want to be around her because she is a firecracker.
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In the new to homeschooling thread someone mentioned teaching, training the children to be respectful and disciplined. How do each of you do that?
In particular my dd is amazing but special. She is very very very active, has no impulse control and does not sit still. When she gets mad she just starts swinging. Time out doesn't work because she will not sit or stand where I ask here and escalates. Time in does not work because I usually end up holding her down so she doesn't hurt me. I know she is 2 but every other 2 year old I know do not behave like her and I am at my wits end for what to do to help her. I want everyone to see how amazing she is but right now all anyone sees is her being naughty (and she usually is not doing it on purpose just can't control herself). Oh mighty hive help me. Tia.
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You just described my dd! She skips when she walkks and you know that she is holding back. She loves to be squished too (which made me research sensory issues but the evaluators for early intervention didn't say anything in their report). When we were in the middle of her milk allergy she had fits but the fits were uncontrollable. NOTHING made them stop she would scream bloody murder for over an hour regardless of if she was held or in her room. Without milk tantrums are tantrums but she is still all over the place ALL the time. When I see other children who can stand or sit still I am jealous because my dd never will (which is part of why I am homeschooling).
Hiding vegetables in other food?
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I started using the sneaky chef book because just like you I am SUPER picky but wanted to get in some veggies. I have found that I enjoy it and don't really notice the veggies. I have found that I love the sneaky chef tacos with blueberries and spinach puree and she has a yummy (easy to make dairy-free) brownie mix with blueberries and spinach puree.