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    Anyone doing virtual Call Center work?

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    I figured I would chime in here since I'm still with West at Home. Pay varies depending on the line group our working. You will always get at least minimum wage for your state. The average is about $8 an hour.

     

    Depending on which line you are working for, hours vary. With GE, hours are from 7 am til 10 pm ET.

     

    As far as the phone line, you have to have a regular phone line. I have Verizon and just have them turn off my call waiting and voice mail.

    When you say, "A good marriage takes hard work,"

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    :iagree:

     

    I think a marriage that requires no work and no compromise is some kind of fantasy. I've never seen one like that in real life. For that matter do you know of any long term friendships that don't at least occasionally require work/effort and compromise?

     

    I say long term because people change over time. At 40 or 50 we aren't the same people we were at 20 or 30. Interests in hobbies, strength of religious belief, decisions about values and lifestyle choices can change, if those things change in different directions for each partner it becomes hard to maintain a friendship. When you put that kind of change under the financial, social, sexual pressures of a marriage I think you can see why is it said that a good marriage requires work.

     

    I love my husband and value our family and believe in marriage...so, even

    though we have alot of different interests and sometimes different values, we both make compromises to make it work.

     

    My husband says that the key to a good marriage is that both partners puts the other one first. I agree. :)

     

    :iagree:

     

    We have been married for 14 years, and we are in a really good place. Right now, it seems easy, but the reality is that it took years of hard work to get there. Lots of hard seasons, but some really good and easy ones too.

    HPV for boys?

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    My boys are 11 and apparently due for vaccinations at our last visit this visit. Due to my boys seizure history, I was uneasy. Yes, they had all vaccinations up until this time, and I don't want to make this a debate about vaccinations. I came across this during my research and this literally made my stomach turn. These were links posted in regards to the HPV vaccine specifically.

     

     

    http://www.citizen-times.net/archive/article/?id=71631

     

    http://www.boston.com/business/healthcare/articles/2010/05/03/nm_woman_sues_alleges_hpv_vaccine_hurt_daughter/

    Question about The Hobbit

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    Opinions please! We have a book club with about 5 kids. We decided to do one book a month and chose The Hobbit for the month of November and December since it is a longer book, with plans to watch the movie in December. The kids vary between 4th and 8th grade. When I looked up on the Scholastic site as far as level, it shows interest level 8th grade, reading level of 9th. Would this be too difficult for this group of kids?

    Our crazy, beautiful life

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    It really is important to count our blessings. While no one's life is perfect, it's surely important to be grateful for what we do have in our life. I agree with you 100%. I have PILES of laundry (waiting for a dryer replacement knob to be delivered) and no food in the fridge (because I haven't had time to get to the grocery store) but really am so thankful that these are minor inconveniences that don't compare to what many others are going through.

    Moms of girls: college bound or keeper of home? (Christian related)

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    Both. :) I am a SAHM of 4 dds and I have a college degree. I met dh in college and had dd#1 in between my junior and senior years. I see no reason why girls who intend to be SAHMs shouldn't also pursue academic studies, especially since those further studies provide valuable education and life lessons.

     

    Also, should my husband ever fall ill or die or something, I like knowing that my income earning power is significantly greater given my college degree. It gives me a sense of security.

     

    I plan on raising my dds the way I was raised--to become well-rounded, well-educated women who will be a wonderful asset to any future husband and children. :)

     

     

    I agree. I think it's important to have a back up plan. I pursued my degree and while I choose to stay home, I know that I have that in the event I do have to pursue employment outside the home.

    I'm a Mama Failure :(

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    RainbowSprinkles?

     

    I've read this and your other thread.

     

    (please read this post assuming that I want to help, but have to get there through some direct words)

     

    I think your perspective and response to this particular child are working against you. I think she is different from you, and her particular "bent" or personality are a challenge for you. I think that you read *character* into her age expected behaviors. I think that because she values things you don't (particular material items, a certain status or relationship with friends), you get "stuck" mentally instead of responsive to the child in front of you.

     

    You can not generalize chore behavior into what she is going to be like as an adult. Her adult habits will emerge from a different relationship and motivation; it won't be the same thing.

     

    Her behavior with chores, minimal compliance, and her siblings are well within normal bounds. Annoying? Yes. :grouphug: But normal. You did not create it; you can't "fix" it.

     

    Here's the thing. When you have a disconnect of *getting* a child, punishment (which I am not terribly fond of anyway) is not going to help. It is only going to reinforce the disconnect. It WON'T attach or effect the behavior you think it will.

     

    And, while I am on it, I don't agree with "follow through" advice. Just because you said it (i.e. you can't go to the party), it does not mean you have to stick with it. Going to that party (which sounded reasonable, attractive and fun) was important to her. You said in your update it wouldn't have been a big deal if she had missed it. I think you, in your not "getting" your dd, are making the disconnect worse.

     

    If you want to teach her contentment, satiety, or gratitude, begin a gratitude journal together. Without a hint of object lesson. As a mother/daughter project. Find service work you can do with her - without a lecture of any kind about "how lucky she is." When she asks for another pair of flats, and you are not buying them, say a firm "No. Do not ask again." But don't lecture on the desire for them. I want multiple flats. ;)

     

    RainbowSprinkles, I would prescribe bonding and attachment with your dd. I'd encourage you to focus on affection, playfulness, and finding ways to like this child. I'd tell you to find ways to genuinely let her know you like her. I'd find ways to physically interact with her (fix her hair, rub her back, etc). I'd work towards building a positive dynamic and tone. What will happen with that is 1) she'll act better and 2) her habits will be less annoying to her.

     

    Such great advice. This was good for me to hear in dealing with my own tween boys.

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